Black Women – The TV is not your friend!
I don’t even watch Television anymore. And the minute I start saying to myself “turn on the tube” I am reminded each time why its not worth my sanity.
WHY OH WHY Does America insist on these images of Black American Women?
receiving so many accolades. America sure does love them some fat asexual Black women. So much that anytime one appears in a movie, suddenly the movie gets all kinds of Oscar buzz and support.
Well another one bites the dust! Much to my dismay, Holly Robinson Peete from the show “The Talk” has not been asked back. As many of you may or may not know, Holly starred years ago in the popular show 21 Jump street. She is a very well established, well spoken, THIN, ATTRACTIVE Black actress & spokesperson whom seemed to do quite well representing Black women on this show. While I have only caught glimpse of the show here and there, the times I did, I was very much impressed with Holly and how she represented herself. She’s like a Black diamond in the rough in terms of positive images of Black women on television and talk shows. I can also guarantee you many Black women of a certain ILK also find Holly a breath of fresh air due to the constant bombardment of negative, masculine, asexual images we see in the media of ourselves. Its not often that American Black women (or anyone else for that matter) gets to see images of thin attractive well-spoken Black women in the spotlight.
As always media sees these kinds of Black women as a threat. Look at any talk show, reality show, or show in general with a Black woman and she is usually ALWAYS FAT sometimes STUPID, always LOUD , and usually UNNATTRACTIVE or Asexual in some manner – and in worst case scenarios – all of the above. Or the opposite, she is overly crass and sexual to the point no one would take her seriously as a wife or girlfriend. Now for whatever reasons THE TALK chose not to renew Miss Peets contract. But the bigger issue is the next Token Black woman they chose to replace her and WHY. Miss Peete has been replaced by the loud, crude Black female COMEDIAN – Sheryl Underwood.
How did they go from Peete to Underwood and what was the decisioning process behind it? Oooooh THE VIEW has Sherry Shephard. let’s compare and contrast:
Sherry Shephard – Sheryl Underwood – Aisha Tyler
Sherry Black – Sheryl Black – Aisha Black
Sherry comedian – Sheryl Comedian – Aisha comedian
Sherry fat – Sheryl fat – Aisha thin
Sherry – THE VIEW TALK SHOW – Sheryl- THE TALK TALK SHOW – Aisha – NOT EVEN CONSIDERED
By God I think i figured it out! I guess Miss Peete did not make middle American White women feel comfy enough to TALK. They Miss Oprah so they need an overabundance of Oprah’s to feel that void I see.
Miss Sheryl Underwood has no mainstream appeal whatsoever. I’m sure no one knows who this woman is besides Urban Black audiences from the 90’s where and when she was most popular. She has no redeeming qualities at all from what I have known of her. So I am trying to figure out the connection she would have with middle American White women compared to Holly who is a former actress, spokesperson, mother, wife.
nooooo of course not! She has no root name “SHER” in her name and she isn’t FAT. Middle America White women seem to have a problem viewing these kinds of Black women on their television sets (thin, attractive, well spoken Black women). They vote for the most unattractive Black women to parade on their tubes and represent us. So much that its becoming obvious as to what is at play here.
Back to Miss Underwood. I’m not picking on her looks. The fact is she is a bad representation for Black American women on *ANY* talk show. I have known of Miss Underwood since my college years. She was a “chitlin circuit” (Oh God please White people don’t ask what that means lol) Black comedian who was extremely crude, loud and unlady like – and not very attractive. No feminine bone in this woman’s body whatsoever (please feel free to google her). She is blissfully ignorant and ghetto (at least that is how she presented herself). Many of her jokes are vulgar. Some may be saying “why all the hate towards an innocent Black female comedian who is just taking a job offer extended to her” You are right. Cheryl is not the real problem here – she is just a convenient tool in a bigger more sinister mission.
I know I have quite a few White males who post here and I am really curious to reach out to you and ask you how these images of Black women may or may not affect how you see Black women as a whole in general. The reason I ask this question is b/c as Black women we are recognizing there is a heavy HEAVY campaigning, pushing of asexual MAMMY like images of us in the media. Rarely do thin young attractive well-spoken feminine classy Black women get as much spotlight as the loud, nasty fat ones. WHY? And who does this benefit when these kinds of images of Black women are consistently shown in the media?
It seems American White and Non Black women feel most comfy seeing the asexual mammy like images of Black women in the media- and for good reason – LESS COMPETITION. But I do wonder if the intended beneficiaries (Non Black men) do buy into these images. Even if not for seeing Black women as potential lovers, g/f’s and wives but just in general as to how you see us as women. There is no denying that women deemed attractive in the eyes of males generally fare the best in the world. If a woman is not, she misses all of the goodies that come with men finding her attractive. One Black Empowerment woman said it best:
the discussions we have been having for a while now about a general move to de-feminize black women and make them out to be not worth any mans attention in fact to deny them the Curtsey, Concern, Consideration and Concessions readily extended to other women. Indeed we live in a situation of patriarchy, we are not yet a society of gender equality and therefore a female has ‘currency’ if she can elicit the CCCC response.
It made me also reflect on how black women, mostly unknowingly, have begun to cooperate with this dynamic to push them out of the female category, with the attendant benefits which come under the terms of patriarchy, mostly because of being blind to the situation and to the intentions to push them out of a profitable category.
I would like HONEST feedback b/c I have never really had these discussions with anyone but Black women. Its like preaching to the choir with each other as Black women. But I do wonder if the intended results work. I also do know these images affect attractive Black women who fear crossing over the color lines to date men of other races b/c they start believing these men may not be able to see them beyond the masculine, unattractive negative images they see on TV and in media. So please be honest. As you know Liza and I are both very much passionate about changing the images of Black women in the media and we would like to get as much feedback from other races of men on this since we believe these images are directly aimed to the psyche and EYES of Non Black and White males for very obvious reasons.
Granted, there will be a number of Non Black males who simply are not attracted physically to Black women no matter how many good or bad images they see in the media. But I do wonder how much of the “perception is reality” meme affects this non attraction to Black American women & if it really stems from the overly masculinized asexual images they are bombarded with daily in the media of Black American Women. The constant focus on the most non feminine types of Black women in media is to send signals that Black women are not to be seen as attractive and most of all as potential lovers, g/f’s and most of all WIVES. I do wonder if the media is winning.
We all know that Black women have been the last of the Mohicans to jump on the swirling bandwagon. But nowadays, more young and middle aged Black women are considering it. Also the fact that Black American women attend colleges and Universities at higher rates than Black males thus placing us in and around Non Black males more than ever. Also from college many Black women move into work settings surrounded by Non Black males as well. I do wonder if there is a concentrated effort to keep attractive Black women out of the dating market and why. As I said Perception starts becoming reality. Often times collectively Black women are lumped together and not seen as individuals.
Another effect of this is indoctrinated Black women start believing in these images and focus on upholding them in real life. You have many Black American women who do really believe that fatness is beautiful, and crude, masculine , overly sexual behavior is ACCEPTABLE, and even attractive. So we have an even bigger issue when the victim joins in and actively contributes to their own self destruction and collective sabotage.
I find America is obsessed with the fat Black non-threatening asexual masculinized Black female or the overly sexualized Black woman. There is no happy medium Black girl ever shown. We are identified to be either on one end of the spectrum. If you are a Black woman who isn’t, you are kinda stuck wondering where you fit in in this world and society.
I have turned off the Television and rarely watch. I refuse to see or support any movies or any forms of entertainment that continue to marginalize and celebrate the most unattractive, most un feminine, most asexual, most overly sexualized Black women like this while the opposite image of decent, sane, feminine, physically fit Black women is NEVER embraced or celebrated.
So the question is CUI BONO? and WHY. But I am also curious to see how others (men especially) are affected if any. Are you apathetic and don’t notice, don’t care or does it or has these images made an impression on how you, your friends and family view Black American women as males.
The last question: Am i and a bunch of other Black women just crazy conspiracy theorists just seeing things or is it all just a co-inkydink?