What a sad sad world we live in. Where people sit back or join in on bullying a person and expect to get away with it without having their asses handed back to them. As if they deserve to receive any kind of respect.
I find this phenomenon today utterly reprehensible and DISGUSTING. its so common these days that many people (kids especially) are drawn to suicide, depression and other unfortunate situations due to being unable to handle bullies.
I find that people usually pick and target individuals or groups of people who will have every little protection and defense in their corner – EASY TARGETS. Bullies love easy targets (Black women , or others who have very little protection) b/c they often can and do get away with spewing despicable, disgusting venom without consequence. Not only are bullies the problem, their quiet supporters are just as bad. People will sit quietly watching the abuse and bullying of a person(s) until it is some person or thing they feel is valuable enough to stick up for and defend. OR when suddenly the person being bullied or attacked says something that indirectly offends them. THEN they want to play Mother Teresa and tell you what is so “wrong” what you said. Funny though, they sat quietly watching vicious bullies attack you the whole time. AMAZING. Other than that, the easy targets are just fodder that deserve to be stepped on and abused.
Cyber bullying seems to be another corner where low caliber TRASHY people without morals and values feel they have a right to sit behind their computer screens and say whatever it is they want to say to ANYONE without consequence. Suddenly, when you give back to them what they dished out – you are the bad guy/girl.
Frankly, SCREW bullies and their enablers feelings!. I will always stand up for myself when I feel I am being cornered. I can be one of the sweetest, kindest, caring, compassionate, empathetic persons you will ever know. But if you cross me and wrongfully target me, try to bully me, or gang g up on me I am going to come back swinging and it won’t be pretty.
This is what society is all about these days. ENTITLED people who feel they can do and say anything to others and walk away unscathed. Well I got news for them and others who sit by idly watching someone get ganged up on –YOU BETTER BE PREPARED the next time you decide to throw on your BULLY CAPE to find and meet your match b/c not everyone is going to sit quietly and be wrongfully targeted and lied on b/c you have ISSUES that you choose to take out on someone else.
I would like to put out here my version of events that happened the other day on a MALE GAME BLOG that has more chumps in school girl uniforms than men. Now some people may say its not even worth the time and energy, but NO it is! This situation goes way beyond what just happened the other day. It’s a bigger issue that needs to be addressed b/c I am a Black woman that is UTTERLY SICK of people feeling they can target us and get away with it.
The fact that bullies and their cheerleaders act SHOCKED & SURPRISED when they get what they dished out further infuriates me and tells me that too many people today really don’t seem to grasp the concept of TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOUWISH TO BE TREATED. When you step out of line for NO REASON at all, you better have on your battle gear b/c you need to understand not everyone is going to sit back and take your BULLSHIT.
Most of you know me here form heartiste’s PUA site. I have been on that site since June and have endured my fair share of insults, wise cracks, bullying, and disrespect from the low life
men school girls on there. Amongst the low lives and trash males school girls there, are also decent men. Some of them lurk and don’t say anything and others post and try to show they actually didn’t come from trailer parks and ghettos based on their upstanding and respectable behavior towards others. There are I believe a small number of men who truly use that site as a way to get more needed information to help them with their social skills with women. They really want to improve to be able to have the best chances with women b/c they may have had bad experiences, too shy etc. SO it’s a great site for guys who use it in that matter. The rest of them go there to bitch and complain about women – which is also understandable. Women can be a lot to deal with and I feel men need to have their space to let it all hang out and say how they feel. Of course there will be a few women sprinkled in here and there but for the most part the women there understand the foundation and purpose of the site.
I have for the most part respected their space and over time shown that I do understand what a lot of those guys have gone through. I even created this log to also skyrocket off some of the things I feel good men have to put up with when it comes to women and dating. I certainly was never one to go there and try to preach to them or make women out to be these ANGELS who should not be called out on our actions.
DESPITE all of that, MANY times I have ignored, had a sense of humor with those UN RIGHTFULLY targeting me like a bunch of pathetic catty school girls in uniform. IN ALL CASES I was viscously attacked without MERIT while most of the men there either sat quiet with a small sample coming to my defense and telling their TRASHY LOW CALIBER Brethren to back off.
There were times I have said that I would stop participating in that blog b/c its obvious to me the majority of men (and I use that term loosely) that hang out there are IDIOTS with woman hating issues. It doesn’t matter what kind of woman you are, if you are of the female species, you deserve to be disrespected. But there are also other decent MEN there and I would still manage to have good discussions with SOME of them despite the ingrates that hang out there. Many of whom have come to my blog and participated and contributed in discussions.
“HEY EVERYBODY! LET’S PICK ON THE BLACK WOMAN HERE B/C SHE HAS NO PROTECTORS!!!!”
funny thing – I noticed many of the other females there have YET to receive the same VISCIOUS UNWARRANTED attacks and HATE on the level I have. And that brings me back to what I have ALWAYS said about how people feel BLACK FEMALES should be treated and talked to and kicked around by everyone and not have to deal with any consequences. We are not WOMEN deserving of respect. We are not WOMEN deserving of being treated like women. We are just some species that everyone feels they can have a free for all kick around the Black girl session. This doesn’t happen just on Heartistes site BUT EVERYWHERE! The Black girl is the easy target and often *IS* the target for those needing a little RELEASE.
And as we all know, no one seeks to protect, defend or come to the rescues of a BLACK WOMAN in many cases, so others sit by quietly walking past the abuse and not saying anything. I’m sure if I had been some fragile blonde white girl I would have somehow managed to avoid all the vicious unwarranted attacks and if there were any, I am positive there would have been EQUAL amounts of males there coming to defend me against the low life male trash that dwells there.
SO, as a result. A Black woman is left to her OWN devices and defenses. And suddenly when she STRIKES BACK its “oh my god I cannot believe how cruel and venomous you are!!” LOL! Suddenly all those quiet people who were walking by watching the abuse and the bullies turn flush red and shocked b/c NOW they may have been indirectly insulted as well as the targeted bullies.
Then you have those, who play the middle ground but oddly they seem to want to suddenly chastise and focus on what YOU THE VICTIM OF BULLYING did wrong by striking back. LOL They never mention once how the BULLIES and their enablers were wrong in the first place for STARTIMNG the shit. They never point out what the bullies said and did wrong. ITS ONLY when the victimized party strikes back with IR and VIGOR (and may have insulted them in the process) that suddenly people want to talk about how “angry” and wrong you were for saying what you said to the low life TRASH that deserved it.
Well all i have to say to that is – TOO BAD! I have no qualms with defending myself if I deem it necessary. I try to have thick skin and put up with A LOT before I unleash my wrath on those trying to push me in a corner. I am tired of this idea that a Black woman is to sit quietly while she be attacked and kicked by people who think they will get away with it and walk away unscathed.
Maybe the next time they will think before they WRONGFULLY TARGET a person who did not deserve it.
I beg of any of you to go to the thread where the drama unfolded on that site, READ my initial comment and the subsequent posts after that. Tell me how thee fk that one original comment I made was deserving of all the utterly disgusting attacks made to me after that? Maybe those guys all got turned down by pharma reps and are bitter and angry and want to take it out on me? That’s the only thing I can come up with at this juncture. LOL Be sure to look at the TIME and DATES of the responses to gain a better idea on how they unfolded and when I STRUCK BACK. Now all of a sudden everyone is “shocked” at my “VENEMOUS ATTACK”.
I have put up with more than my fair share of their unwarranted BS on that site and I have had enough !
They may want to try to avoid looking and acting like catty bitches on a blog that is supposed to be teaching them “GAME”. Certainly not a good look for anyone stumbling across that blog to see that half the men there are acting like bitches on a school yard instead of men. Not sure how most of them are going to make out with that whole GAME/ALPHA cred thing acting like school girls.
In the meantime, as a human being I understand I am always a work in progress. And part of that for me is learning how to handle situations in which I feel pushed in a corner. Do I strike back or remain quiet and allow them to walk away feeling as though they can continue doing this to people without being scarred in the process. Part of me believes that sometimes giving people a taste of their own medicine is definitely the way to teach them a lesson. Other part of me says its not worth it. So that is what I struggle with. Trying to figure out if its RIGHT for a person to defend themselves against unwarranted attacks, or if its just best to ignore them and let them get away with the vicious lies and attacks without consequence.