Damaged Goods + Damaged Goods = THE PERFECT COUPLE!

I have noticed in personal experiences as well as in general that promiscuous people who lived a fast and loose life, eventually get to a point when they feel they are ready to settle down.  GREAT! I think that is a part of growing and maturing. Everyone should be able to change who they were in the past if it was not positive. However, the problem is they (previously promiscuous people) don’t seek out others who have equally lived the same fast and sexually loose life as they did. Noooo.  They suddenly believe that they are entitled to the best quality partners available on the market. The men and women who have somehow managed to escape living that fast sexually risky lifestyle that they lived for so long.

You may be saying “But Errrbody needs and should receive love Neecy!” Absolutely! But getting a quality partner is like wearing spanx spandex – it’s a privilege not a right! If you have not maintained some quality about yourself as a man or woman why on earth do you expect a quality partner to come and sweep you off your feet (or vice versa) if you have not done the things in your life to make you as equally attractive to a quality partner?

SORRY. BUT. YOU CAN’T TURN A HOE INTO A HOUSEWIFE!

Gardening tools usually make great…gardening tools. Usually,  not great housewives.

I’ve noticed this entitlement of getting the best most quality partners in quite a few women I have known who have had some pretty loose and high risk sexual lifestyles. Practicing little to no restraint, caution or judgment in who they jump in the bed with. Often times strangers or random doods they meet out. YET these same women get to a point in their life where they believe they are deserving of a Cap’n Save a Hoe wonderful man that will take care of them and be faithful to them and cherish and honor them.  One that will bless her with his seed so she can pro create with him.

Yet, it never occurs to them that the lifestyles they lead, no sane man of quality would commit to such a high risk woman who has spent many years sleeping around with all kinds of men. And to think a man of quality wants a woman like this as the mother of his children is also insane!  Whether she walked away disease free or not doesn’t really matter.  Anyone can catch an STD or a disease be them chaste or sexually loose. All it takes is one time with the WRONG person.  So being STD free doesn’t disqualify anyone from the pitfalls that come with being with a man or woman who has slept around most of their lives.

There are telltale signs of character issues with people who sleep around with random others for pleasure and immediate gratification. Especially women. Women need to understand the emotional toll being sexually promiscuous plays on her psyche and physical state. If you think you can be a hoe all your life and then turn into a loving housewife later with no remnants of your past you are lying to yourself! 

Men are right when they say that women who sleep around are high risk partners. It shows not only lack of discipline for your health and well-being and value as a woman, but also an insatiable uncontrollable appetite for sex and that in any given instance, you could or would easily sleep with a person outside of your monogamous relationship if he said the right things, looked a certain way or if you just were horny. 

So ladies, recognize that a quality man who is looking to be with a quality woman, will have a keen eye and awareness for the types of women who unconsciously show tale tell signs of being a previous HOE. You can’t hide it from a quality man.  And if you manage to slip through the cracks, eventually he will find out the hard way of who and what he got himself into and will not be happy and will most likely find a quick exit route to you and that relationship – IF he’s lucky. Your best bet? Choose your sex partners wisely! Learn patience and self-discipline b/c it will pay off later (hopefully before you’re old, crusty and wrinkled) *Paging NEECY! – did you hear that?* Ahem…. You will walk away without the emotional stress of having lived such a life and a quality man will see this in you.

 WHAT’S NOT GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS ALSO NOT GOOD FOR THE GANDER

Men, often times are let off the hook for this kind of behavior. A lot of men seem to feel that they can and should be able to spend many years at the shooting range (BANG BANG) shooting blanks into any and every hot woman that comes up the line. Ironically, these same men when they want to settle down, DEMAND that the women he marries or makes a Long-term g/f have as little sexual partners as possible. They feel they should be able to get the (YOUNG) non-promiscuous women.  Any woman over 30 is “high risk” b/c she “rode the cock carousel for most of her youth” and therefore she is “damaged goods” b/c of the amount of sex she “probably” had in her youth.  Lol Mm’kay?? BUT  a man in his 30’s and 40s is “NOT” damaged goods if he slept with all kinds of drunken nasty hoes who opened their legs for every Tom, Jerome, Habib, Jose and Chin lee?

I have been on GAME SITES (where men are taught how to be man whores) and the same men talking about how they are out trying to bang all the young 8’s, 9’s and 10’s at meat and fish markets  bars, clubs and other venues out there,  would find a girl who is over 28 or one who has had more than 3 partners  in her lifetime a “high risk”. LMAO. The nerve huh?  In one breathe, they want to be able to “bang” all the young hotties in their prime (18-25) who are willing to give it up easily. Then in the next breathe they are criticizing these same women for “riding the cock carousel” in their prime years and who are now too damaged of goods in thier late 20’s ad 30’s – sleeping with GUYS LIKE THEM! LOL! See how irrational and crazy some men think?? What woman in her right mind would want to be with a man who thinks or acts like this?

 Not only that, these men also feel entitled in their 30’s and 40’s to be able to swoop up and marry very young inexperienced women who should want to not only be their brides but have their children as well. They should skip college and run straight to the altar with some older dood  (who banged 100 women before her) and not enjoy or live her life like he was able to around her age. LOL. The mind boggles.

 So lemme get this straight. Guys who have spent most of THEIR younger years and mid years sleeping around with all kinds of women feel when they are ready to settle down they should get a young untouched virgin (preferably) or at least a young woman who has had a minimum of 2 sexual partners in her lifetime – anything more than 2-3 sexual partners , or a woman over the age of 30 automatically signals “DAMAGED GOODS” (but not for him JUST for the women he feels entitled to make his LT g/f or wife). S’cuse me a minute…

BWAHAHHAHAHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!

Ok just needed to let that out.

Seriously. Now I am not one of those femanzi women who says “If men can be sluts and sleep around without being frowned upon then so can women”. Crap. I understand that promiscuity in women is a bit worse than men for a  number of reasons. But this DOES NOT excuse the fact or idea that a promiscuous person of ANY GENDER is a high risk person for any man or woman looking to get involved in a quality monogamous relationship.

YES, this includes men too. Any woman of quality who has managed to maintain some chaste and who has any kind of values and morals that she stands by would be utterly turned off by a man who has slept with all kinds of women. In fact, a smart woman realizes that the kinds of women who sleep around are usually very high risk in many ways.

Thus a man sleeping with drunken chicks or chicks he picks up at bars and nightclubs is also transferring that high risk to any partner he may settle with.  Not just STD risk but the risk of him being a man whore in the relationship as well which comes with its own set of problems FOR THE G/F OR WIFE later on.  

 “SORRY NEECY MEN WHO SLEEP WITH LOTS OF WOMEN ARE ATTRACTIVE TO MOST WOMEN B/C OTHERS OBVIOUSLY WANT HIM AND FIND HIM ATTRCATIVE”

Ah. NO. No they’re not.  Please don’t fall for that Banana in the tailpipe baloney ladies of quality. Remember we must always separate the “types” of women who believe this. Yes, some women of low caliber and low self-value want the guy who sleeps with all kinds of women to bed her b/c in some sick way it makes her feel “special” that she was able to “bed” the guy that all other women are bedding.

But the key point chicks like this fail to understand is, it doesn’t take much AT ALL to really sleep with any man. Men will pretty much screw anything with a wet available hole if they get horny enough. That is just a FACT. Not all men but MOST.  If you are even halfway decent looking – Pssh! You’re in there! So. If you are looking at it from the standpoint that a man who is sleeping around with lots of women is some special catch, then I have news for you – he isn’t.

That is b/c in order for the average man to have access to that much sex and women, he, himself has to lower his standards to pick up easy low caliber women in places like bars, clubs and other “hot spots”. It’s all about quantity vs. quality in these cases. We all know it’s easy to get quantity notches under the belt, but not quality.  

He may have been lucky and managed to screw a couple decent mid-high caliber women who felt an unusual rare connection/vibe with him or who he lied or gamed (her unknowingly)  and were just having a “ah screw it! I’m horny and  I haven’t had sex in awhile  and I am really having an out of this world vibe with this guy, so I’ll just go for it” moment. But the majority of women men who sleep around sleep with are loose women who pretty much sleep with any guy who shows a slight interest in her and is halfway decent looking.  Oh and if she is halfway drunk.

 IOW’s ladies, sex is not hard to come by for men these days. Basing judgments on how valuable a man is by the amounts of women he beds is really assbackwards thinking b/c it’s just so easy to bed most women these days without much effort for a man. There is nothing sexier than a man who *CAN* get all the ass he wants, but who chooses restraint and judgment on the kinds of women he beds. Now *THAT*  is when a woman should feel special. When she is the *chosen* one of many whom a man that has options, has chosen.

STD’s ARE *NOT* THE ONLY REASON TO AVOID HIGH- RISK OR SEXUALLY PROMISCUOUS MEN / WOMEN

While STD’s are the main immediate reason to not sleep with just anyone its not the *ONLY* reason to avoid high-risk sexually promiscuous people for relationships. Something deeper is going on there than just a risk of STD. And yes, believe it or not, some very sexually promiscuous people luckily manage to walk away from their lifestyles STD free, while the good guy/girl who never slept around and who managed to end up in a relationship with one of the not-so-lucky high risk people who caught STD’s from sleeping around, catches it from that person after being in a monogamous relationship. So no, just b/c you are STD free doesn’t mean you get a *Get outta jail free* card in my book. You just got lucky!

MOVE ALONG! NOTHING TO SEE HERE BUT DAMAGED GOODS!

Something much deeper and sinister happens to  a person (especially a woman) who has slept around with random people most of their lives and suddenly want to settle down. They come with a lot of internal and mental baggage that may not show up in a blood test or STD test. They lack a certain character that would make them prime long-term partners.

Having sex with a person like this may be special to you, but to them – its like ”yeah just another penis or vagina I’m partaking in”. It does get to that point.  Usually once you have crossed the line of insatiable uncontrollable sexual appetite it’s hard to cross back. You have lost any real need to see sex as something more valuable than just doing it with a person b/c they were hot and you were horny. IOW’s sex or the act of sex loses that special appeal that it has. You become sexually jaded so, that even sleeping with that person you really love is just an act b/c you’ve done it so much and can’t seem to find the specialness in it anymore.  It’s an act of doing after so long.

I wonder how  many porn stars experience this later in life after they have walked way or retired from the porn industry. How can sex be a special connection to people like porn stars or men/women who have just screwed all kinds of people when they have exploited it for no real gains other than immediate gratification or getting paid to do it?

STAY WELL ADJUSTED –  HOLD OUT NO MATTER WHAT SOCIETY SAYS

Especially men. It’s much easier for women to admit that they are not interested in sleeping around. But much harder for quality men to openly admit this without being seen as gay, unable to get laid, or he is called a “beta”.  But then, too, as I mentioned before. There are those desirable men who know their high SMV and use that to show it by not just bedding all kinds of women b/c they can.

Women know men like this and the hamsters are at full speed  &  driven insane b/c a simple woman doesn’t understand that yes a High quality man with  a decent SMV can and will often choose to just not sleep with every attractive woman that is available to him. HOW freakin sexy is that!?

Women know its sexy, but a lot of women hate on that b/c they realize that having a vagina and being halfway attractive won’t snag a guy like this no matter how hard she tries. It takes that certain *something* for a man like this to want reward a woman with his goods. Guys like this just for some reason pick and choose the women they sleep with carefully and the part that drives the simple easy woman insane (as well as the quality women)  is she just doesn’t know what makes a man like this tick, b/c the average guy is just trying to stick his penis into any female who responds favorably to him.

THIS is called the HAMSTER in mostion and sometimes a woman’s hamster in motion is good and exciting.  When a woman doesn’t get the expected results she is sent in a tizzy trying to figure out why this guy is so different from the rest . (unless he is an obvious guy who most women don’t find sexually appealing)

I really applaud males who have managed to feel proud in not just screwing all kinds of women. It really takes a lot of self-discipline and comfortable self-awareness to do so.

Women, I also know its tough these days for a more chaste woman to find love or feel valuable when so many women today are giving away the milk for little to nothing at all but a memorless night in the hay with *some* random dude who managed to say all the right things in one night.

Well I think it does take much longer and is much harder for those who don’t want to sleep around these days to find valuable and quality partners, but when they do, it was well worth the wait for both.

LIKE STAY WITH LIKE – PWEESE??!!

I’m a big proponent of Like staying with like. Like,  in terms of values, morals, standards, goals etc. Promiscuous people deserve to enjoy love and relationships like anyone else. And they’d be better suited finding it with the people who have shared their same need for immediate sexual gratification and such than trying to snag a quality man or woman whom IMO they are UNDESERVING OF. Yeah I said it – wanna make somfin’ of it? LOL

I’m sure there will be some pissed off people after reading this. But all I gotta say is:

*KISSES*!!!! &  *LOVE*!!!

187 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Disdainfully
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 04:00:09

    One such great post! I must say! The complex many guys have i.e. After eating thousand rats (hundreds sluts), a cat (a guy) goes to pilgrimage (wishes for 18-23 virgin).

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    • Neecy
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 08:38:33

      Hi Disadainfully!

      Thank you! Yes, now its one thing to fantasize about such, but its another thing to actually believe you are entitled to such women after they, themselves have lived a very fast high risk life in which any woman getting involved with these kinds of men is asking for a world of trouble in any relationship she enters into with him. Men who sleep around are high risk partners for women who want a good quality guy with sound judgement.

      If a woman past a certain age says she wants some hot young rich stud to come and marry her and take care of her, after she has screwed around most of her youth and prime, she’d be stoned to death. Like i said, its fine to sit and wish and fantasize about such things, but once you become in the UNREALISTIC mindset that you are deserving of such just b/c that is what you want, then Houston we have a problem!

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      • Disdainfully
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 23:27:20

        What you think a plausible solution is? Roissy kinda self-disillusioned guys are misleading the entire breed of men! Where is he taking the society?

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        • Disdainfully
          Oct 24, 2011 @ 23:30:34

          *disallusion

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        • Neecy
          Oct 25, 2011 @ 08:53:22

          Well in Roissy’s defense, he really is only presenting a theory based on the “types” of women he, and guys like himself seek for easy sexual pleasure. Game does work on a certain kind of female and so, he just found his niche and target and tells these men how to be successful in bedding such women. But the reality is, if those men believe that *ALL* attractive women fall for a lot of those Alpha “asshole” game concepts, then they will be dissapointed in the real world.

          I do agree with *some* of his concepts about how women think and act towards certain males, but i am not so sure its for the reasons he says. Also, if men find that the kinds of women they are seeking are not responding to certain characteristics or behaviors, they will seek ways in which to be more successful with these kinds of women – hence PUA sites etc. The reality is there are A LOT of low caliber women out there who want assholes and like jerky behavior and if a man wants to screw or date these women he better learn these game/pua concepts to be successful.

          Also. The idea that a man can freely be a man whore and then demand a woman he dates or marries be a chaste almost virgin is nothing new – its been around since the beginning of time.

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  2. Liza207
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 07:33:23

    Great job, Neecy. I am so sick promiscuous men and women who feel that they deserve quality partners who are chaste or who have low sexual partner counts. However, let us be honest it is mostly men (especially sexist, misogynist and chauvinist men) who think this way.

    It is the old double standard; men can slut it up all they want to but women should be chaste. The thing is that both men and women should keep their sexual partners numbers as low as possible to attract to them what they are seeking in a mate.

    The thing with men is that many of them (especially low caliber men) get their self-worth and measure their manhood based on how many women they bed and then claim the reason men are so promiscuous is biological. LOL! This is complete and utter bullshit and most of them know it.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 08:51:21

      You’re right Liza, it is a double standard. However, i kind of support it to a certain degree b/c I believe that promiscuity in women drives promiscuity in males. When women as a whole contain themselves sexually you have less men sleeping around. Actually men in general follow the sexual rules applied by women. So I do support the double standard b/c its women who determine the way in which the sexual market will go. The fact is it’s a cause and effect. Unfortunately, with the cause and effect lying on the woman’s shoulders. B/C the more women sleep around discriminately, the more men have available to them in terms of available sexual partners.

      When women are more chaste as a whole, so are men in general.
      As you said *BOTH* men and women need to keep their sexual partner counts low for a number of good reasons. And for those who don’t its insane for them to believe they are deserving of a high quality partner who would have to put up with the possibilities of their high risk and high risk for infidelity and problems later down the road.

      ITA that low caliber males who base their manhood on the amounts of women they bed are men who have bought into the idea that it’s purely biological for men to be man whores. As I said, I do believe that males are more biologically WIRED to seek out more sexual mates than women, but in a civilized society and world they should be using better judgment and seeking other ways to prove their masculinity than revolving around bedding a bunch of low caliber women with very little standards.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 09:08:32

        I agree and the moment women started slutting it up in large numbers trhe SMP just went haywire, as a result. I use to say before things got really bad that women should be free to sleep around as much as they desired but I only saw these women as the minority. However, they are now the majority and clearly, my view has changed due to the problems that this has caused.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 24, 2011 @ 10:10:59

          And this is where the rubber meets the road for me and where I separate from most women and the “sisterhood” that seeks to solely blame men for the way they act in the SMP. The fact is men adapt to the SMP accordingly based on how women respond and reward certain characteristics and behaviors. if women are rewarding Beta behavior and nice guys who treat her with respect and who don’t sleep around, better believe most men are going to adapt in some way shape or form to be JUST THAT, b/c he wants to get laid and get a woman.

          The fact is a much as Game sites irk me to some degree, the proof is in the pudding about what I just said That men will come up with ways to be successful in the SMP with women based on certain factors and observing of what it is women respond to most favorably in men. So if men can sleep around with a bunch of hoes and still get in relationships etc., then that is what they will do. If women demanding more from men, men would come correct HAPPILY b/c men want women and want to have access to women.

          Women need to start recognizing the power we have in the way things are and stop always seeking to point the finger to men.

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  3. Liza207
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 08:05:43

    Men are right when they say that women who sleep around are high-risk partners. It shows not only lack of discipline for your health and well-being and value as a woman, but also an insatiable uncontrollable appetite for sex and that in any given instance, you could or would easily sleep with a person outside of your monogamous relationship if he said the right things, looked a certain way or if you just were horny.
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    This is true men and women sluts are both risky long-term prospects because they are most likely to be infidels. What quality person would risk getting involved that someone who they knew would be more than likely to cheat on them?

    Like a guy I have talked about several times made me pause when he mentioned sleeping with hundreds of women. Although, he claimed he was ready to settle down and get married because he wanted what his parents had (they were for over 30 years). I was put off by his very high partner count being that I had a very low partner count myself. Why should I give it up to some slutty guy? This made me think long and hard about going all in with him. Men like this lack self-discipline and they are lacking in morals as well, so what would make these guys appealing as long-term partners. Sure, he was very attractive and quite well off but how happy would I be with a guy that would possibly be cheating on me on our wedding day and thereafter. Sure, I would probably have bragging rights to say I snagged a rich hot “alpha” male (big deal). In addition, of course, financial security. However, at what cost?

    Women who think it is a real victory for them to snag a guy like this and when they cannot see it as some big loss and years down the line, they are pining away for these guys. Need to know that they have dodged a fatal bullet.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 09:00:32

      exactly Liza! A lot of women are willing to trade off her self-respect, dignity, values and morals to simply be with a man who has money and status regardless of his sexual tendencies which will make her feel insecure. Good for you, for recognizing that in the long run you would have been miserable despite the surface things that looked good.

      A lot of times once a man sees that a woman will put up with almost anything he does, this woman loses value in his eyes and he will never think twice about anything that he does that will affect her emotionally, physically, mentally and will seek to please only himself and his needs in the relationship while putting her at risk.

      Also what is not talked about is men who sleep around are high risk as LTR partner’s b/c they tend to sleep around with very low caliber women. These women often can be crazy and insanely insecure and jealous of his unknowing g/f or wife and will and can cause problems for his wife or Long-term companion by harassing her b/c they are jealous and what the guy all to himself. They also purposely come up pregnant by these men and the wife has to deal with the fact she is the female version of a “cuckold” b/c she has accepted her man’s infidelities and pro creation with another woman while they were together. His money, time and resources will also be going to other women and the children he created with these crabs outside of the relationship. Money and resources that should only be reserved for her children.

      There are so many issues that come along with high risk men and women who sleep around that it’s insane for any quality man or woman to knowingly enter into relations with these kinds of people.

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  4. Liza207
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 08:23:59

    In one breathe, they want to be able to “bang” all the young hotties in their prime (18-25) who are willing to give it up easily. Then in the next breathe they are criticizing these same women for “riding the cock carousel” in their prime years and who are now too damaged of goods in thier late 20’s ad 30’s – sleeping with GUYS LIKE THEM! LOL! See how irrational and crazy some men think?? What woman in her right mind would want to be with a man who thinks or acts like this?
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    Neecy, LOL! This is complete hypocrisy and just plain unrealistic. Not mention delusional. I am always a bit leery of men who have not been partnered a certain age, especially when they are doing well in their careers or well off and attractive. The impression I get is that they have been playing the field and taking advantage of their status—by bedding as many women as possible and are now looking for some young native girl who will put up with them.

    Mother warned me at an early that I should not waste my best years on some old dude. My sister did not listen to this advice and she really regrets it now. This old dude was a man-slut who took her virginity and cheated on her repeatedly. I never got the appeal of older dudes when I was in teens and twenties (and I still do not).

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    • Neecy
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 09:09:02

      I firmly believe this is why it’s best for young women in their prime to stick with men in or around their age range. Like stay with like. After a certain age where she has matured then I guess age differences don’t matter. But God created men and women around the same ages for a reason. Young men and young women make mistakes together and usually one doesn’t have the upper hand over another. A lot of older men have learned way too many ways to gain the upper hand in a relationship with a young inexperienced girl way below him in age and want to use that to is advantage. Not taking into account the girls need to freely grow and mature and learn without being guided by a man looking out for his own best interests.

      As you said a lot of males want to live the free wild life and then marry up and impregnate some very young woman he can control and feel is not high-risk for him b/c she has a low sexual partner count (if any).

      I’m not one to get into people’s business about what they like or who they date as long as they keep it within a legal realm. But I have no problem calling a spade a spade. And yes people are suspicious of older men seeking out extremely young and naive women for the OBVIOUS reason that they want low risk partners, yet they themselves have not lived up to that. Women also have every right to have the best options and choice in men and should not feel they should settle for a man who has spent most of his years being a man whore and then trying to snatch up some high quality woman with low partner counts, b/c he doesn’t want a woman like himself who would most likely cheat on him.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 09:20:34

        Yes, these men are terrified of being cheated on. They fear the charma that may be waiting for them. I remember in my twenties (me 21 and him 37) going out with one a guy for a very short period of time and hating the way he spoke to me. He was always very condensending to me and would always speak to as if I was a child. I absolutely hated it and after that I never attempted to date a guy much older than me again.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 24, 2011 @ 10:17:23

          Very true. In serious age gaps its obvious that one person (usually the male) is seeking to have some significant unchallenged upper hand over the extremely younger woman. Now most women do like men to be somewhat older than they are b/c men typically mature at a slower process than most women. but not so significantly older than her that they are off balance and one person has such an upper hand that they were able to control and completely brainwash the other person b/c of their age and maturity level compared to the younger inexperienced less mature person.

          I always dated guys somewhat older than myself or at least at or within the same maturity and age range. Severe age gaps for some reason seem very off kilter and abnormal to me.

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  5. Liza207
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 08:54:10

    I suspect that most man –whores, man-sluts, players, “alphas” and the like make the worst lovers. If you are only having one-night stands and jumping in and out of bed with all kinds of women over a long period of time with very few long-term relationships. How do you learn how to be creative in bed or how to really please a woman in bed? If you are just pumping and dumping when do you get any feedback on your performance or you have not been with a woman long enough to know what pleases them sexually. I just bet sleeping with these men-whores would just be a waste of time.

    Men that make the best lovers are men who have been in long-term relationship–being with one woman for a long time teaches a man how to be creative in the sack. “Betas” make the best lovers because they tend to be very caring and generous and are always eager to please in and out of bed. Some selfish, self-centered and arrogant “alpha” would only care about his pleasure only. I have heard a lot of this from women who have slept these guys—they are extremely selfish in bed and of course, out of it. I think the women who want desperately to be with these guys are often drunk or just getting off on the social status of these men. Yeah, they are confident and socially dominant but that does not necessarily translate into them being good lovers who know how to please a woman in bed.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 09:33:53

      Liza you are sooo right! Not only that, men who have gross amounts of sex lose a lot of their ejaculation load. A man who is not always sleeping around will have a much heavier ejaculation load b/c he is not ejaculating as much. So if you are in a LTR with a guy who has very little ejaculation coming out then you know he has slept around too much.

      Why should a woman be concerned about this in a LTR/marriage? B/C if she wants to get pregnant or have kids, a man with a low sperm load will make it much more difficult for her to get preggers than a man with a high load of sperm entering her. Of course if you are having a bunch of causal sex I would assume you are using protection and therefore a woman wouldn’t know any of this – which is another reason why casual sex with a bunch of men is just not good. Plus how weird does that look when a YOUNG man can barely squeeze out a load? YUCK! I wanna see a full load coming out not some slimy barely there load (ok sorry TMI). 😳 (And yes I am talking about being in a monogamous relationship with someone of course)

      I can understand an older man having a lower sperm load b/c as one gets older this would automatically decrease. But a younger guy with barely any sperm coming out is not a good sign at all. And usually it’s these “alpha” types and overly sexed males who sleep around waay too much who have this problem.

      And yes, men and women who sleep around do have a tendency to be selfish lovers b/c they do it so much with so many different random people, that they become jaded about the whole idea and reason for sex in the first place – to please the person they are with and vice versa. To have a really special connection celebrated through physical intimacy.

      Beta guys take a lot of heat in society. The only real problem with them is they have not really mastered top notch social skills. But they usually are the best lovers b/c they want to not only please themselves sexually, but they want the woman they are with to experience great pleasure too. An alpha “jerk” doesn’t give a darn about pleasing a woman b/c usually he is bedding half drunken low caliber women who don’t care anyway (as you pointed out). And yes a lot of women just soley sleep with these guys just for the sake of saying they bedded an “alpha” but a lot of times the pleasure is in that and not in the act itself.

      It’s really sad how people have really taken the value of sexual and physical intimacy down these days.

      I’ll never forget a blog guest post done by some guy on a Black woman’s blog (I think you know who I am talking about) in which he made a case for why casual sex is so great and why more women should partake in it.

      Disgusting what society has become.

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      • zorro
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 17:12:38

        A man with a “light load” may very well be spanking his monkey behind your back.

        Some times the pressure…oh, forget it.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 24, 2011 @ 19:04:49

          LMAO Zorro! *in my English accent*

          You NOTTY NOTTY BOY YOU!

          I don’t think “spankin the monkey” causes that? Does it?

          Hmmmmm. 😛

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      • Matt
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 18:52:59

        Have to backup the moose here. There are other reasons for a “light load” besides sleeping around.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 24, 2011 @ 19:25:12

          Seriously really? I am curious what else would cause a ligter load? maybe diabetes (as i am aware diabetes causes male erectyle dysfunction) possibly stress?

          I assumed that men in general who are not using or releasing a lot of their load have more when they do ejeculatee and the men who are ejaculating often end up losing a great deal b/c of the frequency of sex?

          I have not experienced this directly myself, but i have a couple g/f’s (yes they have slept around) shared this with me that they can tell when a guy has a lot of sex or when he doesn’t based on that alone.

          But they are not men & neither am I so I am sure there could be other reasons…

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          • Matt
            Oct 24, 2011 @ 19:41:11

            Going to try desperately to avoid the “TMI” threshold here.

            Age. Diabetes. Sickness (ie. colds, flu). Injury. Foods. Stress. “Stress Release”. There’s a lot of different factors that can influence how much is produced.

            That said, your friends are right in that a man who hasn’t “deposited” for awhile will have a larger amount than one that has done so often. The question is, is the guy with the “light load” sleeping with lots of different women, is he releasing stress himself, or does he have some other reason why? Very few men will give an honest answer to that question.

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            • Neecy
              Oct 24, 2011 @ 20:00:46

              Matt thanks for pointing this out. It does make sense now that you bring up some of the factors. I am sure stress and sickness could affect it just like anything.

              Good to know. So I promise not to be upset and blame the poor guy for being a man hoe if i ever come across this situation 😳 I’ll be sure to let the girls know as well that there are other factors that can determine this whole “load” thing, b/c one actually *Bless her wittle heart* said one guy was b/f material based on that alone. *sigh* I know I know! All of our pals can’t be rocket scientists for God’s sakes!

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          • zorro
            Oct 25, 2011 @ 02:51:32

            Okay, now I’m one confused moose. By “load” I assume you are referring to the quantity of semen ejaculated from his business parts. A lighter load means a smaller quantity.

            Or are you referring to the color?

            If you call a lighter load a smaller sploosh of spunk, then just what do you think goes on when a man spanks the monkey? Thrashes the bishop? Rubs the helmet of his personal fireman and helps him shrug off his jacket?

            SPLOOSH!

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      • bob
        Oct 25, 2011 @ 06:27:23

        Anti-depressants can also decrease the amount and/or velocity of the “load”.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 25, 2011 @ 08:57:45

          LOL @ velocity.

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          • bob
            Oct 25, 2011 @ 14:41:01

            Laugh all you want – lots of chicks like it if you make it fly several feet and hit the wall over their heads.

            Sometimes they get real pissed if you get it in their hair though. “You got come in my hair! I JUST had it done!!!” – LMFAO!!!

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            • Neecy
              Oct 25, 2011 @ 21:18:28

              *Oh dear GAWD* LOL BOB! I hope I never see flying… uh… man stuff. SCAREY!

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            • zorro
              Oct 25, 2011 @ 21:54:44

              Yup. Lots of chicks are like that. I once had a girlfriend tell me to lay on my back so she could give me a handjob just to see how high it would fly.

              Totally destroyed a brand new ceiling fan.

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        • zorro
          Oct 25, 2011 @ 21:50:49

          Maybe then there’s something wrong with me. I was once on 75mg of Zoloft daily, and I was hornier than a bionic goat.

          Seriously, my cats refused to sleep in my bed with me.

          If I slept on my back, my bed linen looked like a Bedouin tent.

          I was sunbathing near a horse farm and the stallions stood up and saluted me.

          In order to walk straight I would have to relieve the pressure and it looked like someone tossed a grenade into a family sized jar of Miracle Whip. Cleaning that ceiling was not fun.

          But, then, hey…I’m a moose. You gotta make allowances for stuff like that.

          [I know, I know…TMI]

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    • Firepower
      Nov 01, 2011 @ 12:11:28

      10 years is pretty generous. Would u date a woman 10 years your senior? I don’t get why men feel its ok for women to date up their age but not men.

      your younger than me, so that means my dating some sabre-tooth is moot. b/c even though youre a matured woman, your still too young for me, so personally, i prefer younger girls, but a relationship-quality female is different criteria for me. even though you appear giggly, i can detect you have a serious intellectual streak that you like to play with

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      • Neecy
        Nov 02, 2011 @ 03:09:56

        FP that makes sense that a man would have different criteria in what he finds attractive for LTR’s and marriage vs. sexual flings and hook-ups.

        I also agree that its probably quite normal for an older man and woman to find younger people more sexually appealing – b/c frankly they are, but having LTR’s and marriages with huge severe age gaps seems like it would be off balance – and yes I am even talking about older women and younger men.

        I find younger guys sexually attractive but after a certain age I don’t care how sexually appealing they are, I would not enter in a LTR with one b/c wth would we have in common.

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        • Firepower
          Nov 02, 2011 @ 11:38:27

          truly great sex makes you feel nourished in deep, substantial ways yet theres always a hunger for BOTH – that and the personal connection. just the sheer joy of being in the company of the beloved. having a dinner, a laugh then going home and balling their brains out lol

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  6. Liza207
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 09:34:11

    Neecy, yes, these guys come with a lot problems and issues. If you are a woman who wants and loves drama 24/7– guys do not disappoint. It will be a emotional rollcoaster, so you better be ready to hold tight.

    I don’t know why men like this even bother geting married at all. You may have the answer because I don’t.

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    • Liza207
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 12:16:17

      I asked the question because why would the gatekeepers (men) of commitment open the gate when he knows it would be less complicated for him if he kept the gate closed?

      In other words, since most, if not all men do the intiating of marriage, then why would they want to get married when they are clearly not suited for it? They already know from the getgo that they won’t be faithful and won’t be making any effort to honor their vows.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 12:46:41

        Well I believe its b/c men can be selfish in that way and benefit having a “main squeeze” at home taking care of all his needs and business and even bearing and raising his offspring. Being his domestic servant and being faithful to only him. He has access to her sexually whenever he wants and doesn’t have to work for it.

        IOW’s he has a safe haven at home with one “main woman”. But he also wants to have the freedom to sleep with the hoes and sluts on the side to fulfill his sexual appetite. And any woman that allows herself to be *THAT* woman is a fool in for a life full of misery, drama, and insecurity by allowing her self to be with a man who obviously doesn’t value her needs and emotional and physical well being. He is only looking out for himself.

        So yes, men benefit by getting married to women who unknowingly or knowingly remain his main squeeze while he gets to play on the side.

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      • Matt
        Nov 02, 2011 @ 21:01:03

        Liza,

        Much of the problem here is that the good men, the ones that will control the part of themselves that want to bed everything (either through fear, discipline, lack of options, etc.) aren’t the ones that get noticed. The ones that are remembered are the dumbasses that have no business ruining the good women.

        Contrary to how we are portrayed, the majority of men WANT to have a family. They want to have kids to raise. They want a loving wife. They want to provide. It resonates with us more than we’d care to admit, to ourselves or to any women. Even PUAs, with all their talk of having lots of women available, still develop one “main squeeze”.

        The men that do that should know they aren’t marriage or LTR material. The fact that they still have a de facto “main”, or still try to get married, speaks to the drive men have to pair bond and develop a family.

        Plus, how many people can genuinely know what their failings are? I’d wager that the non-marriageable men think they are prime marriage catches.

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  7. Neecy
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 10:04:23

    Well Liza I honestly don’t believe that one gender is more or less guilty than the other. IOW’s the same kinds of women come with the same issues and also should be avoided for marriage and Long term partnerships. Yet these women still seek out marriages knowing full well they are not mentally and emotionally equipped to be in such unions. They end up ruining a good man who suddenly looses faith in women b/c he had an unfortunate experience with some loser woman. The same thing applies to women who allow themselves to enter into unions with such men and then become scorned with all man.

    I just think we in general have to get away from this “us vs. them” mentality. That one gender is more guilty than the other. There are equal amounts of blame to go around for both men and women and I honestly see it from BOTH sides of the coin. I understand what men have to put up with and deal with these days in terms of women today and I also understand what women have to put up with and deal with in terms of men today. Both men *AND* women have improvements. And that is the point of my post. I don’t want to blame one gender for being more _______ than the other b/c both men and women these days are equally screwed up.

    So I will say the reason these men get married is b/c there are a bunch of women coddling this behavior and rewarding this behavior. I am from the mindset that men are adaptable in the sexual/romantic marketplace based on what and how women are responding. So in essence for every shitty man, there is a shitty woman behind him cheering him on, rewarding him and allowing him to get away with this behavior. EQUAL BLAME.

    The point is both men and women these days who are promiscuous should stick together and quality people should seek to avoid entering into relationships with them at all costs – for the sake of their health, sanity and self esteem.

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  8. Firepower
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 11:22:49

    i thnk
    nicey and Leza
    make quite a couple
    I never noticed before…

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    • Neecy
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 11:48:00

      Yeah but you know its kinda boring being two chocolate oreo cookies without a cream filling.

      💡 💡 💡

      HEEEYY! PERFECT TIMING FP! ( 😈 )

      *Neecy calling Liza to help with the kidnapping and wrestling FP down into a potato sack to turn him into the creamy filling*

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    • Liza207
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 12:22:52

      I’ve been awaiting this train to enter the station and it arrived as I have predicted. LOL!

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  9. Mark Slater
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 12:03:02

    Liza: “I suspect that most man –whores, man-sluts, players, “alphas” and the like make the worst lovers. If you are only having one-night stands and jumping in and out of bed with all kinds of women over a long period of time with very few long-term relationships.”
    It has been my observation that “Alpha Slut Men [ASM]” do indeed desire, like all the rest of us, that special lady. The key difference is that the A.S.M. will often have their main lady and in addition lesser paramours on the sly. When the main lady finds out about this, she will either: A. dump him B. fall for his “C’mon, baby, you know you are the only woman I *really* love” schtick and somewhat accept that his philandering is worth the ride. Thus the Main Lady+side lovers pattern continues for the A.S.M.
    If A.S.M. does get dumped by Main Lady, then *that’s* when he breaks down and goes on full Conquest Mode and compensates for his genuine sorrow by picking up and bedding as many women as possible. This plays out until the A.S.M. finds another sucker — I mean, Main Lady.

    A traditional female slut, by contrast, will often have just one man at a time, yet in quick succession. She will go through relationships like a Mazda RX-7 goes through motor oil. She will have had abortions with all the subsequent heartache and aftershocks, or she will have three children by three different men by age 30.

    And that’s the real tragedy of all this: the children. Absolutely no boy or girl on the planet wants his mother to be a slut. It is an inviolable rule of the schoolyard: your mother may be crazy, ugly, or an ill-educated hick, and that would still be acceptable; but if the dreaded “Your Mama’s a slut” ever stuck, a boy’s best option at that point is to run off and join the circus.

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    • Liza207
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 12:30:03

      Mark,

      I have seen this very scenario played out in other marriages and it is ridiculous. I want a man that only wants to have sex with me–just I like I will want him to be the only one. I don’t do harems. AMS are just not worth getting married to.

      I bet Sandra Bullock learned her lesson.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 12:39:00

        Liza i never understood the Sandra Bullock and Jessie James connection.

        I believe Sandra grew up as the “ugly duckling” (her own words) growing up in the South with Waspy looking wide eyed buttoned nosed Southern Belles as the objects of the “bad boys” affections and she wanted that for herself. SO she was able to find it in Jesse James later on life. Happens all the time. I am not saying Sandra Bullock is not attractive. I think she is but in a very non-conventional way. I could see how this may have affected her self-esteem growing up since she doesn’t fit that mold. Of course validation for her came in the form of “BAD BOY” Jesse James who somehow made her feel that she had “arrived” b/c she was able to snag him. Frankly, he never looked happy with her and they made the oddest looking couple.

        Also, you know she has low self-esteem b/c no woman in her right mind would marry or be with a man who dated porn stars and had children with porn stars. YUCK!

        I like Sandra and all, but it’s obvious she has self-esteem issues as an adult woman that stem from her childhood.

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        • Liza207
          Oct 24, 2011 @ 12:53:05

          I really like Sandra B. I hope picks better this time.

          Also, you know she has low self-esteem b/c no woman in her right mind would marry or be with a man who dated porn stars and had children with porn stars. YUCK!

          And double YUCK!

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          • Neecy
            Oct 24, 2011 @ 15:13:57

            I know! Sandara is such a sweetheart and nice girl deserving of sooo much better. I am not sure what was (or in this case ) *WASN’T* going through her mind getting serious with some loser who beds porn stars (and has children with them) and ugly nazi following white female trash???? Low self esteem is a MOFO!

            She wasted a lot of her youth/prime being with that loser Jesse. SMH. If she had hooked up with the right fellow, she could have gotten pregnant and married and still been in a relationship with a great guy/husband and father of her child.

            She is the perfect poster child for why women should deal with self esteem issues before entering into a relationship.

            But at least she did the smart thing and removed herself from that situation. I hope she finds love and happiness (hopefully with Ryan Reynolds) Now that would certainly be a nice come up for her 😉

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            • Liza207
              Oct 24, 2011 @ 17:55:53

              Thing about Sandra is that she is constantly referred to as a very beautiful woman. She cleans up nicely but she is not a beautiful woman. But we both know what that is all about, right?

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    • Neecy
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 12:30:25

      Mark, you made a good point about AMS’s. I forgot about the reality that a lot of these AMS’s do have g/f’s and/or wives as the “main woman” and cheat on her on the side. I was this girl in college with a very popular athlete as I found out later about his infidelities off campus.

      What is sad is a lot of women will turn a blind eye to this behavior b/c she wants what she wants and likes having the “status” of being the main squeeze of an Alpha type. Although behind closed doors she is miserable. Some of the more high quality women with plenty of other options or who have a higher esteem/value of herself will immediately exit out of that relationship, despite the “material” or “social” rewards of being with a guy like this.

      I did this with a high status guy who was in the stages of being very wealthy and having a somewhat “alpha status” b/c he had become a professional athlete. But once I found out about his cheating ways after we were set to move in together and get engaged (he had two children on the side while in our relationship I later found out) I ended that relationship knowing that I would have a life full of misery being with a man like this. I also didn’t want any future children of mine with him to have to be “just another one of his kids”. I guess I am selfish like that. LOL

      I wasn’t willing to take the material rewards for the psychological/emotional consequences that would come with knowing what type of LTR I would be entering into with him. So I ended it. Of course lots of women and people said I was crazy and that the money and lifestyle I would have had would have sufficiently “paid for” the drama, infidelity and stress that would come with a guy like him. I walked and never looked back.

      I find nothing remotely attractive about a man whore who sleeps with any and everyone. And I am glad I did b/c in true fashion he certainly put his wife through a lot of drama by having mistresses on the side and OOW kids from women he was cheating with (like he was with me in college) I dodged a bullet for sure!

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  10. Liza207
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 12:45:16

    I have to mention this; I believe most of the men in manosphere are white men who are airing their grievances with the way they have been mistreated by white women. What I do not understand is why they will not just say “white women” only and stop saying just “women”? This makes it seem as if they are referring to “all women” and I don’t believe they are. Why won’t they just to say “white women” when they are clearly talking about them? It is clear most of those white men have not been in relationships with women of other races or cultures (which is their prerogative) because they had they would know that those women do not conduct themselves in the same matter as white women or hold the same negative views towards “betas” males. I am not saying that other women are better. They just have a different experience culturally.

    For example, Black, Hispanic and Asian come from cultures where most the men are “alpha” types (sexist, misogynist, chauvinist, jerks, assholes, players and so on) if you will. Most of these women were surrounded by men like these their entire lives, so they are not fascinated by them in the way white women might be being that White women come from a culture where the men are mostly “beta” and they have obviously become bored with them. If it were not for Asian and Hispanic women (and now Black women) a lot of “beta and omega” type, White guys would not have girlfriends or wives. Most White women would not touch the Mark Zuckerbergs of the world with a 1000 ft pole to save their own lives. The most if not all the Black women I know who are married to or in long-term relationships are with “beta” type white men and they are very happy and very satisfied with these men.

    In addition, these women are NOT longing for or pining away to be with the men from their group who for the most part did not treat them well–because they quite happy with where they are.

    I just wish White men would stop lumping all women together even though I do not believe they are doing so intentionally. They are just very reluctant to say that they are only referring to White women. Why?

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    • Neecy
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 13:07:59

      Oooh boy Liza! You dun it a nerve. And I have to thank you once again for another BLOG POST!! Lol (see we work together nicely lol)

      Liza this is such an EXCELLENT NON PC point you brought up and I am soooo glad you said it.

      The fact is a lot of White men would be dateless these days if not for Asian women and Latina women as a whole. Asian women will tell you flat out the reason why they gravitate towards White males and away from their own men is b/c Asian males and culture is/are sexist!

      I have had several conversation with Asian women and each of them have said this is why they are attracted to American White men – b/c they allow them to be women and treat them for the most part as equals. And exactly as you pointed out, this is why women of Non-White cultures who exclusively date White men, do so b/c they actually find the “beta traits” of White males very attractive and necessary for a healthy well balanced relationship in which she is treated and allowed to fully be a woman.

      Black men, Latino men, Asian men, Indian men, Middle Eastern men all come from very chauvinist, hyper masculine, sexist cultures and women from these cultures are over them and their craziness. The White women can have them and enjoy all their “alpha jerkiness” in full glory! I am sure a lot of women from other races and cultures would love to trade places with ungrateful White women. Yet, the unfortunate part is White women treat their men (especially their good ones) like trash, but doesn’t want any other race of woman to have them.

      I will say Black men & Latino men typically are very Alpha when it comes to getting women. And Black & Latina women are used to this behavior and the high caliber Black & Latina women are turned off by it and over it. As you said most Black women who date White males go for the ant-thesis of the average Black man. Even the YOUNG Black women of higher quality. They want “nice guys” who treat them with respect.

      Also notice how the Non White women who date White men act – they act a lot more refined, feminine than most of the other women in their race b/c being with a man who treats you like a lady allows a woman to feel comfy in letting go and feeling free to be a woman. When you are constantly bombarded by assholes and disrespectful jerks, a woman becomes HARDENED and mean as a defense mechanism to protect herself against such men. That is why so many Black women are abrasive and un feminine. They are not rewarded by men for being and acting like a lady. But Black women who usually date White males usually feel comfy in being feminine.

      White women OTOH have had all the nice guys they can manage and want the “excitement” and thrill of being with jerks, assholes, thugs etc. Black women have had to deal with these types since exiting our mothers’ wombs and we see there is nothing special about these men.

      Now for White men who plan to solely stick with White women these days – they better start taking notes out of Black men and Latino men’s playbooks on how to attract women looking for these Alpha type assholes. White women do respond favorably to these hyper-masculinized types of men and White men looking to snag hot young White women will have to develop these traits to be successful with them.

      White men who are more Beta and open to dating women of other races will have much better success rate with Non White women. They will also typically find more traditional not feminist women of other cultures and races. That is b/c culturally and racially women of other cultures come from very sexist asshole alpha type arrangements with their men and they seek the opposite. All these women want is a nice quality man who respects her, is a good husband/b/f and father to his family. Many White Beta men fit this profile of most other races of men.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 13:17:20

        Yes, we do make a good team. I set them up and you knock them all down (a very bad bowling analogy I know).

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      • Liza207
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 13:29:22

        Just like you said, if White men want to get with young White women. The PUA community is their best bet in doing so these days. That PUA stuff does not work really well on other groups of women because we have been exposed to that shit very early and we can see it coming miles away. Negging please, how many times has Black or Hispanic guy said to me “you look tired” (Neecy does this sound familiar, lol!) or some other nonsense in order to lower my defenses. So over it.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 24, 2011 @ 15:01:25

          Ok. Most other races of women just look at these fools like the crazies they are and ignore them. White women seem to be responding to this madness. Better them than us. I’m sure they will eventually tire of that behavior once the novelty wears off. But By then all the White beta guys they tossed aside for these asswipes will be looong gone an dsnatched up by Ming lee, keisha, Shyharbib, Mezza, and maria. LOL (i think I covered all the races?) haha

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        • Firepower
          Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:44:10

          leza
          Just like you said, if White men want to get with young White women.

          you got to get out MORE. i’m recently into mature black women – b/c of the big butts. neeecy knows how I FEEL about Stacy D types

          YOU have to be satisfied with who you ARE. dont try to act white

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  11. Neecy
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 14:54:21

    LOL i just had to share this. oh what a sick world we live in. I looked on my dashboard where you can see the “search terms” people used to get to your wordpress site.

    WHY OH WHY was one search term “hamster porn”. LMFAO! WHo in the hell is searching for porn featuring hamsters? BUt most of all. aheam. why did it lead them to my site? 😮 😕 😡 😳

    God help us!

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  12. Liza207
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 17:58:19

    Hello! “hamster porn”! What sick f#@ks are into that?! Yes, God help us all!

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    • Neecy
      Oct 24, 2011 @ 19:09:06

      yes H.A.M.S.T.E.R P.O.RN. 😮 LOLLLLL! We are in our last days Liza!

      But what is freaking me out even more is the fact that when they put that in Google, they were led to my website. LMAO! W.T.H ??? 😥

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      • bob
        Oct 24, 2011 @ 19:23:51

        You used the word hamsters several times as in:

        Women know men like this and the hamsters

        And you write about sex. Maybe that’s enough.

        We are in our last days

        I am not a religious sort, but the culture is, in general, so degraded, that I feel like this too.

        Just listening to the news is harrowing some days.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 24, 2011 @ 19:34:35

          LOL Bob i am so curious to go and type that in google to see what comes up and why my site came up LOL. I cannot even imagine. But i don’t want the FBI coming to hunt me down b/c they think i am into beasteality. 😕 lol

          I guess you are right though. The many uses of hamster in my post and I think i mentioned porn as well. LOL amazing.

          Last days? oh yes. Its just sick some of thethings going on in the world. I just saw on the news a young teenage girl and her b/f killed her mother and stepdad b/c they did not want her dating him. OMG! Can you imagine killing your parents over someting like that? or killing your parents or anyone for that matter? You can only have one mother and father in this world. SMH. Those tow would have probably broken up anyway over something silly but they took the life of her two parents. Its so scarey.

          Sometimes I am glad I don’t have children the way this world is going. The music, TV, news. Things certainly aren’t the same as when i was growing up. Its a sad and sick world we live in and I am positive it will be coming to an end fairly shortly.

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          • Liza207
            Oct 25, 2011 @ 07:53:27

            I cannot even imagine having children, epecially in this day and age. I really feel for those who have decided to take this on. It is as if most parents have no control over their children anymore. It is as if the moment they can grasp a thought–popular culture and the media immediately take over their minds and they are gone. They are completely out of control.

            I was on my way to work yesterday on the subway and this woman enters the train car with her three adorable children (from hell) whom all looked like they are under age of 8. She could not control them; they were all over the place, bumping into everyone , they would not shut up and one them was playing with my bag (can you believe that). And, no matter how much she scolded them they just ignored her and kept doing whatever they wanted. She can’t control them now….

            It is moments like that I am really satisfied with my decision to forgo motherhood.

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            • Neecy
              Oct 25, 2011 @ 09:13:23

              Liza, it’s really sad at what the generation of kids today are exposed to. Many don’t even stand a chance. The music alone teaches them very early on to have little to no self-respect.

              If I were a parent my kids would probably hate me b/c they would be watching very little TV or listening to music. But there is only so much a parent can do. I think the parents who do have the best successes with their children are the parents who start them early and keep and maintain their extracurricular / recreational activities at an all-time high.

              Nowadays a kid who is not kept busy with all kinds of activities, has too many opportunities to get in trouble, hook up with the wrong guy/girl, watch too much TV, play video games in his/her free time etc. So to successfully raise a child today you have to have money and resources to keep them active without them recognizing that you are doing it to keep them away from Television, media and other disgusting displays of popular culture.

              And I come across the types of parenting you did on the subway. The adorable kid(s) from hell doing and acting wild b/c mommy can’t control them. I see it all the time in restaurants. One day this older couple was sitting across from myself and grandmother as we watched several different children from different mothers run rampant through the restaurant, screaming, playing etc.

              They looked over to us shaking their heads and said “there is no way we could act like this in public or restaurants with our parents growing up” And they were right. I wish I would have tried acting like these kids were in a restaurant. My mom nor father played that. But if you don’t teach them early on, kids who have no discipline or structure will run wild. And its gets worse as they get older.

              I remember a child psych course I took said that kids (despite their bucking) do crave authority, discipline and most of all STRUCTURE. I found that fascinating, but I do believe it. That kids do prefer having structure. I also notice that even the baddest kids will respond positively to authority if that authority is *CONSISTENT*.

              A lot of parents are not consistent and that is why that mother on the subway probably couldn’t control them. She’ll wait until she has reached her limit before she starts yelling or punishing which doesn’t work with kids. You have to be consistent with kids to get consistent results.

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              • Liza207
                Oct 25, 2011 @ 09:59:01

                That is the key; consistancy. Now, I know why a colleague of mine has his kids involved in so many activities. When he tells all things his children are involved in and how he and his wife have to run to soccer games and lacrosse and some other things. I feel exhausted for him and his kids. I see that they want their children to be well-rounded and out of trouble.

                If your not ready to really give your kids everything they need to become well-rounded individuals that will contribute positively to society (and not to mention the finances)–then do yourself and rest of us a favor and don’t go there.

                I also have a problem with people with emotional issues procreating. I wish there was a way for certain people to lose their ability to have children because some people are either too messed up emotionally to have children or just too stupid or both.

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                • Neecy
                  Oct 25, 2011 @ 11:40:56

                  Liza what your co worker is doing with his kids is EXACTLY the effort that it takes for parents these days trying to make the best of their children and to keep their minds and bodies into positive uplifting activities that make them better people.

                  By the time his kids finish with all the activities he and his wife have them in, the only energy they should have left at the end of the day is energy to complete homework, eat dinner and go to bed.

                  In fact, reacreational activities like sports really help to increase the self esteem of both girls and boys and I would as a parent make sure that my child was in plenty of these kinds of activities to increase their confiedence and develop a healthy self esteem.

                  That is why i don;t know how these idiot women who have baby after baby with no father in tow feel they can raise healthy well adjusted kids when they don’t really have the proper financial means to give them a solid foundation/life .

                  You’re right, I don;t understand how some people are allowed to even pro create. its amazing the amount of trash these days popping out more kids who will only follow in their parents footsteps as emotional beings with a ton of issues stemming from childhood. I feel so bad for so many children these days. They can’t even help themselves with the idiotic parents they have.

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  13. bob
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 18:51:51

    when they are ready to settle down they should get a young untouched virgin (preferably) or at least a young woman who has had a minimum of 2 sexual partners in her lifetime

    I’m sure you meant maximum, because minimum makes no sense, especially with the phrase that followed.

    You’re welcome. 👿

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  14. bob
    Oct 24, 2011 @ 19:18:10

    Neecy,

    It’s on the house. 🙂

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  15. Emma the Emo
    Oct 25, 2011 @ 11:13:48

    Do you remember that post RooshV made? How banging so many women turned the sex act into something mechanical for him, and how it reduced his respect for women in general? It seems some men can get spoiled by too much sex with too many women after all. I don’t think a man who had many partners is always bad, but if he crossed his limit and got de-souled, I don’t want to deal with him.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 25, 2011 @ 11:50:25

      Emma,

      I never read that post nor do I read Roosh site (except for that one Naomi Wolfe article) but I can actually believe this is what happens to most people (not just men but women too) who sleep around so much with various people. How can it not become just another mechanical act if you do it so much? Sex is sex and good b/c you aren’t supposed to abuse it and over do it. Once you do, it looses it real and true purpose and appeal – CONNECTION in the physical sense. There is no way you can be connecting with people you don’t know – i.e. strangers. All you’re doing is a physical act with no emotions or feelings involved.

      Also men who sleep around sleep with women who do all kinds of overly nasty stuff. Once these men try to settle down, they expect their g/f’s or wives (you know the ones they expect to have less than 3 sexual partners in her lifetime) to also do the same disgusting outlandish stuff that their skanks they slept with used to do. And when the wife or g/f doesn’t do that, the guy will miss that and continue to go out and seek these kinds of sexual activities with the kinds of women he was sleeping with before he decided to settle down.

      No way – you can have the promiscuous men, no high value, attractive woman who cherishes her health and mental stability would want any parts of them and the drama, BS and high risk that come with them.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:01:27

        Also men who sleep around sleep with women who do all kinds of overly nasty stuff. Once these men try to settle down, they expect their g/f’s or wives (you know the ones they expect to have less than 3 sexual partners in her lifetime) to also do the same disgusting outlandish stuff that their skanks they slept with used to do. And when the wife or g/f doesn’t do that, the guy will miss that and continue to go out and seek these kinds of sexual activities with the kinds of women he was sleeping with before he decided to settle down.

        ——

        Neecy, reading this really made me cringe. I loved “nasty stuff” (keeping it clean for us).

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      • Emma the Emo
        Oct 25, 2011 @ 15:35:01

        Lol. I’d like to have “nasty stuff”. But my first ever boyfriend (who had about 30 women before me) just wants to have normal sex. How funny is that?

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        • Neecy
          Oct 25, 2011 @ 20:49:17

          I’d like to have “nasty stuff”. But my first ever boyfriend (who had about 30 women before me) just wants to have normal sex. How funny is that?

          😯 30 WOMEN? Yeesh Emma! Well, if you’re happy I guess that is all that matters. 😐

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          • Emma the Emo
            Oct 26, 2011 @ 11:48:04

            Don’t get the wrong impression, he’s not an alpha slut man who pumps and dumps. He often tried to keep the girls he had ONS with, but it just rarely worked out. See, a man can get dumped after sex too. And about a third were prostitutes, which made me make him test himself for STDs before meeting me (but prostitutes require condoms so are not as dangerous as one would think). Not damaged goods by far, has great bonding abilities and is caring.

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        • n/a
          Oct 26, 2011 @ 03:36:54

          You’re right: you *do* want and need the harder stuff — that’s what I see in your expression, in your eyes, in your writing and that’s why I wrote what I wrote at R’s.

          I know *exactly* what I would do with you. And you would love it.

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          • Emma the Emo
            Oct 26, 2011 @ 11:20:52

            I think you are thinking of the wrong nasty stuff…

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            • Neecy
              Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:10:10

              Nasty stuff with your man is juuust fine. But I’m talking *OVERLY* nasty stuff. Once you start crossing that line you are in the porn star zone. LOL

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              • Emma the Emo
                Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:20:48

                Lol, I wonder what exactly that really nasty stuff is?? My limit is stuff that has to do with shit (like 2 girls 1 cup), won’t do that. And animals. Won’t do that either. I think it’s illegal anyway.

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                • Neecy
                  Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:37:45

                  *TMI coming up. Please be warned*

                  Emma darling i feel its my duty to tell you this b/c I see you as a younger sister. LOL

                  My only request is that you never allow your b/f or any man to stick it in your booty and then try to put it in your mouth afterwards. PLEASE for the love fo GOD don’t do that!! Promise Neecy you won’t do that PLEASE????

                  Also if you have anal sex NEVER allow him to remove it and then place it in your vagina b/c of the bacteria and UTI’s that can happen.

                  That is the kind of “overly nasty stuff” I am talking about. PLus. oh the bacteria 😮

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                  • Emma the Emo
                    Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:47:25

                    Oh, thanks for telling me that, although I was aware of those rules. Not sure what man who cares about his woman would make her do such a thing.

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                    • Neecy
                      Oct 26, 2011 @ 13:01:52

                      Don’t underestimate men darling. They are some NASTY MOFOS who will try anything if they can get away with it.

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                  • Liza207
                    Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:50:42

                    Oh, my.

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                    • Neecy
                      Oct 26, 2011 @ 13:02:49

                      LOL Liza. Its real girl. There is some nasty shit that goes on out there in the sexual arena. Protect thyself my friend! LOL

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                  • MK
                    Oct 26, 2011 @ 16:34:49

                    Scared to see which keywords your gonna be ranking for soon… maybe you’ll be able to sell lube on or anal beads from amazon.com for a commission.

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                    • Neecy
                      Oct 26, 2011 @ 23:29:01

                      LOL MK. I think i am a little bit scared myself. So far today nothing crazy. I may have to start breaking up certain words with symbols. LOL

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                  • MK
                    Oct 27, 2011 @ 05:17:28

                    Here is my summary for this thread paraphrasing Dr. King.

                    I have a dream that men will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the quantity of their ejaculate but by the content of their character.

                    I have a dream that one day adventurous red heads will not be dissuaded from ass to mouth by outdated societal cleanliness standards.

                    I have a dream that one day hamster porn lovers will be free to scurry across the internet devouring tasty morsels of their much maligned hobby.

                    I have a dream that Neecy and Liza207 vaginally conjoined twins cruelly separated at birth by an unforgiving judgemental society will be joined again in thought and blog post.

                    I have a dream.

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              • Firepower
                Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:21:49

                neeecy

                Once you start crossing that line you are in the porn star zone. LOL

                i bet youve never even seen a pornstar movie mizz neecy nice. fwiw i think thats kind cool for a girl of your age to remain pure

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          • Firepower
            Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:18:54

            n/a

            I know *exactly* what I would do with you. And you would love it.

            dude, be cool – you dont want chris hansen filming you IYKWIM

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    • Firepower
      Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:31:47

      de soul-ization by
      poon-ization
      is a tough job
      but somebody’s got to do it

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    • MK
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 11:42:28

      What if a man lost his soul due to an unprotected vampire encounter vs. an excessive notch count. Would it still render him immune to your affections?

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  16. bob
    Oct 25, 2011 @ 11:41:26

    I am not sure how you ladies can tolerate RooshV. This is from a recent post of his, which I will not dignify with a link:

    The more worthless you think of the female species and the less you fantasize about your dream girl, the more likely you will find and successfully game her. The fantasy you should have to get your ideal girl should be choking and butt-fucking her, not having a romantic walk with her on a beautiful beach underneath a full moon.

    Why do you give your eyeballs to this shit? Whatever can a woman find there, other than a dire warning?

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    • Neecy
      Oct 25, 2011 @ 11:52:59

      Bob i do not read Roosh’s site and the only trip i ever made there was the one time he responded to that article by Naomi Wolfe. And I actually got to his site from a link someone posted on Heartiste’s site.

      That snippet you posted from him is utterly SICK. And yet people are going to tell me that the kinds of women who end up in the bed with men and assholes like him are not LOW CALIBER and suffering from low self esteem? Pssh!

      That is *FURTHER* proof of what i have been saying. That ASSHOLE game only can work on a certain kind of low caliber woman. If these are the kinds of women hopping in bed with men like this? uuuh doesn’t take a PHD psychologist, psychiatrist, counselor to see the writing ont he wall. These chicks are dealing with major self esteem issues. The women guys like Roosh and his followers get are lost, insecure DAMAGED women. PERIOD. I cannot be convicned otherwise after reading this.

      IMO that reads like a man who actually HATES women…

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    • Emma the Emo
      Oct 25, 2011 @ 15:49:46

      Exactly, warnings are good. And I don’t read him all that much, I just stumbled across that particular post.

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    • MK
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 11:46:48

      You may be repulsed by the raw vulgarity to it but I think all its basically saying is that if you put the girl on a pedastal and treat her different in most cases it backfires and comes across as repulsive and needy. I have seen it enough with friends to agree.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:19:46

        MK,

        If he wanted to say what you said he would have said it. Anytime a man says that he sees women as the “worthless species they are” sorry but it signals a real misogynist with clear woman hating issues. Others on here have mentioned several other “sick” posts he has made.

        I can tolerate Roissy b/c he doesn’t come off as a woman hater with issues (although I want to rip his eyes out at times) and actually seems like a decent man who actually likes women but hates feminist women of and fat women (lol). but comments by Roosh above signal something far more sinister and evil and HATRED against women in general. Any man listening and following that route is just as sick with issues.

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  17. Liza207
    Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:08:06

    Yeah, these women are definitely of low caliber but since they claim that they are only concerned with them being young and good-looking their inner qualities probably don’t matter.

    But I don’t believe that the women they are bedding are 8s, 9s and 10s. I just don’t buy it.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:29:46

      Actually Liza roissy claims that game works on all attractive (and ugly) women and that these women don’t have low self esteem or are not slutty or low caliber. Just “young” and attractive. And that is not true most of the time and where I don’t agree with him. He tells a lot of those guys things that won’t hold up in the real world or things that wont work for the average Joe ( which most of his audience is).

      So in essence he is telling these men they can get high quality beautiful women (8’s 9’s and 10’s who are a VERY SMALL percentage of women) with asshole game which is simply not true most of the time UNLESS the chick has issues or unless the guy is super high status himself. The only chicks average Joe us gaming is AVERAGE WOMEN!

      So on essence what I am saying is they are getting sub par women mentally and aesthetically IMO. Also one has to ask what the average white Joe calls “attractive” and “hot” b/c these days practically any white woman with a vagina is called “hot” lol

      I work with a lot of white women who fit in the 8,9, and 10 category of looks and who would give the average white female star today a major run for her money and NONE of these women go for assholes. I go out with them from time to time and better believe their bf’s and fiances are NOT assholes whatsoever.

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      • Liza207
        Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:36:03

        So on essence what I am saying is they are getting sub par women mentally and aesthetically IMO. Also one has to ask what the average white Joe calls “attractive” and “hot” b/c these days practically any white woman with a vagina is called “hot” lol
        ——
        I want to add: not fat with a vagina is called “hot”

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        • Neecy
          Oct 25, 2011 @ 20:51:17

          oops forgot about the “not fat” part. Its kinda how Black women say any Black man is hot as long as he has teeth and male genetalia. LOL

          Gotta take some things with a grain of salt. But the point is I highly doubt they are gaming 8-10’s as you said.

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          • Liza207
            Oct 26, 2011 @ 07:37:19

            Not to beat this to death but it is no wonder they think that their SMV is so high. Over the weekend, I saw this reality show about dating and an attractive white guy was being set up by a matchmaker. He went to a bowling alley to wait for his date to arrive –she walks in and she is no more then a 51/2 – 6 (at best) and her hair was the worst (really straight and dead) and her skin was not very good either. But the moment he saw her he was all excited and in his voice-over (pre recorded audio, he was probably saying this after they met and she wasn’t present, lol) he said she was really “hot”. I was like who the f@#k was he looking at. I guess, that is why it is said that looks are subjective.

            I know as a woman I don’t get to dictate or decide what women are deemed beautiful and what women men should find attractive. Men are the ones who actually decide what women are considered desirable. I didn’t get up one day and decide that I was hot or beautiful and everybody just got on board. It is what men have decided to deemed me as such. I’m saying all of this to say, if white women are walking around thinking they are hotter than they actually are–that is because men are telling them they are, period. Therefore, with all the complaining about this these days from the men of their group–they need to see where they are at fault here.

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            • Neecy
              Oct 26, 2011 @ 08:58:25

              Liza I’m going to break this post up b/c its very long and I have a lot to say on this.

              PART 1

              Liza, i see what you are saying and you are right- women do not determine what men find attractive. I am annoyed by women who do this. But MOST PEOPLE know an attractive person/woman when they see it. While beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, for white women the “beauty is in the eye of the color of her skin”. I think most people across the board can agree on AVERAGE what is considered ugly, average, above average, hot, beautiful.

              So if they wanna fake the funk, then I have a right to call it for how I see it. And when all these men are talking about “gaming” hotties in the 8-10 range I really take that with a grain of salt b/c nowadays almost any White woman with a vagina who is not fat is considered 8-10. Which means they are more likely in the 5-6 range in *real life* and not “racial benefits” realms.

              The way Game blog guys talk about 8-10’s you would think on average a lot of women are running around in the 8-10 range. But the reality is there are not a lot of women of ANY RACE running around in the 8-10 range unless the bar is being LOWERED in some fashion. So what these guys are really saying is these really hot women are WHITE, NOT FAT, HAVE ALL THEIR TEETH, and POSSESS A VAGINA. DONE – automatic 8-10 looker. LOL

              I have ZERO probs admitting to a beautiful or attractive woman of any race. Hell two of my favs were the *EARLY* Pamela Anderson (cause lord knows she now looks more like SPAM than PAM lol) and Carmen Electra. I loved me some Pam and Carmen when they first hit the scene. Truly gorgeous White women who I often took notes from on make-up tips, hair styling techniques etc. I loved their look and agreed for the most part that Pam was a “blonde beauty” in her early years and Carmen was a hottie. There is nothing wrong with a woman admitting when another woman is admirably hot or pretty just as there is nothing wrong with a woman admitting when a woman who really looks like shit on a stick or a PLAIN JANE is being touted as a hottie or beauty when she isn’t! lol

              Black woman? Psssh! You better be drop dead gorgeous if you are looking for a compliment on your “beauty” . People have NO PROBS whatsoever letting Black women know when one is “unattractive”. Y But a White woman? Psssh! just has be born with a vagina, not be too fat, have all her teeth to be “HAAAAAWWWWWT!!”. LOL

              The fact is the bar is lowered for White women when it comes to hailing their “looks” and the bar is held very high for Black women and other minority women to even be considered attractive.

              It’s all mind games and that is why White males are dealing with the issues they have with WW these days.

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            • Neecy
              Oct 26, 2011 @ 08:58:56

              Sorry but at the NEST we call a spade a spade. When it comes to White women’s attractiveness these days its most of the time not about “subjectiveness” at all. There has always been a push to overestimate the beauty of White women over others and by making them the standard. But these days what passes off for “hot” for White women is very obvious what is at play – WHITE IDEAL. PERIOD. It is what it is and it’s about time *SOMEBODY* said it.

              So when I see one particular group of women getting accolades for not really being much to look at and then look at other groups of women where this same “advantage” is not extended, then I know something more ugly and foul is at play here.

              I wouldn’t care so much but it bugs me that these same people who are trying to shove any ole White woman down our throats as a beauty queen or the people willing to give hot stickers to any ole plain Jane looking White woman, they *EXPECT* everyone to agree that these women are beautiful when we all know damn well they are AVERAGE.

              Goes back to that whole every time you hear or see the word blonde the adjective “beautiful” is followed before or after. Now come on! LOL We all know everything with blonde hair aint beautiful. But people start believing this. So all a plain Jane White woman has to do is dye her hair blonde and WUHALA! She’s “ a beautiful BOMBSHELL!”. 🙄 She can have a wanky eye, crusty teeth, bad skin, stink but as long as she has that blonde hair she is a “BEAUTY”!!

              I actually feel bad for the ACTUAL beautiful, pretty and hot White women. They just get lumped in with the rest of the average Plain Jane’s of their group. LOL Like I said, I work with a lot of above average and really hot White Women. When I look at these chicks and compare them to the Plain Janes of their race who are often called “hot” its mind boggling and sad.

              Beauty should be something celebrated b/c it’s quite rare and yes, really beautiful people are special b/c they possess something that the average person simply doesn’t have. So it irks me to no end when uglies and Plain janes are called hot or beautiful b/c they AREN’T and there is something more racially motivating behind it than anything.

              Now we have to deal with overinflated egos and senses of entitlement as a consequences of allowing any ole White woman to be called HOT. And believe me EVERYONE suffers for it! Yes even Black women and other women of other races who have to deal with Plain Jane White women thinking they are aesthetically superior over a much more aesthetically hot Black, Asian, Latina Indian woman. And that is why White women act the way they do these days – they have entitlement complexes B/C everyone has given it to them.

              So White men need to stop with their complaining – they create WW monsters and are dealing with the aftermath. LOL

              So in the case of men AND WOMEN (b/c WW do this to themselves as well) who are always saying how any White woman is “hot” “beautiful” or “attractive” a lot of times its OBJECTIVE based on the fact that she is WHITE and WHITE ALONE. in society it has been pounded in people’s psyches to say or see any woman with White skin is automatically beautiful. If you are made to believe something for so long you do start believing it. And that is why you see so many White men placing these average and below average looking White women right up there on the “hot” seat. Yet these same AVERGE WHITE JOES will expect a Black woman to look like Haley Berry or some model to even be called “pretty” LOL I see it for what it is.

              This is all not coincidence and its time people start calling it out for what it is.

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              • Liza207
                Oct 26, 2011 @ 09:28:48

                Neecy, yes, it time to call it as it is. This has been a pet peeve of mine for along time. The whole white=beauty nonsense. I have never bought into white women are the epitome of beauty and sexually meme–never. And I never will drink that kool-aid. I just hate that so many BW have and are made to feel unattractive and undesirable when compared to WW even in some cases when they are actually beautiful or more beautiful. It is a awful evil mindgame that has been perpetrated.

                I agree that Pam Anderson and Carmen Electra were absolute true beauties in the hayday. And are the sweetest women too.

                Sarah Jessica Parker, Julia Roberts, Reese Witherspoon, Renee Zelweiger, Sandra Bullock, Blake Lively, Cameron Diaz, January Jones and I am going to throw Scarlett Johanson in the mix are touted by Hollywood as beautiful white women. While the actual white women beauties fly under the radar. It is very twisted.

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                • Liza207
                  Oct 26, 2011 @ 09:49:22

                  I forgot to add: Jennifer Aniston, Angelina Jolie and Anne Hathaway are not beautiful women and don’t care what Hollywood says.

                  Hollywood seems to want to make the average and below WW feel that she is beautiful by glorifying and making big stars out of average to below average looking WW. The women I mentioned are often cast along side really good-looking male actors as their love interests in romantic comedies– in roles that should be reserved for women who are actually beautiful.

                  We will be probably never seen Megan Fox or Olivia Wilde in a romantic comedy because the average WW would never go and see it. They need to have their egos stroked and Hollywood does a really good of it.

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                  • Neecy
                    Oct 26, 2011 @ 10:09:16

                    Hollywood seems to want to make the average and below WW feel that she is beautiful by glorifying and making big stars out of average to below average looking WW.

                    You know what Liza. You hit it! Notice how they kicked megan fox to the curb and replaced her with that fish lipped weird looking chick in the last Transformers. That chick could not hold a candle to Megan.

                    It seems the American WW is seeking to lower the bar for beauty so that she can feel good about herself – even at the expense of her own beautiful WHite sisters.

                    That is where this whole fat acceptance thing stems from too. making fat women feel they are just as HOT as a svelete and shapley woman when we all know that being fat does take away from your attractiveness. Notice how almost EVERYONE looks more attractive when they are at a normal healthy weight.

                    I’m wondering if this is also done to keep White men in thier places and not crossing over to other races. If you think about it. if the average White guy starts buying into the idea that AVERAGE looking WHite women are a lot more beautiful and “hot” than they really are, then they would be less likely affected by “real beauty” and/or other race of women’s beauty and will stick with WW. Hmmmm i don;t understimate brainwashing one bit! LOL

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                • Neecy
                  Oct 26, 2011 @ 09:59:34

                  Liza its a pet peeve of a lot of people, but its just no one DARE say anything bad about the “WHITE QUEEN”, so they just act like this problem doesn’t exist. Well Not MOI! I calls it as i sees it. like i said, I do believe there are quite a number of beautiful WW in the world as well as quite a number of other beautiful races. WW do not hold the candle or torch on beauty – this idea that they do needs to come to an abrupt end. People need to stop being such drones, puppets and zombies about everything these days. No one has a damn mind of thier own. its all about jumping on the bandwagon even when you know that bandwagon is full of SHIT.

                  The constant lowering of the bar for WW’s attractiveness while raising it up for other races of women has been a LOOONG pet peve of mine and is getting beyond annoying and its time people start calling it for what it is _ RACIAL IDEALS being perpetuated as a way to create some standard beauty. 🙄 while making others who do not fit this ideal look and feel inferior. Whatevs!

                  A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman – it aint got shit to do with the color of her skin or race.

                  BTW I actually think Blake is attractive compared to the others on your list. But I think Audrina Partridge, Hayden Pantierrie, Candice Swaenpole (vicroria’ secret model) and a few others whose names escape me are such pretty girls who we rarely hear about.

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                  • Liza207
                    Oct 26, 2011 @ 11:25:05

                    Neecy,

                    You know if this was one of those other blogs we use to comment on, there would be a bunch of WW protectionist coming after us in an attempt to shut us up. We have always been too outspoken and unafraid to express our views no matter how un-PC they were and that did not make us very popular on those other blogs. That is one of the reasons I thought that your starting this blog was a great idea—a place where we could come together to express our observations and point of view without being censored. Girl, some things just have to be said.

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                  • Mark Slater
                    Oct 26, 2011 @ 11:50:29

                    White women indeed have been the standard of beauty around the world for quite some time.

                    I went to a certain website [which one I cannot recall] that showed photographs of the young people in a major university in Egypt around 1957 (Cairo University, I think). The girls there looked like they could’ve been from Nashville; they imitated the appearance of American White girls to a T, as was true of most of the world at this time.

                    This, however, has reached its peak in the 50s and 60s. Now, it seems, White Women have forsaken their high birthright and are now pursuing one of two looks: 1. Very sloppy and slobbish 2. Neo-Bulldyke. Both of which cause the average man to seriously consider a life of celibacy.

                    This could be YOUR time, Non-White ladies. White men are tired of seeing these dreadful-looking and acting White women. If an attractive, intelligent Non-White woman, one who truly has pride in her appearance, suddenly makes an appearance in a White man’s life, it may be enough for him to seriously think, “Hmmm, not bad!”

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                    • Neecy
                      Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:32:51

                      Mark,

                      White women are *STILL* the standard across the globe! The modeling industry will often only hire White women while allowing very few women of color on their runways and in their ads (there is an actual documentary a Black model did on this).

                      Also women who fit closest to the White ideal are hailed as the most beautiful of any race.

                      In other non White countries Whiteness is also excessively sought after. That is b/c Whites play a major dominant role on planet and have been able to colonize many places on the globe and influence. Also, with “WHITENESS” comes this idea of “power, wealth”. In pop culture all one sees around the world is White women being marketed as “beauty” in every arena. SO yes it will have an effect over others even if the reality is White women are not really that more beautiful than other races, its just they have a GREAT position of power and ability to influence the “ideal”.

                      But what is happening is White women are feeling the pressure and now seek to lower the bar for beauty so that they can actually meet it. As I said many times, only a small percentage of women in ANY RACE are of top hierarchy in beauty. Most women of any race are average. White women are finding these days it’s too difficult to live up to the “WHITE BEAUTY” standard set for themselves so that is why they are coming up with all kinds of “fat acceptance” campaigns and using Plain Jane WW as the forefront of “hotness” and “beauty” in the media. On the other side other WW will seek surgeries and other efforts to fit the White ideal (blonding the hair etc).

                      And lastly. I agree that Non White women (especially Black) need to take back their beauty and femininity stripped from us and constantly maligned in pop culture. The fact is a man cannot deny a beautiful or attractive woman when he sees one and in raw nature a man will find any beautiful woman worthy regardless of her race, if all the political BS and brainwashing was stripped away.

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                • MW
                  Oct 27, 2011 @ 20:52:05

                  SJP hasn’t bee beautful since she was in her early 20s. I don’t know why everyone made such a fuss over her in Sex and the City.

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                  • Neecy
                    Oct 28, 2011 @ 08:38:12

                    Me either MW. I guess like Liza and I said all you have to be is thin, with hair and teeth to be hot in the media. Although I was never a sex in the city fan and only caught glimpses of the show here and there, I will say she dressed well on the show which probably added to her “attractiveness”. An unnatractive person that dresses well and grooms well can move themselves up a notch on the attractiveness scale.

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                    • Liza207
                      Oct 28, 2011 @ 08:47:01

                      SJP was NEVER a beautiful woman but she has always played beautiful women. I think she has an awesome body, though.

                      Yes, Neecy once they are thin with hair and teeth they are considered beautiful or hot. Ha!

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                    • Neecy
                      Oct 28, 2011 @ 08:57:37

                      I agree Liza. SJP is in great shape and is very fit (although she has too many veins poking out often) and she dresses well and has thick full hair. I think this is why people may call her attractive b/c I can’t think of much else. LOL

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      • Liza207
        Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:40:51

        Yes, I know that L.A. has a lot of hot women. Most beautiful know that they are and most hold themselves in high-esteem and can be very picky when it comes to choosing men and don’t need to slut it up to get male attention.

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        • Firepower
          Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:48:27

          oh no, you’re NOT from LA, are you??

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        • Neecy
          Oct 25, 2011 @ 21:04:08

          Yes, I know that L.A. has a lot of hot women. Most beautiful know that they are and most hold themselves in high-esteem and can be very picky when it comes to choosing men and don’t need to slut it up to get male attention.

          EXACTLY LIZA. I know pretty and hot White woman when I see it. I live in L.A. for God’s sakes! I don’t play that game of lowering the bar for White women b/c they are White like the rest of society does. i will give credit where its due just like any race of women (including Black).

          In the industry i work in a lot of the WW are 8’s-10’s. So half the WW these days that people pass off as “hot” i just shrug and laugh like “whatever” b/c I know what a *real* hot/ attractive WW looks like and better believe the WW who I work with who are in the upper tier in looks are not sleeping around or bedding assholes AT ALL. They are also quite sweet and happy go lucky.

          A lot of these women don’t need to sleep around and slut it up as you say. Although, there are quite a bit of skanks in the industry many of them are the average looking chicks who are trying to get the attentions and affections of the High status good looking men. The average chicks (unblike the hotter ones) have to be slutty and skanky to be noticed by the upper tier guys. The hot upper tier women don’t have to and they are quite conservative and very feminine.

          I started taking notice of the men my very attractive White co workers like and talk aboiut and interact with, and these guys are usually “monkey in the middle types” Guys with some Beta but majority ALPHA but not “ASSHOLE” Alpha – CHARMING ALPHA men who treat these ladies with respect.

          High status men aren’t going to ruin their chances with the upper tier women by being assholes. if they wanna be jerks and buttheads, they will save that for the average chicks or the low caliber ones who will do anything for these guys attentions. B/C really hot women are much rarer than average chicks, most men will treat these women quite well while in their prescence.

          And simply put, men who are around very beautiful feminine women cannot even mistreat them or dog them out even if they tried (unless they are hard core mysogonists). Yes even the ALPHA men are enamored by beautiful feminine women just like the Beta men.And if the really beautiful woman is sweet, feminine and friendly – there is NO WAY a man is going to be a jerk or asshole to her. i have YET to see it!

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          • Liza207
            Oct 26, 2011 @ 08:34:05

            There may be a few beautiful women who have low self-esteem that will fall for “game”. You are being hit on by men all of the time–saying all kinds of shit to get you into bed and after a while, you will have heard it all. Therefore, my question is what are they going to say or do that you as a beautiful woman have not been hearing since puberty to get your panties off? What?

            Yeah, it is kind of fascinating when a guy is acting all aloof towards you and not falling all over you like most men do when in your presence but I always see it as an act because men just don’t come up to me and start chatting me up just because he seeking someone to just have a conversation with.

            However, in all fairness to “game”, I can see how some beautiful women may be intrigued by this behavior (aloof cocky) because guys are always fawning and gushing all over you and it can be a little off putting and embarrassing at times. Therefore, that guy who is talking to you and who is not appearing to be very affected by your looks can make you wonder what is the deal is with him, especially if he is not a guy you would have even looked at twice. It can leave you in a bit of a tailspin. Either you walk away thinking he was not that interested and you’re just dazed and confused. Alternatively, you stick around really wanting to win him over.

            Therefore, I can see how some of these not-so attractive guys can “game” a beautiful woman into sleeping with him by differentiating himself the overt worshippers.

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            • Neecy
              Oct 26, 2011 @ 09:37:17

              I see what you’re saying, . I don’t know if I really agree to a great extent. Games are for children and immature adults. Maybe b/c I’m old school traditional – I am not turned off by a guy paying me compliments as long as they are sincere or not overdoing it making himself look like he is trying to prove something or “get” something for the compliment. I believe its natural for men to appreciate and openly express that for a woman’s beauty.

              Women these days are just so self-absorbed, and bitchy and IMMATURE that they would take a man paying them compliments as something negative. *mind boggling* A mature well adjusted attractive woman is appreciative of a man who can openly compliment her for the obvious. She doesn’t fall for that “aloof” game b/c she sees it for what it is A GAME. Immature girls like games. Real women don’t like playing them in unless its one she can buy at a store.

              I think it’s silly and immature for a woman to think a guy who is paying her attention b/c of her attractiveness is a bad thing. Its NATURAL. Immature women will find a guy paying her compliments a problem. Whether she has heard it all of her life or not. That is what drives men – beauty. Geez! I don’t understand what the problem is when a man is being obvious about what drives him as long as he doesn’t make an ass of himself *shrug*

              The problem is *NOT* men being obvious about their admiration of a particular woman’s attractiveness. The problem is when these men continue to allow that, and that alone to drive him to lose any backbone or self respect he has b/c is he so engulfed in her beauty. After while they need to start looking beyond the surface, but its fine to love it in all its glory initially and to express it. I don’t get the big deal unless you are a self absorbed bitch?

              a *SMART* and well informed beautiful and/or attractive chick already knows the game. She already knows there are two types of men in her world. The ones who foam at the mouth when she is in their presence (i.e. the worshipers) and the ones who are going to try to differentiate himself from the “foamers” by acting aloof and uninterested in her beauty. Whatevs! The latter are more annoying than the former b/c they are trying too damn hard. AT least the “foamers” aren’t faking the funk.

              Granted a guy going overboard with compliments is annoying and a buzz kill. But a man who will not compliment a woman he finds attractive or beautiful is a faker and not a real Alpha type and a smart beautiful woman will see RIGHT THROUGH his ass and be laughing to herself while watching him work overtime to “PROVE” he is uninterested in her “beauty” (yet he is still trying to get with her). LOL yeah okay buddy 🙄 She will play games with this dude b/c she already knows he is playing stupid boy games with her.

              If they were that uninterested in her looks, they wouldn’t even waste their time trying. So a well-informed attractive chick already knows what the “aloof” jerk is doing – playing games to come off like he is not really into her beauty when that is the SOLE reason he is even bothering with her. Guys don’t bother with women they are not attracted to or who they don’t find physical and aesthetically appealing. PERIOD.

              The best guys know balance. They aren’t going to *pretend* they don’t see her beauty or are not affected by it b/c ALL WOMEN KNOW MEN are very affected by a woman’s visual beauty. So he won’t play that stupid aloof game b/c *REAL* attractive women already know the deal. He will also know when to back off and act a little unaffected by her beauty as time goes on b/c once again its all about balance. Too much of anything Good or bad becomes a turn off to the average woman. So it’s about balance. A man who will not compliment a woman’s he finds attractive is whack and not a real man.

              Women today are really immature and silly. They need all these stupid game playing tactics to trick her into believing a bunch of nonsense b/c too many women are full of themselves. Whatevs. I guess that is why these games work. Its just ridiculous to me.

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  18. Liza207
    Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:18:06

    My stepsister was dating a guy who was in his early thirties. She really like him but she would complain to me saying that he couldn’t maintain an erection or sometimes he couldn’t achieve one. She being very experienced in this area believed with certainty that this guy was extremely promiscuous (when he was much younger) and he was paying for it.

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    • Firepower
      Oct 25, 2011 @ 12:33:38

      girl, is your sister a plain jane
      why is sleeping with her some sort of payback

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    • Neecy
      Oct 25, 2011 @ 21:16:21

      WOW Liza that is sad. The only reason a younger guy should have problems with erections is if he is diabetic or has co-morbidities that revolve around blood pressure, heart disease etc. OR he just maybe wasn’t attracted to her which can sometimes be the case as well.

      But possibly using it too much can contribute to ED b/c I guess after you have “done it all” eventually the poor thing just loses its power. Or it could be a mental thing and the guy simply becomes “over it” and “over women” b/c he has done so many. And we all know what happens then – they start moving onto other things/people (sometimes of the same sex) to regain their excitement. Happens a lot. LOL

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  19. n/a
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 03:32:22

    There’s a lot of hamster porn racing in this very thread.

    The truest thing anybody ever said about women is this: Don’t listen to what they say; just watch what they do. There is nothing more instructive for men.

    A woman can talk (or, in some rare cases, write) all day about what she hates in men, what she loves in men, what she wants, what she needs, what she absolutely refuses to deal with, what she must have no matter what, etc. etc., all day long, and then…one night…

    You see her walking away with Mr. Supposedly All Wrong, and she’s as happy as a hamster in shit.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 09:04:46

      You know N/A the saying is the same for men as well – look at what a man does and not what he says.

      But you don’t believe there are some women who know what they want in a man and don’t stick by it? I have plenty opps to hook up with Mr. Wrong, but I truly and honestly don’t want to. Its just not worth my time or energy to extend myself to jerks, asswipes and disrespectful men looking for one thing.

      There is a lot of sacrifice (and lonley nights) in that and *THAT* is why a lot of women just give up and end up with Mr. Wrong. Women do know what they want, but frankly, its a lot harder to wait, sacrifice to find and be with that *RIGHT* person than it is to just simply say “eff it” and settle for the easy to come by Mr. Wrong.

      Alot of women go agisnt thier grain b/c they are desperate, pressured by peers to “get a man” or other factors that cause them to give up and settle for the wrong guy.

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  20. n/a
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 03:41:16

    Neecy,

    You are strikingly beautiful in all your photos; I always enjoy seeing a new one. I still want to see you with the missing cigarette.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 09:06:14

      N/A you’re a bad boy but you know when to be kind – thanks hun 🙂

      And me no likey ciggies! I smoked one ciggie in the 4th grade, swallowed the smoke and never touched one A GAIN!

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  21. Liza207
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 11:33:43

    Notice how they kicked megan fox to the curb and replaced her with that fish lipped weird looking chick in the last Transformers. That chick could not hold a candle to Megan.

    No. She cannot hold a candle to Megan’s hotness but she (Rosie Huntington- Whiteley is the #1 hottie on every 100 hot chick list. I look at her and I don’t see anything special—so go figure.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 11:52:00

      Liza I do a lot of ordering through the Victorias secret catalog where I buy some clothes etc. And Rosie Huntington was one of the VS models. She just always looked weird to me b/c of her lips. While many of the other models are quite attractive she just gave me this weird vibe. She would make these overly sex faces with her lips poking out and I would find myself thinking “please don’t make that face!” lol I was shocked when she was replaced with Megan who is quite a striking beauty.

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    • MK
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 16:37:30

      She got kicked to the curb for taking herself too seriously and being a c#*$. Can’t bite the hand that feeds you and talk shit on the director and expect to keep your job. It isn’t even based on gender either ask Charlie Sheen.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 26, 2011 @ 23:43:49

        HUH? So she was fired for talking crap about the director? Baaad move Megan. She does say some crazy stuff. She needs to realize that beauty can only take you so far if you don’t have the right attitude. I haven’t seen er in much else since Transformers. That’s too bad b/c she was the perfect for for Transformers.

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  22. Liza207
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 12:11:25

    I’m wondering if this is also done to keep White men in thier places and not crossing over to other races. If you think about it. if the average White guy starts buying into the idea that AVERAGE looking WHite women are a lot more beautiful and “hot” than they really are, then they would be less likely affected by “real beauty” and/or other race of women’s beauty and will stick with WW. Hmmmm i don;t understimate

    You have made a very astute observation here. I believe this to be the case as well I have always seen parallels between WW and BM on how they are very possessive of WM and BW. WW and BM do not want anyone to trespass on what they see as their territory (WM/BW). WW and BM want to put WM and BW on a shelf away from other races of men and women until they want or need them. Most WW want to run around and jump in the sack any man she wants from the global village they please without impunity while they made WM as unappealing as possible to other women and cock block and focused on them. Their egos are often crushed when they see WM involved with other women—it is about their ego and sense entitlement. And when they are done having their fun years later they want to go the shelves and take some WM down and dust him off and make him captain-save-ho. Most BM are the same way, they also feel that they are entitled to do what they want with other races of women, while making sure that other men cannot get to BW. Well, because his ego cannot stand the idea that men from races can be better partners and he might need her to bail him out of the shit later.

    There has been a campaign going on for years between WW and BM where they can have their cake and eat it too.

    The fat-acceptance thing is also a part of WW attempting to ultimately get WM to further lower the bar for them. Everything else has been working so far, so this might go over well for them too.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 13:00:05

      BADDABING LIZA!

      WW and BM could really give a shit about their “better halves” (WM and BW) its all about what they want. The fact is they wouldn’t have half the shit they have if it weren’t for Black women doing any and everything for BM and White men doing any and everything for WW.

      However, because BW and WM are so intent on upholding “race loyalty” BM and WW have used this to their advantage. They know they can pretty much treat a WM or BW any kind of way and still have them in their corner and back pocket for use as needed. But WM and BW know, that a BM or WW will freely go out and seek their own individual happiness wherever they find it, race loyalty be damned (this is the only thing I can admire about their behavior is they don’t allow stupidity to keep them locked up. They go for theirs regardless of what anyone thinks).

      WM and BW are left allowing themselves to be used by WW and BM whenever they “need” something all in the name of “race loyalty”. Whenever a WW or BM is in trouble and needs back up and support who comes a running? Black women and White men to their rescues.

      Yet WW dog out WM and BM dog out BW. As you said. They only want to keep WM and BW in their back pockets when they need one of us to rescue them or to fill a void or need.

      The idea of a WM or BW opening up their options to other races means they are not around ready waiting and willing to put up with a WW or BM’s bullshit and they know they no have to come correct and not simply take advantage of the fact that they will be rewarded by a WM or BW simply b/c they are part of their group.

      As you said the reason so many WW get really nasty and bitter when they start seeing WM with other races of women is b/c she knows that her well will be dry when she is no longer attractive to the hotter younger Alpha WM and she needs her “WHITE BETA BOYS” to come and “Captain-save-a-hoe” her for the last half of her life. Also WW in their prime want to openly screw all the hot Blacks “studs” they want and then expect a WM to come and do the clean up and give her all the White privileged children and lifestyle she wants later in life. SMH. These White chicks GOT GAME. LOL

      BM realize that when Black women start dating other races she will not be around to put up with his petty BULLSHIT and will not lower her standards anymore simply for him b/c he is Black. That means he has to come correct if he wants to win over the affections of a BW who is dating other races of men who pose a great threat and competition for BM.

      Notice how BM and WW feel free to express attraction towards each other but get real nasty and judgmental when they see a BW or WM together. The effort these two groups put into keeping WM and BW apart is very telling – especially when they don’t live up the EXPECTATIONS of “race loyalty “they expect from BW and WM.

      BW and WM need to stop drinking the kool aid and realize all that racial loyalty crap to their respective others is a bunch of BS that is only around to protect the best interest of BM and WW. PERIOD.

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      • bob
        Oct 26, 2011 @ 14:43:59

        Neecy said:

        WW and BM could really give a shit about their “better halves” (WM and BW) its all about what they want…. However, because BW and WM are so intent on upholding “race loyalty” BM and WW have used this to their advantage.

        This is for certain. It is “pushed” to the BW all the time.

        From this by Khadija at Sojourner’s Passport:


        African-American women are the only people on this planet who sacrifice opportunities for personal happiness in support of the already-dead Black community. Ladies, remember that African-American women have been alone in letting anything (including ideology) narrow their personal choices.

        …..Nobody else does this…certainly not African-American men. Black men in general have never narrowed their dating, marriage, work, or residential choices to support any ideology….
        Please consider the following partial list of individuals before you do so. … Also, pay attention to whether any of the “race men” and “race women” you know ever comment about these men. Or do they only start talking about sacrificing for some cause when it looks like you might expand your life options?

        Amiri Baraka, Charles Barkley, Harry Belafonte, Billy Blanks, Julian Bond, Taye Diggs, Father Divine, Frederick Douglass, Julius Erving (Dr. J), Frantz Fanon, Marvin Gaye, Cuba Gooding, Jr., Gregory Hines, Rick James, James Earl Jones, Quincy Jones, Van Jones, Reginald Lewis, Thurgood Marshall, Major Owens, Sidney Poitier, Adam Clayton Powell, Prince, Richard Pryor, Lou Rawls, Lionel Richie, Dennis Rodman, Seal, Russell Simmons, O.J. Simpson, Wesley Snipes, Clarence Thomas, Melvin Van Peebles, Ben Vereen, Herschel Walker, Walter White, John Edgar Wideman, Billy Dee Williams, Montel Williams.

        Did the above (and countless other) Black men narrow their personal lifestyle options out of concern for the Black masses? Did these men stay in any particular place to fix the problems in the Black areas? No, they didn’t.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 13:16:06

      The fat-acceptance thing is also a part of WW attempting to ultimately get WM to further lower the bar for them. Everything else has been working so far, so this might go over well for them too.

      As the saying goes GAME recognizes GAME. haha! These White women take GAME to a whooole other level. I don’t even know if I can be mad at them for it. Its a dog eat dog world out there and the White girls are not playing “nice” they are hardcore about getting and keeping what they need (while snatching up) and I guess I can’t hate on it. LMAO!

      If everyone is allowing them to get away with it and rewarding them even with the way they act, then by all means I say more power to em. Do it as long as you can WHITE GIRLS!!! 😉

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  23. bob
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 14:18:41

    Neecy said:

    I believe its natural for men to appreciate and openly express that for a woman’s beauty.

    See, *this* is another thing about WW. They do all kinds of stuff with make-up, hair products, clothes, etc, to make themselves look good and/or hot – and then they get (or act) really annoyed if they catch you noticing. (Maybe Alpha males get a different reaction – I was pretty firmly beta as a young man. [Now I’m a fat old white guy – omega.])

    Whereas many more BW seem to take the attitude that Neecy does. They enjoy the appreciation.

    With WW, it’s some sort of additional silly game. I never was good at that, and resented the imposition.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 14:43:15

      I dont get it either Bob. I don’t care what any woman says- she tries to look attractive to be seen as appealing by the opposite sex. All that idiotic getting “annoyed” b/c some guy is openly complimenting your beauty is just another by product of self absorbed women with entitlement issues. They have at this point taken for granted their “position” on the “beauty hierarchy” and feel they can afford to get their panties in a bunch against men being men and complimenting her looks.

      The fact is white women ‘ARE’ in a position to have this attitude b/c despite their behavior she has the long standing support of that pedestal that will continue to support and lift her up no matter how she treats men.

      Black women and Latinas don’t take this for granted and understand this is a mans nature. If you don’t want a man complimenting you then do your best to get fat, cut your hair off and other things to make you unnattractive. If a woman doesn’t want to do that then shut up and stop acting like a self absorbed immature ungrateful biotch!

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      • MW
        Oct 27, 2011 @ 21:44:11

        “All that idiotic getting “annoyed” b/c some guy is openly complimenting your beauty is just another by product of self absorbed women with entitlement issues.”

        I wondered about that too. Two anecdotes.

        Ex girlfriend was uncomfortable when I complimented her looks from a “physical” point of view. She really did have a great bum and WHR, About 0.75. I loved holding her in the notch just above her hips; so sexy and feminine. I explained to her the visual cues a man is hardwired to look for, and after a while she was ok with moderate attention from me in that area. She did appreciate compliments on her style. Modesty, yet with elan, always turns my head. Not to mention yoga pants made her ass look terrific. Sigh.

        Next one. Good female friend has had a good three dozen partners over the last decade and a half. Two thirds one night stands. Usually Middle Eastern guys, some quite a bit older than her. She has beautiful face, very feminine looking, but starting to physically hit the wall. And she knows it and despairs of it. I asked her about the revulsion to compliments. She said she loves the attention from men she finds sexually attractive, but was revolted by the exact same attention from men she didn’t want to sleep with, ie they weren’t handsome with a bit of menace, which many ME men are (according to her). She considers the average joes who don’t give her the tingles she craves, to be creepy and disgusting. It’s all in the way a man presents himself, she opined recently.

        So what about the men not well versed in “presentation” I asked. Too bad for them, if they don’t know now, they’ll never learn and actually deserve the revulsion she hands out. Entitled? I’d say. Yet same woman wails about not finding a good man to settle down and have children with. They’re all looosers with baggage.

        I think the evo-psych explanation is that she knows (or is deluded by) her reproductive value and demands only the fittest swimmers for her (now quickly aging) eggs. How true that is, I don’t know. But I’ve seen her attitude of utter contempt for various men interested in her. Seemed like ok guys to me. What’s man to do?

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        • Neecy
          Oct 28, 2011 @ 08:51:56

          MW,

          It actually sounds like your ex was possibly very modest or conservative so any mention of her body parts or anything towards her body being “nice” made her feel uncomfortable b/c modest and very conservative women usually feel its somewhat disrespectful for a guy to always focus on their body parts.

          So possibly why she loved it when you complimented her on her style b/c that was not “sexually” related. Of course b/c you were her B/F she already knew you and had an intimate relationship so saying she had a nivce butt and waise was not out of the ordinary.

          But I would never acknowledge a man that I didn’t know or who was not my b/f or hubby making references to my body parts b/c that would be uncomfortable and disrespectful IMO. But a man complimenting a woman on her style, hair, face shouldn’t be something a woman gets worked up over or uses to lable him some “beta”.

          About your friend who sleeps aorund and is hitting the wall. You nailed it. Some women are so insecure about thier value and looks that any man who they do not consider high on her SMV chart that compliments or makes passes at her she gets angry. LOL Typical of women who know they don’t really have it anymore.

          I have *NEVER* gotten mad when ugly or men I was not attracted to complimented me or flirted with me. LOL Not even when I was younger in high school, college and in my prime did I ever get mad (unless they were being rude and disrespectful).

          And I still don’t today. If a bum makes a pass at me I even chalk that up to him simply being a *MAN* and laugh and keep going. that is just what men are going to do when they see an attractive woman – make a compliment. Doesn’t matter if they are ugly or hot. men are still men. I am just as appreciative when an ugmo compliments me as when a hot guy compliments me and in between. Its not because i am looking for some validation, its b/c I just see it natual for men to do this. *shrug* IOW’s no matter how attrative or unnattractive they are, men will say nice complimentary things to a woman he finds attractive. As long as they are being respectful and not pushy I don’t get the big deal.

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          • MW
            Nov 02, 2011 @ 13:18:38

            Yes my ex is quite modest, but I could tell that once the ring was on, she’d fire right up! At least for a while until the moodiness took over. A great girl but the wrong time.

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            • Neecy
              Nov 03, 2011 @ 01:33:55

              What do you mean she’d “fire right up after getting the ring”? You put a ring on it and she’d get excited? I’m sorry it didn’;t work out 😦

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              • MW
                Nov 04, 2011 @ 00:01:32

                She’d fire right up……….if the van’s a’rocking….don’t come a’knocking, heh! she looked forward to it just as much as I was.

                For me, much good has come out of the breakup. She’s a great girl, but it was the wrong time for me. Both of us needed to learn some things about ourselves.
                I’m seeing a few very important things far more clearly now. Which was impossible during the relationship.

                How’s it looking for you? LA must be a buyer’s market.

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                • Neecy
                  Nov 04, 2011 @ 00:44:02

                  ooh OK I get it now!! LOL

                  Is this the girl that you said you overgamed and lost b/c of it? I think I had asked you what things you did to overgame her but i don’t know if you ever saw that response. I’m curious what a guy does to overgame a woman.

                  L.A sucks in terms of dating. I go out on dates here and there but Meh.. The last or latest was a younger guy who had just turned 30. We hit it off really good and he was a really nice cool guy. But he is going back to college to finish his Undergrad and moving back in with his mother to help her out. Plus IMO he still seems closer to mid 20’s than his 30’s in the sense he comes off very young and naive. I can forsee down the line it not working out b/c we are not in the same places in our lives. So I’m moving on from that…

                  L.A. is a tough market for almost any woman – even the super hot sought after ones.

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    • Matt
      Oct 30, 2011 @ 22:24:14

      Bob,

      I’ve actually started to wonder if women become annoyed by a compliment because they don’t know how to take one. So, when a man genuinely pays her a compliment, there’s no base reference for how to deal with it. Anger is a comfortable, familiar reaction to men, so that’s what’s used.

      Though if it’s a game, it’s one I find I have no patience for. The last lady that pitched a hissy fit when I complimented her was treated to a lecture, from me, that revolved around “If you don’t want anybody to notice you, don’t dress to be noticed”. I have to admit to a certain guilty satisfaction in leaving an idiot red faced and sputtering in the hallway. She later asked me out. There are some behaviours I’ll never understand.

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      • Zorro
        Oct 31, 2011 @ 07:12:55

        “I have to admit to a certain guilty satisfaction in leaving an idiot red faced and sputtering in the hallway. She later asked me out. There are some behaviours I’ll never understand.”

        ά♂ behavior to perfection.

        And people say Game does not work.

        Dude, you totally mastered her.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 31, 2011 @ 11:44:29

        Matt,

        A woman that is actually *UNCOMFORTABLE* with compliments will usually not respond angirly or botchy but will usually say something negative about themselves after receiving a compliment. In fact a lot of women do this, b/c they think they have to point out something bad as to not come off as full of herself or b/c they don’t know what to say in response to a positive compliment. i used to do this myself until my grandmother told me to stop and to just accept a compliment for what it is.

        An example of a woman uncomfy with compliments or one who doesn’t know how to simply respond positivley to it is:

        GUY: I really like your hair
        GIRL: REALLY!? Ugh I hate my hair its so thick and gets so frizzy all of the time! I’m shocked you like it.

        OTOH women who get angry with a guy paying them compliment are BITCHES. I’m sorry I cannot think of a better word to simply describe these kinds of women.

        I’m doing a post on this b/c its one of my pet peeves about women today.

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  24. bob
    Oct 26, 2011 @ 14:54:32

    The Fat Acceptance thing is a bad joke. Nobody is buying this, except other fat women.

    There are, apparently, a very few weird guys who really like fat babes.

    Everybody else likes their women fit. They don’t need to be fat-free – in fact some of the fashion models, etc, look unhealthy . But fit or close to it makes an enormous difference.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 26, 2011 @ 23:26:48

      Well media is working overtime to really push it so you never know.

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    • Emma the Emo
      Oct 30, 2011 @ 15:31:43

      It seems many men I know go for fat women because they find them attractive despite the fat, not because of the fat. They might prefer them thinner, but they seem to be ok with them being fat… Thoughts?

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      • Zorro
        Oct 30, 2011 @ 15:43:33

        Some men go for fat women because FW are easier to steer into the bedroom. Less Princess Complex. More insecurity. Same fun; Far less work.

        Just a theory. Personally, I have no problem with a little extra weight (more to love).

        Mopeds.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 31, 2011 @ 11:32:31

          And that is the thing Zorro. One man’s fat may be another man’s skinny or normal.

          But I think we can all agree on what is simply not attractive fat. My definition of a fat woman is a woman who has fat rolls, a large mid-section and is not well proportioned.

          Some men say any woman who is not a size 2-4 is “fat”. Some men like more curvier women who may have a little more meat on her bones (but in the right places) but who is still managing to keep a svelte and shapely NON FAT ROLL attractive figure.

          It gets a bit touchy b/c as I said; everyone has a different definition of “FAT”. But at some e point there has to be a line on where fat becomes unattractive to most people. And I think people who have fat rolls are the people who most would not find attractive.

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          • Zorro
            Oct 31, 2011 @ 12:01:12

            Agreed. There’s a liquor store near me with a checkout girl who must weigh 2,198 pounds. Muffin-top x 1,000. Totally gross loss of self control. That’s when I go YIKES!

            On a related subject, I am now reading Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest Human Strength by Roy F. Baumeister & John Tierney. Baumeister is my favorite physiological researcher for 20 years. The book is aweseomness!

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      • Firepower
        Oct 31, 2011 @ 10:49:32

        ema, is weather man the beta types you love? where are weekend neecynoods you announced

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      • Neecy
        Oct 31, 2011 @ 11:25:08

        My thoughts Emma is that yes there are men who go after very large women and may be attracted to them. THEY ARE NOT THE NORM. I also feel if these men had equal choices in a nicely shaped woman with curves and no fat rolls and a large obese woman with a bunch of fat rolls, they are going to pick the first kind of woman.

        Most men want to look at and be with women in some sort of visually appealing physical shape.

        You said “they may prefer thinner women”. EXACTLY! Thinner doesn’t mean skinny or boney. Thinner in my definition is simply a woman at a healthy normal attractive weight. Not necessarily a certain size number etc. b/c women look good at different sizes and weights. But the main point i am making is FAT is not ever attractive and men who do settle down with fatter women are usually doing it b/c as Zorro pointed out, they are easier to get.

        Women need to be healthy and strive for that. I am not about telling women to be skin and bones or to try to be a size they know they could never keep comfortably. I will never be a size 2 and if I really overwork myself I could get to a size 4 – but that is not healthy weight for me and my bone structure b/c I am solid and curvy with an hourglass shape. And if i ever get down to a size 2 I can and will be mistaken for a crack head or skeleton. NO WAY. my body type is solid and i will only get so small. But I am getting to a perfect and very attractive appealing weight and size for MY BODY TYPE which may be different for every woman. I or another woman may not be *small* enough for some men even at my normal healthy weight and size. That is fine. But the point is, anyone who is overweight is doing a disservice to their body and looks b/c no one ever looks their best being fat and most attractive males with options are not going for women who look obese.

        The point is – obesity is not normal, it’s not something the average man OR woman finds attractive in the opposite sex. A small number of men and women like fat men or women and find them sexually appealing. However, when you live in a society that normalizes AND CELEBRATES obesity more people become comfortable with it, and it becomes “normal” to many people who begin adjusting to it. This is not good and this is what is happening. Also when you have a lot of men and women who are obese, that really leaves not much choice for the average man or woman to end up with a fatter partner over a skinny one.

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  25. bob
    Oct 31, 2011 @ 17:19:56

    However, when you live in a society that normalizes AND CELEBRATES obesity

    I haven’t seen this – quite the opposite. I’m fat and I HATE it. And it is definitely making me unhealthy, via Type 2 diabetes (which has, in the past, “mysteriously” gone away completely when I worked out, lost weight, and ate low carb).

    Far too many people accept it in themselves – me included, though I fitfully try to address it – but I don’t see anybody normalizing it and certainly not celebrating it.

    People celebrate eating, that is for sure.

    But, my perception is that the “Big Beautiful Woman” thing died before it was ever really born – because nobody actually believed it.

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    • Neecy
      Nov 02, 2011 @ 03:02:13

      Bob,

      I think men have less propoganda directed towards them celebrating fatness. but women these days have a ton of unhealthy messages coming their way regarding body image. Its either the starve yourself overly skinny look or the be happy and obese look. There seems ot be no in between message encouraging women to be at a normal healthy attractive weight.

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  26. Johnny
    May 12, 2013 @ 21:33:55

    Such a great, true post. Thank you so much for this Neecy. I hate passing judgement on someone based on their promiscuity, but people don’t realize how easy it is for some people, how difficult it is for others, and how different of a person it can make you. Everyone has different values and I think in the end people with similar ones generally end up together.

    Oh and for the record, I loves me a sexy curvy woman 😉

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    • Neecy
      May 13, 2013 @ 21:02:15

      Hi Johnny!

      Yeah i don’t think its really about judging someone regarding their promiscutiy but its pretty much clear that women who do sleep around a lot do typically carry a lot of emotional baggage and issues from doing so.

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