There are 3 women in a room.
BAD TRAITS: Dressed poorly and ill-fitted, no class, talks loud, rude, obnoxious, very masculine acting, doesn’t seem to take care of herself physically, easily has sex with most men b/c that is the only way she can get male attention, has no standards, no values, doesn’t care about her femininity, crude, emotionally unstable, violent, egotistical (for all the wrong reasons).
GOOD TRAITS: uuuh, well, uuuuh, hmmmm I’ll get back to you on that one. Thanks
BAD TRAITS: Insecure, lacking self-confidence/self –worth, unable to fully embrace her femininity, sexually promiscuous, manipulative, follower, (possibly) not in optimal physical shape, no style, extremely introverted or extremely extroverted, can be emotionally unstable, socially inept/awkward, usually negative, overly competitive for male attention (and will do anything to get it or gain favor in a man’s eyes), unsupportive of other women, backbiting, two-faced, overly nurturing to the wrong people, OVERLY generous, doesn’t demand or expect respect or reciprocation.
GOOD TRAITS (although not normally used to her advantage): Usually innately very smart or intelligent but doesn’t use either to her advantage in a positive way and doesn’t know how to balance her intelligence/smarts with her femininity. Generous, (too generous) but not in a way that benefits herself or her best interests as a woman or person. Flexible (in more ways than one) and *can* overcome her negative traits if she sees decides to work on changing herself and working on her issues to become a more positive, feminine and happy woman that others want to be around. Friendly (Often times tooo friendly), non-intimidating, forgiving, proficient, yielding, team-player,
BAD TRAITS: Very self-centered and self-focused, not very flexible, intimidating, Extremely discriminatory, unforgiving to those who cross her, somewhat rigid, can be stubborn, full of pride and usually takes time before she warms up to a person.
GOOD TRAITS: High standards for people she associates and interacts with and allows into her space, solid, flexible when need be, smart/intelligent, not promiscuous, leader not follower, very feminine, physically in shape and healthy, stylish and well dressed, very attractive/beautiful, very self-assured, lacks need to be overly competitive with other women for most things, usually supportive of other women, not desperate for male attention and usually doesn’t have to do much to get it, high self-worth, very choosy about the men she dates/sleeps with, not manipulative, very transparent, often emulated, happy and emotionally well balanced, nurturing to those she loves and those deserving, demands reciprocation in all relationships, sets the standards and goes beyond them in good ways.
KNOCK, KNOCK, WHO’S THERE?!
Can you guess where each of these women falls on the female Alpha, Beta, Omega line? Also can you guess or surmise which of these type of women are winning in the SMP these days? (hint: not woman number 3 for sure).
Ok, Its pretty obvious where these women fall on the Alpha/Beta/Omega scale, but how many times do people really talk or think about women in terms of these traits and ideals? Of course, none of these traits are set in stone as they are mainly MY, NEECY’s own observations and definitions of what *I* typically believe represent these types. But usually most people would agree on most of these traits being representative of each type of woman.
Often times we hear about the Alpha, Beta, Omega male and the character traits that identify where a man fits in terms of the title. Men are encouraged to develop more traits that fall on the upper side of the Alpha and higher end of the Beta although, Alphaness in men is considered to be the more desirable trait. More time is spent on encouraging males to pick up some of the more positive traits of the Alpha male. In addition, more time has been spent identifying and defining these traits in MALES than that there’s been of focusing on the female versions of these types.
When it comes to women, not much talk is ever done about how women should model or mold themselves into more or less of these titles. Therefore, this also means not much talk is ever really done about what truly represents an Alpha, Beta, Omega woman. Although, if you do hear of one it’s usually the Alpha female that is mostly talked about when discussing certain types of women.
I don’t think I have ever heard a woman called a Beta woman or an Omega woman – at least not as often as men are referred to in these terms. But often times we do hear more about “Alpha” women b/c most people are aware that *usually* Alpha women supposedly carry the best most sought after traits that women want and need…or maybe not.
While the Alpha male these days and in the past has come with a positive label, not so much for the Alpha female in general. The problem? Since Western feminism has been on steroids for the last oooh 30 years, on a whole, the identification, characteristics of a true Alpha female have been mauled, matted, misused, misunderstood to fit the feminist agenda or by those simply confused about femininity and women (and unfortunately a loot of women simply don’t understand what a true feminine positive woman should look like or be like due to feminism that has stripped most women of their ability to be such).
The fact is, the Alpha woman is NOT the caricature that we often hear about today. Most people when you ask their opinions of Alpha women is that they are:
Masculine acting, A type personalities, ball busters, prudish, hard-core, bossy, runs things and people with an iron-fist, a she-male in a dress, overbearing, demanding, not easy to get along with, unpleasant and dominant etc.
IOW’s not a true feminine woman that doesn’t have to do much or ask for much to get what she needs and wants (something a true and real Alpha female experiences).
I can see why this image of an Alpha female exists. With Western Feminism on steroids, these kinds of women are celebrated and upheld as positive role models for women b/c they are closer to the masculine side of the dial than feminine. And of course with feminism today, its mainly about competing with men and showing men you can do what they do and be who they are.
In addition, when you have more emasculated men in society, these Alpha women *CAN* and do often have to resort to those most negative extreme characteristics I mentioned b/c men are not stepping up to the plate to help balance her needs for dominance to allow her to be a feminine woman.
For purposes of this post, I am mainly going to focus on the Alpha female b/c I feel she is the female that most women should actually emulate although this type of woman is RARE these days due to the confused roles both men and women have about their genders. Just as the Alpha male has also been somewhat disrupted by false ideals so has his female counterpart. Below Liza made this great thought on her definition of a true Alpha woman and I want to expand on this. She said in another thread:
A true alpha female is a beautiful woman who is very estrogen driven—highly feminine and has a very high sense of her worth and is very selective when it comes to progeny in which protects vigilantly. She loves being pursued and loves playing hard to get—a man has to prove his worth to her before she will sleep with him—she knows how to use her sexuality to get what she wants from a man without actually giving it up. <strong>However, she will only be submissive with her male counterpart the alpha male in which has become very difficult these days.</strong> Since most alpha male egos have been so overly inflated to the point where they are not even suitable for long-term relationships or marriage anymore due to all the no-strings sex they are getting from lesser women. “
THE ALPHA MALE HAS CHOSEN THE PATH TO LEAST RESISTENCE
I thought this was a great description of what a *REAL* Alpha woman was for so many decades before feminism on steroids took over. If you really look at the above description, it all boils down the reality that most Alpha women of the past were truly traditional feminine women who had men that allowed her to be the feminine woman she is by upholding their end of masculinity.
You still have many traditional women these days, but certainly not enough. As a result, this is forcing some of the more traditional Alpha type females to try and figure out where she stands in the sexual market place today with men. As Liza mentioned, the Alpha male today has also had some *re-designing* to fit more of a hyper-masculinized version of a man and therefore has been the type of man that most *lesser* women (beta/Omegas) seek for attention, affection and sexual pleasure.
These *lesser* women have morphed the true Alpha men into egotistical over sexed men who measure their Alphaness by the amounts of
women LESSER WOMEN he can bed. Of course in a society where most women are encouraged to be and act masculine then you have to even further increase the natural more balanced masculinity in men to extremes so that men can still feel like men. In normal societies where most women embrace their true feminine roles, men are not as encouraged or have the need to have overly extended extreme forms of hyper-masculinity to feel like men.
Basically, the minute the Alpha male starts entertaining the lesser female counterparts (b/c they are much easier to get sex from with very little pursuing and proving his worthiness to her), there will be trouble in paradise for his true Alpha female counterpart who refuses to lower herself as a person to what most Lesser (Beta/Omega) women feel are gains to getting to high status, good looking men –sex.
This has put real Alpha women in a serious bind b/c now the Alpha male doesn’t seek the woman on his level but rather chooses the path of least resistance in his women. It has always been proven (in my experience) that the least attractive women with LEAST to offer are the main women who will give up sex easily and put up with all kinds of disrespect and negative stuff from the men in their lives, b/c they feel this is the only value they have as women to keep men around and wanting her.
These lesser women, have figured out one thing – that men are easily bedded and that its quite easy these days to get the attention and affections of a high status good looking Alpha/higher Beta type male by appealing to the lowest most easiest way to gain a man’s attention – being, looking, acting slutty, promiscuous, and sexually available with not much cost associated on his part.
An Alpha woman would *NEVER* use her sexuality as the *SOLE* means for male attention and affection. And, if she does, she uses it a way that represents her most top quality feminine ideals and not the lowest of feminine wiles. Lesser women, however, do not think of it this way and are often seeking more masculine ways to get what they want from men and to compete with other more feminine women who would require a lot more from men.
THE OUTSOURCING & LOWERING THE BAR OF SEX/MATING TO THOSE WILLING TO ACCEPT LESS BY GIVING MORE
And this is the problem. There was a time when like dated/mated/married like. In those times couples and people were much happier, had more quality relationships and stayed together much longer as a result. People were much more stable b/c they were not with others much higher or lower than themselves in the SMP and in terms of values. Nowadays, you see so many people dating/mating with others way out of their leagues physically, emotionally etc., that it has become a free for all SMP for those lesser women and men who want to date UP and not on their level.
In order to do this successfully, the lesser men and women have to make themselves attractive and competitive to higher status men and women by LOWERING THE BAR. As with anything when there is an ample amount of lowering the bar, quality gets tossed aside and it becomes a matter of who can provide the quickest easiest way for a means to an end to the High status beneficiary.
Think about it in terms of how western society has taken a hit in the workforce with companies outsourcing work overseas in third world countries or paying lower wages to immigrants who are more than happy to take what they can get to live and survive.
This pushes the quality workers out of the market b/c they would demand higher wages for their expertise, experience and quality as a worker. As a result, we as Americans have to have business conversations/transactions over the phone with people who we can barely understand and who barely speak English.
The SMP today is no different. Quality has all but been tossed out the window and as a result the lowering of the SMV of women has taken over. If you are not some floosy willing to be apart of a man’s booty buffet or harem, you are most likely not winning in the SMP!
ALPHA FEMALES & BETA MALES LOSE;
HYPERGAMOUS LESSER (BETA/OMEGA) WOMEN & ALPHA MALES WIN!
SO, now you have very high status attractive traditional Alpha females, who are competing for Alpha Males with lesser women (Beta/Omega women). Women, who may not be as physically attractive, as emotionally stable, well put together, and who lack any kinds of substance or sexual standards.
B/C the real Alpha female refuses to lower her standards as a woman to get male attention, time and affections, as a result she is either left to going at it alone until she finds her Alpha male counterpart (not the over hyper-masculinized version these days IOW’s a rare breed) or these women are left to mating/dating with Beta males who are not her equal and as a result causes relationship friction over the long term. In many cases opposites may attract, but usually don’t stick together for longer quality relationships.
When true Alpha females are left to being with their complete opposite (the Beta Male) issues such as: boredom, infidelity, dissatisfaction arises. As a result, the Alpha female then turns into an emasculating iron fist she-male in a dress b/c she has to due to her Beta man’s inability to step up and be that Alpha male she needs/desires to allow her to fall back into her role as a feminine woman who knows her male counterpart has things under control. Beta males are not usually very dominant or assertive in the relationship arena and this can be very frustrating to an Alpha female.
Also, on the flip side, the Beta male becomes resentful of women, b/c the only women he can get are these “lonely” Alpha women who will eat him alive and constantly be on his case b/c he is not “manning up”.
Instead of the Beta male being able to get the Beta women who are his equal in terms of personality and attractiveness (b/c these women are offering themselves up by any means necessary to the higher status Alpha males) he too, is also stuck in a bind and has to be with a woman way off his level who he will not be happy with.
So it’s a lose-lose for the true Alpha female and Beta male b/c their counterparts are lowering the bar and adjusting to get the easy sex and romance that come with high status men courting and taking up with lower status hypergamous women.
THE BAR FOR FEMALE ATTRACTIVENESS HAS BEEN LOWERED
There was a time when women were only seen attractive if they kept themselves in shape, had a feminine demeanor, thought highly of herself and had a certain amount of chaste (i.e. kept her legs closed until the right man came along). Nowadays? Hmph! A woman doesn’t have to be or do much to be seen as “hawt”, “attractive”. She can be a slut, out of shape with a boatload of
magazine subscriptions ISSUES and she will be considered attractive if she is easy or combs her hair.
Not sure that there are many truly beautiful women left anymore, so I will stick with terms hot and attractive. Now do not get me wrong. I was once a woman who allowed myself to fall on the side of not keeping myself looking attractive after I gained a significant amount of weight. But even then, I was being told how “beautiful” I was and how “any man would be lucky to have me”. YET, I was not in my most optimal physical shape as a woman. So how could this be that people still felt I had what it took to get a man? Oooh, they forgot to mention that it would be a man of lower value/status!! Ok got it!
B/C really that is what it boils down to. I chose no man b/c deep down I knew I would rather be alone than settle for a lower/status or lower value man who would be content with me being out of shape and overweight and unhealthy. I would never feel comfortable as a woman with a higher status man not at my best b/c of the competition.
High value males do NOT want unattractive unhealthy looking or obese women. They pride themselves on being with good looking attractive women. But I *can* attest to the fact that these men *WILL* and often do sleep around with such lower status women. I experienced many *offers* even at my worse physically from attractive males that no one would ever believe would have spit on me if I were on fire let alone made a sexual offer to.
As a result, women don’t feel they need to do much physically to look their best. We also live in a society where women are encouraged to have the most Unsettling most unattractive non pleasing personalities and traits and will still have men wanting to be with her, marry her and have sex with her.
As a result, the more pleasant, happy women are often left out and considered “UPTIGHT, PRUDISH, BORING” and lose out in the SMP. This is not to say that an attractive shapely woman is still not considered the Cream of the Crop, but the fact is with very little women fitting this profile, this type of woman is off most people’s radars, and therefore demands for women to fit this profile are low. When she does enter into the SMP, she will find she is not JUST competing with her equal female counterparts, but also, lesser women on the attractiveness scale, emotional stability scale, sexual standards scale etc.
When the bar is lowered for women to simply lose all of the wonderful positive traits that comes with being a beautiful feminine woman, you will have very little incentive for women in general to strive for greatness in terms of their physical appearance, health and personalities.
THE MEASUREMENT FOR MANHOOD HAS BEEN SHORTENED
You fellas didn’t think I was going to let you off the hook now did ya? Yep, just as the bar has been lowered for female attractiveness, the measuring rod for masculinity and manhood in males has also been shortened. IOW’s the wrong types of “men” are given kudos or being “men”.
Truly masculine high status males (rare) are often as well off the radar and therefore a new kind of masculinity has been replacing the original true forms. Overly masculine/macho males who believe the amount of women they can bed, slap around, and disrespect and treat like garbage determines their manhood.
Women LESSER WOMEN today are rewarding the most unscrupulous of men b/c they have a really warped sense of what a *REAL MAN* is. Lesser women have lowered the bar for manhood b/c real Alpha women would demand better treatment and more balanced versions of manhood.
“Real men” today are men who are just super aggressive without a cause. Just walking around doing the most extreme things ever that would make him seem more like (but not necessarily) a man. Extreme things like Bedding lots of women, using sex as a measuring stick for his manhood, being overly aggressive, rude, violent, disrespectful. Having nothing really going for himself other than his penis, muscles and ability to talk and act like a PIMP in regular clothes.
As a result, the real masculine men are often given the titles of “BETA” b/c they choose a more balanced approach to their sexuality and how they interact with women. IMO a lot of “Beta” males are falsely labeled these days as Betas when they are really Alphas. But b/c they lack the need or desire to walk around like some Bravado on steroids looking to sexually slay every woman that comes within his path with open
arms LEGS, then somehow that makes him *less* of a man?
WE’VE GOT A LOT OF WORK TO DO FOLKS
I’m going to end this novel by saying there is much work to be done between men and women and regaining our rightful place back into our desired genders roles. The scales have been off balance for quite some time and I don’t know how long it will be before they become balanced again. I may not live to see or experience the rewards of things going back to normal but I am still hoping for future generations of quality and traditional and feminine women that things change.
At any rate there will be a lot of Alpha type women going at it alone, a lot of Beta males settling while the lesser beta/omega woman and Alpha males continue to screw up the SMP b/c it’s become so easy for them to demand nothing from the opposite gender that would require QUALITY and/or VALUE.
Ah, such is life!