“The great question that has never been answered and which I have not yet been able to answer, despite my 30 years of research into the feminine soul, is, What does a woman want?” ~ Meredith Chivers PHD (clinical psychologist, scientist of sexual behavior/research)
What do Neecy, Mother Teresa, Hillary Clinton, your mother, your first grade female school teacher, a nunn, female midgets, supermodels, Liza *waving* (hey girl!) and all women with a vagina have in common?
We get hot and wet watching hot
sex *monkey* sex! Yes I emphasized *monkeys* – REAL MONKEYS. Fellas you no longer carry the torch or trophy for being the biggest most indiscriminatory horn dogs on planet earth. Please hand over the title, trophy and torch to the ladies. *holding out hand* Thanks!
Now you might be saying “who the hell gets happy about being turned on by monkeys and apes having sex?” I’m not happy I am just shocked to hear this. HOLD UP now I am not condoning bestiality or saying that women should be proud of getting hot at the viewing of two apes hitting skins! I will have you know there is SCIENTIFIC DATA that has found this incredibly arousing truth.
According to a sexual behavioral scientist Meridith Chivers who studied male and female arousal in bonobo (a species of apes) pornography as well as sexual intimacy between heterosexual males/females, homosexual male/females – women were found to be aroused by the viewing of any kind of sex act (including apes having hot monkey sex) while men are more “categorically” aroused and unmoved by the primates and other men getting busy.
But what was most surprising, for all we hear and KNOW about how men are such HORN DOGS you would think they would be the ones to be aroused by almost any kind of sexual act upon viewing right? NOPE! Men just like their aroused penises are pretty straight forward (and psychologically aware) about what arouses them and gets blood flowing to their genitals. Yeah ladies, the fellas are not moved by watching hot monkey sex. We can no longer pin the tail on that donkey for men being the biggest horn dog gender alive!
To add, it didn’t matter the sexual orientation of the females either. A straight woman was equally aroused by watching heterosexual sex, homosexual sex of both men and women, looking at a naked woman, a female masturbating, a man masturbating – but had no response to a naked non erect man. Men OTOH if they were straight, were only turned on by the heterosexual sex, female masturbation and lesbian sex. They were unmoved by watching the male/male sex and the hot monkey sex. And homosexual men were simply turned on by their categorically defined sexuality – male homosexual sex. Another researcher has shown this to be true:
Fullerton, has employed surveys of thousands of subjects to demonstrate over the past few years that while men with high sex drives report an even more polarized pattern of attraction than most males (to women for heterosexuals and to men for homosexuals), in women the opposite is generally true: the higher the drive, the greater the attraction to both sexes, though this may not be so for lesbians.
So How did Chivers measure the arousal patterns in men and women viewing the various erotica? She strapped on (hehe) a device called a <strong>plethysmographs</strong> to all the male and female participants. This device measured the rise and swelling of blood flow to the male genitalia when aroused and the moisture and blood flow of the female genitalia when aroused. She also took mental notes from all the participants by having them rate on a keypad how aroused they felt after viewing each erotic situation. . What did she find? – once again men are pretty practical and straightforward and aware of what arouses them.
And for the male participants, the subjective ratings on the keypad matched the readings of the plethysmograph. The men’s minds and genitals were in agreement
OTOH us ladies are not so in tune about what makes us
hot under the collar hot inside the panties. we *think* we know what makes us hot and horny. What we said we were turned on by and what our ginas said we were turned on by was compleeeetly out of synch:
….And with the women, especially the straight women, mind and genitals seemed scarcely to belong to the same person….. The readings from the plethysmograph and the keypad weren’t in much accord…….No matter what their self-proclaimed sexual orientation, they showed, on the whole, strong and swift genital arousal when the screen offered men with men, women with women and women with men. They responded objectively much more to the exercising woman than to the strolling man, and their blood flow rose quickly — and markedly, though to a lesser degree than during all the human scenes except the footage of the ambling, strapping man — as they watched the apes.
To further prove that women are in fact the indiscrimanatory horn dogs who will get hot and wet at the sight of anything sexual vs. non sexual:
And she wondered if the theory explained why heterosexual women responded genitally more to the exercising woman than to the ambling man. Possibly, she said, the exposure and tilt of the woman’s vulva during her calisthenics was processed as a sexual signal while the man’s unerect penis registered in the opposite way.
Oh boy is this a doozy that the fellas are going to have a field day with. LOL
Now b/c I love yall so much I have to share a little incident that happened with me that came to mind after reading this. One day I was sitting idle in my car on my cell phone, when I noticed on my drivers side window two small nat like insects getting busy. They weren’t big as flies but not as small as nats either. I don’t know what the hell they were. But they were literally connected like a worm or something. But you could tell the difference between the male and female and they were at opposite ends. But I was FASCINATED watching them screw on my window! I also could tell the male from the female was and it was so funny b/c she looked like she was trying to grip onto the window for dear life while he was just going for broke sliding and slipping upward and downward on the window. She remained in one spot focusing on not falling off the window (leave it to the woman to care about the safety of all first). I sat and watched this for 20 minutes until they were done and flew off. Now who does this? Watch and become fascinated by insects having sex? I DO! But I have scientific data to back up the fact that I am not some lone crazy chick who was moved by watching insects get busy on my car window. based on this study ALL women would have been turned on by watching the insects b/c it was a sexual act. YAY ME for not being a sole, lone looney!!!
So the question is WTH is going on ladies? What is it that makes males more narrowly aroused and us, more widely aroused?
she hopes one day to develop a scientifically supported model to explain female sexual response, though she wrestles, for the moment, with the preliminary bits of perplexing evidence she has collected — with the question, first, of why women are aroused physiologically by such a wider range of stimuli than men. Are men simply more inhibited, more constrained by the bounds of culture?
But hasn’t it been reported the opposite for so long – that WOMEN are the ones restrained and inhibited sexually by bounds of culture than males, who in a patriarchal world would have less inhibitions and constraints regarding their sexuality than women? Think back to the days before feminism and how women were often socially out casted for being promiscuous or sexually liberated. Interesting… She also adds:
Certainly women are very sexual and have the capacity to be even more sexual than men, but one possibility is that instead of it being a go-out-there-and-get-it kind of sexuality, it’s more of a reactive process.
I can kind of understand this. Women too are very horny in general and its always been thought that a woman would be least likely to go out and seek sexual intimacy as quickly and as readily as a male would. We can make a case that these days it isn’t true. But for a truly feminine woman by nature she would not seek out or need sexual releases without emotional attachment and commitments compared to her male counterparts who are equally as horny. It was always my thought that women can contain sexual needs for release for the *right* time and situation much more than males.
Chivers said she has considered, too, research suggesting that men are better able than women to perceive increases in heart rate at moments of heightened stress and that men may rely more on such physiological signals to define their emotional states, while women depend more on situational cues. So there are hints, she told me, that the disparity between the objective and the subjective might exist, for women, in areas other than sex.
This makes sense and partly answers my confusion above. That in the right setting and situation is when women are more likely to acknowledge their heightened arousal for a man or sexual encounter. Which makes sense as to why women didn’t really recognize that their ginas were getting wet for erotica that they consciously didn’t feel turned on by. It seems that women separate their conscious sexual desires and feelings from their actual physiological sexual arousals b/c the situations don’t necessarily call for her to have a conscious arousal. But for men they simply recognize in their heads AND bodies they are horny b/c their bodies tell them and react accordingly. They are less inclined to look for a situational reason and simply rely on what is happening both mentally and physically simultaneously at that moment.
Also the topic of creating drugs for women to help with arousal as men have (Viagra) she seems to feel the reason such drugs don’t need to exist for women is b/c as mentioned above – there is a disconnect between the mind and body of female arousal:
In women, though, the main difficulty appears to be in the mind, not the body, so the physiological effects of the drugs have proved irrelevant. The pills can promote blood flow and lubrication, but this doesn’t do much to create a conscious sense of desire…. Among her answers, based partly on her own research and on her analysis of animal mating and women’s sexuality, is that female desire may be dictated — even more than popular perception would have it — by intimacy, by emotional connection.
Makes sense. Interesting stuff indeed. Can’t wait to see more studies on female sexuality.
And I would like to end this thread with an amazing discovery also discussed in the article by another researcher. Ladies, get your thinking caps on b/c an orgasm is juuust around the corner if you just THINK IT! 😀
in 1992 Komisaruk, collaborating with the Rutgers sexologist Beverly Whipple (who established, more or less, the existence of the G spot in the ’80s), carried out one of the most interesting experiments in female sexuality: by measuring heart rate, perspiration, pupil dilation and pain threshold, they proved that some rare women can think themselves to climax.
Now fellas you may begin the laughing, finger pointing, teasing….