I find the biggest proponent of helping people who suffer in the world is an unwillingness by groups and people to call themselves out.
In wake of the recent tragedies with the heinous brutal rapes & deaths of an South African girl (ANENE BOOYSEN) and Indian girl, its clear that we need more MEN willing to take a stand in the world and fight for their daughters, sisters, mothers.
Men lose out when they refuse to stand up b/c they ignore the women in their lives and the possibility that in societies where crimes against women are prevalent, it is not women who can make the most impact but men.
It takes MEN to police MEN and WOMEN to police WOMEN.
Not sure if its just human nature, but if more people were willing to look at those they share likeness with and similarities with and called them out and/or stood up against them (even though they are the same in some ways) we’d see a lot more done in this world. Because when people are on equal levels it makes it a fair fight. People are more willing to listen to and work with others more similarly like them.
Instead, people are more concerned with protecting their “group” by deflecting and making excuses and/or simply IGNORING. WHY? Because people in general as I always state, usually do not like to have to look at themselves and those like them as needing to be fixed when it comes to actions that are detrimental to others (not like them) or even themselves.
It kinda reminds me of the Black people who continue to turn a blind eye to the self destruction committed towards each other by their own, because they are so focused on being victimized by other races. YET the stats and everyday occurences in Black communities clearly show that it is Blacks who are more victimized at the hands of other Blacks than any other groups. But why is the focus on never “fixing” these Black male criminals and terrorists who are terrorizing their communities, women and children? Because no one likes to confront themselves or those like them to fix the root and/or bulk of the problem. Instead its easier to focus on others different from you “victimizing” you.
Like the non racist Whites who sit by quietly and idley watching the racist of their groups do all kinds of questionable and unfair practices against minorities. When these Whites do not say anything b/c they do not want “to stir trouble” or be looked down by their group they are apart of the problem that enables certain bad behaviors to continue.
Like the greedy business men who know that their partners are committing financial atrocities against innocent unknowing people. They don’t want to call themselves out b/c that would require self reflection and a willingness to “fix” yourself or that “group” you are associated with in likeness.
I could go on.
That is why in my posts I am constantly telling women to reflect where they can make the most impact in improving our lives as women – TO POLICE each other.
In my previous post I wrote about an article that received so much pushback from other women that the author was personally attacked b/c she dared question the actions of women and how these actions have hurt us overall in the relationship/sexual place.
But if women are not willing to have women who question, call out, the behaviors of other women that may be harming themselves or others, b/c no woman want to hear about it, then how can women work to improve and challenge each other to get better?. Instead the deflection goes back to the “evil male” and what he is doing to women. never though, women willing to look at how they hurt each other and create all kinds of obstacles for and by each other.
the same applies to MEN when it comes to making safer societies with crimes against women and children very low.
Once again to feminists, WOMEN AND MEN ARE NOT EQUAL. Women are vulnerable compared to men in society b/c they are physically stronger. If we were equal would you see as many crimes against women? That is like saying children and adults are equal b/c we are all human beings that bleed?
This is another reason feminists need to realize they need MEN to accomplish their goals. And another reason to understand and stop promoting this idea that men and women are THE SAME. Once again I ask, if we were, women would not be so abject to such brutal PHYSICAL violence from men as they would be able for the most part to physically handle men in these situations?
If women and men were EQUAL would so many African women in South Africa be raped and brutalized at the rates they are? NO? Because they’d be able to defend themselves.
Women can equally fight against women with each standing a fair chance at winning. Of course there are exceptions – this discussion is not about exceptions and its about the rule.
the only time a male is at a disadvantage against another male PHYSICALLY is when one of them has a weapon (like a gun) or when there are a group of men against one. Other than that its fair fight.
In wake of the recent tragedies and brutalizations against women in South Africa (Anene Booysen) & and in India where both women were brutally gang raped by a group of men SAVAGES who also MUTILATED and tortured each victim (ripping out their intestines in both incidents), it is clear that in order for women to get the proper protections and rights we need MEN willing to stand up and police men much better than what we are seeing now.
ALl the female feminist marches in the world will only accomplish half of the task in getting women to no longer be subjected to the vicious senseless violent crimes against her as a woman – that being rape including torture and mutilation and other forms of physical violence which is clearly a case of savage men who HATE women and want to inflict the most harm and pain on vulnerable innocent women and kids.
Men are ONLY ABLE to really make the most impact on other men and reducing these crimes. That is b/c men have traditionally upheld and created the laws and institutions that hold criminals. MEN have and are really the only ones who can police other violent and potentially violent men with the he goal in mind to offer the most and best protections for women and children. That is b/c men are working on equal footing with OTHER MEN especially physically. That is why law enforcement is mainly composed of MEN. They have the strength to handle violent male criminals and take them on.
Women cannot police men physically & protect themselves against men in almost any society. Unless every woman has a weapon (like a gun) this task is impossible. It is ALWAYS other men and men in general who can offer the physical protections women and children need. Not only that it is men who (when they are legit) can use the law and their physicality to uphold these rights for women & children.
A woman has very little chance of being raped or brutalized by strangers when she is in the company of a male. WHY IS THAT? Is it b/c criminal minded men generally are seeking a person (a woman) who is at a disadvantage to fight them? the possibility of him being harmed or taken on by another male on his level reduces the probability that a man is going to committ violence against a woman when in the prescence of another male.
Of course in the Indian rape case a male was present, but he was against a group of 6 men. But we are not talking exceptions.
Even in places in America and communities (HELLO AVERAGE BLACK COMMUNITY) where the men both young and old are terrorizing and brutalizing women and children at higher rates than other communities, you see a complete NEGLECT of real strong men in those places willing to put themselves on the front line to protect their communities, women, and children.
Not only that a lot of these “terrorists” in societies where women are more likely to be abused, raped, brutalized and killed, many of these young men have no real male father roles and are often being raised by women. Women cannot raise men to be men. Look at communities where the majority are women raising boys by themselves and these boys are often menaces who kill each physically harm each other and especially women.
So the moral of the story?
MEN need to police MEN. We need more strong men willing to stand up against atrocities that we see in so many parts of the world where helpless women are victimized and brutalized and murdered by MEN. No amount of feminists marches will make real impact until we as women and men realize we need BOTH genders to fight against this, with MEN upholding their duty as such to police and tear down the savages amongst them who use their power and strength against women in the world in the most unhealthy ways.
Women need to understand that shutting all men out, or calling all men the enemy is not going to improve this situation. Men do not need to be emasculated to understand , protect and fight to protect women and children who are most vulnerable. Men need to be MEN (ethical with integrity) and use that masculine energy to repress the savages in their group who commit atrocities against vulnerable women and children in societies.
Until FEARLESS decent, quality, ethical MASCULINE MEN with integrity in the world who can make the most impact in this arena, really stand up together, will as a world will forever be battling this issue.