I have noticed in personal experiences as well as in general that promiscuous people who lived a fast and loose life, eventually get to a point when they feel they are ready to settle down. GREAT! I think that is a part of growing and maturing. Everyone should be able to change who they were in the past if it was not positive. However, the problem is they (previously promiscuous people) don’t seek out others who have equally lived the same fast and sexually loose life as they did. Noooo. They suddenly believe that they are entitled to the best quality partners available on the market. The men and women who have somehow managed to escape living that fast sexually risky lifestyle that they lived for so long.
You may be saying “But Errrbody needs and should receive love Neecy!” Absolutely! But getting a quality partner is like wearing
spanx spandex – it’s a privilege not a right! If you have not maintained some quality about yourself as a man or woman why on earth do you expect a quality partner to come and sweep you off your feet (or vice versa) if you have not done the things in your life to make you as equally attractive to a quality partner?
SORRY. BUT. YOU CAN’T TURN A HOE INTO A HOUSEWIFE!
Gardening tools usually make great…gardening tools. Usually, not great housewives.
I’ve noticed this entitlement of getting the best most quality partners in quite a few women I have known who have had some pretty loose and high risk sexual lifestyles. Practicing little to no restraint, caution or judgment in who they jump in the bed with. Often times strangers or random doods they meet out. YET these same women get to a point in their life where they believe they are deserving of a
Cap’n Save a Hoe wonderful man that will take care of them and be faithful to them and cherish and honor them. One that will bless her with his seed so she can pro create with him.
Yet, it never occurs to them that the lifestyles they lead, no sane man of quality would commit to such a high risk woman who has spent many years sleeping around with all kinds of men. And to think a man of quality wants a woman like this as the mother of his children is also insane! Whether she walked away disease free or not doesn’t really matter. Anyone can catch an STD or a disease be them chaste or sexually loose. All it takes is one time with the WRONG person. So being STD free doesn’t disqualify anyone from the pitfalls that come with being with a man or woman who has slept around most of their lives.
There are telltale signs of character issues with people who sleep around with random others for pleasure and immediate gratification. Especially women. Women need to understand the emotional toll being sexually promiscuous plays on her psyche and physical state. If you think you can be a hoe all your life and then turn into a loving housewife later with no remnants of your past you are lying to yourself!
Men are right when they say that women who sleep around are high risk partners. It shows not only lack of discipline for your health and well-being and value as a woman, but also an insatiable uncontrollable appetite for sex and that in any given instance, you could or would easily sleep with a person outside of your monogamous relationship if he said the right things, looked a certain way or if you just were horny.
So ladies, recognize that a quality man who is looking to be with a quality woman, will have a keen eye and awareness for the types of women who unconsciously show tale tell signs of being a previous HOE. You can’t hide it from a quality man. And if you manage to slip through the cracks, eventually he will find out the hard way of who and what he got himself into and will not be happy and will most likely find a quick exit route to you and that relationship – IF he’s lucky. Your best bet? Choose your sex partners wisely! Learn patience and self-discipline b/c it will pay off later (hopefully before you’re old, crusty and wrinkled) *Paging NEECY! – did you hear that?* Ahem…. You will walk away without the emotional stress of having lived such a life and a quality man will see this in you.
WHAT’S NOT GOOD FOR THE GOOSE IS ALSO NOT GOOD FOR THE GANDER
Men, often times are let off the hook for this kind of behavior. A lot of men seem to feel that they can and should be able to spend many years at the shooting range (BANG BANG) shooting blanks into any and every hot woman that comes up the line. Ironically, these same men when they want to settle down, DEMAND that the women he marries or makes a Long-term g/f have as little sexual partners as possible. They feel they should be able to get the (YOUNG) non-promiscuous women. Any woman over 30 is “high risk” b/c she “rode the cock carousel for most of her youth” and therefore she is “damaged goods” b/c of the amount of sex she “probably” had in her youth. Lol Mm’kay?? BUT a man in his 30’s and 40s is “NOT” damaged goods if he slept with all kinds of drunken nasty hoes who opened their legs for every Tom, Jerome, Habib, Jose and Chin lee?
I have been on GAME SITES (where men are taught how to be man whores) and the same men talking about how they are out trying to bang all the young 8’s, 9’s and 10’s at
meat and fish markets bars, clubs and other venues out there, would find a girl who is over 28 or one who has had more than 3 partners in her lifetime a “high risk”. LMAO. The nerve huh? In one breathe, they want to be able to “bang” all the young hotties in their prime (18-25) who are willing to give it up easily. Then in the next breathe they are criticizing these same women for “riding the cock carousel” in their prime years and who are now too damaged of goods in thier late 20’s ad 30’s – sleeping with GUYS LIKE THEM! LOL! See how irrational and crazy some men think?? What woman in her right mind would want to be with a man who thinks or acts like this?
Not only that, these men also feel entitled in their 30’s and 40’s to be able to swoop up and marry very young inexperienced women who should want to not only be their brides but have their children as well. They should skip college and run straight to the altar with some older dood (who banged 100 women before her) and not enjoy or live her life like he was able to around her age. LOL. The mind boggles.
So lemme get this straight. Guys who have spent most of THEIR younger years and mid years sleeping around with all kinds of women feel when they are ready to settle down they should get a young untouched virgin (preferably) or at least a young woman who has had a minimum of 2 sexual partners in her lifetime – anything more than 2-3 sexual partners , or a woman over the age of 30 automatically signals “DAMAGED GOODS” (but not for him JUST for the women he feels entitled to make his LT g/f or wife). S’cuse me a minute…
Ok just needed to let that out.
Seriously. Now I am not one of those femanzi women who says “If men can be sluts and sleep around without being frowned upon then so can women”. Crap. I understand that promiscuity in women is a bit worse than men for a number of reasons. But this DOES NOT excuse the fact or idea that a promiscuous person of ANY GENDER is a high risk person for any man or woman looking to get involved in a quality monogamous relationship.
YES, this includes men too. Any woman of quality who has managed to maintain some chaste and who has any kind of values and morals that she stands by would be utterly turned off by a man who has slept with all kinds of women. In fact, a smart woman realizes that the kinds of women who sleep around are usually very high risk in many ways.
Thus a man sleeping with drunken chicks or chicks he picks up at bars and nightclubs is also transferring that high risk to any partner he may settle with. Not just STD risk but the risk of him being a man whore in the relationship as well which comes with its own set of problems FOR THE G/F OR WIFE later on.
“SORRY NEECY MEN WHO SLEEP WITH LOTS OF WOMEN ARE ATTRACTIVE TO MOST WOMEN B/C OTHERS OBVIOUSLY WANT HIM AND FIND HIM ATTRCATIVE”
Ah. NO. No they’re not. Please don’t fall for that Banana in the tailpipe baloney ladies of quality. Remember we must always separate the “types” of women who believe this. Yes, some women of low caliber and low self-value want the guy who sleeps with all kinds of women to bed her b/c in some sick way it makes her feel “special” that she was able to “bed” the guy that all other women are bedding.
But the key point chicks like this fail to understand is, it doesn’t take much AT ALL to really sleep with any man. Men will pretty much screw anything with a wet available hole if they get horny enough. That is just a FACT. Not all men but MOST. If you are even halfway decent looking – Pssh! You’re in there! So. If you are looking at it from the standpoint that a man who is sleeping around with lots of women is some special catch, then I have news for you – he isn’t.
That is b/c in order for the average man to have access to that much sex and women, he, himself has to lower his standards to pick up easy low caliber women in places like bars, clubs and other “hot spots”. It’s all about quantity vs. quality in these cases. We all know it’s easy to get quantity notches under the belt, but not quality.
He may have been lucky and managed to screw a couple decent mid-high caliber women who felt an unusual rare connection/vibe with him or who he lied or gamed (her unknowingly) and were just having a “ah screw it! I’m horny and I haven’t had sex in awhile and I am really having an out of this world vibe with this guy, so I’ll just go for it” moment. But the majority of women men who sleep around sleep with are loose women who pretty much sleep with any guy who shows a slight interest in her and is halfway decent looking. Oh and if she is halfway drunk.
IOW’s ladies, sex is not hard to come by for men these days. Basing judgments on how valuable a man is by the amounts of women he beds is really assbackwards thinking b/c it’s just so easy to bed most women these days without much effort for a man. There is nothing sexier than a man who *CAN* get all the ass he wants, but who chooses restraint and judgment on the kinds of women he beds. Now *THAT* is when a woman should feel special. When she is the *chosen* one of many whom a man that has options, has chosen.
STD’s ARE *NOT* THE ONLY REASON TO AVOID HIGH- RISK OR SEXUALLY PROMISCUOUS MEN / WOMEN
While STD’s are the main immediate reason to not sleep with just anyone its not the *ONLY* reason to avoid high-risk sexually promiscuous people for relationships. Something deeper is going on there than just a risk of STD. And yes, believe it or not, some very sexually promiscuous people luckily manage to walk away from their lifestyles STD free, while the good guy/girl who never slept around and who managed to end up in a relationship with one of the not-so-lucky high risk people who caught STD’s from sleeping around, catches it from that person after being in a monogamous relationship. So no, just b/c you are STD free doesn’t mean you get a *Get outta jail free* card in my book. You just got lucky!
MOVE ALONG! NOTHING TO SEE HERE BUT DAMAGED GOODS!
Something much deeper and sinister happens to a person (especially a woman) who has slept around with random people most of their lives and suddenly want to settle down. They come with a lot of internal and mental baggage that may not show up in a blood test or STD test. They lack a certain character that would make them prime long-term partners.
Having sex with a person like this may be special to you, but to them – its like ”yeah just another penis or vagina I’m partaking in”. It does get to that point. Usually once you have crossed the line of insatiable uncontrollable sexual appetite it’s hard to cross back. You have lost any real need to see sex as something more valuable than just doing it with a person b/c they were hot and you were horny. IOW’s sex or the act of sex loses that special appeal that it has. You become sexually jaded so, that even sleeping with that person you really love is just an act b/c you’ve done it so much and can’t seem to find the specialness in it anymore. It’s an act of doing after so long.
I wonder how many porn stars experience this later in life after they have walked way or retired from the porn industry. How can sex be a special connection to people like porn stars or men/women who have just screwed all kinds of people when they have exploited it for no real gains other than immediate gratification or getting paid to do it?
STAY WELL ADJUSTED – HOLD OUT NO MATTER WHAT SOCIETY SAYS
Especially men. It’s much easier for women to admit that they are not interested in sleeping around. But much harder for quality men to openly admit this without being seen as gay, unable to get laid, or he is called a “beta”. But then, too, as I mentioned before. There are those desirable men who know their high SMV and use that to show it by not just bedding all kinds of women b/c they can.
Women know men like this and the hamsters are at full speed & driven insane b/c a simple woman doesn’t understand that yes a High quality man with a decent SMV can and will often choose to just not sleep with every attractive woman that is available to him. HOW freakin sexy is that!?
Women know its sexy, but a lot of women hate on that b/c they realize that having a vagina and being halfway attractive won’t snag a guy like this no matter how hard she tries. It takes that certain *something* for a man like this to want reward a woman with his goods. Guys like this just for some reason pick and choose the women they sleep with carefully and the part that drives the simple easy woman insane (as well as the quality women) is she just doesn’t know what makes a man like this tick, b/c the average guy is just trying to stick his penis into any female who responds favorably to him.
THIS is called the HAMSTER in mostion and sometimes a woman’s hamster in motion is good and exciting. When a woman doesn’t get the expected results she is sent in a tizzy trying to figure out why this guy is so different from the rest . (unless he is an obvious guy who most women don’t find sexually appealing)
I really applaud males who have managed to feel proud in not just screwing all kinds of women. It really takes a lot of self-discipline and comfortable self-awareness to do so.
Women, I also know its tough these days for a more chaste woman to find love or feel valuable when so many women today are giving away the milk for little to nothing at all but a memorless night in the hay with *some* random dude who managed to say all the right things in one night.
Well I think it does take much longer and is much harder for those who don’t want to sleep around these days to find valuable and quality partners, but when they do, it was well worth the wait for both.
LIKE STAY WITH LIKE – PWEESE??!!
I’m a big proponent of Like staying with like. Like, in terms of values, morals, standards, goals etc. Promiscuous people deserve to enjoy love and relationships like anyone else. And they’d be better suited finding it with the people who have shared their same need for immediate sexual gratification and such than trying to snag a quality man or woman whom IMO they are UNDESERVING OF. Yeah I said it – wanna make somfin’ of it? LOL
I’m sure there will be some pissed off people after reading this. But all I gotta say is:
*KISSES*!!!! & *LOVE*!!!