Hey Girls! Look at that Monkey in the Middle! Isn’t he just so HAWT and YUMMY!!

There are times when being in the middle sucks:

Being the middle child“It’s always MARSHA! MARSHA! MARSHA!!!” ~ Jan Brady

Being in the middle of a fight  –  You’re usually the one who comes out with the Black eye

Being stuck in the middle of nowhereYou know Some crazy chainsaw massacre murderer is just seconds away

Being caught in the middle of gang gun crossfireYou were just trying to walk to the bus stop to go toschool/work/church!

Being stuck in the middle seat on the plane between Miss Piggy and the Michellin Tire Man – “ARE WE THERE YET? I CAN’T MOVE! I CAN’T BREATHE!! GET ME OFF THIS THING!!”

Being stuck in the middle of a traffic jam – “I’m having serious road rage and I’m about to bust a cap in somebody’s ass!”

 There  are times when being in the middle is awesome:

On RollarcoastersLet the two idiots on the sides take the face smash if the cables fail and your coaster car smashes into one of the side poles

The middle of a novel or storyUsually this is where the meat and guts of the excitement climaxes

(Speaking of meat, guts, excitement and climaxes) The middle of an orgasmO.m.g.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.a.w.w.w.w.w.d.d.d.d.d.d.!.!.!D.o.n.t.m.o.v.e.o.r.t.o.u.c.h.m.e.e.e.e.e!.!.!

 The Middle of thanksgiving dinnerThe family fighting, drama, and food throwing is in full swing!

The middle of an Oreo cookieHello! Everyone *only*  wants to lick the creamy filling in the middle! *in my most serious NUNN face throwing holy water upon the audience* – stop it! Stop it right now you filthy minded heathens you!

 Annnnnd – DRUM ROLL PLEASE! Being a MAN IN THE MIDDLE!!!

 Fellas yes – be a monkey  MAN in the middle for once and learn to love it and see why it’s the most spectacular spot for a man to be in terms of how he appeals to MOST normal, sane, quality women.

 We don’t want jerks/assholes with inflated ballsacks  nor do we want boring unexciting overly nice guys with no ballsacks! We want a monkey  MAN in the middle  with properly normal sized ballsacks if you will.

EXTREMES SUCK! BE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE MAN-O-METER – Spanks!!! 😉

A man that possesses the right *balance* of traits is a man that makes a woman feel she has a true winner. A man who keeps the scales balanced for his woman is a man that keeps his woman on her toes guessing what’s next. A man that has a nice mix of dominant/masculine and nice/charming guy traits. Extremes are so 1980’s already! No one likes a crazed loony that falls too far to the right or left of the MAN-O-METER. Think about extremes in real life. ANYTHING that has an extreme is usually never good is it? Weather, politics, personalities, etc. Extremes are not typically high up on the desirable charts for anything except for a few minority of people who like them.

 So, okay fellas. There is an actual benefit to being a man in the middle. No sane woman wants a man on either extremes of the super duper nice boring guy with no cajones  who says after everything you ask “yes whatever you want. Your wish is my command master.” We certainly don’t want the overly macho domineering jerk off who walks around like a meathead on steroids with sprinkles of crack  mixed in bossing us around and treating us like  some tether ball on a rope stuck to a pole waiting to be smacked with the Pimp hand when we swing his way.

The average SANE emotionally stable high functioning woman usually likes middle ground somewhere in her man. Middle ground usually represents the best of two extremes. It represents a high functioning HEALTHY male.  A perfect doable/likable/irresistible mix of the two. A nice balance is key to being an almost perfect desirable man.

WHO IS THE MIDDLE MAN?

For starters he has these undeniable qualities in his repertoire~

Masculine, solid, unwavering, compassionate, in control, assertive, yielding, charming, strong, dominant, assertive,  fun to be around, sexually aims to please,  caring, generous, loving, and committed.

ONE OR THE OTHER? NO THANKS…..

Lately there seems to be this misconception  that men fall into one or two categories: Alphas or betas. Assholes or Chumps. Ass getters or Non ass getters. PUA’s idealizing and/or  demoralizing men who fit two extremes in terms of how women respond.

One is the boring nice guy and the other is  the exciting asshole jerk. Game blogs use this as the foundation to train former nice easy going guys who don’t like swinging from the chandeliers to suddenly skip the middle dial on the man-o-meter straight up to the tip of *unscrupulous asswipe* and to turn into SUPER MAN ASS to finally be that man that all women (like skanks, prosties, strippers, hoes) drop to their knees for and beg to be ravaged by. “All” women want SUPER MAN ASS b/c women want one or the other  in the eyes of most PUA’s who teach game. *rolls eyes* Of course these are the only two men that exists on earth *rolls eyes again*  – The boring nice guy and/or the super asshole jerk *rolling eyes again*. There is NOOOOOO other kind of man on earth that women either admire or admonish *rolls eyes* . If you are not a super jerk/asshole women don’t want you, want you dead, and damn sure don’t wanna sleep with you. *rolls eyes*

 Seriously. This post is not for guys intent on gaming women being jerks and assholes. If that is what is working for you by all means keep doing what you do. But honestly one has to ask themselves what kinds of women really like this kind of behavior from males on a 24/7 basis?  Women with not much working in the brain space.

 No decent sane woman who is not partly or wholly damaged wants to be in a relationship of any sort with a jerk or asshole. So I have to ask myself what these PUA artists are talking about when they say JERK/ASSHOLE game. There needs to be more specification of what this entails. b/C when I think of a jerk or asshole I think of a person or a man who is utterly contemptuous and ignorant to other people’s feelings. Has no class, is rude, anti-woman, misogynist, extremely domineering and treats people and women like utter dog poop. A guy that has no feelings, no compassion, nothing but the ability to make a woman feel like utter crap.

 The only kinds of women who like men like this are women who hold themselves in contempt. So it makes sense that  a man who treats them like this is only par for the course in how she feels about herself anyway. IOW’s she most likely a damaged person of some sorts, definitely insecure and lacking any real ability to feel she deserves halfway decent treatment.

 I get it. There are more damaged women out here today than ever before. Volatile relationships where men literally kick and punch them out windows, run them over with cars, set her hair on fire, Eat live babies, commit mass murders are  for a woman who is very insecure, damaged and partly (if not completely) DERANGED is  “EXCITING” and are “TURN ONS”. Yes, serving up a nice hot whopping pile of shithead on a platter is a total catch to certain women of the  world lacking a certain…something. I wonder what that is??? I can’t seem to put my finger on it. Hmmm. Yeah well its not exciting to the average woman with any sensibilities, standards and self-respect – that is the point!

 I am not saying women enjoy or want the boring pushover super duper nice guy with no balls either.

Its just I get so irritated when so many halfway decent men are made to feel that being a quality guy who treats women with some kind of respect is totally a waste. Its not. Its just some men have not quite figured out the balance. A nice guy is halfway there. He just needs to dig deep into his inner manhood and really pull it out. I believe this is where game can teach them certain things. But going from Mr. Rogers to Andrew Dice Clay is not the route fellas!!! Remember water seeks its own level and with assholes and jerks comes the female equivalent.

WOMEN ARE…. PEACEFUL A PIECE OF WORK

Yeah I said it – wanna make sumfin of it!! Yeah I am a woman. Yeah I am a piece of work. We all are ladies – let’s not deny things. Its no shame for me to admit that yes, we ladies can be quite a bit much to deal with, handle, please and understand. We have weird tickers unlike men. Men are so easily pleased and pacified. All men really really need and want in a woman is one who:

 — looks halfway decent and attractive to his standards,

 — a woman who acts pleasant most of the time (menstruation cycles are exempt and completely taken into account),

— a woman that fulfills his sexual needs – LADIES THAT IS – including but not limited to:

8====> blow jobs!  yeah yeah i know it makes our mouths hurt and we feel we’re gonna come down with lockjaw, but its just.. a must do unfortunately. our moms and grandmoms didn’t have to do it in their days. Ole faithful missionary was quite sufficient –  annnnd has unfortuantley left the building these days. Not no mo!

So. Noooooooooo I’m not talking the  blue light special blow jobs that happen annually, but in “REASONABLE  INTERVALS” ~ (shout out to Matt, Neecy Nest Blog participant for the quote!!!).   Don’t act like you don’t know what I am talking about girls! You know those blue light special blow job days that fall on-   Valentine’s day OR B-days OR  New year’s eve – *There’s your blue light special blow job for the year BABE!!* Not. quite. gonna. cut it… sowwy.

REAL SIMPLE right ladies? – Well at least for some of us who realize that is not really asking much if he treats us with a modicum of respect and decency.

 But us gals? Oooh boy! We are some complex drama queens who need constant tingle tickers  almost daily and sometimes multiple times throughout the day on a BAD day to stay happy. BUT we are individuals and some ladies do come with more ticks that need to be tocked than others. So what am I saying? YES we ladies are hard to please and keep happy on the average. BUT not if a guy has a nice mix of traits to keep us constantly wondering what’s next. If a guy is on one side of the extreme, – i.e. jerk/asshole we always know to expect that and eventually it gets boring and tiring. If a guy is always sweet kind and overly obliging then we also know what to expect and get tired and bored of that. We want a MIX! A nice little MAN REMIX if you will!

 What does that mean for guys. Well, simply put unfortunately, women want to be guessing what she’s gonna get from one day to the next. But we know we want those foundational traits to always be the anchor (see list above).

 Once you secure the foundational traits, there is so much room to play and to tick her tock. Even if one day you make an oopsy and fall on either extreme of overly asshole to the point she wants to throw hot grits on you while you are in the shower or overly super nice to the point she wants to pull her hair, your hair, the dogs hair  out, she’ll pretend it never happened b/c she knows you are a man who is usually right in the middle with a nice balance.  

You go too asshole/masculine/domineering and she suddenly feels she is just a puppet in your play with nothing to offer or bring to the table except her vagina. Go too softy/Mr. Rogers/nice guy/boring and she wants to jump of a 1 story building and escape.

 So fellas. Mix it up please. Don’t go on either extreme. The best and most happiest men on earth are the ones who have mastered staying in the middle of the MAN-O-METER. They understand that being an extreme pretty much will push most women away after a short period. Extremes may be fun at first but get very quickly tiring, annoying and boring. A man in the middle is never a bore and a woman never wants to be away from him.

If you are not there – do what you have to do to get to the middle. Women will love you for it – at least the sane, non deranged, quality girls 😉  NOW GET ER DONE!

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  1. Marellus
    Oct 05, 2011 @ 17:29:58

    Neecy.

    Great post. You’re taking swipes at Roissy again. God Bless You. As for his posts, I liked that one where the college nerd actually chatted up a stunner. That is what Game should be. I wish there were more posts like that.

    As for being the man in the middle, that means a man that is aware of how women think, and don’t hate them for it. There isn’t that many of them methinks. As you yourself once mentioned, there are too many loser women ending up with good men.

    But we can dream. Aye, we can dream.

    As for BJ’s … weeeeee’lll that’s for another time … but I do think there are some commenters that’s gonna throw some pineapples at you now … 😀

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    • Neecy
      Oct 05, 2011 @ 17:37:59

      Hey Mare!!!

      I’m not taking swipes at Roissy, but i do feel a certain amount of confusion when he talks about women like assholes and jerks. Even as a younger attractive girl myself I NEVER liked those kinds of men. Either I have the wrong idea of what he means by assholes/jerks or we simply don’t agree. There seems to be this gray area that I can’t put my finger on b/c I know plenty of young attractive women who are utterly repulsed by assholes and jerks. But the point of my post is that there are not just TWO kinds of men in the world – assholes/jerks and overly pushover nice guys.

      A man doesn’t have to pick and choose to either be a poor Beta Schlub or an asshole. He can pick traits from both groups of Alpha type and Beta type males and be a winner. MOST women don’t want either extremes. They may put up with the extremes b/c as you mentioned not many males have mastered the balancing of both traits and so women literally have to pick. But if more men were balanced, you’d find these are the men women really want. Not the either or, or the extremes constantly discussed in game blogs.

      And Pineapples? PSSSH! As long as they are sweet and tasty I say let the throwing begin 😉

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      • Marellus
        Oct 05, 2011 @ 17:48:35

        Neecy.

        Only religion will produce such men. And where is the religion that can produce such men ? I don’t see it.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 05, 2011 @ 17:53:46

          I dunno. I actually think there are quite a bit of men who fall in the middle, but these guys are pretty rare these days. that is why when one comes along he is a real gem/catch for a girl. Men like this are totally irresitable and I find many women are clawing to get them.

          I don’t think its hard at all for a overly macho man or an overly nice guy to work on developing some of the traits he is missing that make him more desirable. This should be what game teaches men, to be themselves but to pick up and learn traits that make them more desirable, as opposed to telling men to completely change who they are as a person adn turn into jerks and assholes.

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          • Marellus
            Oct 05, 2011 @ 18:35:34

            Well said Neecy.

            [My apologies for the other ‘well said’ comment below. I pressed the wrong reply button. Remove it please. And thanks :-)]

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          • Liza207
            Oct 06, 2011 @ 08:39:03

            Neecy, there was a time when men had both alpha/beta traits (strong, dominate, decisive, family oriented, selective, commitment minded, romantic and so on) and men were more balanced. This of course was before feminism took hold. Men today are very confused so they just choose one of the two extremes. The TV show “Mad Men” is wonderful because it shows what men were like before the Sexual Revolution and Feminism—the men were a perfect balance alpha/beta. I only started watching because I was crushing on Jon Hamm (big time) but it is now one of my favorite TV shows ever.

            Before the Sexual Revolution, men and women only dated their male/female counterparts (similar attractiveness, personalities, education and so on). You know, Alpha males married/dated alpha females. By the way, the actual definition of an alpha female not feminist definition that says, alpha females are ball-busting bitches who rule with a iron fist in the work place and at home, a combative woman– who is masculine in behavior and enjoys dominating her man. Wrong‼!

            A true alpha female is a beautiful woman who is very estrogen driven—highly feminine and has a very high sense of her worth and is very selective when it comes to progeny in which protects vigilantly. She loves being pursued and loves playing hard to get—a man has to prove his worth to her before she will sleep with him—she knows how to use her sexually to get what she wants from a man without actually giving it up. However, she will only be submissive with her male counterpart the alpha male in which has become very difficult these days. Since most alpha male egos have been so overly inflated to the point where they are not even suitable for long-term relationships or marriage anymore due to all the no-strings sex they are getting from lesser women.

            I guess the only alternative is to get an attractive beta male and work with him to help bring out some of those desirable alpha traits while he retains his desirable beta ones.

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            • Marellus
              Oct 06, 2011 @ 10:15:35

              @Liza

              Liza, my beloved bodacious devious unrepentant loquacious delicious little cube of Turkish Delight. You know why I am commenting on your post don’t you ? And this time I won’t accept you-a-blaming Windows 🙂

              So here are your options :

              1) George W Bush.
              2) The IRS.
              3) George W Bush’s therapist.
              4) The IRS.
              5) The person that recommended George Bush’s therapist.
              6) The IRS.
              7) The therapist of George W Bush’s therapist.
              8) The IRS.
              9) Ron Paul’s campaign manager.
              10) The Oxford English Dictionary (not Webster’s).

              So my darling, what’s it gonna be ? 😀

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            • Neecy
              Oct 06, 2011 @ 10:27:43

              Liza,

              Once again you have perfectly encapsulated the issue. In the past before feminisim on steriods become the norm, men used to have both qualities and thus why women were much more satisfied in their marriages and relationships. B/C feminism on steroids has completely taken away men’s ability to really be able to be themselves they *ARE* confused. So they have chosen one or the other not realizing that women are naturally inclined to want both the alpha and the beta in one.

              And I absolutely love the way you have written out the TRUE Alpha female and what she is. Nowadays people simply have no clue as to what a real Alpha woman consists of and have maulled her image into the over-bearing ball busting iron clad fist she-woman who is a man in drag. So not the case. And i would actually like to use this description and discussion fro another post if you don’t mind 🙂

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              • Liza207
                Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:20:50

                Thanks Neecy,

                Please, do a post on the alpha female. I get so tired of hearing the term misused and misinterpreted. I have more to say on the subject but I’ll wait until you write the post.

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    • zorro
      Oct 05, 2011 @ 18:19:25

      Sorry, but my affection for pineapples has died because I don’t want to.

      I have been doing some research and found that men who play the pineapple game (you know what I mean) have a wildly greater chance of getting HPV and from that…oral cancer!

      So until I see a clean bill of health from a clinic, no more playing the violin with my tongue.

      but I will still anal the living doo-dah out of her!

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      • Neecy
        Oct 05, 2011 @ 20:42:08

        I hope you also recognize that women too also run the risk of oral cancer through oral sex/blow jobs?So if you no licky they no sucky. Also, anal sex is just as risky if not more risky these days as well with HIV and other easily contracted diseases from entering the nether region.

        This is how i don’t understand how so many people today just sleep around, kiss and have oral sex with random people and strangers they are not in relationships with. Its mind boggling yet not surprising why these diseases are so prevalent.

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  2. bob
    Oct 05, 2011 @ 18:59:47

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    • Neecy
      Oct 05, 2011 @ 20:42:48

      UGH I absolutely HAAAAATE Chris Rock!!!

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      • Liza207
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:05:16

        Neecy, I use to be a big fan of his stand-up until his last HBO special where he talked about black women not being sexually attracted to white men. I was like, WTF! He was pretty much dead to me after that.

        He did, however, try to redeem himself with black women by making that documentary “Good Hair” but I still wasn’t interested.

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        • Liza207
          Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:08:53

          I’m laughing at my new avatar (cute).

          You changed the avatars and I was getting so used to the other one. Oh, Well.

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          • Neecy
            Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:44:51

            I have made an executive decsion and decided to change them back to the monsters. They make me giggle a little on the inside and make me happy! Those water ones were kinda boring.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:46:28

          He did Liza? UGH. You know a lot of them want to believe that Black women are not attrcated to White men so they promote that to make Black women buy into that. the brainwashing never ends!

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    • MK
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 04:56:59

      Love the Betamax line HAHA

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  3. bob
    Oct 05, 2011 @ 19:15:47

    Marellus said:

    Only religion will produce such men. And where is the religion that can produce such men ? I don’t see it.

    So if you don’t know of such a religion, how do you support your first statement? To be perfectly consistent, you would be saying that there are no such men, or at least you know of none.

    The first sentence does resonate with something I’ve been thinking lately: That many, if not most, of the values advocated in the Judeo-Christian religions are right. However, I remain an agnostic, so i think that they may be right for the wrong reason.

    Certainly, an awful lot of that advocated by the 60s lefties has turned out disastrously wrong.

    The sexual revolution has been a disaster for most, if not all, the participants – and especially for the children of the participants.

    Moral relativism is for the birds. There sure as hell are moral absolutes.

    Civil rights was good. That I can get with.

    Feminism – well, if that is what led to the modern “hooking up” culture, then that is also a disaster. ( Google “Wendy Shalit” for more.)

    I know that as a young man, I bought into the “keep it casual, don’t get involved” crap that was floating around. I didn’t have to, but it was there, and when I was young and dumb and full of cum, it seems to make sense. Only later did figure out what I had so casually rebuffed.

    Oh well, enough of that.

    Hope you liked the Chris Rock.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 05, 2011 @ 20:45:47

      The sexual revolution has been a disaster for most, if not all, the participants – and especially for the children of the participants.

      Yep. Instead of encouraging people to hook up with those they are in committed monogamous relationships with, the hook up culture says screw everyone who gets you hot. And that is why our society and values are what they are today.

      I’m all for good sex and fun, but ONLY with a person you know well and love and are both committed to each other in a relaitonship.

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    • Marellus
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:07:01

      @Bob.

      You basically expounded on my observation. Thanks. Ultimately Christianity is the way to go. But I despair when I see the loons that’s running that show now.

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  4. Mark Slater
    Oct 05, 2011 @ 20:47:14

    Good golly, Miss Neecy, I’d love to know what goes on inside that head of yours.

    “Volatile relationships where men literally kick and punch them out windows, run them over with cars, set her hair on fire, Eat live babies, commit mass murders are for a woman who is very insecure, damaged and partly (if not completely) DERANGED is “EXCITING” and are “TURN ONS”. Yes, serving up a nice hot whopping pile of shithead on a platter is a total catch to certain women of the…”

    Then again, maybe not.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 05, 2011 @ 20:49:59

      LOL Hey Mark!!! Nice new pic btw 😉

      Are you saying this is not true? I’m saying the same thing the PUA’s say except I’m just a little more animated. LOL

      Unfortunatley, its true, many women are turned on by the most craziest undesserving men.

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      • Mark Slater
        Oct 05, 2011 @ 21:26:04

        “Nice new pic btw ;)”

        Thanks, doll. I figured it *might* be a slight improvement over the avatar with the googly eyes and six arms.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 05, 2011 @ 21:31:10

          Ok so you guys don’t like the monster avatars? I think you are the second person that was going to change their avatar b/c of it. oookkkk I’ll change them to something less crazy. *moping out of thread sadly*

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  5. bob
    Oct 05, 2011 @ 20:53:52

    Neecy said:

    UGH I absolutely HAAAAATE Chris Rock!!!

    I am sorry if I offended you in any way. I hope you understand that such was not my intent.

    He says so many things that turn out to be true, though – at least so it seems to me. Why is Roissy OK, and Chris Rock not, if I may ask?

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    • Neecy
      Oct 05, 2011 @ 20:58:01

      Oh Bob you know I can handle Chris Rocks comedy. i just don’t like him as a comedian or person. he often picks on Black women in his stand-ups and it grates my nerves.

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  6. Matt
    Oct 05, 2011 @ 21:53:08

    I would eat pineapples every day if I could. They taste awesome when they’re ripe. Easily one of my favourite fruits … even without the fringe benefits.

    If you want to read a Game blog that’s not about how to “BANG EVERY WOMAN YOU SEEE!111!!!!!!” you should give http://www.marriedmansexlife.com/ a try. He writes about Game as it applies to long-term relationships and marriages. Althol says roughly the same thing you’re saying here. Alpha traits are needed to find a woman, but mixing in Beta traits is what keeps her. Maintaining a balance (on both the man’s and the woman’s sides) is what keeps the relationship from getting stale.

    He’s also a sci-fi geek. It’s very odd (but highly entertaining) to read about male/female relationship dynamics explained with Star Trek/Star Wars/Battlestar: Galactica references. He also does a good job of keeping politics out of the discussions.

    Easily one of the most balanced Game blogs I’ve run across. Though he’s rather, um, open about what he and his wife are up to.

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    • Matt
      Oct 05, 2011 @ 22:01:50

      Um … Neecy?

      I like the new avatars, but could I be something besides a pissed off piece of bubblegum? 😉

      Or a pink Thwomp? ….

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      • Neecy
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:54:33

        ahahaaaaaaahaha!!!!!! OMG LMAO Matt!

        Uhm well your blogstress has come back down with a sever case of ADD and has decided to go back to the monsters b/c something about the other ones didn’t make me all warm and fuzzy and giggly on the insides.

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    • Liza207
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:13:53

      I read that blog as well. I love the way he talks about his life with his wife and how uses alpha/beta traits to keep his marriage strong.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:57:15

        I can’t wait to read it too b/c I feel that is more geared towards the kinds of relationships I prefer – LTR etc. that way any future prospects could read his blog to learn 😉

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:52:07

      Yes matt Pineapples are the bomb! If you get a good one that is sweet and juicy – man oh man!!

      Thanks for the blog b/c I have been wondering if there were other male blogs more directed towards LTR’s and marriage and not just banging young hotties all over the place every night. The fact is most men are not going to spend thier lives screwing different women night after night and they need advice on how to keep thier women (and also women to keep their man happy) in LTR’s. I feel that i slacking in marriages is men and women haven’t really found the things that make each other tick. So I will definitley read his blog. Oh and i am excited to read about the sexual adventures of he and his wife!!! 😀

      And i also agree that a man does need a mix of both Beta and Alpha traits to be succuessful in LTR’s with women. This is the only way IMO.

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  7. bob
    Oct 05, 2011 @ 22:02:10

    Neecy,

    OK, I can see what you’re saying. Frankly I think he picks on a whole lot of people.. but yeah, he does go after some things about Black women.

    Hey I want my gangly weird avatar back!

    I was another guy that was thinking of changing it, and I didn’t! Just for you! LOL!

    My new one just looks like a pissed off tic-tac!

    It’s OK, I still luv ya! 😉

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  8. n/a
    Oct 05, 2011 @ 22:11:24

    Neecy,

    Words are easy; facts are hard. The fact is that most women, esp. those who are in their sexual prime, are wildly attracted to highly aggressive, confident and decisive men. Those traits, along with the quiet unavoidable scent of high testosterone and what that suggests, excite women deeply.

    These traits are *not* associated with middling nice guys. Period. These traits are associated with exceptional men, men with sharp teeth, hungry for life. The alpha male is above all characterized by this: he sees what he wants and takes it.

    The beta male sees what he wants and freezes. The alpha male moves like the animal he is. The middling male, the beta male, has had the wolf whipped out of him. Never forget inll your hopeful words that we are animals, tricked by our ease with words and language into believing we can understand our largely wordless and animal world.

    The world understands us and has its way with us; we don’t understand the world. All we know are a few unpleasant facts.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 08:13:33

      N/A

      I agree with you that yes women of all primes are wildly attracted to the high testosterone Alpha males – BUT ONLY Briefly. Honestly, do you think most women want this in a guy 24/7? We also don’t want the beta nice guy 24/7 either. But if most women could pick and choose of 3 types for her to be around consistently and in relationships with she’d want the guy in the middle. We want BOTH! We want the guy that is going to pull our hair and slap our booties in bed in one second, then the next second we are having a wonderful intelligent conversation at dinner about life or whatever. You see?

      If we are talking simply sexual hook ups and brief temporary courting (i.e. booty calls) then yes the wildly hot badboy is going to fit that bill for most women in general looking for hook ups. But *NOT* for those women looking to be in relationships. Women like extremes in men for only small amounts of time. There is no way a man like this is going to be desirable for a LTR or boyfriend to most women b/c he’d drive her insane -it’d be like overkill.

      What I am saying is its not bad traits to have those wildly alpha characteristics. In fact what I am saying is the nicer laid back beta guys can find ways to incorporate *some* of those traits into his own personality to make him more successful with women for initial contact and for some Long term measures, but he doesn’t need to completely toss away his beta profile b/c the beta profile mixed with the Alpha traits are going to help him with women over the long term and in RELATIONSHIPS that are with girlfriends and wives, and not solely based on sex, hooking up and sleeping around with women every other night.

      There are men who don’t actually desire to be players that screw all kinds of women. These men just want to be successful with the kinds of women they are attracted to and want for relationships where they can get good sex consistently from is g/f or wife by keeping her happy and excited.

      Yes I completely wish more Beta guys would develop those “hungry like the Wolf” skills you speak of when it comes to going after and keeping their women excited b/c then they would be PERFECT. They’d have the foundational traits that anchor who he is, but he would know how to switch things up when need be to keep his woman on her toes.

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  9. n/a
    Oct 05, 2011 @ 22:14:16

    Neecy,

    Don’t know why that posted twice; please remove the *first* one. Thanks.

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  10. zorro
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 00:15:14

    Female hypergamy is why alphas get all the sex they want and betas get to raise other men’s children.

    See the recent news reports re Martha Stewart’s daughter’s new book and what it revealed about Martha’s view of fidelity (hint: she has no use for it).

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 08:59:06

      Zorro, I went ad read about that – utterly disgusting!

      Any woman that would do such a vile act is scum of the earyth who will have a nice dose of nasty karma waiting her througtout her life.

      Its really disturbing as to what feminism has done to women’s brains. I cannot imagine women doing this but I guess its real.

      Like I said, the best way for a man to win in these perilous times, is to work hard at having the traits women want in a man – BOTH BETA/ALPHA mixed. That way a woman doesn’t feel she has to go against her natural order of having to pick and choose one and then have the desires to go out and have flings b/c she is missing out at home.

      Its utterly disgusting a woman that would have another man’s baby and lie and make her husband believe its his.

      But let’s not forget. Men do this as well but are unable to hide it b/c they cannot get pregnant. Men have children outside of their marriages all the time with other women. The only difference is they cannot say the children are his wife’s b/c he can’t get pregnant. It goes both ways. A secret and lie to your spouse of the magnitude of lying about having kids with another man or woman is the ultimate betrayal.

      Martha Stewart always came off as being too good to be true. I find a lot of White women are often protected and shielded from the dirt they do and then when they get exposed everyone acts shocked and surprised. Maybe people should stop placing others on pedestals b/c humans are capable of some terrible disgusting shit – including WOMEN and yes WHITE WOMEN too!

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      • Zorro
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:33:32

        scum of the earyth Is that pronounced “Er-ith” or “Ee-RYTHE”>>

        nasty karma waiting her througtout her life. There should not be 3 Ts in that word, whatever you think it is.

        Its really disturbing s/b It’s really disturbing when a contraction doesn’t have an apostrophe where one clearly belongs.

        I guess its real… Once again, an apostrophe would really make my day.

        the best way for a man to win in these perilous times, is to work hard… I’m sure that’s good advice, and would be even better if you didn’t make two independent clauses out of a single preposition by inserting a COMMA where one does not belong.

        “b/c” is an efficient truncation of “because” when you are text messaging. When you’re not, it’s f/k/g s/t/p/d.

        Its utterly disgusting a woman that would have another man’s baby and lie and make her husband believe its his. [Now I want you to correct the errors in this sentence, but first I want you to COUNT THEM.]

        /Editorial Moose

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        • Neecy
          Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:56:57

          SERIOUSLY?? Z? lol alrighty then. Why should I even bother making long responses to you , that you won’t even address the actual points and instead simply focus on my spelling errors?

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          • Zorro
            Oct 06, 2011 @ 12:05:49

            I read with great interest your post, and I am glad to hear you are as appalled at Martha Stewart as I am.

            I was nitpicking your spelling because I told you I would if given the chance.

            *muah*

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            • Neecy
              Oct 06, 2011 @ 12:08:41

              Okay and *muah* back!

              I thought you were going to focus on my actual topic posts and not my responses. If that were the case you’d be correcting every response I make since I make a shitload of spelling errors. But honestly, this new Word I have seems to not be getting many of the actual spelling errors and its a bits annoying.

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      • Zorro
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:35:27

        I…warned…you!

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  11. Emma the Emo
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 02:38:48

    http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/09/18/how-much-can-game-do/
    I think Roissy knows there are men between complete losers and alphas who can get pretty much anyone they want. I also remember reading that he conciders asshole game to be something pushover nice guys should try first, to get encouraging results. It can be a temporary solution for many men, but if they don’t like being jerks and want to have a good LTR one day, they might have to move on to a better type of game, which is what you’re describing (you might not call it “game”, but it’s a skill to be that man in the middle, seemingly harder to learn than just being an ass).

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 08:36:56

      And that is what this post is about Emma. For guys who don’t necessarily want to bang different women every other night or week. There are guys who really do not understand how to keep their g/f’s and wives happy and in no way developing all those asshole bad boy traits going to keep those women on the line for very long. Neither will being the nice guy all the time.

      The average women will get tired of all of that and leave. Those badboy alpha skills are certainly needed for men who are on the prowl for hook ups and sex with women they don’t plan to really know for very long or plan to be in relationships with.

      But let’s face it a lot of people at some time or another will be in a relationship and the skills required to get women are not necessarily the skills required to KEEP women. THAT is why i am saying the win-win for a guy is the middle guy b/c he can never go wrong. He’ll know when and how to use the Beta and/or Alpha traits to keep the relationship exciting and to keep his woman not feeling like she has one or the other or getting bored. IOW’s he is fulfilling her natural desires to have both the Beta and Alpha guy all in one. THAT is what women want and need – BOTH! SO why not as a man develop both skills to be ahead of the game?

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      • Liza207
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 10:03:14

        Neecy, I wish the men from our generation had not missed out on learning these skills early on. The skill of being dominant/genteel men has been lost and there has to be some kind of re-training or re-learning of these skills.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 06, 2011 @ 10:39:48

          Absolutely Liza. its tough right now. And it does look like women will have to do the training to their b/f’s and husbands on what it is that makes us tick. No woman really wants to have to do that and preferably would like a man to come with no assembly required, but we are just not living in a time where we have that luxury – especially as women in their 30’s. So we just have to be direct about what we want, like and expect from our men *shrugs*

          For me taking the easy going beta guy and helping him develop the man hungry Alpha traits I also crave looks like the best bet – especially for women our ages. But even younger women in their 20’s can also do this b/c not all young women want to hook up and have sex with badboys. Many young women want steady relationships and b/f’s they can depend on and enjoy sexually in a monogamous situation.

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          • Zorro
            Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:24:42

            I don’t want to be the stick-in-the-mud moose here, but my guess is once a guy figures out he’s being trained to be an alpha, he’s not the kind of guy who will ever become an alpha. A man who realizes a woman is turning him into a *man* will either chafe at the whole project (and feel quite offended and ashamed of himself), or he’ll resent being the kind of man who isn’t a man until a woman tells him he’s a man.

            How would you feel if a man told you that he was going to teach you how to be a feminine woman because without his help, you clearly just don’t get it?

            …or maybe I’m missing your point?

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            • Neecy
              Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:47:50

              Yeah Zorro I think you missed my point, although you make a good one as well. Not every man would appreciate this but some would.

              My point is women just have to be upfront about what they like. Instead of leaving men to guess or not know at all. The main reason people cheat today is b/c they lack the ability or desire to effectively communicate with their partners what it is they feel is missing to make each other happy. Its much easier to just go out and seek what you are not getting in your mate than actually telling or communicating with your mate the things you want and like for them to do.

              I guess either way women have 2 choices. To simply not bother with a guy who doesn’t come perfectly packaged the way she wants him, or to take a guy who has many of the qualities she likes and work with him on developing the ones he may be lacking. Me, I don’t expect a man to be perfect so I would rather have a guy who has the foundational traits that work and work with him on developing others that would make us both happy.

              I would expect men to do the same for their woman.

              As i said, unfortunately today, men and women are very confused about their roles and nothing short of actual training and re-teaching is going to work. And b/c not every woman or man knows a game blog exists that can teach them this how the heck else are they going to learn?

              Personally, If I am not making my man happy I would expect him to tell me what it is he feels I am not doing to make him happy. Nothing wrong with communicating with your partner what you like and want. IMO.

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              • Zorro
                Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:54:18

                Ah!

                Gotcha.

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                • Neecy
                  Oct 06, 2011 @ 12:10:24

                  Lemme ask you. Would you prefer a woman to simply not say what it is that you may not be doing that makes her happy or would you prefer she actually communicate this directly to you as a man?

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                  • Zorro
                    Oct 07, 2011 @ 07:40:46

                    I would always prefer a woman as open and honest as to tel me what she truly wants and what she truly needs.

                    Far fewer head games. Far more intimacy.

                    That’s what I think.

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                    • Neecy
                      Oct 07, 2011 @ 09:55:15

                      Thanks! Sometimes I think women are not sure what men want in terms of communicating. Hmmm. maybe I’ll do a post on that!! Thanks for the idear, dear!! 😀

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          • Liza207
            Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:33:19

            “No woman really wants to have to do that and preferably would like a man to come with no assembly required, but we are just not living in a time where we have that luxury – especially as women in their 30′”

            Men are not the only ones who confused about how to behave– so are women. I really don’t have the desire to teach a grown man how to be more manly. I would rather he was that way already. I’m telling you and I have to get out of this country and meet men else where.

            This is where this response actually belonged.

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            • Neecy
              Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:51:37

              I understand Liza. Every woman is different. me, I see the reality and the reality is I most likley will not find a man with all the qualities I like, so I am more willing to work with him on developing the qualities that i do like OR I am willing to go with a guy who has the MAJORITY of traits I like. Is this preferable? NOPE! Ideally all men and women would come perfectly packaged just the way we like them. but its just not reality today.

              So women who expect this are either going to just simply prefer to remain single or wait for that perfect guy to some along. I just don’t see that happening. Until things drastically change, its going to be individual efforts in telling, showing the men and women in our lives what we want to make us happy. I really don’t see any other ways around it.

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              • Liza207
                Oct 06, 2011 @ 12:55:49

                I guess going to live in another country may be a bit much. But it can be very frustrating at times, epecially, when you are a woman who loves a man’s man–like myself.

                The moment a man shows a signs of weakness–I’m immediately turned off and I lose interest. I may have to try to be more patient I guess.

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                • Neecy
                  Oct 06, 2011 @ 13:06:19

                  Liza I hear you. its difficult to find a man’s man these days who isn’t some hypermasculine asshole who is just seeking sex all the time or some overly super nice guy with no backbone. I’m talking a real MANS MAN who just knows the right balance of dominance and charming. I don’t know if I can blame the men today as feminism has really screwed them up. They are either one or the other and its just the way it is. And i am sure they are having the same issues finding such women for themselves.

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                  • Liza207
                    Oct 06, 2011 @ 13:25:10

                    Neecy,

                    There have been guys who have approached me exuding so much confident which I love and when we go out on a date within 10 minutes he starts pedestalizing me and it’s game over.

                    There was one guy in particular who walk up to me at a cocktail party and he appeared to be so confident and so sure of himself and in a few minutes of chatting me up he asked me out to dinner. I really thought he had that something but I was wrong. During our date he said something that made my blood curdle–wait for it….”I will worship your body” I almost choked on my wine. I guess me thought he was being profound or something. And since he didn’t get the reaction he sought (I guess was suppose fall all over myself) –he said it again, “I will worship your body”.

                    I couldn’t stand this guy and I had to get away from him. Game over!

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                    • Neecy
                      Oct 06, 2011 @ 13:39:37

                      “I will worship your body”? OMG LIZA!!! LMAO!

                      Are you sure he wasn’t joking? See me being the silly girl I am would have probably laughed and found that to be really funny. I also would have assumed he was joking. I’m not sure what he was trying to say. That if you were his he would make sure to worship your body? Hmm. I think that’s okay to say b/c the reality is men do worship women’s bodies (if they are attractive to them) – even the bad boy alpha types. I could see like some guy jokingly saying this. LOL That’s better though than “i will woship YOU”. Now that would make me cringe and head for the hills.

                      I find aggressive men will automatically talk about your body b/c that is what drives them. The absolute WORSE date I ever had was the guy asked me how big was the biggest penis I ever had? NO LIE. I was like, dude you are so out of here. LOSER!

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                    • Emma the Emo
                      Oct 07, 2011 @ 06:57:14

                      “I will worship your body”?… LMAO!!
                      That’s as hot as “I want you inside me. Bits of your liver and brains in my stomach I mean”.
                      Love it how he repeated it, too.

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                    • Neecy
                      Oct 07, 2011 @ 09:50:43

                      LOL Emma looks like you and i share he same corky sense of humor b/c i thought it was funny too. But maybe i wouldn’t have sitting at a dinner table with a glass of vino. LOL

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  12. MK
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 07:19:04

    Neecy,
    Here are some qualities men would also mention as important in a quality woman besides the pleasant personality, looks and sex.

    Don’t cause issues for us with our family (especially with mothers or sisters). This ties back to pleasant personalities but happens enough for men that it is worth mentioning.

    Never try to make belittle your man in public even if you think it is harmless, its not.

    Don’t nag if something needs done do it.

    Don’t expect a man to guess what you want once you have a relationship it is your job to communicate too (otherwise we midaswell stick to one night stands if we have to play caveman alpha all the time)

    When you get that period that is bound to come when you are less than excited about the relationship or that you lost that feeling wise up and don’t be dumb. Relationships change and its not the guys job alone to keep that spark going what can YOU do different

    PS: This is important but not as important as the blow jobs keep them coming HAHAA

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 08:48:22

      MK,

      There are many other things women need to do to keep their men happy and I completely agree with your other mentions. I find normally men don’t desire such complex needs to be happy unless they are some over dominate type. The average guy just needs a few things to be happy and content in a relationship and I also find men like consistency as opposed to women who like surprises and excitement.

      However, the thing with the mother and sisters goes both ways. Sometimes mothers and sisters if they for whatever reason do not like the g/f or wife will use their family connects to keep troubled stirred and to belittle the wife or g/f all the time. In those cases should the wife or g/f not stand up for herself?

      Personally, if I came across a situation where the sister or mother constantly tried to start trouble with me (b/c it happens quite often in these scenarios) I would simply have nothing to do with them or never go around them. It would then be up to my b/f or hubby to determine if the relationship is worth keeping b/c as a person I will not allow myself to be belittled and treated poorly just b/c they are my husbands or b/f’s wife or sister. Also I have seen situations where the wife or g/f is some lunatic who wants the b/f or husband all to herself and is insecure and hates the other women in his life (mothers, sisters, friends) etc.

      So men also need to have a talk with their mother and sisters AND g/f’s or wives about RESPECTING each other. But more men need to really have a talk with their mothers and sisters about respecting their choice in mate and RESPECTING their wife or g/f b/c that is who he chose to be with. If they can’t do this then the man needs to find someone that can get along with his mother and sister or one who can and will put up with their rudeness and trouble making b/c they don’t like her for whatever reasons OR he needs to put his foot down and tell them to back-off.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 09:00:18

        Neecy, men are always complaining about women nagging them. I think it is horrible but I believe the reason women will nag their spouses is because they either don’t trust him to take care of his business as a partner (a man) or he won’t handle his manly duties.

        No sane woman wants to be with a man she has to nag and bitch at all the time to do want he is suppose to do–believe me.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 06, 2011 @ 10:33:18

          I agree Liza. But if i have to resort to nagging and asking all the time then I want no parts of that relationship. That is why before a woman gets married or in a LTR she really needs to make clear her expectations. That way if dude doesn’t hold up his end, if she decides to bounce (b/c she has no desire to be someone’s mother constantly asking, telling, coaching) then he was forewarned.

          Nagging is annoying. But some women get off of nagging and bitching and complaining to their husbands/bf’s and I can see how that can be a real relationship killer. Communication is the best route to these things. It seems (as MK has pointed out) that men prefer direct forms of communication into what a woman wants and needs. Nagging is just a bad form of communication.

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          • Liza207
            Oct 06, 2011 @ 11:27:04

            Men are not the only ones who confused about how to behave– so are women. I really don’t have the desire to teach a grown man how to be more manly. I would rather he was that way already. I’m telling you and I have to get out of this country and meet men else where.

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            • MK
              Oct 06, 2011 @ 16:34:06

              Good luck but I think unless you like Russian caveman alphas (and evidently there are even a lot of comp for the 1 liter of vodka a day ones) where else in the world are you going to go? Who is more alpha than the US? I guess you could go for the latin thing but most of the rest of the world are sissies (thus why the US has to clean up for everyone) so I think your at quite a dilemma.

              Vs. the reverse is quite lucrative for a man. Maybe I’m wrong perhaps you and neecy should film your overseas adventures so she can pursue the film stuff..

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              • Neecy
                Oct 06, 2011 @ 17:51:30

                Maybe I’m wrong perhaps you and neecy should film your overseas adventures so she can pursue the film stuff..

                Hmmm liza sounds like a good idea! We should just travel across EUROPE! lol We could film our adverntures 😀

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  13. bob
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 12:22:01

    See my response above to Zorro’s editorial efforts.

    My original foray in that direction was “provoked” when our gracious hostess interchangeably used 2 entirely different words (“vicious” and “viscous”). I’ve seen others do this too; in this context (because sex is always part of the context here!), I even attempted a mildly sexual joke.

    Zorro is just being picky. Blog comments typically aren’t about perfection.

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  14. bob
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 12:25:32

    I meant both these posts to be at the end, but keep clicking the wrong replay button (d’oh!).


    I do not endorse most of Zorro’s picayune fussing with obvious typos, and abbreviations.

    Pointing out the difference between:

    it’s

    and

    its

    is, however, a public service, because many people have no idea that in this case, the normal rules of apostrophe usage are backwards. English is really weird sometimes.

    My old icon really fits me: big mouths, hands in use while talking…….


    My original foray in that direction was “provoked” when our gracious hostess interchangeably used 2 entirely different words (“vicious” and “viscous”). I’ve seen others do this too; in this context (because sex is always part of the context here!), I even attempted a mildly sexual joke.

    Zorro is just being picky. Blog comments aren’t about grammatic or typographical perfection.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 12:46:01

      I know he was partly joking b/c I told the both of you to correct me in my errors. But I was more talking about my actual topic posts and not my responses unless i make a really OBVIOUS error. like for instance he has corrected on sayings or common spellings I have gotten wrong and that I apreciate that. Like “for all intents purposes” I used to write it as “for all intense purposes”. Or mispelling “nats” which should be spelled “gnats”. Corrections like that help me. The rest are just really me not spell checking or spell check missing the correction.

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      • zorro
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 18:14:48

        “for all intents and purposes.”

        Okay. I’ll stop.

        Jeez!

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        • Neecy
          Oct 06, 2011 @ 18:20:12

          Noooo! i want you to correct me on that kind of stuff b/c that is important!! Can you imagine me in a business meeting saying “for all intense purposes”? LOL. I welcome your corrections and ruler hand slaps on stuff like that, in which I would look like a complete fool if i didn’t know what the real meaning was.

          I don’t mind looking like a fool in front of those I love 🙂 but if you see something I really need to be corrected on, PLEASE do it!!

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      • bob
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 18:42:32

        LMAO at “for all intense purposes” – love it!

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        • Neecy
          Oct 06, 2011 @ 18:48:05

          And. I. actually.believed.that.was.the.saying. LOL All these years…..*sigh* BUT there is no better time than the present to learn the right/correct way 😀

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    • zorro
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 18:16:04

      You think English is weird? You’re right.

      Why is it that our feet smell and our nose runs?

      Ya’d think it would be the other way around.

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      • bob
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 18:36:14

        Gallagher (sp?) (the guy who hammers melons) had a few of those:

        “We drive on a parkway and park on a driveway.

        We have hot water heaters – you don’t need to heat that.”

        There were others.

        Also I think I know why I was having so much trouble posting earlier. A few hours after all that, my browser went insane. Apparently, the AdBlock and NoScript addons – or maybe just NoScript by itself – just don’t get along.

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    • Zorro
      Oct 07, 2011 @ 07:42:46

      Zorro is just being picky.

      Maybe Zorro is just being a douchebag.

      Ya ever considered that?

      Maybe Zorro is just fuckin with ya???

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  15. bob
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 12:33:05

    OK, I get it now: once you comment by replying to another comment, all subsequent comments end up there, even if you use the comment form at the bottom – until (at least) you get back to the original blog post URL in your address. (Yes, WordPress, I’m looking at you. That is a bug.)

    I’m just gonna hope my stuff got read, rather than posting it for a 3rd time. Summary: Zorro’s a smart guy, but is being (mostly) insanely picky for the medium we are using.

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  16. bob
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 12:33:57

    arghh! I give up. the comments go where they go.

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  17. Liza207
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 13:55:34

    When a guy says he wants to worship your anything on a first date, it’s just creepy, I have a good sense of humor but he wasn’t saying in a humorous context. I don’t think he knew any better. Some guys are just clueless.

    The “penis talk” is just sad. Really?

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 14:07:20

      Yeah its just best to avoid talk about body parts,sex etc. on first dates. Best to keep it basic “getting ot know you” type discussion.

      Most of my dates that revolve around sex talk from the guy I personally check out after that. The date over countdown has begun and ended. LOL And the penis guy had the audacity to ask me if I was “upset” at his question b/c he was just kidding. We were talking about body types and he was asking me what kind of body types I like on a guy. I basically said it varies across the board and that I have dated guys with various body types, and that is when he brought up the penis thing asking which body type seemed to have the biggest penis. LOL Un.be.liev.able.

      Some men are just clueless. I have a sense of humor but it can only stretch so far before I am just like “WTF”?

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  18. Marellus
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 15:00:14

    Neecy.

    What is your impression of the man that wrote this ?

    No indeed! None of your “Miss Prims” for me. I love the gaily ringing laugh of true and gladsome hearts. Of course I would not have a young lady act in an imbecoming or unladylike manner, but I believe in giving free scope to thou joyous feelings, implanted in the soul by a wise and kind “creator” to cheer us through life’s checkered pathway looking over the —–. Could you have been within hearing distance when I read you letter, you would have heard a laugh that made this old tent ring, especially when I came to the sentence, “Sing Heigh Ho for a husband” – I just laid back in my chair + roared – thats decidedly rich! I don’t suppose that you entertain thoughts of Matrimony. Who ever knows a young lady that did? but if so you have my best wishes that your song may be speedily answered, on condition, that I have an invitation to the wedding.

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    • MK
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 16:37:34

      Wow that was funny stuff. Its like a white knight wannabe shakespeare writing Facebook love letters while mixing cheap vodka and absinthe.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 17:48:50

      Marellus,

      I’m not really sure what he is even saying?? What I could gather was that he is happy for a woman who wants to get married and eventually reaches that goal? Not sure I can really understand the poem? can you explain it?

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      • Marellus
        Oct 06, 2011 @ 19:04:08

        He also wrote this :

        Before proceeding farther, truth and candor compel me to acknowledge that a little desception was used in the advertisement in the “Waverly.” In other words my true description differs materially from the one therein set forth, and may not please you as well as the one “fancy painted,” but I thought it was all for fun, therefore funningly gave a fictitious description as well as cognomen. Be it known unto you then, this individual is twenty-nine years of age, five feet and eleven inches high, dark blue eyes, brown hair, and light (ruddy) complexion. There you have it. How do you like the descripion? Methinks I hear you answer : “I dont like it so well as the advertised description” . Well! I’ll admit it is not quite so fascinating to a young lady as the fictitious one, but it is a fixed fact, “like the laws of the Medes and Persians,” which altereth not. But enough of that topic for the present! The next thing, will undoubtedly be something else.

        What do you think of him now ?

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        • Neecy
          Oct 06, 2011 @ 19:32:51

          I have to be honest marellus. I don’t know what he is saying. I am not a very good reader of poetry or reading into things like this unless they are direct. I can’t really comment b/c I don’t know what he is really talking about. I’m sowwy 😦

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        • Neecy
          Oct 06, 2011 @ 19:35:45

          Okay i went back and read it again. It seems he is saying that he presented a fictuous character and people loved it. Then he actually described the character in reality and they did not love him so much as the “advertised” one in which he presented more favorably?

          So ultimatley is he saying that people like the false advertised person than the real thing????

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  19. n/a
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 18:59:44

    The only thing more amusing than a woman who wants Superman and Clark Kent in the same guy is the man who wants his “virgin” wife to magically become a “whore” in bed. And only *his* bed.

    Chuckling at the everlasting human comedy of impossible desires.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 19:29:33

      How is that impossible? A virgin marrying a man can be taught or learn how to become a “whore” in bed with her husband if he shows her what to do or if she learns through watching porn or through friends showing and teaching her.

      A man who is a nice guy can develop more testosterone and/or develop and learn more masculine Alpha traits. Its not impossible at all. Huamn beings are complex and males can possess the traits of both a Beta male and Alpha male. All he has to do is learn how.

      Isn’t that what Game is about? if Game can get a beta guy to turn into an Alpha then why is it impossible for him to be able to revert to his Beta traits he has natirally and also to the Alpa traits he has learned?

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    • Emma the Emo
      Oct 08, 2011 @ 05:27:42

      Being a virgin doesn’t stop you from being kinky. I think what you are talking about is men wanting a virgin who at the same time knows what she is doing in bed and has skills like a pornstar. That is unrealistic to begin with, but you can always teach her. But my point is, virgins are not necessarily pure-minded innocent creatures.

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      • Zorro
        Oct 08, 2011 @ 05:35:21

        Emma, where do you live? Not the address, just the country.

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        • Emma the Emo
          Oct 08, 2011 @ 05:46:11

          I live in Norway, that country with all the crazy anti-man laws… lol. Why do you ask?

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          • Zorro
            Oct 08, 2011 @ 09:38:07

            …because I read in one of your posts “if I lived in the US” or something like that.

            Crazy anti-male laws? I think I heard of that. Too bad. Gender wars are awful.

            This planet really needs “International Send Each Other Flowers” Day. This battle between the sexes is really fucking up human society.

            But the, I’m a romantic.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 08, 2011 @ 09:07:56

        I agree Emma. I wouldn’t expect a virgin to know what she was doing in bed, but that doesn’t mean she can’t learn with ONE guy (her husband) or b/f if he wanted to teach her. There are also other ways to learn as well.

        Also for women who don’t engage in casual sex and have been out of the sex market may also have missed out on some of the “newwer” things being done in bed. That doesn’t mean they’re innocent or prudes. Just that we prefer to wait for the right guy to do that stuff with.

        Really IMO the only difference between a virgin/celibate woman/ and sexually promiscuous woman is the actions. All women have sexual desires but only one chooses to act on them frequently.

        Actually my philosophy is a young woman should avoid sleeping around or remain a virgin so that when she does meet “the one” she can be as kinky or whatever she wants to be. That is the idea. Its not that all virgins are prudes and innocent. Some just don’t want to sleep around with a bunch of guy and would rather hold off their kinky ideas and pleasures for one guy.

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      • n/a
        Oct 08, 2011 @ 20:36:53

        So there you are you little carrot-topped cutie-pie vixen. I want to talk to you about something you wrote at Roissy’s.

        You need to ditch blogger and get a wordpress blog, Emma.

        PS: nice boots Neecy. And I hope you are following my sleep instructions, bad girl.

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  20. bob
    Oct 06, 2011 @ 20:16:49

    The comment about which body type has the biggest penis brings up something though…

    Ladies, can you all please stop thinking in metaphors and analogies?

    Like thinking that a guy with small hands or small feet will have a small penis?

    Or thinking that a guy who can’t dance will be lousy at sex?

    Sheesh!

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    • Neecy
      Oct 06, 2011 @ 22:06:59

      Don’t worry Bob. i have all but learned those are nothing but silly myths. Mainly b/c i dated all kinds of men with different body types, builds etc. a guy who was short, skinny and small build, guys who were tall, buff, with wide sholders and big feet etc. Bascially I have dated all varieties and sizes of men. And all that silly stuff has proven to be just that – MYTHS. SO I can say none of that stuff matters at the end of the day in terms of who will be the best lover or the “biggest” based on my experience. And we’ll just leave it at that 😉

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  21. Liza207
    Oct 07, 2011 @ 10:22:54

    Neecy yes, I can see where what he said would be funny because it was so over the top. If he had said it to be funny or in the context of humor, then it would not have creeped me so much. But he was acutally saying it as a compliment or in some attempt to impress.

    It’s ashamed because was really attracted to him up until he said that and then said again.

    By the way, Emma, very funny.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 08, 2011 @ 09:11:12

      Yeah sounds like he was testing you to see if your response would elicit any kind “sexual” agreements. Maybe he was just testing you. Who knows. Either way, if it turned you off, it turned you off…

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  22. bob
    Oct 07, 2011 @ 15:26:36

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    • Neecy
      Oct 08, 2011 @ 08:56:45

      Hey Bob! Yeah Matt recommended that site and yes, its a really good one. I read some of it the other day and will be reading more!!

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  23. Mark Slater
    Oct 08, 2011 @ 02:32:10

    “Mainly b/c i dated all kinds of men with different body types, builds etc. a guy who was short, skinny and small build, guys who were tall, buff, with wide sholders and big feet etc. Bascially I have dated all varieties and sizes of men. And all that silly stuff has proven to be just that – MYTHS. SO I can say none of that stuff matters at the end of the day in terms of who will be the best lover or the “biggest” based on my experience…”

    My, but you have had some *ahem* interesting experiences.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 08, 2011 @ 08:59:52

      What do you mean? Actually I just have weird tastes in men. I have never had a “type”. I have had 4 1/2 b/f’s in my life and neither of them looked the same in terms of body type, height or build. Basically what I was saying is from my experience with all of my past b/f’s their height nor body size/build determined whether they were going to be good in bed or not.

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  24. n/a
    Oct 08, 2011 @ 20:40:47

    Neecy math:

    4 1/2 and *neither* looked the same.

    So, 2 bf’s that were both 2.5’s — is that what you’re saying my little math-challenged

    😉

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    • n/a
      Oct 08, 2011 @ 20:44:19

      LOL! but not as math-challenged as n/a, apparently!

      I meant to say:

      2 bf’s that were both 2.25’s?

      That is funny. Hoist on my own petard. 😉

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      • Neecy
        Oct 09, 2011 @ 00:10:19

        Uuuh you’re the one confused darling. That would be 4 b/f’s with one who didn’t make the cut to b/f material- so he’d be the 1/2. got it?

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