I cannot for the life of me understand why Black women who are happy with the way things are now, venture to sites where Progressive thinking Black women are trying to hash out, discover, discuss and come up with ways for Black women to improve our collective lot in life if they are offended by the topics and what the blogger and her commenters are saying.
People tend to migrate to places where they share common interests and like to do so, because it fosters a sense of community and likeness for individuals in some way.
In terms of Sites for BWE, there are a subset of Black women who for the longest could not find like minded BW who shared the same views because the majority is still stuck on stupid (yeah I said it!).
If you are a BW that is happy with the way things are, are “apathetic about being a Black woman” or believe that BWE bloggers are just overreacting, then STAY OFF OUR SITES! Its that simple.
I am not a stone cold feminist. Therefore I do not venture to JEZEBEL and complain to the posters and bloggers about their feminist discussions!
I am not saying that people of differing opinions can not exist on the same blogs. It is always good to hear and discuss different views on a matter. But if you are a sensitive person that takes everything personal or as an attack then you are best staying in places where people share the same opinions and views as you do.
if you are a person with thick skin and an ability to debate in a healthy way without taking everything personal or twisting things that people are saying, then by all means I think most intelligent people would welcome you and your opinions because sometimes we can learn things from people who have a different view or opinion.
But if you are going to places to troll and be dissenting because you have thin skin, then you need to stay away because you then become disruptive.
i had to do this myself. I ventured to a PUA site and finally realized if I didn’t like what was being said about women or in general, then I need to keep my happy ARSE off that site because its not for me nor is it targeted to me. So if I choose to stick around I need to either accept that a lot of the discussions I will not agree with and I need to accept it or move on.
Same thing applies here with Black women who are constantly complaining about BWE bloggers attacking their choices. If you like the way things are for Black women these days, or don’t see a need for change or “what the big deal is” then FINE!b No one is forcing you to adopt the ideals or values of Black women who are on the progressive path to change.
But do not go to the blogs being disruptive and overly sensitive or LYING on bloggers to create controversy.
Ok. Off my soapbox!