I.JUST.CANNOT with this colorism BS!
I’m going to be cursing in this post so prepare yourselves. I have been marinating for MONTHS on this colorism stuff being brought to the forefront and trying to figure out where I stand. I tried not saying anything and making sure my thoughts are really not an emotional reaction. But they aren’t. I’m TIRED and have to speak MY MIND on this issue – and it will not be a popular or well received opinion, but nonetheless it’s MY opinion and I feel it needs to be said.
So basically this is my take on the colorism issue being constantly rehashed by BW.
This divisiveness isn’t going to get BW anywhere.
Sorry but yall aint ready! Many of you need to stay your behind right in the Black community and fuss and fight with light skinned women and Black men until you get your way. But please for the love of GOD keep your colorism baggage out of the global society and interracial relationships! Because at this rate, this is where it will follow you!
And the only people who will suffer are your potential UNSUSPECTING NON Black BEAUS and your mixed LIGHT SKINNED CHILDREN (Daughters especially). Please do not burden them with your UNRESOLVED colorism issues. PLEASE. The global world is the last safest place for SANE BW of any shade to go when they wanna escape Black folks pathologies and stupidity surrounding colorism.
Blacks girls of any shade raised OUTSIDE of Black people’s communities have healthier images and self-esteem of themselves than the ones growing up around Black people who continue to fuss and fight and create division over colorism.
I fear for so many bi racial and mixed light girls who will come from the wombs of bitter and angry BW who have not let go of their colorism baggage and moved on.
THE PLAYING FIELD NEEDS TO BE LEVELED
I have always felt that the colorism issue could easily be fixed by Black women making sure that the playing field gets leveled. Acknowledging the colorism against dark skinned BW, and MAKING SURE that anything we support always has a positive and beautiful image of a dark skinned BW. If it lacks that, and seeks to only present light/bi racial women, then that is a problem and we should NOT SUPPORT IT.
This could be done by withdrawing any and all support from things and entities that seek to create a division based on skin shade or that seeks to put down dark skinned BW beneath others. That demanding that you will only support and recognize things, people and entities that give dark skinned BW a fair shake and stop acting as if there is only one form of Black beauty which revolves around mixed and/or light women. I’ve always been down for that cause skin shade doesn’t define beauty. Only a damn fool could say something as SIMPLE as a skin shade determines a woman’s beauty.
In that vein, BW can win because we can TRULY and honestly then say BW come in all shades and various forms of beauty without it always DIS-INCLUDING darker more authentic looking BW.
If Black women were SMART this is what we’d be doing.
Its REAL DAMN SIMPLE! It could be accomplished and done if BW were serious.
Instead, yall want to stick it to the yellow and bi racial sisters and tell us to “STEP ASIDE” while you gain your throne as dark skinned BW! LOL Oh now you want us to step aside? But before, yall criticized us for running away from our blackness if we DARE celebrated or were thought to be trying to benefit off our “lightness”.
Now yall want us to STEP ASIDE, after all the centuries and decades we fought side by side with you and dealt with all the bullshit that comes with being a Black woman and half Black woman in this world?
Bi raical Black women were raped, enslaved and forced to deal with the same issues that came with having ONE DROP of Black blood. Of course they had some privledge over dark skinned BW, but when it all came down, they too suffered under the same umbrella as BW when it came to racism and sexism.
Also any accomplishments MADE by light and bi racial women went under accomplishments for BLACK WOMEN in general – NOT light or bi racial women. And still does to this day.
I still see your average half Black bi racial woman being put under the same umbrella and challenges that come with being Black.
Now yall want us to STEP ASIDE after we have contributed to the greatness that African Americans accomplished since day one?
Now yall want us to STEP ASIDE simply because you are tired of BM not worshiping your authentic beauty?
Now yall want BI RACIAL WOMEN TO step aside after all the fucking centuries of being told they were BLACK and any of them that tried to claim otherwise got scolded and crucified by THE SOUL PATROL for “running away from their blackness”?
WHAT IS IT!? Make up your damn minds! You can’t keep trying to make light and bi racial women play two sides of the fence! Either we are Black or we are NOT. And if we are not, then don’t say a damn word when they (bi racial) and light skinned BW start taking advantage of that in the global society and celebrating the very things that make us “not so Black”.
LIGHT SKIN WILL ALWAYS BE CELEBRATED IN A SOCIETY DOMINATED UNDER THE RULE OF LIGHT SKINNED PEOPLES – I.E. WHITES
Because the reality of it all whether you like it or not is this: The Black man never HAS held enough power, clout or infrastructure to make his image the epitome of beauty and success. When he had the chance to do it, he squandered it.
It has always been MALES who have placed the authentic women of their race as the STANDARD. NOT WOMEN. Its not WHITE WOMEN who place themselves on a pedestal – its their MEN who have.
So Black men instead of doing such has chosen to take the easy route and go after the STANDARD created by OTHER RACES OF MEN who hold power, clout, and infrastructure worldwide.
The women who come from these men REPRESENT that power, clout and success that comes with being of a lighter shade (representing those in power who are White). So in essence, colorism is ROOTED in Black male validation because in any race its men who validate the beauty of their women. When you do not have that, the women will become angry and bitter towards those who they feel are getting that validation but not really deserving of it. In this case its Lighter skinned and sometimes bi racial women.
Here’s the tricky part. Light and bi racial women are not trying to STEAL your thrones or erase you. Light and bi racial women have had NO CHOICE (up until fairly recently) to claim anything other THAN BLACK because that is the bucket the POWERS THAT BE and who rule the roost PUT US IN! And it’s the BUCKET the SOUL PATROL made sure we stayed in when we tried to move out of it.
So it’s not light skinned BW and bi racial women trying to come and steal your beauty thrones! It’s a symptom of a larger issue that roots itself in White supremacy and the celebration and upliftment of those closest to the WHITE IDEAL.
And this celebration of all things light, bright and damn near white will ALWYS exist as long as WHITE PEOPLE ARE IN CONTROL.
You see where I am going?
IS SEPARATION BASED ON SKIN SHADE THE ANSWER?
Cause the way in which some of yall are carrying on, its inevitable!
At this rate from what I am reading, the only way for peace and harmony amongst BW is for s separation. It’s clear to me that light skinned BW and bi racial women are no longer REQUIRED by “authentic” Black women to “call themselves Black” and we should just GET TO GETTING so you can “reclaim” your throne?
MKAY! You want that? Fine so be it. Just understand that once this happens you cannot see saw and try to make us claim our blackness while telling us we are not BLACK ENOUGH.
So many BW claim to be about progress and moving on. Do you know what that means? Can you see the forest? NO? Cause you still focusing on the raggedy ass trees that aint feeding you or giving you life!
Yall better figure it out because the world is turning and real shit is happening to BW OF ALL SHADES while yall infighting about light skinned women needing to step aside and let dark women get their throne.
While you guys are fighting to be recognized as beauties by Black men and people and trying to claim some type of “pedestal” based on color, Black girls are dealing with a slew of issues in this society that are only contributing to the constant downfall of young Black women.
Last I checked these issues were not separated based on who were LIGHT SKINNDED and DARK SKINNDED – it’s about BLACK WOMEN. You know Black women who are deemed Black in this society if they have 2 Black parents or bi racial women who are called Black if they look close enough to a BW? Black women who no one in the larger society CARES is the color of Beyonce or the color of Viola Davis?
n Rampant incarceration
n Being suspended and expelled from school at higher rates than ANY GROUP (including black boys) http://www.citylab.com/work/2015/04/black-girls-matter-and-schools-are-letting-them-down/390726/
n Making less on the dollar than any other group
n Being murdered at the hands of lover, b/f, and spouses more than any other group
n Growing rates of HIV and other STDs more than any other group
n Being one of the most unprotected classes in the world
The list goes on!
And all you guys can do is talk about how you need to reclaim your throne and get you dues for your authentic beauty and how light skinned BW need to “Step aside” and sit down with our “PRIVLEDGED SELVES”?
WHAT PRIVLEDGE? Oh:
n Being the love interests in rap and r& b videos
n Being arm candy for self-hating Black males who aint really making moves in the grand scheme of things
n Being worshiped by stupid ass BM who are failures in life
n Being in rap videos
n Being the first choice of thugs, athletes and rappers
n Being called pretty by loser Black men
n Being the love interests in R&B vids
THAT PRIVLEDGE? You want it? Yall dark skinned sisters can have it! I aint about fighting over crumbs!
When yall wanna start talking REAL PRIVLEDGE – you know that shit that can affect your livelihood, education and ability to just fucking enjoy and live life then holla at me.
Real privilege to where light skinned women are the only BW who can get good job, get educations over dark skinned BW, travel, live wherever they want. PSSSH!
Yall don’t know what real privilege is cause if you did this would be a MUTE point in the argument of colorism and light skinned women.
Privilege to yall is getting put on a pedestal by BLACK MEN. And while I don’t think that is unreasonable at all and very natural, the point is –THEY AINT AND NEVER HAVE PUT YALL ON A PEDESTAL so it’s time to MOVE THEE FOCK ON and stop with this craziness that only makes us look like Petty women.
As long as I and other BW of a lighter shade are dealing with the same damn issues and problems and things that come with being a BW – You can go to hell because I am not stepping aside or DOWN so that you can feel you’ve won some battle with Black men.
Dark skinned BW’s beef is with the BLACK MALE. Not women who cannot help how they were born or how BM perceive them!
I am truly convinced BW will not progress very much even though yall claim to be all about that.
Cause BW who are about progressing and never minding the BS, would not continue to create a divide based on some silly shit as skin shade that Black people and Black people ONLY care about.
THE REAL ISSUE IS THE FIGHT FOR BLACK MALE VALIDATION
Yeah yeah I know many of yall say you don’t care about BM and we shouldn’t have these discussions with Black men as the focus. REALLY? Cause every discussion about colorism and dark and light skin always mentions how light women benefit from being love interests, and placed on a beauty pedestal by BLACK MALES. So what is it? The real root of the frustration lies in the fact that dark skinned BW are pissed that BM do not honor the beauty of the “authentic” BW who look like them.
That BM honor the beauty that is furthest away from Black. If BM did this (honored and cherished authentic looking BW) we would NOT be having this discussion. So let’s be honest about why we as BW continue to talk about colorism – because darker skinned BW feel as if they are underappreciated by BLACK MEN who place light/mixed and non-Black aesthetics at the top of THEIR PEDESTAL. And you are tired of it and want to reclaim your beauty.
That’s FINE! But taking your frustrations out on light skinned BW and telling light skinned BW to “step down” aint going to get you to the promise land AT ALL. Because light skinned BW are BLACK TOO. And unless and until we decide that a separation is in order, we still have a right to be celebrated as such.
SKIN SHADES OF BW DON’T MEAN A DMAN THING IN LARGER GLOBAL SOCIETY WHERE SHIT COUNTS THE MOST
Just take one look at how disrespected our Bi racial half White president is, and that should be a VERY BIG CLUE that no one in the larger world is giving privileges to light skinned bi racial Blacks! Obama to everyone is a BLACK Man who in their eyes is not fit to be president. A lot of the criticism Obama faces is simply because many Non Blacks cannot and will never give full credit to a man of Black heritage running this world and doing a better job at it than a traditional White male.
All that privilege he gets being a light skinned BI RACIAL – YEAH RIGHT. His own wife doesn’t get any damn respect. So I’m sorry again SPLAIN to me how light and bi racial are getting more privilege than Dark Blacks?
Another thing, the argument that other races don’t let their bi racials the standard is a false argument. Simply because the REALITY is, they don’t claim them as White or such because THEY DO NOT LOOK ANYTHING CLOSE TO IT most of the time! No, no brown skinned curly haired brown eyed bi racial girl can pass for White. It’s a lot easier for a half Black child to be called Black because typically they have more BLACK features than the non Black part of them. You better believe if they could pass them off as anything but Black THEY WOULD.
I have seen that when bi racials look more like their NON Black side, they are EMBRACED as such and not made to feel they have to call themselves Black. I have been living amongst and growing up around enough bi racials to know.
I have a bi racial niece who will never be made to call herself Black because she does not look it. But she damn sure would be more likely mistaken for MY daughter than her own mother who is White. No one would ever question if she were mine if we were out. But they question her mother all the time if “she is hers”. On the other hand I know bi racials who look like light skinned Blacks folks and they are called Black because they LOOK IT.
Let’s stop acting OBTUSE as to why it’s a lot easier for bi racials to call themselves Black vs. the other way around. That’s because Black genes typically DOMINATE!
You’re prolly asking “why she caping for bi racials?”
UH cause I’m trying to get you to see that if you call yourself “crossing the color lines” the very CHILDREN you will be having will be just that – BI RACIAL. And any resentments and issues you have with them means you arse should probably stay pro creating with full blooded BM and not ruining your children because of your deep seated issues with bi racial women who will BE YOUR OFFSPRING if you call yourself opening up to other races of men!
And do not tell me you can fight against colorism and still love and embrace your bi racial daughters. BS! I read many of the comments coming from so called PROGRESSIVE PRO SWIRLING BW and I am saddened that these women cannot see how damaged they are and bitter and how that will CARRY into their relationships with Non BM and be pushed off inadvertatley to their bi racial and light daughters.
You will not be able with a STRAIGHT FACE to give your bi racial and light daughters words of encouragement, if you feel that the women who look like them are KEEPIN YOU DOWN!
INSTEAD OF WAITING TO EXHALE, YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN INHALING BRAD AND NEM
If dark skinned BW were really about seeking a throne, then they would have been making a bee line for the exit of the Black community and into the arms and communities of people who could care less if a BW is the shade of Beyonce or Viola Davis. Because most non Blacks do not separate Blacks based on their shade – hell most bi racial do not even get that benefit UNLESS they really look more White.
BUT as I said, dark skinned BW still want go down fighting for the Black man’s validation and taking your light skinned sister down is just one way many of you feel you can WIN.
Well I’m here to tell you, you won’t win that way. Because all it will do is cause a complete separation where those women who can benefit off moving as far away from their Blackness as possible WILL DO SO and no longer have to worry about the SOUL PATROL calling them out. Cause that’s what yall wanted right? To no longer be erased by light women?
THE ZENDAYA BS – DAMNED IF THEY DO AND DAMNED IF THYE DON’T
I am so sick of BW crying about Zendaya this and that! Women of all races steal each other’s looks. Black women get celebrated for stealing the looks of European women. They are deemed more beautiful. Wearing European wigs, weaves, contacts and such is STEALING White women’s beauty. But it’s a problem when someone else steals our uniqueness?
Beyonce KEEPS a blonde straight wig on her head! I have yet to see White women crying about her trying to erase them or steal their beauty.
Zendaya put fake locs in her hair and had a nasty racist remark made to her by a White woman who could care less that she was HALF WHITE. Do you honestly think Zendaya and the likes sits and says “how can I erase the beauty of BW? HMMM. Oh yeah let me put in some locks so I can erase the beauty of BW!”. NO! She put the locs in her hair because SHE WANTED TO because she felt it was a nice looking style for that event. PERIOD.
Just like a young dark skinned Black girl may sit down and slap a blonde weave on her head and some green contact lenses. Is she trying to erase the beauty of White women? Or is she just feeling that look for that specific time and chose to sport it?
And when she wore the style she experienced a racist comment that STUNG because it went directly to her for having an ethnic hairstyle. As a result she fought back (feeling upset because she is half Black), and got a doll with some locs. Yall having all kinds of conniptions when almost all Black dolls have Whitish textured hair and such. When Black female celebs imitate and straighten their hair and wear hair colors and weaves that are not of a natural Black state.
I am so sick of BW bitching about silly shit that doesn’t matter. NO ONE IS DELIBERTALEY TRYING TO STEAL OR ERASE YOUR BLACKNESS!
Most people are trying to be as close to White as possible. And the loudest voices of criticisms always come from Black folks. Now people trying to celebrate unique things found on BW and yall Bitching about that.
DAMEND IF THEY DO AND DAMNED IF THEY Don’t!
Like all things, other women are free to wear styles and things that are traditionally Blacks, just like BW are free to wear styles that are traditionally found on other races of women naturally.
JESUS there are bigger fish to fry than arguing over this nonsense.
Bi racial women celebrate Black women’s uniqueness by wearing it Black women feel slighted and erased. They run away from anything Black looking and try to embrace more European ideals, Black women call them SELF HATING.
WHAT IS IT? WHAT DO YALL WANT?
Like I said, I’m leaning more and more towards separation because the damage is just too deep for BW to come together and nip this shit in the bud the RIGHT WAY without infighting with each other.
If this is the case, I will have to rethink my platform and question why I would stand by women who do not see me as a sister but as a PROBLEM to them getting on some sort of pedestal and throne. Never mind the real shit all BW deal with on the regular that really shows that our lives are no different regardless of shade. You want to keep focusing on the petty shit that doesn’t mean anything in the grand scheme of things.