What’s more exciting than taking a cup of milk and adding chocolate? MMMMM
Taking a dark cup of coffee and adding Vanilla Creamer and lots of sugar? MMMMMM
Taking a plain soft white marshmallow and cooking it over an open fire to make it dark and crisp on the outside and soft, white mushy on the inside? MMMMM
Taking vanilla and chocolate yogurt/ice cream and making a cute little swirl cone? MMMMM
Having an Oreo Cookie with creamy white filling? MMMMMM
Wearing nice Black slacks with a crisp White shirt? Mmmmm *wait not mmmm* but OOOOOOOH!
Ok ok! Yes folks we are talking about swirling, the Black and White edition. Our little NEECY NEST Nestle chocolate Bunny Liza loves adding milk to her powder. And so do a lot of other chocolate bunnies out there in the global village. YES Black women who love ole’ WHITEY. (lol)
Its very unusual to hear of a Black women openly admitting to liking men of other races. Often times we are ridiculed or made to feel we have psychological issues if we find blue eyes or white skin attractive.
Members of the SISTER SOLDIER MILITIA, SOUL PATROL, and ABC (ACTING BLACK CREW) seek to commit us to the crazy ward for our eye candy admissions to all things and people without color. But Liza, in all her bravery has decided to dispel the myths that Black women are not attracted to the colorless men of the world (hey I mean that in a loving way!).
Take it away LIZA!!!
Swirling: White men and Black women—so what has been going on with us?
This is my first guest post here at the Nest and I want to start with a subject near and dear to my heart: Swirling (interracial relationships between black and white people).
Where did my love for swirling originate? Well, I think it was the first time I saw Elvis in ‘Jailhouse Rock’ (my parents were big fans) when I was six. I was mesmerized and electrified; watching him move those hips, the sideburns, the hair and that he did with his top lip. I thought he was beautiful. I think he may have been my first celebrity crush. Therefore, it was sad when my parents told me that he had died when I was two. Elvis, dead or alive–this white man had definitely left an impression on this little black girl. And as I got older there were other white guy heartthrobs that made my heart melt; And since I was raised in a household and family that didn’t seek to discourage this interest it simply flourished from childhood, my teens and right into womanhood.
I remember in my teens crushing on Jason Priestley (Brandon on 90210) who made me weak in the knees with his piercing blue eyes that lit when he smiled and that Luke Perry (Dylan also on 90210) made me weak too as the bruiting badboy (god, those side-burns). What teenage girl could resist him? I could not choose I wanted them both. In addition, there was Mark-Paul Gosselaar (Zack from ‘Saved by the Bell’). His preppy hotness and cool demeanor had me dreaming of matting up his very neatly styled frosted head of hair (if you know what I am talking about) Also, what white teenage boy did not think Lisa (and Mark-Paul real-life ex-girlfriend) was a little hottie (Lark Voorhies)? (I think I might have been crushing on her myself). Anyway, I know I was not the only black teenage girl who thought these guys were absolutely dreamy. I will say this, any black girl who grew up watching (and there were a lot) these shows and she was not crushing on these guys–was not from this planet and was probably an alien being.
I know that the relationship between African American women and American white men have been fraught with issues from the beginning; slavery and miscegenation and then later on The Black Power Movement–it has been a very bumpy ride through history between us. It seemed at times, there were many forces that have always made it very difficult for us to get together (like the “Black Community” and the United States of America). One has to wonder what makes America so uneasy about us wanting to get our swirl on. The miscegenation law was passed in 1863, only two years before slavery ended to segregate races at the level of marriage and intimate relationships (Pssst some believed that this law was created specifically to keep white men and black women from getting our swirl on– they really were not that concerned with the other race combinations). It was said that, white men and black women were still able to find ways of getting around miscegenation at the time.
White men should understand that the “Black Community” has indoctrinated African American women at an early age to believe that men of other races did not and would not find them attractive, especially, white men. (Note: Black women and white men were getting married and dating in states that were Anti- miscegenation, until the Loving vs. Virginia ended miscegenation in all states in 1967). This insanity started in the late 60’s during Black Power Movement (you know, “the man is trying to keep us down” and “fight the power”). Black women were often told that white men were the enemy, that he is only interested in black women for sex, and that he will never marry you or take you home to meet his family. Moreover, my favorite is when black men up bring what happened between black women and white men during slavery, almost 150 years ago. I suspect that most black people had very little knowledge of what went on during slavery before viewing the mini-series “Roots”. Most African American women cannot openly display an interest in a white guy in the presence of other black people without being ridiculed. These brainwashing tactics were used for decades and are still being employed today in an attempt to keep black women shackled (pun intended) to the “Black Community” and black men.
I know most American white men have seen TV talk shows (Ricki Lake, Jenny Jones, Jerry Springer and so on) where black women are shouting from the rooftops that they do not and will not “date or sex a white boy!”
There are two things motivating this insane behavior:
1. She believes without a doubt that black men are her only option, so she is desperate to let them know that they are the only men she cares about (even though there are black men sitting on the same stage declaring their love for nonblack women only) because whom else will want or love her. That is what she has been told her entire life.
2. After being told from birth that white men will never be interested in her romantically, she has developed a great deal of resentment towards white men and a lot of distrust because she believes that there is nothing there for her. Nevertheless, trust me if a white guy hottie ever showed any genuine interest in her, she would drop the façade faster than you can say, “Brad Pitt”.
However, African American women are coming out of the matrix and the brainwashing tactics are coming less affective. Moreover, they are exploring their dating options more than ever. The media has gotten hip to this as well and there are TV shows, commercials, print ads, and movies featuring WM/BW couples a lot these days as regular normal couples. Therefore, the next time you see a black woman that catches your fancy do not hesitate–you may be surprised at how receptive she may be.