Going to Toronto CANADA in August!!!🙅🏽😝😝😝

Ok my Canadian readers. Spill the beans on things I can do in 3 days!

 

ill be there first week in August for a work meeting the first two days and I’m staying an extra three over the weekend to just see and do things around Canada.

I’d definitely like any suggestions you may have in terms of what to see and do while I’m there!

 

also if anyone wants to meet up while I’m there I’d be happy to do that too!

 

😄😄😄😄

NO JESSE NO!!!!

By now you have all seen or heard about Jesse Williams powerful speech on the BET awards last evening.

Let me first start off by saying – Jesse Williams is BAE and I have to give hum MUCH KUDOS for the shout out to Black womanhood that he gave. Black women needed that and I love him for that. And I am sending prayers, love and good universe vibes out to him because he is gonna need it after this.

 

BUTTER-AMA-RUH, the rest of the speech I am NOT here for what he did. And it’s because I like him very much. Why should he as a bi racial man who has been underrepresented and not appreciated in the black community fight for blacks and risk his livelihood!? What have blacks done to light and bi racial men like Jesse but erase them and effeminate them and deem them not manly enough as dark skinned BM?

 

I am probably the only living and breathing person of Black descent that wishes Jesse would not have given this speech. In fact I wish it was one of those coon tired asses Black men giving this speech because at least when the take down happens I wouldn’t feel a least bit of sadness or hurt for him.

 

BUT NOT JESSE! It’s NOT because I think the speech was not indeed needed, extremely powerful nor warranted or untrue, but because I actually LIKE JESSE WILLIAMS…no I LOVE JESSE WILLIAMS and I do not want to see him taken down as a result for speaking out or for Black people who just do not GET IT and who WILL NOT and CAN NOT do much to support him if and when the backlist meets him.

Another reason why I’m not happy it was Jesse. Black community has pushed aside and cast the ligh bi racial man as effeminate and simeone that BW should avoid and feel ashamed about in terms of relationships.

Just like the image of dark skinned black women have been erased so has the bi racial light skinned BM.

Why should a bi racial man with his PRIVLEDGE risk his livelihood for a group of people that gave ultimately ERASED HIM and seemed him invaluable as a MAN.

Let dark skinned “Chocojate bruddahs” that black peoples and black men worship and live so much take the fkn fall!!!

In some ways yes I am saying Jesse is caping and “mammying” for a group of people that has never loved or respected “his Type”.

And yes that includes BLACK WOMEN.

Black women manmies (the majority in the black community) have basically told the likes of Jesse Williams and his ilk that they are not good enough as men and gave ignored them and treated them with disdain and ALLOWED color struck BLACK MEN who worship light and bi racial women to make them feel terrible for doing the same.

No Jesse should have let the men who resemble the ones that black people and women ADORE do that and put their damn livelihood on the line.

I think of Jesse Williams as I think of Progressive BW LIKE US and who I would tell to stop fighting for Black causes and issues and things in which we will not receive any real comeuppance for and that are mainly FUTILE when a lot of the issues affecting Black people are mired in our own actions, choices and dysfunctions.

 

How long do Black people think we can keep pulling the wool over White people’s eyes and guilting them when our backyards look, sound, feel and are like war torn SYRIA???

 

They see it yall! They may not say it but the minute we start talking about police brutality and the murdering done by White cops, racism, they are looking right back at us with the side eye because they see the same things we accuse them of being perpetuated BY US towards ourselves MORE OFTEN than not.

 

Yes they even see the RACISM we perpetuate towards the women in the Black race that favors anything closest to the “OPPRESSER”. How the fuck can they take a group of people seriously that do not even like their birth mothers to resemble the authentic picture of the race but rather worship women who look like “their old mean racist asses”? They see we do not even like our Black assed selves!

 

They see we kill each other at very high numbers compared to other races who kill each other or Black people. They see Black women being slaughtered on public trains by Black men, being beaten like wild animals in the street by Black men, being killed and murdered by Black men fighting turf and ego battles, they see young Black men slaughtering each other over DUMB SHIT ever hour on the hour.

 

They see we do not take pride in our communities or keeping our communities clean safe havens for our children to thrive amongst each other and be able to build stronger, prouder and more accomplished Black youth and adults. They see our communities are like war zones. They see we murder the women of our race and culture at higher rates than anyone else. They see that the men don’t marry and raise their kids and leave the bill at the foot of Black women who CANNOT raise sane healthy men and children alone.

 

THEY SEE IT ALL! Everyone sees it no matter how much we keep trying to pointing the finger at them. And as long as they see we are FULL OF SHIT (basically) they will never CHANGE. They will never RESPECT us, our lives, our humanity. WHY? BECAUSE WE DON’T!

 

And as long as we don’t know OTHERS WON’T.

 

Why is this such a hard concept for Black people to get?

 

I am not speaking about Jesse. Jesse’s heart is definitely in the right place, but he has to understand IT AINT WORTH IT! Because Black people are all talk and no damn action. Black people have not figured out the way to win in this world against oppression and such is to MOBILIZE, HAVE STRONG FAMILY FOUNDATIONS, STRONG COMMUNITIES for our children to thrive in. Instead we keep thinking speeches and pointing the finger is going to get us out of the hole we are in or rather make White people change and love us and respect us?

 

PSSSH!

 

The number one killer of Black men is NOT the PO PO. It is other Black men living within his vicinity. The number one killer of Black women is not Bubba, the KKK, The po po, or red neck Billy bob! IT IS BLACK MEN. I read somewhere that almost every 21 hours a Black woman is murdered with a gun. WTF do you think is killing us!? BLACK MEN in the BLACK COMMUNITY.

 

I am not saying there aint no real effin issues with racism in this country. There is and frankly it’s getting worse. But what I am saying is, I hate to see people like Jesse Williams take the load and FALL for ungrateful Negroes (many of which who are already denouncing his “Blackness” because they are jealous BW are drooling over his beautiful conscious ass).

 

 

This man will not deserve the backlash and take down that will be his inevitable. Does this mean I do not think that Black people should not speak out against atrocities committed by White establishment? NO. But I still have yet to see where speeches and speaking out has really REALLY gotten Black people anywhere.

 

We have to stop with the speeches! Black people like hearing heartfelt emotional speeches like this, but how many Black people actually do what it takes to turn things around other than give hive fives and words of encouragement to the speaker?

 

How many Black people are in a position to uphold and continue this man’s career if and or when the take down comes?

 

THAT is the real problem. That we do not have enough POWER STRUCTURES within our own community to support and uphold the careers and livelihoods of people like Jesse Williams who are brave enough to speak out.

 

 

 

In another time and space his speech would mean something. But I am sorry. In a time where most atrocities committed against Black people are at the hands of OTHER BLACK PEOPLE I am having a HARD time standing behind anyone who continues to point the finger at the White establishment for their atrocities.

 

You see there are TWO atrocities happening against Blacks. ONE yes can and is some aspects of the White establishment but the other MOST IMPORTANT one is BLACK ON BLACK ATROCITIES.

 

As long as we continue to IGNORE this, things will get worse and we will be falling down the rabbit hole further and eventually all anyone will hear is the echoes as we are completely diminished because we refused to address the real cause of strive and pain – other Black people.

 

Another thing.

Black American people are some of the most BLESSED Black people walking earth. Because we live in a country that *AT LEAST* still gives us autonomy to chart our own success and lives IF WE SO CHOOSE. If anyone disagrees than point out to me any other place where Blacks have the same amount or higher of rich wealthy Blacks living amongst them. Point out to me a place where even the most GHETTO THUGS of Black people can still become millionaires and successful. Point out to me any other place where Blacks can have the same rags to riches stories that we do in this country??

 

Yall better recognize we don’t miss the water till the well runs dry. If Black people keep up this one sided fighting and victim playing eventually, they aint going to want to share even a CRUMB of pie with us. Yes I am saying we should be grateful and SMARTER. Instead of always running our mouths, we should have been building, uplifting, growing, and mobilizing economically to be a force to reckon with for the White establishment. Instead of using the system that we bitch about to our advantage while we have had that advantage, we keep telling the world that no matter what we get we are always going to be “VICTIMS”.

 

I really hope I am wrong about Jesse and that I pray instead of him taking a backlash and fall that his career and life will further enhance. But if I know the history, that most likely will not happen as most Black H-Wood actors and actresses who are brave enough to speak out against stuff like this usually get blacklisted/blackballed.

 

If am going to put my neck on the line for anyone, it will be for people who I already KNOW are on the same page and who GET IT. NOT for victims and people who cannot walk and chew gum at the same time. Black people CAN address White racism and such and still also address the need to clean up our own backyards. But it seems we can’t do that.

 

As a Progressive BW, I see that we can talk about racism and atrocities against us, but WE still also can look at others like us and point out the flaws that are holding us back *cough* MAMMIES *cough* SISTER SOLDIERS *cough*.

 

Anyway, I know my opinion will not be received well because Jesse’s speech was powerful indeed. But I gotta say WRONG TIMING BABE!

 

What say you Nesters. Come on Lemme have it! LOL

Travel Frustrations – to travel solo or not is the question….

So I have been dealing with an issue that has finally come to a head.

 

I am single, childless, attractive and I love to travel. Except one thing – I DO NOT TRAVEL LIKE I SHOULD.

 

I have no kids, make decent money to travel where I want, YET I do not do it.

 

WHY?

 

I have continued to wait on my friends who either can’t travel when I can, don’t have the money or can’t get the time off and because I have had a fear of travelling alone and trying to wait on them, I feel I am missing out on the world.

 

I mean I can’t lie, I am scared to travel alone. What if something happens to me!!! Is this logical?

 

But at the same time, I am missing out because I keep waiting on others who cannot travel like I want to and I’m just tired of waiting.

 

So. Is there anyone here that has done a significant amount of travelling ALONE to various places outside the USA?

 

I love tropical islands, want to visit all of Europe, but this fear of something happening while I am away (like getting ill or falling sick and not being able to have someone with me to make sure I’m ok)

 

 

Its just frustrating because I feel each year that goes by is wasted by me not traveling to all the destinations I want to see.

 

So if anyone reading has done some traveling solo and could re-assure me either for or against it, I would really appreciate it!

Remember to support Black women you must support trash like this!

http://askkissy.com/2015/09/azealia-banks-called-black-girl-tar-baby-the-n-word-go-pick-cotton/2/

 

According to to some mentally challenged BLACK WOMEN who want sympathy for every damn thing a Bkack woman does.

 

We as BW need to love and support BW trash like AZALIA BANKS who lightens and bleaches their skin. Calls other young dark skinned Black girls “TAR BABY” and other anti dark skinned names. Who basically uses social media to fulfill every negative stereotype of BW. Who is so rude, nasty, crass, that she got her account suspended from Twitter.

 

BUT YET we are supposed to stand behind and LOVE owwa sista although she’s a bully who makes disgusting racist comments to your dark skinned black girls on social media because “shes dark skinned and had a horrible childhood.”

I have much more to add. But I gotta go. I’ll be back later with additional commentary. But read what this TRASH said to another young black girl trying to embrace herself and beauty.

YET you have IDIOTIC black women so fucking desperate to defend any kind of DBR behavior that if you do not support this trash then you “HATE DARK SKINNED WOMEN”.

This is why so many BW stay losing and will continue to do so.

SMART PROGRESSIVE BW will never stand behind trash! They will never stand behind BULLIES! They will never be bullied into accepting this behavior as nothing more than DBR behavior that needs no SUPPORTING OR UNDERSTANDING! They recognize that aligning yourself with trash like this takes your stock down TEN FOLD!

PROGRESSIVE BLACK WOMEN do not support DBR behavior from ANYONE – even other BW.

 

SO UHM – Canada, Netherlands, New Zealand???

Yall with all the crap happening in this country I’m thinking where or what other Western countries could/SHOULD BW be considering?

 

Its clear to me this country has hit rock bottom. The fact that AR 15 rifle gun sales spring through the roof after this recent Orlando tragedy, the fact the government refuses to do anything about gun control in face of the overwhelming gun violence by unhinged entitled men in this country, says things are going to get worse before they get better.

 

not to mention our choices for President are HILLARY CLINTON and DONALD TRUMP! (Could we be anymore FK’D?)

In addition to the overall general bullshit that black women and girls deal with in this place – CANADA is looking real good to me right now!

The fact that Australia, U.K. have successfully banned arms after mass shootings and have far and few issues with gun violence; that Sweden (or one of those Norfic countries) has the highest rate of gun ownership YET lowest rate of gun violence says the people in this country are off their rocker for the most part.

BLACK WOMEN more than any other race of women are the most affected women in USA in regards to gun violent deaths!

 

Many black women and YOUNG BLACK GIRLS are being killed in record numbers these days by gun violence at the hands of Black men.

 

So it would make sense to me that Progressive BW would look at this as a true warning that it’s time to move to more developed Western socities. Everyday I am met with the reality that America is moving backwards into a deep abyss and of course as this happens the most un protected, vulnerable group will catch it the worse BLACK WOMEN AND GIRLS.

 

this idea of mass exodus of groups to “greener pastures” isn’t new. It’s the foundation of American immigration.

I believe if the more able bodied of black women really decided as a collective to “BOUNCE” up outta here yo more developed SAFER western countries and socities that we could.

 

So what places should serious BW consider in terms of re-settling as they try to escape the inevitable that’s going to happen in America?

 

I say Canada, Australia, New Zealand, Netherlands.

I used to say Sweden, but it looks like they have a serious issue with rapes by Muslind who have migrated and are unwilling to uphold its Western values as they try to appease aggressive Muslims.

This country and gun violence is only going to get worse. And you better believe the one group of women must affected by it – BLACK WOMEN – will continue to be victims of it.

 

Not to mention all the other crap BW face in America.

 

What say you? Should we stay or go?

Black Women winning in spite of!!

MISS USA

 

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during the 2016 Miss USA pageant at T-Mobile Arena on June 5, 2016 in Las Vegas, Nevada.

THAT.IS.ALL!!

THAT PEDESTAL WHITE WOMEN ARE ON IS A BLESSING AND CURSE

Why Conformity will and can save some of us!

 

Hi Everyone!

 

I am finally out of writers block mode. LOL I would rather take a break than try to force out something for the sake of making a blog post.

 

But this has been weighing heavily on me and I want to write about it. It’s a true testament of my ability to see the gray area, silver linings that most would not see and generally how I continue to evolve when it comes to thinking about BW and our “plight” and how we can keep trying to WIN in spite of.

 

I’m constantly always looking and comparing to how other races of women are faring compared to Black women and why they fare much better and where BW can do the same even though our walks in life may be different.

 

Part of the winning strategy that I feel progressive BW need to have is an ability to not look at things for face value but to read between the lines, look at the gray area and understand for better or for worse why it is and how to navigate within that realm.

 

Because the reality is, a winning BW in today’s world cannot just live off the surface and face value. She has to have a canny ability to see the underneath and shades in between and use that to win.

 

Sometimes that gray area is a hard pill to swallow at first. That’s because things at face value are not always REAL or rather not always what is working for or against you. It’s often time the stuff we don’t often hear or see that will keep us afloat (or kill us) in its ugly truth and all.

 

THAT BLASPHEMOUS PEDESTAL!!!

 

Is it *really* blasphemous?

 

One thing I have been truly coming to grips with is – the reality is I believe there is both a blessing and curse to White women being pedestalized by White men (who in most part run Western societies).

 

While it sucks to be on the opposite end of the “pedestal” spectrum, I’ve started to think about how in actuality White woman worship works for Black women to a great degree even though we may not see it at face value.

 

Face value says if you do not fit the profile of the worshipped – you are shit out of luck. Maybe to a degree.

 

But when you look at it from the gray area you can see a perspective of where BW come from, our communities, countries and such where Black men are the rulers (or somewhat the rulers) and compare that to western societies where White men are the rulers and who pedestalize the women of tier tribe we can see we actually fare better as WOMEN (maybe not *BLACK* women) but as *WOMEN* in a society where the majority in rule (Whites) uplift and prize their women.

 

In a patriarchal society this is MONUMENTAL. Especially if those who rule the roost are doing it. Because any and all laws, social norms and other things that are there for the benefit of the “prized” will eventually trickle down to the “un prized” to some degree even though we may not get the entire benefits of such. But we get the benefits if you really look at it.

 

How is that?

 

WESTERN SOCIETIES VS. NON WESTERN SOCIETIES

 

Well let’s just compare western societies and European culture to all other cultures and societies. Can we NOT agree that for the most part women fare better in the former than the latter? I think the proof is in the pudding. In western societies women are given rights and concessions and courtesies that are generally not afforded to many other women from other races and cultures.

 

The fact that Black American women are the most educated women in the US is a prime example of how when the prized woman of the powerful is given concessions as women, it trickles down to the un prized. Black women can take advantage of education as women because at some point those men in power decided they would give those concessions to their women _although they may not have always been the case. But at some juncture White men have and still do concede to give White women autonomy and the ability to assert her independence. And we as Black women make out like bandits because of it.

 

While there is still a great deal of sexism and misogyny in Western culture, there are equally still enough MEN in power who still police other men when it comes to the safety of women and girls and who are still making and upholding laws that seek to punish those who harm women and children. Is it perfect? Once again NO. But it’s THERE and it’s there for women to utilize if they need to.

 

That is why pedophiles wealthy or not do not come to “America” or western countries to openly prey on children without worry of being caught. There is a reason why Asian countries are a stomping ground for pedos and male predators and the like. That is because in those cultures young children and girls are not seen as prized entities to protect from adult predators.

 

 

Money means more to those countries than the healthy flourishment of their children. In essence they are not as protected as they are in western societies where someone in power understands the need for creating strict laws and things to protect children from child predators. Does it stop them from being predators in Western societies? NO. But they have to do a whole lot of underground sneaking around to avoid the law. And when they are caught – it’s a done deal. The fact that there are all kinds of predatory laws in place and being utilized by police and “child law task forces” says that in this country and society we *AIM* to protect our children.

 

Just recently a former GLEE star was arrested and indicted for holding onto child pornography. He was no A lister, but we all know in general Black population any Black male entertainer arrested and such for child porn would be given all kinds of passes by BW and men alike. *Hello R. KELLY* and the many other Black male child predators getting away with it.

 

In Africa you still have a culture that treats women and children (especially young girls) as second class trash. Their lives, quality of life and such is hardly taken into consideration when it comes to what the men do and want. This is why removing the woman and girls clitoris is still being widely practiced, why young girls who are barely out of elementary are sent off to be child brides to grown ass men, why thousands of young school girls can be kidnapped by BOKO HARAM and no one give a fock or do much to curb it, why terrorists run amuck. And generally why no one cares about Black women or girls – BECAUSE OUR MEN, CULTURE AND COMMUNITIES DON’T!

 

All these things happen because on some level the MALES in that culture and race still haven’t come to the decision that they love and cherish the women enough to offer up many forms of protections to allow them to flourish as children and adults without it benefiting the males in that group.

 

 

The reason why WW are prized by all men is because THEIR MEN AND CULTURE DEEMS THEM VALUABLE. And instead of other races of men taking on the same role to make their women just as valuable, they’d rather save and go after the White man’s prize. The prize he put work in to make it such.

 

 

Look at middle eastern & Indian societies and religions and how the women fare. Not much rights or room to grow as an independent woman in those societies which are very strict patriarchal places that see women as second class trash.

 

And even though there are *laws* a lot of those laws are not upheld because they have the same predatory men in power determining the fate of the predators against women.

 

AINT NO WHITE MAN THROWING ACID IN “BEAUTIFUL” BLONDE BECKY’S FACE

 

The fact that acid throwing on women is a growing and serious trend in a lot of non-western countries is another example of women not being able to safely exert their independent and choices without fear of harm or death. I wondered why there were so little cases of acid throwing in the US and Western countries. Well that is because it turns out that the acid that is commonly used in other places has been banned in the US and is extremely hard to get ahold of.

 

Which in turn means at some level THOSE IN POWER IN THE USA realized the harm that this kid of acid can cause and has banned it.  Whereas in India and South America and some Asian countries that acid that is commonly used to destroy women’s faces (by men with fragile egos)  is easily accessible and cheap to buy and get by anyone.

 

So in a country that cherishes the safety AND BEAUTY of its women and girls, they would take measures to curb this act by banning and making it very difficult for men to access acid. But they haven’t. WHY? Cause they don’t give a rat’s ass about the women and girls or their BEAUTY in their countries!

 

While White men kill and rape and do harm to their women and girls (as all men can and do), can you imagine them throwing acid on the faces of their “PRIZED” women? NO! That is why it’s hardly an issue in Western societies where women are more able to tell a guy to “fuck off” and he better do so unless he wants to face the law and not have to worry about acid being thrown on their faces. This once again proves why it’s good they cherish the beauty of their women (even at the expense of non-White women) because they would not on a collective scale allow anything to tarnish it without making it very difficult to do so. And this is why acid throwing on the faces of women and girls barely exists in European culture and societies. They prize the beauty and womanhood of their women.

 

EVEN WHEN MYSOGYNIST WM CANNOT STAND FREE WHITE WOMEN, THEY STILL DEFEND THEM

 

Yall know I have been on some of the PUA sites for years. One thing I still can say, that as much as some of those men bitch, whine and complain about White women and not getting the White women they feel they deserve, they still will DEFEND them at all costs!

 

I mean in one breathe they complain about WW, the next breathe they are blaming any and everyone else for why White women do the shit they do. So even in these spaces where White men hate women, they are still for the most part not fully willing to give up on their women, not fully willing to blame their women for the choices they make. They will blame, Black men, JEWS, snakes, and everyone else *BUT* WHITE WOMEN for their behaviors. LOL!

 

IN A PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY, FEMINISM AND WOMEN’S RIGHTS ARE ONLY AS STRONG AS THE MEN WHO UPHOLD THEM

 

White women are not able to generally flourish as women on their own. If White men truly wanted to rule with an iron fist and strip women of all their rights they could. And especially in the past when feminism starting coming about it only was successful because at some point powerful WHITES and WHITE MEN gave in. Women’s suffrage was only as successful as those men in power allowed it to be. On some level White men decided that White women’s general happiness means something and they were willing to concede to a lot of the women’s right’s laws and ideals.

 

Just like the end of slavery or Jim Crowe wasn’t because Black people decided to fight to end it. It was because NON Blacks like Jews and Whites put in resources, laws and efforts to HELP end it as well.

 

Are women and Blacks at the promised land? NO! Not by any stretch. But we damn sure have made some pretty great strides compared to the past and continue to do so because we are given the RIGHTS to fight for our freedom and to punish lawfully if we aren’t given those freedoms.

 

These are the hard truths that no one will ever say. The face value will say WW alone helped to make feminism a success and Black people alone helped to end slavery and Jim Crowe. That aint the whole truth and nothing but the truth. That is ONLY the GOOD part of the truth that EVERYONE wants to hear. But the reality is, it took those in power to CONCEDE at some point to give the powerless more power.

 

What does this all mean to Black women?

 

YES WE NEED BRAD TO LOVE, HONOR AND CHERISH BECKY FOR OUR OWN SAFETY AND RIGHTS AS BLACK WOMEN

 

We NEED White men to continue to see their women as the prize. *whew* there I said it. I would have never said this 3 months ago! But I reached this epiphany by looking at things. We need White men (who are still in power in Western society) to love, cherish and prize the women in their tribe. Because as long as they do this and are still in power, they will see fit to keep some sort of chivalry alive, to keep laws to protect their women and children in place and will continue to create environments where their women can flourish in their feminine state, will continue to police (as best they can) other male predators who can destroy the feminine ideals in society if they are allowed to run amuck.

 

White men in general seem to understand that a race and culture is only as strong as how it treats its vulnerable – that is women and children. That is why other races of men and people flock to the White man’s land to progress and live fairly care free lives. Something they were unable to create on their own soil in their own countries.

 

In essence what we do not want is for White men to start feeling about their women as Black men and other Non-White males do. Because then we are all fucked!

 

If you look at the basis of their movies. Ho much of it is about saving some woman vs. throwing her to the wolves. I swear almost every movie I see at some point on some level there is a MALE hero trying to save a White woman or girl. ALL.WAYS. And it goes from young to old. This is how they as a culture groom their boys and men. To always be the hero and look to save the “vulnerable” girl and woman.

 

Yet you have Black men and other cultures of men who brag about “not saving” women and calling men White Knights and “captain save a hoe”.

 

AT SOME POINT PROGRESSIVE BW UNDERSTAND CONFORMITY ON *SOME LEVELS* IS A MUST TO WIN

 

The reason why BW stay losing, stay un protected, stay at the mercy of everyone who cannot see our womanhood, is because we continue to other ourselves (as Khadija used to say).

 

Open ur eyes ladies! The White man’s willingness to prize, protect and WHITE KNIGHT and CAPTAIN SAVE A HOE for his women benefits us in so many real ways. But we cannot see it for the face value and hurt feelings due to how our men treat us. We want that. And we should. But we cannot force Black men to give us what the White man is willing to do for his women.

 

All we can do is conform to some level as to attract quality men of that tribe that still believe in protecting women and allowing femininity to flourish.

 

As long as WW benefit in society for being protected women, some of that will trickle down by default to us IF WE ARE WILLING TO RECEIVE IT and to act accordingly to GET IT. It aint just going to be given to us. And that is what separates the BW who will stay losing vs. those of us who will win and progress.

 

Because the laws are not based on race of women. But WOMEN. Just like while feminism back in the day wasn’t really about or for Black women, we have benefited GREATLY because of it although it was mainly for and still benefits WW the most.

 

Here’s another silver lining. IF a BW is willing to conform to a *certain degree* she too can benefit and get a piece of that pedestal. YEP I AM DEAD SERIOUS. Conformity is another issue BW don’t want to talk about. I get it. Its uncomfortable and shouldn’t have to be. But once again that’s face value. The gray area says if you conform to some degree you will benefit even greater and raise your stock JUUUST a LIL bit more and more the more you conform.

 

I get it conformity aint for everyone and hey not even I am willing to completely conform. But I am starting to see where and how a certain willingness to conform is going to benefit me as a WOMAN – maybe not a *BLACK* woman but as a woman.

 

And where can it benefit us as women:?

— MATING

— BEAUTY IDEALS

I get it not every BW is interested in this. But many are and that is who I am speaking too.

This is why I LOOOOOVE seeing Black women on Instagram creating make up pages and doing what the White and non-Black girls are doing. This is why I loooove seeing BW conform to those ideals because it normalizes us and destroys that “othering” shit we typically do.

 

As more and more Black women conform to some Non BW’s ideals those BW will get a chunk of that pedestal. And part of that chunk are those small percentage of Non-Black men willing to forgo their “prize” and share their love, resources with the small amount of BW who are ready and willing to receive it and HOLD ONTO IT.

 

Even if you don’t want the men, you can still live independelty and create and chart yoiur own path to happiness and well being ALONE, PARTNERED or both!

 

The idea here is that Westernized BW have the tools to be who and what we want, to do as we please if we see the gray area and move within it.

 

Keep moving in that gray area sisters. That is what separates you from the BW who will stay losing!

HA! R. Kelly whining about low records sales

And trying to guilt trip BLACK FOLKS into supporting his crap.

 

 

http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2015/12/r-kelly-really-wants-black-folks-to-buy-his-album/

 

Something tells me to not get too excited at the thought of black folks no longer supporting this rapist and pedophile. But homies record sales are apparently so bad, he has to put out a call to “BLACK PEOPLE” to support one another HIM???

 

LMAO that is what you call some NERVE! Although he should not have even been on any awards show, it looks like that didn’t even help his measly 28k records sold since he dropped his album.

Then he has the AUD DASSSSS  ITTY to say something  like “if people don’t see blacks supporting and RESPECTING each other we will never get that from other”.

 

😳 REALLY? Was you thinking about that all those years you used black folks undying support to turn a blind eye to,your pedophilia of our young girls?

 

This is fool doesn’t even realize the reason his ass isn’t sitting behind bars with a sex offender charge is BECAUSE OF THE UNDYING SUPPORT black FOLKS give to Negroes like him!

 

God I hope this is due to more BW waking up. I actually deleted 3 people from my friends list on Facebook for writing supportive crap about him and then telling haters to “eat it” (yes one person on my friends list had a hash tag after the soul train awards #rkellyhaterseatit! Another person kept liking his page and new album. I deleted them too. All BW.

Here is the link of him literally pleading and begging blacks to,support his rapist and Pedo ass.

 

TO BAD SO SAD Rapist Kelly!

If you see a void, don’t beg others to fill it for you – FILL IT YOURSELF! (Instagram rant)

Ok so I have an instagram account in which I follow quite a few make-up artists and professional models INSTAGRAM models (lol). What are Instagram models vs. professional models? Instagram models are Instagram made and paid, and professional models are… It’s like reality stars vs. A list stars. LOL But I’m a sucker for beauty and fashion so I follow.

Being into make-up, I have been very interested in all the new techniques and such used. So I follow women of various races (including Black) just to see the new trends and new make-up etc.

If you are not familiar with Instagram or how it works,  pretty much you can follow people based on interests. Mine is make up and beauty.  There are quite a number of popular and up and coming make-up artists who are sponsored by make-up companies and such to hawk their make-up products to their instagram followers (like myself) so that people like me will go out and buy the products. The more instagram followers a MUA has the more companies will sponsor them and send them freebies.

 

So naturally everyone and their momma are always posting pics and videos of their make-up techniques/skills to get noticed and gain many followers so they can get paid by companies and sponsored by companies to get free products and things to market on their Instagram pages.

 

Some of the MUA (make-up artists) I follow have varying  numbers of instagram followers. Some have them in the millions and others fall beneath that.

 

Well what happens is, the more popular Instagam MUA pages, tend to get the most traffic. So what these owners of the accounts do is not only post their make-up products/ skills/techniques, but they also will post the same of some of the smaller less known but talented MUAs on instagram to give them some shine and to help them gain followers.

 

Honestly, a lot of the Black MUA I follow I found them through the Non-Black women’s pages if I didn’t find them on my own.

 

Here is where I am going with the post.

 

STOP BEGGING FOILKS TO DO FOR YOU WHAT YOU CAN DO YOUR DAMNSELF!

So naturally Non Black MUA’s who have high number of followers are most likely being followed more by women who look like them (non-Black) than minorities. Naturally they are going to use models and make up COLORS mainly for those with Non-Black features and skin.

 

When it comes to technique IMO race doesn’t matter because it’s just technique. However, when it comes to applying certain formulas and colors that is where seeing someone with your own skin tone etc., helps.

 

So I expect to see these techniques and such from Black MUA’s when I want to learn how to say CONTOUR and what the best products are to use for darker skin tones vs. White ones.

 

There is a gay BM make-up artist I followed for a minute (I stopped following him though because I cannot deal with begging Black folks).

 

He has a low number of followers compared to some of the other Black MUA’s (like 43K) and certainly the Non-black ones.  Even the Black women MUA’s with low numbers are doing the most and putting content out there regularly to keep gaining an audience.

I feel  he could have waaay more followers and such if he spent less time posting memes and short vids of him flinging his wig around and batting his *GORGEOUS * green eyes in the camera (the boy has got some amazing green eyes like I have never seen before). ANYWAY……. He IMO should be more time posting pics and vids of the various models of various races he works on. He does some professional work on some well-known models, so he should be able to be one of the top MUA’s on Instagram.

 

BUT like I said, compared to the Non-Black MUA’s and the other Black women MUA’s he spends more time posting meme’s while they are hustling and making new videos and pics of new make-up techniques on the DAILY. Sometimes even more than once a day. They are pretty much hustling because they want their fan base to grow. In order to do this, you need to be always posting pics and vids for your followers.

 

His ass posts pics and vids every once in a blue moon. I haven’t seen one make up video from him. Just still pics every now and then. But I still followed him just to support.

 

Well the other day I was scrolling down and came across a MEME he had. It said “Darker skin tones matter too” or something to that effect (BTW he was not talking about race, but skin tones of all women of color from light tan to dark). And beneath it he had copied in the top 3 make up gurus on Instagram that have millions of followers. I know these make up gurus because I follow them. And frankly, that is how I ended up following him, because one of the non Black MUA’s posted some work he did.

Also on is bio page he has a little paragraph going on about how Black beauty and dark beauty matters to and how the make up industry …..you know the same old same old complaining and expecting others to do for us what we can do for ourselves. I am simply no longer moved by these declarations of BEGGING from Black folks.

Anyway,  So then he wrote his commentary beneath the meme which basically was talking about how more of these popular MUA’s need to show more diversity in skin tones on their pages because everyone is not just White skinned. He was complaining saying that they use White models and will put dark make up on them instead of finding models with naturally darker skin tones.

 

Is this common across the board? YESSS. Ok we know this so why are we still begging them to include us people? Moving on…….

So yeah maybe they can post more pics of darker skin models of varying races. But they still do IMO post pics of dark skinned models and MUA’s just not nearly as much as White or Non-Black ones. Which makes sense to me if their fan base mostly consists of Non-black women with whiter skin tones.

 

Additionally, when they do  post that rare  pic or vid from a Black MUA or model, its up to Black or darker skin tone women to click their pages where they will most likely find other MUA’s and models of the same type. Its like a domino effect. You click and go to one page and you will find similar pages of what you want based on the current page you are on. So these Black MUA artists should be tagging other Black MUA’s so they can get more followers – WHICH MANY OF THEM DO. That is how people get followers. One MUA tags another and vice versa. They promote and help each other.

 

I have yet to see his ass doing any of this.

 

Also, because I understand the concept of self-preservation and most normal groups will always put themselves FIRST. So why would I be mad or have an expectation that they would have scores of darker skin tones models when they are not dark themselves and their followers aren’t?  All they need to do is post the occasional Black MUA or model for me and I can take it from there and click on their pages to get to other Black MUA and models. HELLO!

 

*ok I got off track. Back to his commentary and meme*

 

Of course tons of his Black female followers came running in there  co-signing etc. One BW was like “yeah I was just ranting about this on such and such’s page about why she never features any Black or darker skinned models! Hardly ever do you come across a darker model on her page!”

 

*WAAA WAAA WAAAA!!!!!*

 

So I’m like – you are a make-up artist. You are black (although he claims he wasn’t talking about race but skin tones) why can’t you use your own page to do just that – feature more dark skin toned models and MUA’s on your page and fill that void that you aren’t getting from the Non-Black popular MUAs’. But no one wants to hear that. Its always about us BEGGING OTHERS to take care of us, to do for us, to MAKE US.

 

Why can’t black folks get it through their thick skulls that no one owes you anything and they damn sure aint just going to hand every damn thing to us on a platter because we WHINE, PISS AND MOAN about what they aren’t doing for us!?

 

HOW ABOUT DO THE SHIT FOR YOURSELF AND STOP ACTING LIKE HELPLESS CHILDREN!

 

Jesus! How hard is it for you as a TALENTED Black MUA with some connections, to use your page to feature more women you feel are lacking on the pages of other MUA’s? Instead of posting pics of your eyes, lips and wigs or memes, he should be spending more time doing what he feel is lacking on Instagram in terms of darker models and MUAs!

 

Why is it Non-black women MUA job to have a slew of dark skin tones models when they are probably getting paid and sponsored off of the number of Non-darker followers they have – not to mention they are NOT DARK themselves!

 

OMG! Seriously. But no one wanted to hear this.

Help me understand yall? Why is it that Black people are not self-sufficient and cannot create and do for self like every other group. Why is this very talented MUA begging for someone else to do the work he should be doing? And he has a lot of nerve especially when he doesn’t even post as many pics and vids compared to all the other hustling MUA’s on Instagram. Yet he wants them to do the heavy lifting and feature dark skin tones models on their pages and feature him and other MUA’s on their pages so they can get more followers.

 

DO IT YOUR DAMN SELF! How about that!?

 

I stopped following his ass because I cannot deal with begging Black folks who refuse to do the work it takes to fill the voids they fill are missing.

 

We have to stop the begging like helpless kids and start creating OUR OWN.

 

Ok, I’m done ranting. Other than that, I can say the other Black MUAs on there are working hard to secure followers and sponsors. If I want to find techniques, colors and such to use, I click on their pages. If I just want to see general techniques, I view all of their pages. its real simple. All he has to do is actually WORK and hustle like everyone else.

 

I have to say that the other BW MUA’s never complain though. Never seen any complaining posts from them as they are smart if they want to secure mainstream sponsors. They are being SMART…

CALLING A SPADE A SPADE – so called PRO IR BW and their textbook COGNITIVE DISSONANCE

Cognitive Dissonance:

  • The state of having inconsistent thoughts, beliefs, or attitudes as relating to behavioral decisions and attitude change

Examples:

  • “To hell with the Black community and its dysfunctional crap! I’m moving on to greener pastures and opening myself up to other races of men and HEADIN FO THE NORTH STAR. If BW dark skinned BW wanna save themselves and have a chance at healthy relationships and families then we better start recognizing that non-Black men are the key. Stop wasting your time and energy on Black men who don’t appreciate you and your dark skin. ” 

*5 seconds later*

  • “Look at all these watered down Black women BM keep slobbering over! UGH. I’m so sick of the colorism and dysfunction in the Black community. These women aint real sisters. Black men hate themselves and they just keep trying to erase “REAL” Black women by trying to pass of their watered down bi racial and light women as Black. That’s why I’m moving on from these self-hating Negroes!” 
  • *10 seconds later”

 

  • *5 seconds later*

 

  • UGH! Why are all these bi racial women always trying to COP what we have and then get recognition for it!. These bi racial women trying to erase us and always getting SHINE for wearing our hair styles and looks? Oh look at this chick again with her faux locks stealing BW’s beauty! Why has this bi racial chick gotten a doll for wearing faux locks? Aint a regular non ambiguous BW in sight! NEVER in their stories, movies, pic, songs etc. They are trying to erase us! These BM hate themselves so bad that all they want is these Non Black watered down bi racial looking BW. That’s why I have moved on and encourage other sisters to do the same.”

 

  • *10 seconds later*

 

  • BI RACIAL WOMEN AINT BLACK and they don’t represent me! I am sick of these women ERASING me as a Black woman. Stop letting these women steal your throne as a Black woman! That is why I have moved onto non Black men who can better appreciate a real BW. Do not let these bi racial and light skinned BW steal your throne! I am sick of them always stealing our shine as Black women. THEY AINT BLACK!”
  • 5 seconds
  • “Yeah I know I will have a bi racial child if I marry a Non BM – AND??”
  • 2 sec later
  • “Black men have been erasing BW since the beginning of time. Racially pure BW need to start standing up and stop letting light and bi racial women erase us!”

 

  • 2 seconds later
  • “Yeah I know I will have a bi racial child if I marry a non BM – AND?????”

 

This nonsense is exhausting for me as a BW, imagine what it must look like to some unsuspecting Non BM who might be open to dating BW.

 

Can you imagine the shit that would go through his head about our sanity?

 

I really want you to think critically about what I’m saying. Don’t just read the words but really critically think about what I am about to write here.

 

My first instruction: DO NOT BE A TEXTBOOK CASE OF COGNITIVE DISSONANCE that so many Pro IR BW are.

 

These women are borderline cray. They are clearly not well and not in any position to have any kind of healthy relationship with ANYONE.

 

Are they crazy for wanting to uplift themselves and create some sort of boundaries? No. Bu its seeped in hate and bitterness is the problem.  You can uplift yourself and beauty without always harping on others.

It goes back to my post about the sales representative who has a GREAT product. If your product is THAT GREAT you won’t ever need to bash the competition. You will not go into a sales meeting berating your competitor to get what you want. You will only be successful by focusing on YOUR AMAZING PRODUCTS qualities without the bashing.

If your competitor has a 90% share of the market, you will not win people over by being bitter and hateful about the fact that your product is only used 10% of the time. if you want to grow your market share, you do it by pointing out the great qualities of your product and not spending time and energy bitching about the competitor with a 90% market share over you.

 

SAME THING! Black women are not going to win any likes from outsiders by bashing the competition who has a greater share over us in terms of beauty ideals and love. That is just the way TIT TIS and many of these BW are not MATURE enough to handle that in a graceful manner.

 

 

And their views are  also problematic because you cannot be so PRO BLACK WOMAN and then turn around and date/marry and have the very children you have issues with. I keep hammering this point home because I do not think these BW have the wherewithal to really see and dissect their beliefs and how problematic they are to their goals of achieving relationship “bliss” with non Black men.

 

On one hand they want to hold onto this idea of PURE Blackness and but still date and marry and pro create with Non BM. They want to  *CLAIM* they are done with BM, but every turn they are talking about what BM like; they are  still meddling in Black community dysfunction, BUT CLAIMING to have MOVED ONTO GREENER PASTURES in the global community.

 

They want Non Black men, but not the offspring that comes from Non Black men (or rather have serious issues with the types of offspring from these unions). They claim they are done with BM, but can’t keep BM and BM’s preferences out of their mouths.

 

They can’t stand Bi racial women (or feel bi racial women are an obstacle in terms of black beauty), but are aware that’s who they will be pushing out if they date and marry across the color lines. They claim to be progressive, but still talking about old tired shit that has been around in the BC for centuries. I could go on.

 

These women are trouble makers and they are going to bring those negative things from the Black community into their IRs (if any man in his right mind decides to even pursue their crazy behinds). And they are sucking in other young impressionable BW in the process.

 

If these were PRO Black love, Pro Black KANG Black women saying and doing this, I wouldn’t bat an eye because it would make sense to me that they would do this. But when I see and hear so called pro IR talking like this, I see some serious PROBLEMS ahead.

 

This is why I am telling you –  GET YOUR MIND RIGHT before you even THINK about crossing any lines to date ANYONE. The Black women who are thriving and living healthy and happy lives with their Non Black partners and children are not sitting around blabbering about the BS that these so called PRO IR Black women are. They are not creating divides based on skin shade. WHY? Cause they dun GOT THEIRS!

 

They are not sitting around day in and day out bitching about BM’s preferences, whose black and who aint black enough, one drop rules and all that other stupid shit that NO ONE expect crazy dysfunctional baggage ridden Black people care about!

 

If you truly are ready to date IR, you will understand that you will have to somehow, someway find a happy medium where you can still love and embrace yourself as a BW and also be able to raise HEALTHY well-adjusted bi racial children (girls especially). I am dead serious.

 

Many of these baggage ridden BW are selfish and can’t seem to see the forest for the trees. They feel no choice other than to date IR, but they also don’t like the idea of the offspring from these unions because they see them as an OBSTACLE to their Black womanhood.

 

Unless they have no plans of pro creating, these women are going to take these issues and dump them onto their unsuspecting POOR non-Black partners and bi racial kids. MARK.MY.WORDS.

 

Just because you think you are ready for something, doesn’t mean YOU ARE. There are a Bunch of BW who need to find a stadium and have sev-er-alllll seats before they even think about dating anyone.

 

These women are DAMAGED and ANGRY. They think the fix to that is dating across the color lines, YET they aint even ready to deal with the animosity they have for the very women and children they will be creating with their non-Black partners.

 

 

BE CAREFUL AND CRITICAL OF WHO YOU LISTEN TO

 

That may very well be me for some of you. If it is, no love lost. I have never gone into something with the intentions of being FAKE or TRY HARD to garner brownie points, high-fives and pats on the head. I have and am a very COMPLEX person with varying degrees of viewpoints. I’m the kind of person that if things are going awry in my life, the FIRST person I look to is MYSELF and I try to dissect the areas and things that I have done to contribute to where I am at in my life. And I also hold others to that standard.

 

But I also realize that, that way of thinking doesn’t translate to most people , because most people like to be victims and never hold themselves accountable for their thoughts and actions that *MAY* be contributing to the issues in their lives.

 

It’s very easy to be a victim. It takes a lot of heart to look at yourself and START with SELF when it comes to dealing with the not so great things in your life.

 

It takes A LOT to say “I have issues and I need to work on them because I truly want to be happy and attract like for myself”.

 

I don’t do this for money (at least not yet) nor do I do it because I need everyone to love and like me and my views. This blog is my place of sanctuary to get things off my chest that *I* want to let out.

 

That’s just how I roll. I call a spade a spade even when the shit is uncomfortable and puts me in a position of being side eyed by those who aint ready to hear some UNCOMFORTABLE TROOFS.

 

I’m not, never have and NEVER WILL be everyone’s cup o tea and I am OTAY with that. Neecy is going to say her peace and point be it popular or not.

 

YOU’RE STARTING WITH A CLEAN CANVAS AND SLATE – DO NOT LET ANYONE DUMP THEIR CRAP ON IT

 

If you are a young DARK SKINNED UNAMBIGUOUS BW excited about opening yourself up to men of other races, then you have made the first step to freedom as a BW. I don’t need to go into detail of why. You already know.

 

But here is something that you may not *REALIZE*.  The moment you decided to give yourself a chance at being loved, appreciated, and given the chance at healthy relationships that revolve around your individuality and NOT some “standard” of beauty that you do not nor will ever fit, you have started with a CLEAN SLATE. The minute you said “I’m so done with the Black community and black men and its lack of value it has for BW like myself and others who look like me” AND MEANT IT – you have given yourself a clean slate.

 

Once you decide to walk away from the MATRIX and break the chains YOU HAVE GIVEN YOURSELF A CLEAN SLATE.

 

Do not muddy and mess up your clean canvas by internalizing the toxic dysfunction of other BW who claim to be on that same path. Listen to what they are saying and watch what they are doing. Are they really on that path for reasons they say or are they BW who are going down that path out of “necessity” and not true desire?

 

Why do you start with a clean slate when you TRULY desire to remove yourself from dysfunctional Black people’s nonsense? Because in the global arena, most men of other races see Black as Black. You don’t have to bleach your skin or turn yourself into a pretzel to fit an ideal. You are already BLACK and they have already come to terms with that and that alone.

 

You can try to argue with me on this, but that is just the REALITY and FACTS.  In this country the one drop rule has been so imbedded in the psyches of everyone that most people would agree today that anyone with any kind of Black aesthetic is BLACK. This may very well change in the future BUT FOR NOW, this is what it is, whether you like it or not.

 

What this means for you as a dark skinned unambiguous Black woman is crossing the color lines, is you are not up against competing with light, bi racial Black women for non-Black men based on SKIN SHADE, ADMIXTURES, HAIR TEXTURES etc. YES! You are on EQUAL footing in the interracial arena with Black women who in the Black community are seen superior based on skin tone, hair texture and admixture.

 

JUST TRSUT ME ON THIS! LOL I don’t have WM who post here but maybe one – his name is Mike. In my last post on this topic he confirmed what I said in regards to this.

 

I have been on this earth 40 something years. TRUST ME when I tell you that most Non ethnic Non BM could give a rat’s ass Black women’s admixtures or lack thereof when choosing to date us. They see us all the same – as BLACK. That includes “Blackish” looking bi racial women. If they are brown skinned with Black aesthetic THEY ARE BI RACIAL but they will be viewed and perceived as BLACK.

 

And if a NON Black man doesn’t want to date a BLACK WOMAN, he will not date ANY BLACK WOMAN no matter if she is mixed and “blackish looking”, light skinned or dark. He will not make exceptions for even MIXED or half Black women because in THIS SOCIETY TODAY anyone who looks Black IS BLACK to them.

 

NOW. We all know this is not the same playing field for BW of varying shades in the Black community. We all know that dark skinned unambiguous BW are virtually HATED by their own men to the point they are often the unfortunate beneficiaries of internal colorism (i.e racism) in the Black community. We all know that this can create  self-esteem issues with dark BW and even ANIMOSTY towards those Black women who they feel are getting that love based on superficial things that cannot be changed.

 

Animosity is a NATURAL emotion to feel when you are constantly berated and compared to others and made to feel not up to “snuff” based on something you cannot change (your skin color, features). Especially when the people doing the damage LOOK JUST LIKE YOU!

 

So I am acknowledging that animosity is real and NATURAL because we are human beings!

 

But there comes a point when you CLAIM to let go and move on, that you do just that. Because festering animosity that isn’t dealt with in a healthy manner will make you bitter, toxic and baggage ridden.

 

AND that leads me to my next point….

 

BEWARE OF TOXIC, BITTER, ANGRY BLACK WOMEN WHO ARE TRYING TO ENTER THE IR

 

Every year more and more BW are awakening to the dysfunctions of the black community and the dysfunctional unhealthy relationships most BW find themselves in in regards to Black men. More and more BW are speaking up and out. And these BW are now feeling safe to say they are going to cross the color lines and open themselves up to other races of men.

 

GRRRREAT.

 

Here is what is not so GRRREAT and what you need to be very careful of in terms of what you are internalizing.

 

*SOME* of These BW are ANGRY, FRSUTRATED, and BITTER. *SOME* of These BW have not dealt with their animosity towards light and bi racial BW. *some* of these BW have not gotten the MEMO that it aint that type of party in the IR dating arena (men having preferences based on who is more mixed looking etc). These BW see them (bi racial/light women) as the enemy because their minds are STILL STUCK ON BLACK COMMUNITY NONSENSE. These BW are still held imprisoned by BLACK MEN’S PREFERENCES and they create forums and such to get other BW aboard their bitter express trains LEADING TO NO FUCKING WHERE.

 

I’m telling you right now, if you truly want to meet, mate and have a healthy solid interracial relationship paring with a quality man of another race –STAY AWAY FROM THESE TOXIC HATEFUL AND BITTER BW!

 

These women *SAY* and claim they are ready to move onto greener pastures. Yet their blogs, posts, pages are filled with TOXIC rhetoric that goes back to the black communities dysfunctional colorism nonsense.

 

Instead of these women seeing the forest, they still stuck on the colorism tree. They cannot seem to understand that in the IR global arena, there are different rules. And those rules have very little to do (for BW) with skin shade, admixtures etc. like they do with Black men.

 

Some of these BW are on a hell path because they “wanna stick it to these light/bi racial women” who have “stole their throne”. LOL. You can be that chick if you want to. And you will be that chick who will be bypassed by quality Non Black men who cannot afford to have that kind of silly nonsense in his life or around his future children.

 

Look around at the BW who are in IR’s. When you see them happy, smiling and being care free, these are the BW who have truly LET GO. They don’t feel competition from light, bi racial women because they knew they were starting with a clean SLATE when they decided to expand their dating pool. They know the man that is on their arm is with them because he loves and appreciates HER in her skin as she is.

 

They don’t need to sit on forums, blogs and Facebook ranting and raving and foaming at the mouth about who aint black and who really is and who is wearing faux dreadlocks and who is erasing folks, who BM are obsessing over, yada yada.

 

Think about it. Look around you. Ask yourself. Are the truly care free happy butterflies of BW who are happily BAE’D up arguing over this nonsense? Are they even bothered by it? By the looks of them happy, smiling and being loved and adored – I’d wager no.

 

Do you think these truly happy and loved and cherished BW have time to nit-pick who is black and who aint really black and all that other nonsense?

 

Do you think these women are fully aware that if they cross the color lines and have children they will be bi racial? And these bi racial kids of their DESERVE  and will need every bit of LOVE, ADMIRATION and REINFORCEMENT from their Black mothers and that, if there is any kind of issues in regards to bi racial that would be a difficult task to do if those issues are not dealt with in a healthy manner?

 

 

Here’s the reality. There are A LOT of angry, hurt and damaged Black women out there. These BW have found a new outlet to try to “escape” but they can’t really seem to escape. Because when you have baggage that you do not deal with in a healthy manner, you will drag it to every.single.place you go.  And you will also collect others with that same baggage. And what you are left with is a big clusterfuck of damaged baggage ridden women trying to convince themselves and everyone else they are and have moved on to greener pastures when really they are still stuck knee deep . in MANUER.

 

DO NOT BE THAT BLACK WOMAN. Stay care-free, drama-free and happy. TRAVEL, LIVE ABROAD. Get away from these crazies in the USA (lol).  You will attract people to you who love and adore you for who you are. You will not have to worry about colorism and feeling less than if you choose your friends, mates and circles wisely.

 

I am not saying Neecy’s Nest is the place for you. It may very well not be and my views may not be for you as well. I am saying be careful and critical about what you are participating in as a BW even if it’s MY BLOG), because there is a lot to get caught up in. If you want to be care free and happy go out and live your life and do not get caught up in the BS.

 

Stay away from troublemaking divisive  HATEFUL Black women.  They don’t truly seem to understand how to gain allies. The only thing they are competing against is each other to  see who can spew the most bitter rhetoric and get the most high-fives from it.

 

DO NOT BE THAT BLACK WOMAN. I do not care how hurt you feel, unappreciated. Seek some kind of help and ways to deal with those feelings  IN HEALTHY WAYS before you venture into any relationship.

 

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