YES I’ll have a lot of cream and sugar with my coffee. Thank you!

What’s more exciting than taking a cup of milk and adding chocolate? MMMMM

 

Taking a dark cup of coffee and adding Vanilla Creamer and lots of sugar? MMMMMM

 

Taking a plain soft white marshmallow  and cooking it over an open fire to make it dark and crisp on the outside and soft, white mushy on the inside? MMMMM

Taking vanilla and chocolate yogurt/ice cream and making a cute little swirl cone? MMMMM

 

Having an Oreo Cookie with creamy white filling? MMMMMM

 

Wearing nice Black slacks with a crisp White shirt? Mmmmm *wait not mmmm* but  OOOOOOOH!

 

Ok ok! Yes folks we are talking about swirling, the  Black and White edition. Our little NEECY NEST Nestle chocolate Bunny Liza loves adding milk to her powder. And so do a lot of other chocolate bunnies out there in the global village. YES Black women who love  ole’ WHITEY. (lol) 

 

Its very unusual to hear of a Black women openly admitting to liking men of other races. Often times we are ridiculed or made to feel we have psychological issues if we find blue eyes or white skin attractive.  

Members of the SISTER SOLDIER MILITIA, SOUL PATROL, and ABC  (ACTING BLACK CREW)  seek to commit us to the crazy ward for our eye candy admissions to all  things and people without  color. But Liza, in all her bravery has decided to dispel the myths that Black women are not attracted to the colorless men of the world (hey I mean that in a loving way!).

 

Take it away LIZA!!!

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Swirling: White men and Black women—so what has been going on with us?

 

This is my first guest post here at the Nest and I want to start with a subject near and dear to my heart: Swirling (interracial relationships between black and white people). 

 

Where did my love for swirling originate? Well, I think it was the first time I saw Elvis in ‘Jailhouse Rock’ (my parents were big fans) when I was six.  I was mesmerized and electrified; watching him move those hips, the sideburns, the hair and that he did with his top lip. I thought he was beautiful. I think he may have been my first celebrity crush.  Therefore, it was sad when my parents told me that he had died when I was two.  Elvis, dead or alive–this white man had definitely left an impression on this little black girl. And as I got older there were other white guy heartthrobs that made my heart melt; And since I was raised in a household and family that didn’t seek to discourage this interest it simply flourished from childhood, my teens and right into womanhood. 

 

I remember in my teens crushing on Jason Priestley (Brandon on 90210) who made me weak in the knees with his piercing blue eyes that lit when he smiled and that Luke Perry (Dylan also on 90210) made me weak too as the bruiting badboy (god, those side-burns).  What teenage girl could resist him?  I could not choose I wanted them both.  In addition, there was Mark-Paul Gosselaar (Zack from ‘Saved by the Bell’).  His preppy hotness and cool demeanor had me dreaming of matting up his very neatly styled frosted head of hair (if you know what I am talking about) Also, what white teenage boy did not think Lisa (and Mark-Paul real-life ex-girlfriend) was a little hottie (Lark Voorhies)?  (I think I might have been crushing on her myself). Anyway, I know I was not the only black teenage girl who thought these guys were absolutely dreamy. I will say this, any black girl who grew up watching (and there were a lot) these shows and she was not crushing on these guys–was not from this planet and was probably an alien being.

 

I know that the relationship between African American women and American white men have been fraught with issues from the beginning; slavery and miscegenation and then later on The Black Power Movement–it has been a very bumpy ride through history between us.  It seemed at times, there were many forces that have always made it very difficult for us to get together (like the “Black Community” and the United States of America).   One has to wonder what makes America so uneasy about us wanting to get our swirl on.  The miscegenation law was passed in 1863, only two years before slavery ended to segregate races at the level of marriage and intimate relationships (Pssst some believed that this law was created specifically to keep white men and black women from getting our swirl on– they really were not that concerned with the other race combinations).  It was said that, white men and black women were still able to find ways of getting around miscegenation at the time. 

 

White men should understand that the “Black Community” has indoctrinated African American women at an early age to believe that men of other races did not and would not find them attractive, especially, white men. (Note: Black women and white men were getting married and dating in states that were Anti- miscegenation, until the Loving vs. Virginia ended miscegenation in all states in 1967). This insanity started in the late 60’s during Black Power Movement (you know, “the man is trying to keep us down” and “fight the power”).  Black women were often told that white men were the enemy, that he is only interested in black women for sex, and that he will never marry you or take you home to meet his family. Moreover, my favorite is when black men up bring what happened between black women and white men during slavery, almost 150 years ago.   I suspect that most black people had very little knowledge of what went on during slavery before viewing the mini-series “Roots”. Most African American women cannot openly display an interest in a white guy in the presence of other black people without being ridiculed. These brainwashing tactics were used for decades and are still being employed today in an attempt to keep black women shackled (pun intended) to the “Black Community” and black men.

 

I know most American white men have seen TV talk shows (Ricki Lake, Jenny Jones, Jerry Springer and so on) where black women are shouting from the rooftops that they do not and will not “date or sex a white boy!” 

 

There are two things motivating this insane behavior:

 

1. She believes without a doubt that black men are her only option, so she is desperate to let them know that they are the only men she cares about (even though there are black men sitting on the same stage declaring their love for nonblack women only) because whom else will want or love her.  That is what she has been told her entire life.

 

2. After being told from birth that white men will never be interested in her romantically, she has developed a great deal of resentment towards white men and a lot of distrust because she believes that there is nothing there for her. Nevertheless, trust me if a white guy hottie ever showed any genuine interest in her, she would drop the façade faster than you can say, “Brad Pitt”.

 

However, African American women are coming out of the matrix and the brainwashing tactics are coming less affective.  Moreover, they are exploring their dating options more than ever. The media has gotten hip to this as well and there are TV shows, commercials, print ads, and movies featuring WM/BW couples a lot these days as regular normal couples.  Therefore, the next time you see a black woman that catches your fancy do not hesitate–you may be surprised at how receptive she may be.

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  1. Neecy
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 10:56:36

    Liza a post like this is looong overdue! It’s important for Black women to start living for themselves and not other Black people.

    Growing up, my first crushes were White guys as well. My first crush was Ricky Schroeder of Silver Spoons. OH GAWD I was in love with him. (lol I am showing my age now). I remember visiting some family on the east coast around that time and saying how much I loved Ricky and they were making fun of me and asking me why I didn’t like his Black friend (Alfonso Ribera). They would call me “white girl” and make fun of me. It got to a point where I started feeling funny and guilty.

    My crushes on White guys were fine up until I moved away from Marin County (a very White suburb in Northern Cali) and with my dad to a more diverse area in Los Angeles. Then I started being threatened b/c I was acting “too White”. If I made a comment about a White guy I had a crush on in school or TV, I would be called names and ridiculed. I even remember BLACK PARENTS asking me why I liked White boys and that I should be proud of my heritage and only like Black guys. My stepmother also brainwashed me too. She would tell me stories about how White men use Black women for sex and all about slavery etc. After while it did take a toll on me and I downplayed my attraction to White guys for awhile. A lot of Black women do this throughout their lives.

    Black women from early childhood are INDOCTRINATED to only see Black men as their viable options as well as only seeing Black men as attractive men. B/C Black men are also hyper-masculinized socially, Black women are told that *real men* act like this. That is why so many Black women put up with less than pleasant behavior from Black men.

    And the whole slavery thing is the MAIN thing used to keep Black women from liking White men. Ironically, while Black men were hung for White women who screamed rape during those times, they don’t seem to hold any grudges and still date White women. YET, they still encourage and tell Black women to hold grudges against White men? Hmmm, sounds fishy to me.

    Also, Black women are made to feel sorry for Black men b/c of racism and often are told that dating White men is “supporting and sleeping with the enemy”. So Black women do and say all kinds of negative things about IR’s with White men to somehow prove they are not inflicted with WHITE FEVER and will get a pat on the head for saying she only finds Black men attractive.

    I have more to add later on. But this is just a start to a lot of what I have to say on this issue.

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    • Liza207
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 14:04:37

      And the whole slavery thing is the MAIN thing used to keep Black women from liking White men. Ironically, while Black men were hung for White women who screamed rape during those times, they don’t seem to hold any grudges and still date White women. YET, they still encourage and tell Black women to hold grudges against White men? Hmmm, sounds fishy to me.

      To me, this is the most annoying of all. Don’t you just love the selective amnesia they have. What was the difference here? We both got used and abused equally during slavery but somehow it was different for them. Really?

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      • Neecy
        Oct 13, 2011 @ 18:38:13

        Yeah Liza its nuts! I remember I used to frequent a Black website that was constantly obsessed with Black women and White men IR’s and putting them down. If a Black woman even mentioned that a White guy was hot OMG it was like vulchers would attack her.

        I’ll never forget one time in one thread about IR’s with Black women and White men some Black guy started posting pics of Black men being hung during slavery. It was horrible. He did that to break up the momentum of the post in which many Black women were saying how they would and should consider dating White men. When the hater’s petty arguments against it failed they resorted to posting gruesome pictures of Black men being hung and with White men standing around.

        So you know me. I called their asses out b/c the Black women were getting upset with the photos. i said “That’s funny that you Black men were hung for White women saying you raped them. But funny how this hasn’t stopped you Black men from dating and marrying and going after them”. Better believe they didn’t have a comeback and all the Black women were like “YEAH! What about that why is it that Black men want us to feel bad for dating White men b/c of what they did during slavery and Jim Crowe, yet this hasn’t stopped Black men from feeling bad about being with White women who were the CAUSE of them being hung”.

        Needless to say they never went there again. but this is the sickness that happens when Black women start expressing an interest for White men. SICK.

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        • Liza207
          Oct 14, 2011 @ 07:43:55

          They actually resorted to posting pictures of bm that were hung during slavery. Yes, that’s there number one tactic. I like how you reminded them of why some of them were being hung. Absolutely ridiculous.

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  2. Liza207
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 11:41:41

    “Growing up, my first crushes were White guys as well. My first crush was Ricky Schroeder of Silver Spoons. OH GAWD I was in love with him.”

    Neecy, I loved Silver Spoons too but I was actually crushing on Derek ( Justin Bateman). He was so bad and so cute I couldn’t resist.

    I believe most blacks girls first crushes were on white guys because a lot of us grew up watching TV and most of the actors on were white. If you ask most bm who their first crushes were they would most likely name some white chick , so why would it be impossible to believe that it wouldn’t be the same for bgs who were expose to the same thing.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 18:40:28

      I agree Liza (Yes Justin Bateman was a cutie but i don’;t remember him on that show for some reason) – maybe b/c i was so stuck on Ricky. LOL

      The fact is back then shows had very little diversity so many young Black kids (both boys and girls) always had crushes on White girls and WHite guys b/c that is who we saw on TV all of the time.

      Also, I wanted to look Like Linda Carter who was Wonder Woman. LOL. i remember asking my mom why i didn’t look like her. lol

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      • Liza207
        Oct 14, 2011 @ 07:51:41

        His name is actually, Jason Bateman. He was the Rickster’s fremeny. I actually forgot that Alfonso Rebeiro with on the show.

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  3. Liza207
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 12:03:43

    “Then I started being threatened b/c I was acting “too White”. If I made a comment about a White guy I had a crush on in school or TV, I would be called names and ridiculed. I rememer being ridicule in this way as well and I grew in NYC. Like I said, I grew in a household and family (Caribbean) that didn’t see what the big deal was. It appears to me that non-American blacks have a more laxed view of interracial relations from my observation. Where as African-Americans due to their history (slavery) in this country have a more nuanced view and it is very understandable. But when it comes to love and attraction it is just ridiculous, in my opinion, to hold the past or even the present against a race of people when you are attracted them.

    By the way, slavery existed in the Caribbean as well.

    “I even remember BLACK PARENTS asking me why I liked White boys and that I should be proud of my heritage and only like Black guys. ”

    The thing that gets me about statements like this is that they are always only being said to bgs and bw. No one in the “BC” ever says this to bbs and bm. And what does being attracted to someone of another race have to do with you being proud of your heritage? Pure ignorance and fear prompts these kinds moronic statements.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 18:50:09

      Yes Liza that is the problem. Only Black women are harassed and expected to “be proud of their heritage” and show their loyalty as such by only finding Black men attractive or date worthy. YET, Black men are never expected to only see Black women as attractive. In fact, Non Black women are much more embraced in Black communities than Non-Black males who receive a lot of hate.

      The Black community is a male privileged community where women are expected to be the mules and men can get away with anything. that is why it’s important for Black women to wake up and stop allowing themselves to be brainwashed against their own best interest while Black men are free to date whomever they please.

      Black men leave behind their communities, women when they become successful and marry out the race. They rarely catch the kind of flack Black women would for doing such.

      Grown adults jumping on a child b/c they said they had a crush on a White boy is sick. And that is what some of my Black friends parents did when i would be at their houses and I said I liked so and so who was White. I will never forget my mother went to one girls house to speak with her parents b/c I came home crying b/c they lectured me about my “liking” of a White boy at school. My mom was *NOT* happy and told them to mind their business. LOL

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      • Liza207
        Oct 14, 2011 @ 08:10:47

        The Black community is a male privileged community where women are expected to be the mules and men can get away with anything. that is why it’s important for Black women to wake up and stop allowing themselves to be brainwashed against their own best interest while Black men are free to date whomever they please.

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        Yes, black males are very privileged in the black community. They get away with most heinous behavior. I am just amazed at times and there is absolutely no accountability for anything they do wrong. They can have kids of wedlock and not have to pay child support or marry the mother of the child. They can be criminals and still get respect from others. They can abuse and assault black women and children and never spend a day in prison because the community will always protect them and demonize their victims. In addition, of course, date and marry any race of woman they choose and become successful leave the community and no one ever expect them to give back. However, with black women they want to control every aspect of our lives.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 14, 2011 @ 12:03:21

          Yep. But its good that more Black women are opening their eyes, tossing their Black cards and going thier own ways.

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  4. MK
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 12:05:51

    Look at Neecy trying to set up her own harem of white boy blog commenters..

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    • Firepower
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 12:49:23

      if she wants to drink her coffee with all that sugar and cream I’m fine with it as long as she jogs 7 miles a day

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      • Neecy
        Oct 13, 2011 @ 18:55:44

        I rarely drink coffee, but when I do have a cup, i go balls to the wall with cream and sugar. MMMM YUM YUM!!!

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        • bob
          Oct 13, 2011 @ 22:30:03

          “balls to the wall” is actually a defensive posture. You probably meant “pedal to the metal”, aka “flooring it”.

          Nobody expects the metaphor nazi! 😯 😈

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          • zorro
            Oct 13, 2011 @ 22:39:11

            I think you mean the Spanish Inquisition…

            …and you also mean “idiomatic speech Nazi.”

            Although since idiomatic speech is merely a metaphorical colloquialism…you could be right.

            Damned OCD.

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            • bob
              Oct 14, 2011 @ 15:36:20

              Actually, the fine points of what I said don’t matter, because my main point was totally wrong!

              I was thinking of quadropeds fighting; but the expression comes from steam engine or fighter plane lore:

              http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=balls+to+the+wall

              Either:

              term used by pilots. when accelerating quickly, the throttle is pushed all the way to the panel and the throttle lever (ball) actually touches the panel (wall). Hence, balls to the wall.

              or

              The phrase comes from olde-fashioned steam engines; basically, they had two weighted balls attached to a vertical shaft which was connected to the engine. As the engine speed increased, these two balls would be raised higher because of centrifugal force! At top speed, they would be parallel to the ground, nearly touching the “walls” of the shaft!

              I really should have looked this up first. 😳

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          • Neecy
            Oct 14, 2011 @ 12:08:53

            Alright BOB! Fork over the codes for those Emoticons (and any more fun ones you may know of)!!! This is a DEMAND 😀

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    • Neecy
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 18:54:26

      LOL @ me trying to have a harem of men. Actually that thought isn’t so bad….

      *As neecy drifts off into her own little harem fantasy — having one guy massaging the left leg/foot. Another guy massaging the right leg/foot. One massaging the right arm/hands, and other masssaging the left arm/hand, one massaging my temples, another feeding me PINEAPPLES – (holla Zorro), another giving me a back rub, and one bathing me*

      yeah i can picture that. Ok so whose up for being in neecy’s harem?? I don’t care what race you are as long as you have strong fingers and hands!! 😉

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  5. Liza207
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 12:11:54

    “Black women from early childhood are INDOCTRINATED to only see Black men as their viable options as well as only seeing Black men as attractive men. B/C Black men are also hyper-masculinized socially, Black women are told that *real men* act like this. That is why so many Black women put up with less than pleasant behavior from Black men.”
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    This is another Jedi mind trick used on bw to make sure that twe keep our standards low and accept shoddy treatment. Make us believe we have no other options and they can treat us anyway they please. It’s amazing how this has worked for on many bw for years.

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    • Firepower
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 12:55:32

      girl, i must say, you do look fine in those pics. a red bathing suit would look a bit sexier by accentuating your shape. TRUE Story: whenever i date black chicks and have to go to their hood and I get problems, I just say “i’m her parole officer” and *boom* its cool.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 13, 2011 @ 13:06:17

        That really made me laugh. Yep. This is the only acceptable reasons most BP will tolerate seeing a BW with a WM in or out of the hood.

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      • bob
        Oct 13, 2011 @ 13:33:26

        Oh gawd, I had a Black girlfriend who had this red one-piece. I told her if she wore that in public, she was on her own – I bore no responsibility for the consequences. She was ON FIRE in that thing.

        Oddly enough, she never got out of the room in that thing – something always “came up”……

        Oh, to be young again.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 13, 2011 @ 19:05:31

          *taking notes for future reference for hot nights with my future Schnookums somewhere out in the Universe*

          – Red One piece
          – Parole Officer uniform
          – hand cuffs.

          Oh boy i am getting lotsa great idears!!

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      • Neecy
        Oct 13, 2011 @ 19:03:02

        OMG FP and LIZA. Too hilarious!! Parole Officer? Now that is some fun role play right there. 😉

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    • Neecy
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 19:01:41

      Yep! That is why there is a big fear of Black women crossing the color lines. B/C then that means Black men would be competing with other races of men for Black women which would likely mean he’d have to come with more than just his teeth and a penis to get a Black woman. When the dating pool is widened for Black women, that means more options and choices and less needing to settle and deal with Black mens BS. its certainly a motive and reason why Black women are brainwashed to stay with Black men.

      Also that is why the media also seeks to keep the image of Black women as negative and asexual as possible. They don’t want us creeping in there trying to be with their men either. LOL

      Its sad the lengths people go to, to keep Black women and WHite men from dating.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 14, 2011 @ 08:46:13

        Also that is why the media also seeks to keep the image of Black women as negative and asexual as possible. They don’t want us creeping in there trying to be with their men either. LOL

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        It ready gets under people’s skin to see BW/WM couplings. I believe miscegenation was started because the female slaves and the white males were falling love in some cases and that they might want to get married once slavery was abolished. The fear was that if a wealthy white man a form slave woman–the children they sire would be considered black due to the ‘one-drip rule’ and they would inherit his wealth and his wealth end up in the black community.

        Today, I notice how white families are happy to have their daughters marry financially successful black males because they know that his wealth will eventually end up supporting their communities.

        As I said, in my post white men and black women found ways to get around the miscegenation law. They would live in separate homes that were located adjacent to each other and that were how they were able to have romantic relationships without being caught.

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  6. Firepower
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 12:27:36

    neeecy

    Taking a dark cup of coffee and adding Vanilla Creamer and lots of sugar? MMMMMM

    you black girls are DISGRACEFUL! you’ll only get hated on for stealing those kinds of white guys from white gays. girl, step away from that bratwurst

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  7. Zorro
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 13:07:56

    You realize there is a huge sector of the romance novel market dedicated to BWWM? I’ve read a couple scorchers. One of my guilty pleasures.

    That and my Vanessa Williams screensaver.

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    • bob
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 13:29:21

      I just discovered that over the weekend, while looking for a book by one of the BW IR bloggers.

      If you search for:

      bwwm romance

      on amazon, it brings up 296 results.

      There is a least one series, entitled “indigo love spectrum” that by itself brings up 62 entries.

      The BW may not be talking about it a lot, but they sure are reading and fantasizing about it.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 13, 2011 @ 13:40:55

        Up to 296 results on Amazon. I’m not surpised. LOL!

        “The BW may not be talking about it a lot, but they sure are reading and fantasizing about it.”

        Yes. That is our number fantasy and do talk about it but we do it online. There a lot BW IR blogs dedicated to the subject.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 13, 2011 @ 19:24:32

          yes Liza,

          Seems like the Black women are using the internet and its anonymity to express their real true desires. i was on another board one day and the Black women were saying how at ease they felt being able to say what they desired without being ridiculed, made fun of, called psychologically messed up etc. That is why so many BW IR’s exist. So Black women can have a firendly place to talk about what they like about other races.

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          • Liza207
            Oct 14, 2011 @ 08:30:53

            Those blogs are great for bw who are interested in dating interracially but need some encouragement and support. But it is sad we are in the 21 century and there are bw who are still afraid to openly express interest in men of other races.

            I believe once bw let go of the need to please the already dead black community and toss their black cards and just start living for number one– everyone will just have to deal with it.

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            • Neecy
              Oct 16, 2011 @ 19:50:30

              Yep. its going to be a sad day for those who have spent a lifetime using Black women without giving anything back, once Black women start smartening up and looking out for numero uno first.

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      • zorro
        Oct 13, 2011 @ 16:21:49

        Yeah! Indigo was the line I got into.

        I can’t remember the title, but the book I read ended with a 47-page BANG!!!

        They. Did. Everything!

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    • Neecy
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 19:08:18

      Yes! I know Robin who is quite an active member of IR forums does IR novels. But I have yet to read one. She is also married to a White guy.

      I need to pick a few up. The last thing i need is anything that will make me hornier at this juncture. LOL

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  8. Liza207
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 13:28:24

    Yes, I know that there is huge market that caters to those interested in reading interracial romance novels and erotic literature. They are very popular now but I have to admit that the last time I read an IR romance novel I was 12.

    I think I will have to go to Amazon.com and see what I’ll find now.

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  9. bob
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 14:31:37

    I keep seeing Your comment is awaiting moderation. on some but not all of my comments. Does including hyperlinks and/or website addresses cause this?

    If this comment shows up at approx 16:31 CDT then the answer is probably yes.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 19:09:07

      Bob, yes for some reason when anyone posts more than one link it goes to moderation. Sowwy. i don;t know how to fix that…

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  10. bob
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 14:33:50

    OK. Testing a comment with website addresses but not hyperlinked (at least not by me using html).

    http://interracialintersection.com/can-white-men-sexually-satisfy-black/

    16:34 CDT

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  11. bob
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 14:33:59

    Aha!

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  12. bob
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 14:42:42

    (OK, Neecy, if you see this you can delete/ignore my others that say the same, but got stuck in “awaiting moderation” because I used HTML.)

    “Its very unusual to hear of a Black women openly admitting to liking men of other races.”

    Maybe not so much anymore. More BW are now openly declaring that they are open to non-Black men and are having good experiences if they vet the man – which should apply in any case.

    They are also actively fighting the brainwashing efforts of those who would dissuade BW from being open to non-Black men.

    http://www.blackfemaleinterracialmarriage.com/

    http://sojournerspassport.com/

    http://dateawhiteguy.blogspot.com/

    and one of my favorites:

    http://interracialintersection.com/

    That last has my all time favorite BW IR Blog post:

    http://interracialintersection.com/can-white-men-sexually-satisfy-black/

    The enthusiasm in the answers to that last one is tremendous.

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    • Liza207
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 18:26:46

      I frequent those blogs quite a bit and they are very insightful.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 13, 2011 @ 19:30:25

      Bob yes both Liza and i met at those blog sites last year!! I love Velours site and halimas site. Once I figure out how to add links on my sidebar (lol i’m such a numbnut) i am going to have a blogroll of my fav’s.

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  13. bob
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 14:43:51

    wordpress strikes again. If you use to many links, even without HTML, it “awaits moderation”.

    I HATE wordpress.

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  14. bob
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 14:45:59

    Wearing nice Black slacks with a crisp White shirt? Mmmmm *wait not mmmm* but OOOOOOOH!

    For the black ladies, may I suggest the white slacks? Just saying. 😉 😉 😉

    I need an emoticon for drooling.

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  15. Neecy
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 20:14:00

    Also Liza do you remember that study that was done on marriages and it found that WM/BW marriages lasted the longest of all marriage unions – including WW/WM, BM/BW, BM/WW etc.? I wish I could find that study i can’t remember whose site it was on but I thought that was interesting that when Black women and WHite men do marry their marriages tend to last the longest of all unions – inlcuding same race ones.

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    • Liza207
      Oct 14, 2011 @ 08:22:22

      I believe that BW/WM marriages last longer because when we get together it’s usually not superficial reasons and our values, morals and briefs tend to be well aligned.

      I’m still looking for the stats on interracial marriages.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 14, 2011 @ 12:07:21

        I think the stat it was on Evia’s site. I’m going to look it up over the weekend. It was like the marriage family counsel or something like that.

        Exactly. i think that WM/BW do not get together often as BM/WW but when we do, we tend to stay together the longest b/c the relationship are not based on more superficial stereotypes etc. We typically have more quality relationships as a result.

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  16. n/a
    Oct 13, 2011 @ 23:10:52

    Liza and Neecy stoking the already out-of-control jungle fever flames at The Nest, huh?

    Very hot. I like it.–

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  17. Liza207
    Oct 14, 2011 @ 08:49:44

    Oh I see, that’s why you guys are here. It’s jungle fever. Yep. I knew that was it. 😀

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  18. MW
    Oct 14, 2011 @ 12:21:41

    Neecy, this guy agrees with you:

    Words fail me.

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  19. MW
    Oct 14, 2011 @ 12:23:49

    I saw a Chinese man with a black wife not so long ago. I wonder how long they’d survive down south? I’m guessing the shaming would be unbearable.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 14, 2011 @ 12:35:51

      Hmmm it is very rare to see bw/am couplings. I think the easiest interracial couplings may be wm/bw b/c we have more in common culturally than we would with men of other races and cultures.

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    • Firepower
      Oct 15, 2011 @ 11:38:43

      Quit with the PC bullshit “dems raid-necks in da Sowfff!” meme.


      You want REAL RACISM? Go to the streets of Detroit or Philly.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 16, 2011 @ 19:53:12

        Uhm, I think he was talking about the Black people in the South FP.

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        • Firepower
          Oct 17, 2011 @ 09:28:34

          yah, i know. in the south, black folk are traditionally in the news for lynching chinese and burning fortune cookies on their front lawns at nite.

          them blacks be craaaaaaaaazy

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  20. Liza207
    Oct 16, 2011 @ 12:47:01

    http://www.ncfr.org/

    “But Will It Last?”: Marital Instability Among Interracial and Same-Race Couples*

    The report said they “used 10 years as our primary exposure period [to examine] because the average duration of American marriages that end in divorce is 8 years.”

    1. “Racial differences in marriage, on the other hand, correspond to higher divorce rates but mostly in marriages where the White spouse is female.”

    2. “NH [non-hispanic] Black husband/White wife marriages were twice as likely to divorce as White/White couples, and NH Asian husband/ White wife couples were 59% more likely, according to Model II. Highlighting the role of gender in interracial dynamics, the reverse combinations actually showed a lower or similar risk of divorce.”

    3. “White husband/NH Black wife couples were 44% less likely to divorce than White/White couples,” and White husband/NH Asian wife couples were only 4% more likely to divorce by Year 10.

    4. “The current study examined the likelihood of divorce among interracial couples compared to same-race couples. We find that although interracial marriages overall are more vulnerable to divorce, this reflects the experience of some but not all couples. According to the adjusted models predicting divorce as of their 10th year of marriage, interracial marriages that are most vulnerable involve White females and non-White males (with the exception of White females/Hispanic White males) relative to White/White couples. Conversely, White men/ non-White women couples show either very little or no differences in divorce rates; or, as in the case of White men and Black women, are substantially less likely than White/White couples to divorce by their 10th year.”

    5. “Our data show that these marriages, specifically those involving Black men and White women, have the highest likelihood of disruption of any White/ non-White marriages.”

    6. “NH Black women and White men who choose to intermarry may be selective of an especially high degree of commitment to their relationship that reduces the potential for divorce.”

    In other words, bw who marry wm tend to be selective and we tend to select white men who can commit to a long term relationship; these men are serious about that commitment and the converse is also true, meaning that wm tend to select commitment-centric bw.

    7. “Interracial couples tend to be homogamous on education.”
    This means that their educational levels or skills, abilities, etc. tend to be the same or equivalent.

    8. “Whites, specifically White females, who intermarry tend to be less educated than those who marry other Whites.”

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    • Liza207
      Oct 16, 2011 @ 12:49:03

      I actually meant to post this instead.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 16, 2011 @ 19:58:09

      Kisses Liza thank you for finding this!!

      Yes, I think it shows that quality over quanity wins out in IR’s between BW/WM. We may not marry often or get together often but we tend to last the longest of most IR’s and even some monoracial relationships.

      Also, I do notice that when I see advertisements feat. BW/WM couplings are more upscale b/c they say usually upper middle class BW/WM get together and thus why we tend to be targetd for more upscale advertising.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 16, 2011 @ 21:35:42

      “Our data show that these marriages, specifically those involving Black men and White women, have the highest likelihood of disruption of any White/ non-White marriages.”……NH [non-hispanic] Black husband/White wife marriages were twice as likely to divorce as White/White couples, and NH Asian husband/ White wife couples were 59% more likely, according to Model II. Highlighting the role of gender in interracial dynamics, the reverse combinations actually showed a lower or similar risk of divorce.”

      I wonder why its more likely that WW IR’s tend to be most vulberable? Could it be that Western White women are more likely to file for divorce or what? I’m interested in why the dynamics are this way.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 17, 2011 @ 07:13:37

        It also says that the divorce rate between WW/WM are the same as WW in interracial marriages. It is the same with BM in their marriages to whomever they marry — their divorce rate is also very high.

        I’ll just said it, WW and BM are the two most egotistical, self-centered and arrogant groups in this country–it’s all about them. How can you enter into a marriage (partnership) when you think it’s all about you? How can that possibly work out in the long run?

        Another slightly off topic observation:

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  21. bob
    Oct 16, 2011 @ 15:18:02

    Liza207: Thanks for digging this up.

    When I search the NCFR site I can’t find it, but full text is available here:

    http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1741-3729.2008.00491.x/full

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  22. Mark Slater
    Oct 16, 2011 @ 22:16:21

    Let heaven and earth and all stars keep their silence…
    …Mark is about to write something.

    Neecy and Liza: You all seem quite serious about your willingness to lasso a White dude. Here is what you may bring forth…

    Daughter of radio host extraordinaire Shadoe Stevens

    I remember an interracial marriage study some years back. They listed the various possibilities with examples. They seemed to have trouble coming up with an example for BW/WM. I immediately thought of Tom and Helen Willis from “The Jeffersons”, but the surveyors went with David Bowie/Iman.

    I really must agree with Firepower. The South has always really taken a drubbing as it pertains to race relations. In fact (as been pointed out) it is usually the Yankee areas that has seen the most violent conflagrations. Among the most severe was the school desegregation/busing fiasco in and around Boston back in the 70s.

    I’d also like to mention my ancestral homeland of Louisiana went through the Civil Rights era with far less tension than other Southern states, thanks to the cool and level-headed leadership of Governor Jimmie “You Are My Sunshine” Davis. This is why you see films with titles like “Mississippi Burning” and never “Louisiana Burning”.

    Me? I guess I’ve always pictured myself with a white woman. But Cupid’s arrows strike where they will. If God has for me a lovely ___(fill in ethnic heritage)___woman for me to love and cherish, then I’ll praise His name!

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    • Neecy
      Oct 16, 2011 @ 22:41:13

      Hey mark!

      Yes Amber is quite gorgeous! I think she plays on the show “GREEK”?

      Anyway, I date and am open to all races, and like yourself I am open to being with a good man no matter his ethnicity or race etc. Just as long as we have cultural similarities (Westernized cultural similarities). I’m not sure if I could be with a Middle Eastern, Indian or Non American Asian unless they were more Americanized or Westernized in some way. I don’t think its race so much a problem as cultural differences are a big problem.

      Some people are not equippped to be in an IR and they should definitley avoid it. Some people think as long as they are attracted to a person of a diff race that they could be with them – not always true. I could never be with a man who showed or had discomfort about being with a Black woman. I’d flee that situaiton faster than lightening. Life is too short to be with anyone that cannot appreciate you.

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  23. MW
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 03:11:31

    At worst, one has to worry about the family’s reaction:

    http://www.thestar.com/article/671779 (sorry, I don’t know how to embed links).

    The practical realities of well nigh impossible cross-cultural understanding are often woefully underestimated. Overcoming centuries of mutual suspicion and cultural contempt is a very tall order. I shit you not: a former colleague was chased through farm fields by his fiance’s Punjabi brothers who were brandishing swords ready to kill the guy. All because he was a white guy who was intent on marrying their sister. Rad. But of course, my uni prof said that only “Whaht folks” are considered racist and ethnocentric.

    That said, when I and my buddy (both of melanin poor Northern European stock), are at the local Ethio restaurant, the Habesha godesses always turn heads. Sigh. And they can cook, too. And the Heineken is always ice cold……as it should be.

    Good topic Neecy.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 21:04:09

      Yeah MW some cultures are a bit crazy with the whole dating out. that is why I prefer to date men who are Westernized to some degree – and also Europeans.

      You said you were melanin Northern European – what do you mean?

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      • MW
        Oct 21, 2011 @ 07:06:19

        Melanin is the pigment that darkens human skin.. More melanin = darker. So melanin poor = pasty white northern Euros

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        • Neecy
          Oct 21, 2011 @ 07:13:32

          oooooh! lol thx I thought you were saying you were a darker complected Northern European, so I was like Hmm I don’t know any really dark complected N.E’s. What part of Europe are you from?

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  24. MW
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 03:14:33

    Addendum: 18 years later, colleague is still married to his Punjabi wife and they have two stunning mixed race daughters. As in ethereally beautiful. don’t ask me how it worked out, but so far it has.

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  25. Liza207
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 06:49:33

    Neecy and Bob you’re welcome!

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  26. Liza207
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 07:00:30

    I really can’t explain exactly why my preference is what it is. But I don’t subscribe to one race of men being better than the another. One of the things I dislike about the BWE blogs is their, what I see as kind of pedestalizing of a certain race of men. No, I don’t think white men are perfect or that they are better or more attractive than other races of men.

    I believe dating perferences are always best when you can’t explain why you have one.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 21:06:37

      Yeah Liza some of those BW IR blogs annoy the hell out of me. There are quite a bit of Black women with issues and they think dating other races of men will solve it. IR dating shouldbe left to Black women who can keep a level head about men.

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  27. Liza207
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 08:18:48

    Another slightly off topic observation: I keep hearing around the blogosphere and particularly in the manosphere that women have been pricing themselves up too high looks-wise in the current SMP. Well, the only women who I know have been doing that are mostly WW and some women from other groups but WW are the biggest perpetrators of this. Why? Well, if you are the group of women that have been put on a pedestal for centuries. In addition, are revered as the epitome of beauty and femininity throughout society; their images are everywhere you go you can’t get away from it –as the most beautiful and most desirable women on the planet. If I see another movie starring Sarah Jessica Parker playing a beautiful woman and being romanced by some hot guy I am going to scream (this is a part of the problem in my opinion). I don’t think it would be off-track for one to gather that after a while this treatment would start to go to one’s head, right.

    I mean, I am around WW all time coworkers and friends and it does not matter where they fall on the attractiveness scale: 1 to 10. The majority of them walk around as if they are god’s gift to men. I know a few WW who are 5’s and 6’s at best but they have the attitude that they are actually “hot” (and you cannot tell them that they are not) and they are not. Moreover, they all think they deserve the hottest of men even when we go out and men on their own level of attractiveness won’t even look in their direction–it does not matter.

    I know most of the men who are complaining about women overestimating their desirability in the SMP are WM who in my opinion have contributed the most of this, if not entirely. Therefore, when I hear them complaining I just think what did they expect would be the result of all their pedestalising. Please, don’t get me wrong I understand why it was done and that men should hold up the women of their group as desirable but when it has been done at the expense of other groups of women and those women are touted as “the best” or “the most” there will be consequences. Black women are also experiencing backlash as well for putting BM on a pedestal for decades now.

    People should earn being put on pedestals you should not be put on one just because you were born to a particular group or gender.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 21:14:11

      This is exactly what it boils down to Liza but i really can’t blame White women for the way they act. They get away with a lot b/c White men and others allow them to. So of course they will have an entitlement complex. its not their fault. White men put them there and now they (WM) are having to deal with the aftermath, just as Black women placing Black men on a pedestal are having to deal with the aftermath. Notice neither Black men or White women look out for their better halves or go out of their way to place BW or WM on a pedestal. i don’t get it, its stupid to continue to place people on pedestals when they haven’t done shit to deserve it or have not reciprocated.

      When a group has been placed on a pedestal simply for being who and what they are of course they will develop entitlement issues. And those who are the unfortunate beneficiaries of their entitlement complex (and who have helped them get it) start complaining.

      And you are right – the plainest Janest WW will be called hot or beautiful, while a Black women usually has to be drop dead gorgeous to get any beauty accolades.

      It’s a messed up system but I refuse to play a part in it. The same applies to Black men and how Black women overestimate their value as men simply b/c they are Black.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 18, 2011 @ 07:32:57

        No> I don’t blame them either for their entitlement issues. Zorro, was also right about it starting with their fathers but then they also have the whole planet reenforcing what their fathers started.

        It is almost the same thing with BM who have put them on a pedestal by their mothers and then the black community continues to reenforce them right in adulthood.

        Oh, my god. A white chick can be the plain as can be and she will be touted as hot. Half of the WW celebrities that white men are falling all over and praising as beautiful are just average, in my opinion. Yeah, there are WW in show business that I think are beautiful but that is only a few because MOST women are average or low average. It just seems that they just have to be thin and they are hot.

        Yeah and for a BW to be considered hot or beautiful you have to be a 9 or a 10. While WW can be 5s and 6s and be considered hot and get modeling contracts.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 18, 2011 @ 07:52:10

          Liza exactly. It goes with this same idea that anything BLONDE is beautiful. LOL. I laugh everytime I hear that “some hot blonde” or “some blonde beauty”. As if the color of ones hair makes them hot. If they have an ugly face or body they are NOT HOT no matter their hair color. Its an insult to Blonde women who are ACTUALLY hot or beautiful. Its like the uglies can be hot just by bleaching their hair. I’d be mad if I were a nice looking blonde woman if every woman with blonde hair was considered hot or beautiful. LOL

          Its the same thing with Black people automatically placing an attractiveness label towards any Black woman who is light skinned or mixed looking. She could be as ugly as sin, plain, dressed poorly, bad body but if she is light skinned with “long hair” she is autoimatically considered beautiful or attractive. I remember growing up Black people would always say this.

          I just SMH. Its really sad b/c all it does is make less than average looking WW feel they are hot b/c they have blonde hair. And it makes less than average looking mixed or light skinned Black women feel they are hot when they really aren’t. I have been around other Black women my complexion or lighter who feel safe in saying stuff around me. I remember in college many of the lighter skinned Black women did think they were better looking than the browner or darker complected sisters. I would just SMH. Entitlement complexes develop b/c of this and suddenly these less than average women start believing they are above average or beautiful when they really aren’t. Sorry but blonde hair alone doesn’t make you hot or beautiful. Light skin alone does not make you hot or beautiful IMO.

          Ones hair color or skin shade does not determine beauty. if you have a busted face or horrible body no amount of bleach or skin lightening cream will help you. LOL

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          • Liza207
            Oct 18, 2011 @ 08:05:55

            Sorry but blonde hair alone doesn’t make you hot or beautiful. Light skin alone does not make you hot or beautiful IMO.

            Neecy,

            Yes. The whole blonde beauty thing is just ridiculous. That is it. If a WW wants to appeal to WM all the have to do is dye their hair blonde and now peso! They are hot! LOL!

            Oh my god, light-skinned women. It is true. Being light-skin doesn’t make you hot or beautiful. I have to admit that a lot of light-skinned BW get on my nerves (even though I am light myself) some of them are so full of themselves. When I encounter some of them with what I call the “fairest of them all” complex –they act as though they are the hottest BW walking the planet. Child please.

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  28. Liza207
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 08:24:36

    I am being moderated. LOL! And my avatar has been changed. Oh, well.

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  29. Neecy
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 08:34:33

    Liza I certainly want to add to everything u brought up! Not sure why you’re being moderated, stupid wordpress lol!

    I won’t be able to post until later

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  30. Liza207
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 08:45:18

    The study also said that WW/WM marriages are just a likely to end in divorce as WW married to men of other race. As well as, BM marriage to any group of women will also be short-lived and end in divorce.

    I’ll just say it, WW and BM are the most egotistical, arrogant and self-centered group in this country. How can you enter into a marriage (partnership) and make it all about you and your needs only? How does having an attitude like that make for a lasting union?

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    • zorro
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 19:44:34

      I can’t comment on black men (having never dated one…I’m simply not that open-minded), but I will fully support Liza’s contention that white women are selfish. I’ll go even further; the preponderance of white women have a case of Princess Entitlement Complex that could knock a buzzard off a shit-pile. They think they deserve everything from the best boyfriends, the best husbands, careers…you name it. It’s like whenever the rain drops fall on her pretty little head, they complain. “We need more feminist legislation! We need men to man up. It’s his fault, your fault, their fault…” ad nauseum.

      I swear I am finished with dating white American women. They do nothing but suck the life out of you like a vampire and then divorce you, take your house and spend the rest of their vapid little lives complaining to their spinster, cat-infested friends that “my ex was such a loser.”

      Seriously. That’s all I ever hear.

      I’ve spent some time looking over those BWWM dating blogs (Velour, etc.) and found them fascinating.

      Are there really so many black women who would like to date a white man? I would have never guessed.

      Something to live for!

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      • Neecy
        Oct 17, 2011 @ 21:33:37

        ITA with you Zorro about WW entitlement issues, and its BEYOOOOND annoying. but honestly if you want to get mad at anyone it should be WHITE MEN. White men put WW on a pedestal and now you are dealing with the aftermath of that. I can’t really blame White women for the way they act and have entitlement issues. It’s only natural that one would develop that way if they are constantly being told how wonderful, great, beautiful and innocent they are. It’s like a spoiled child. The spoiled child cannot help they are a pain in the ass; it’s the parents fault for making them that way.

        WW can only get away with what others allow them to. White society allows WW to get away with murder (literally) among other things and that’s why they are the way they are. They can’t help it. And the minute they cross a woman of another race who refuses to play into their BS or who refuses to put them on a pedestal, and that woman of another race sticks up for herself or tries putting the WW in her place, who comes running to their rescue? WHITE MEN. Even when the WW is the troublemaker or is acting like an entitled bitch. So I really only kind of half listen when WM complain about WW b/c frankly yall created that monster. LOL

        they are constantly receiving reinforcement from WM for everything. Yet the favor hasn’t been returned and now some WM are upset with that. That is just how it works.

        The EXACT same thing applies to the dynamics between Black women and Black men. Black women cannot really complain about Black men b/c its BLACK WOMEN who have fed their egos and who continue to do it. So….

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        • zorro
          Oct 17, 2011 @ 23:41:54

          Not white men, Neecy. White MAN…and his name was Daddy.

          9 out of 10 white princesses got that way from being pedestalized by Daddy, not anyone else. Him and a school system and a culture that glorifies girls.

          I should imagine black men got whatever way they are mostly from how Mom treated them…and if Dad was even around.

          The overwhelming force of how people turn out is childhood.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 18, 2011 @ 07:47:47

        Yes, most WW do have an Princess Entitlement Complex. There is one WW I work with who use to just walk into my cubicle whenever she felt like it and would just grab whatever she wanted off of my desk without asking, of course. I was stunned by this behavior and I just knew if I tried that shit with her–all of hell would break loose. I put a stop to it, though.

        Are there really so many black women who would like to date a white man? I would have never guessed.
        —–
        Yes, there are and they would love to meet a nice white guy that will treat them well.

        I love Velour’s blog as well. She is a really good writer.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 17, 2011 @ 21:22:24

      I’ll just say it, WW and BM are the most egotistical, arrogant and self-centered group in this country. How can you enter into a marriage (partnership) and make it all about you and your needs only? How does having an attitude like that make for a lasting union?

      BINGO! I never thought of it like this but that is exactly what the problem is. Entitlement breeds contempt. BM and WW both have entitlement issues and are very self-centered and arrogant. But when they are not with a BW or WM who is not feeding their egos and are left dealing with one another, it’s a different story. There is definitely a reason why the marriage stats read the way they do and i think you hit it!

      A lot of times I think BM and WW really crave attention from BW and WM when they are together. How many times have I been out and see a BM/WW couple and they look and act as if i am supposed to care they are together. LOL. I smile right at them and keep going. Sorry but i am not one of those Black women who gets all mad and gives evil looks. I could care less b/c I find all races of men attractive. The only Black women that care about that are Black women stuck on being with Black men. The rest of us don’t give a darn about whose dating who. they hate when they cannot get that kind of attention from a Black women. Every time too one of them will go out of their way to make sure I or other Black women notice them. I think its funny and sad at the same time.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 18, 2011 @ 07:16:06

        A lot of times I think BM and WW really crave attention from BW and WM when they are together. How many times have I been out and see a BM/WW couple and they look and act as if i am supposed to care they are together.

        Neecy,

        You also hit on something very interesting here. That is exactly why they are so desperately seeking our (BW) attention when they are together. Due to their individual selfishness they aren’t able to nurture one another in a their union, so they are constantly seeking attention outside of their relationships, especially when the novelty has worn off.

        This reminds me of a BM/WW couple, I have been seeing at my gym for 3 years and 3 days a week –they practically follow me around gym trying to get my attention. For three years now and I just continue to ignore them. I started to think they probably were seeking a three-way (it is that intense with these two) but sadly they are just desperate and craving attention. Yes, it is sad and I am surprise they are still together. Not to mention completely sick.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 18, 2011 @ 07:39:01

          Liza that is *EXACTLY* what it is. They have nothing really going on in their unions so they need validation and reinforcement from others. That is soooo true. When they see an attractive Black female, they really want to get a rise out of her b/c somehow in some sick way that reinforces their egos. I am literally (like you) followed by these couples looking to make me notice them. It happens AL.THE.TIME. in the mall, stores, public where they will literally go out of their way to get my attention (b/c I’m not paying them any attention) by asking me something that they could have asked 80 other people (who weren’t Black women) closer to their proximity. LOL.

          One time I was on an escalator in the mall behind a few other Non Black people and this BM/WW couple literally WAITED till I reached the bottom (there were plenty of other people passing by them they could have asked) of the escalator to ask me some dumb shit about (i can’t even remember). I think they do this to me b/c I make sure not to pay them any attention. So they are desperately going out of their way to MAKE SURE I see they are together. LOL Its so sad. And believe me a lot of other Black women share these same experiences.

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  31. Liza207
    Oct 17, 2011 @ 09:52:06

    Ok I’m set.

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  32. emmatheemo
    Oct 18, 2011 @ 05:55:02

    …Those are some hot pictures. Haha, never thought they’d look so good together. I’m not very attracted to guys of other races, and I guess it’s because I grew up in a society with no other races other than mine (occasionally I’d see asian-looking people, which might be why I kind of like them). I wonder why some people are attracted to other races and some aren’t. I hate when people call it “racism” though.

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    • Liza207
      Oct 18, 2011 @ 07:00:39

      No. It is not racist to not be attracted to someone of another race.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 18, 2011 @ 07:29:02

      Emma its not racist at all if you are only attracted to your own race. I think some people may make the racist claim is b/c sometimes those who ar n ot attracted to others of another race, feel the need to put down that race instead of just saying “I prefer my own race”. Sometimes instead of saying that, they’ll say I’m not attracted to X,Y,Z race b/c they _____________ fill in the blank with negative adjectives.

      The reason why people may or may not be attracted to other races can be a number of things. It can be a natural inexplicable attraction or non attraction, it could be that they are only raised around a particular group of people and develop an attraction or non attrcaiton based on familiarity. Etc. Whatever the case its everyone’s perogative to like what they like and they should not be harrassed about it either way.

      I find in your case when people have never been raised much around other races they either are not attracted to other races or they are attracted to others b/c they are not so common to them.

      I believe you said you live in Norway? I have heard from many Black women who live or travel there (or are dating or married to Nordic males), that they receive favorable responses from many of the Nordic males there compared to the men in America. This is in countries where there is very little diversity and moreso very Nordic. So it can go either way.

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      • Firepower
        Oct 18, 2011 @ 11:55:42

        I LIKE teh black girls bc when they dress in slinky clothes, they can get me backstage at c.lo green. plus, black girls always buy me stuff. their the BEST

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      • Emma the Emo
        Oct 18, 2011 @ 12:22:19

        Haha, I live in Norway, but I grew up in Russia, in one of the less multiracial cities… Norway has plenty of blacks, asians, Indian-looking asians and all that :). I moved to Norway at 12 and was slightly shocked by the sight of all the black people (not in a bad way, I just rarely saw them before, apart from on pictures).

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  33. Liza207
    Oct 18, 2011 @ 12:48:11

    Neecy, we have just about thrown everyone (BM, BW, WW, & WM) under the bus in this post. LOL!

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  34. Liza207
    Oct 18, 2011 @ 13:01:28

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