Oh yeah baby, say it louder! LOUDER!! LOUDER!!!! Aaaaahhhhhhh!!! I think I need a ciggie. That was so damn good!
*looks around* Oh hey yall!!!
Ahem, I was just having a little tryst with the word MONOGAMOUS. It seems to bring out orgasmic shrieks of pleasure in me at just the mere thought or mention of it.
Yeah I am a pro Monogy gal. I believe in it to the fullest.
*I’m ranting please beware!!! clicking on RANT button*
So today I happened upon one of my guilty pleasures (Heartiste) and the focus of the day was about a guy and his friend having a discussion about Monogamy. The one guy (I guess he would be considered a “BETA” round those parts b/c he currently likes only the pubic hair of his current g/f) was talking to a friend who loves playing the field and sees monogamy as “seeing only one color of pubic hair the rest of ones life” (that’s a bad thing to him). So it got me thinking. WTH is it about Monogamy that makes men clutch their pearls..I mean jewels.. Oh what the hell we’re adults here .. TESTES?
Why do people cheat? I mean REALLY why do people cheat? I think back to my early years and I did cheat once. It was on a b/f who I had found out cheated on me. I was so outraged. I wanted revenge. But I felt so incredibly guilty that I ended up telling my b/f I cheated on him. One day out the blue I just told him – crying uncontrollably. He was mortified and in pure rage. And I remember thinking – Uuuuh you were caught cheating on me and somehow I was supposed to get over it? But now that he was the unfortunate beneficiary of being cheated on, it was somehow WORSE?
People cheat for a number of reasons. Sometimes for revenge. Sometimes being cowardly and unable to break it off with the person they fall out of love with. Other times they do it b/c they just can. Sometimes it just “happens”. But many times its simply done out of pure selfishness. I also noticed in the discussion section at Heartiste’s and just in the real world in general, that men feel monogamy is only for women to uphold while men who do it “are just doing it for a piece of arse” and yet when a woman betrays her lover/bf/hubby its somehow WORSE than when a man does it? Cheating is cheating peeps! The unsuspecting partner is always going to be devastated and ROBBED. Robbed and devastated about what? – well let’s see, the fact they love and trusted their partner, the fact they gave their time, trust, intimacy to a person they loved and believed loved them back? The fact that they are being LIED to by the person they love and trust and share their body with? Not to mention the FACT that you are risking the sexual health of an unsuspecting partner when you cheat.
When men say its okay for them to cheat b/c “its just in their nature” they are disregarding the fact that women have feelings – NO? Yet, men are the only ones with feelings, so when a woman cheats its pure evil? HUH? Feelings are feelings. Anyone who has committed and is doing their part to be a good mate and lover and/or wife/hubby deserves the same in return. I’ve heard some women and a lot of men say that Monogamy is not “natural”. Does anyone here agree with that? What’s not natural about wanting to be the apple of someone’s eyes? What is not natural about wanting to be reciprocated respect, love, honesty, trustworthiness, and FAITHFULNESS? Who in their right mind likes sharing a person they love? Does anyone here believe that women were better equipped to deal with cheating partners simply b/c we’re women? Help me out pleeease, b/c I just don’t understand how anyone cannot feel that ANYONE would not be devastated at being cheated on be it by a man or woman.
I feel its very natural to be monogamous and unnatural to run around sleeping with and lying to someone you supposedly love. What is so natural about that – LYING to unsuspecting partners who are giving you their all and cheating on them? Today both men and women take monogamy as some sort of evil joke. Low caliber shitty women get off on the idea of “stealing someone’s man or husband” or being able to “bed” someone’s b/f, hubby. And men just feel its their right to screw and dabble in all the hotties they can b/c they have penises. YET, when it happens to them – the cheaters (gotta love that thing called KARMA) its suddenly the end of the world. Its like the women who run off with other women’s husbands, only to have that husband leave them for another woman, and suddenly these women feel the world has ended. Did they consider this when they were running off with another woman’s husband?
*someone please pass me some Tylenol and a mai tai to go with it*
Okay so if you don’t believe in Monogamy then why on earth would you find someone to be in a monogamous relationship with just to cheat on them? *Neecy’s light bulb flickers on* Oooooooohhhhh! I know! – its called being a selfish self centered ASSHOLE or ASSETTE! Last I checked there were no laws, nor anything written in the constitution that said every human being HAS to be in a committed monogamous relationship or else. IOW’s its purely voluntary. So why on earth do the people who claim that monogamy is “bad” “Unnatural” or “evil” or “tryna hold a brotha/sister/man/woman down” feel the need to VOLUNTARILY put themselves in a relationship then LIE and cheat b/c “they just can’t help it”?
I remember on another thread Tiger Woods came up and I simply asked why on earth would a husband cheat on his wife when all he has to do is be upfront and honest and go to his wife if he is that unhappy or dissatisfied and simply say “ this is not working, I am not happy, I want to end this relationship and see other people”? Some ARSEWIPE responded that it was quite possible that Tiger or a cheating hubby is not “unhappy with their marriage” but that they just needed some other booty on the side b/c they were “bored”. YES. And this person said this like it was NOTHING, as if I should have just understood this. LOL. This is the attitude.
Breaking up is hard to do. Unless the person scares the living bejeesus out of you that they will immediately or sometime in near or far future turn into the Texas Chainsaw Massacre for you ending a relationship , then you owe it to that person to tell them you are not “in it” anymore and want to see other people. Does that suck? YES. Is the other person going to be devastated? YES. But at least they were not made a fool, lied to and betrayed. It’s the right adult thing to do.
Just the mere thought of me sharing someone I love, adore and see as my better half gives me bad shrills down my body. How does anyone wake up and do this cheating stuff with a str8 face and not have any feelings of guilt about what they are doing to an unsuspecting partner? And how does that other shitty human being who is helping the cheater be a cheater by cheating with them and knowing the cheater has a lover/wife/g/f/hubby/b/f carry on without feeling like a piece of shit? I just don’t get it.
Monogamy is a beautiful very natural thing. Its not just for “betas”. Its for decent human beings who understand that they give what they want given back – respect and faithfulness. Screw what pop culture, music and crappy TV shows pedestalize (is that a word?) – cheating is not cute, funny, ok, or progressive. Or in annoying pop culture terms these days: Cheating is not the new monogamy.
But it – MONOGAMY – is not for the asshole or asshette at
heart. *Clicking off RANT button*