So MK requested a post on what a woman’s religious beliefs may have to do with a man’s prospect for dating her.
Well this is complicated b/c sometimes even religious people are oxymoron’s – if you catch my drift. IOW’s it really comes down to the individual. Some women hoot and holler about God all day long, about how God guides their every decision, about how they are soldiers for the Lord – and then you see them bargaining with the Devil down the street.
Many women especially use religion solely as a “crutch” and for selfish purposes of throwing it out when they want to come off as having it all together and being completely in tact. Then they throw it out the window - or rather – put it on the back burner – when they want to do something “UN” religious. IOW’s religion is like a ping pong ball for some women who use it when convenient and toss it to the other side when it’s not convenient – BEWARE of these trollops! So I say some women will use their “religion” as a crutch.
Others really do use it b/c they want to meet someone who shares the same religious beliefs, values and morals as they do – and they uphold the very values and morals they are taught to do through their religion – in many cases most people cannot do this the MAJORITY of the time even when their hearts are in the right place. So I would say as long as her actions MOSTLY and CONSISTENTLY display that she *TRIES* to be that person whom she sees through the eyes of religion, then she’s okay. But if she is all *TALK* about religion and her morals and values, I’d handle her with a long spoon until she has proven she is what she claims she is.
Also, remember a truly religious or spiritual person who is looking to sift through prospects for relationships etc., won’t even start talking religion until she is more sure that this guy is one she is seriously considering. She will use his *ACTIONS*, conversations with him, family history, upbringing, proven values, etc. as a compass to whether or not she wants him in her life. She won’t simply talk all day long about her religion and what she expects etc.
Just b/c a woman or man claims religion, goes to Church every Sunday faithfully, yells “AMEN! & HALELUJAH” in church service, kneels at the altar, happily attends Bible study classes every Wed. night and sings in the church choir, doessssssn’t *necessarily* mean they are really all that religious or together. They could be using this as a shield for many different reasons.
And for some it really is used as a way to determine if the guy she is getting to know is on the same page as she is morally. So it’s not all bad.
I can say for myself, I don’t harp on the fact that I go to Church often b/c I feel a woman can pretty much determine through conversation and a man’s actions on whether or not he shares the same moral code as she does or that she is looking for. Also, people who brag about going to Church IMO are trying to prove something. It’s okay to every now and then talk about Church or how going to Church often is a really positive and great experience. But if a person makes it common practice to constantly talk about how much they go to Church or how religious they are, I am very wary of them b/c a lot of people are phonies who use Church, Religion and God as some sort of surface barometer for others to use to determine their “great character”.
Just b/c I go to Church often, I would not expect the same of a man I’m with, but I would expect him to share MANY of the same spiritual moral values as I do. And usually that is good enough for many women.
I mean. Take my previous stepmother for example. This woman stayed in Church! Her name was ‘going to Church’. But she was the most vicious, conniving, evil and sneaky broad I’ve ever known!
What am I saying to answer your question? Get to know the woman and don’t worry about whether she says she is religious or not. Her actions and values will eventually speak louder than AMENS & HALELUJAHS on the alter at church.
I go to Church quite often. I am very spiritual and I believe in all things God. But on the flip side, I am still a human being that is not perfect, nor do I strive to be. I do try and use my spirituality to guide many important decisions and things in my life as well. But you won’t hear me bible thumping or carrying on about my “religion” or going to church b/c at the end of the day I feel that a woman’s values and actions should speak louder than her words.
In essence many women spew a lot out of their mouths about religion, but they are far removed from practicing the very thing they are going on and on about. So really get to know her.
So fellas AND GALS the moral of the story is – It doesn’t matter what anyone *SAYS* about their religious “beliefs”, if they aint practicing what they preach, then it’s all for the nothing. Don’t be deterred by a religious woman UNLESS she has proven to be all talk. But if you know she is truly walking in what she believes, and you know without a doubt you don’t share her same moral code or values, you will be wasting your time.
A woman who truly relies on her religious spirituality, will allow this to guide and usher people in or out of her life or space depending on whether they belong there or not. IOW’s if you are not on the same page as she is, or if you really and truly don’t belong in her life (because spirituality will be her shield) you will find yourself ushered out of her space, life, presence fairly quickly and usually without notice.