Once upon a time in America, women loved being women and celebrated it in every way. Granted I was not born in all of the womanly eras, but I was lucky enough to be the last generation to have experienced what was once left of the American beauty (70’s to the very early tip of the 90’s).
THE GIRL NEXT DOOR HAS LEFT THE
The girl next door used to be a sweet and wholesome girl whom was an ethereal beauty yet still very approachable by all. She was not a “bitch” and certainly never took her feminine and sexual appeal too serious – half the time she was unaware of her sexual appeal. Instead, the GND of the past had a natural ability to make everyone feel good in her presence b/c she was ultra-feminine, pretty and kind hearted.
She would never walk around thinking she was “all that” and would never mistreat men who succumbed to her feminine wiles and beauty. Instead, she kept a level head about her sexuality and used her assets to find quality guys who would protect and cherish her and in return she would be faithful, loving and easy going.
The old American girl next door, she was family oriented and had a great balancing act between being reasonably chaste (not too prudish) but sexy without trying too hard. She wasn’t a “slut” or “hoe” and always held her womanhood in high esteem and expected others to treat her as such. She wasn’t insecure or needy and she did not have to do much to get male attention and affection. She surely never used sex as a way to a man’s heart.
The Old American girl next door was outgoing, bubbly, friendly, sweet, sexy and kind. She took care of herself physically and treated even the most OMEGA and/or BETA guys with respect even if she had no romantic interest. This GND was Alpha in many ways most importantly (unlike today) that she was not competitive with other Alpha women for male attention and often times GND’s of the past stuck together and supported each other as women.
THE GIRL NEXT DOORS ARCH NEMISES HAS ARRIVED AND STAKED HER CLAIM!
You’ve seen them on the college campuses, in the bars and on various “Girls Gone Wild” videos. Yes, the girl next doors arch nemises – THEE GIRL NEXT DOOR HOEBAG, SLUT, HOOCHIE MAMMA has arrived and been welcomed with open
arms zippers. She is still a young attractive woman, but unlike her GND enemy she uses her “beauty” to entertain all kinds’ men sexually. Today’s “GND” normally sleeps around and gets drunk at bars and clubs. She uses campus life as a way to “experiment” with all kinds of free for all sex and fun. Often times she is a lot more trashy acting and dressing than the previous GND and she uses her sexuality in a masculine way.
“GIRLS GONE WILD” is a perfect poster child for what has happened to the Girl next door. She has become a product of feminism on steroids that says women should use all of their free rights to have as much sexual fun and be as sexually “free” as possible b/c it’s a woman’s right to do what men have been doing for so long. So you have so many young women who look the part of the GND but certainly have not lived up to the original title of what a true GND is.
Many young “GND” women today spend most of their prime years sleeping around and using their attractiveness in ways that ultimately burns them out by the time they reach more mature ages past their 20’s. Also, today’s GND is very competitive with other women for male attention and will do almost ANY.THING to get it – including sleeping around with other women’s b/f’s and husbands as a way to seek positive reinforcement for herself and her sexuality. Her second home is in bars, clubs and other venues that cater to getting drunk and partying like rock stars.
FEMINISM ON STEROIDS HAS DESTROTYED WHAT WAS/IS LEFT OF THE WHOLESOMENESS OF THE AMERICAN WOMAN
American women in the past were very well known for their wholesomeness which was part of our appeal as women compared to other countries. In many European countries the women were often seen as more sophisticated while American women were more down to earth beauties. When feminism started going in more extreme directions to really compete with men on all levels, the wholesomeness that was once in most of the American woman collective was slowly chipped away. Now we have a more hardened image as women and also a lot more insecurity in ourselves as women.
There are more insecure women today than ever before. And that is b/c women have lost sight of what true femininity is. When you are secure in your womanhood and understand it for what it is and should be, you have no need to be insecure.
As a result of extreme feminism, women are often left struggling with issues concerning their body and looks. Many young women today suffer with anorexia and bulimia which they use as a replacement for control. In the past, I don’t really know how much these issues affected women, but when you look at many of the starlets and famous young women of other eras, they all looked and appeared to be very physically healthy and womanly and comfortable in their skin.
LOST IN TRANSLATION:
HIGH MAINTENANCE ~ THE CLASSIC SOPHISTICATED GLAMOUR GIRL FROM THE CITY
LOW MAINTENANCE ~ THE NATURALLY GORGEOUS GIRL NEXT DOOR FROM THE BLOCK
NO MAINTENANCE ~ THE UNFORTUNATE SWAMP CREATURE FROM THE DEPTHS OF HELL
CAN YOU GUESS WHICH ONE REPRESENTS THE AVERAGE AMERICAN WOMAN TODAY?
Let’s see. American women believe there are only two kinds of maintenance when it comes to making an effort to look good – LOW and HIGH maintenance.
It seems most Americans define HIGH MAINTENANCE as: combing your hair, washing your ass, brushing your teeth, throwing on a little make up and a cute outfit and perfume or making ANY kind of effort at all in your appearance as a woman.
Now, we all know being called “high maintenance” has a negative connotation. It’s basically insinuating that you are “trying too hard” and “doing way too much” to look presentable or to look good instead of keeping things simple.
Many women today confuse LOW maintenance with NO maintenance. So they take great pride in saying how “low maintenance” they are. Remember, the idea in an extreme feminist society is to steer as far away from the female norm as possible.
There is nothing wrong with being Low maintenance. But when you look around these days most American women aren’t even LOW MAINTENANCE, they are NOOOOO MAINTENANCE. Many just simply don’t even try. In their minds Low maintenance translates to little to no effort to look groomed. This is NOT TRUE!
To most American men and women in order to avoid being called “high maintenance” these days and get a HIGH FIVE from almost everyone you must do the following:
– Look a hot fresh out of the oven mess
– Look like you just
rolled out of the bed jumped up out of the swap
Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that a woman needs to spend 5 hours getting ready each day. I don’t envy Kim Kardashian one bit. While she *ALWAYS* looks extremely well put together, I often wonder and ask myself – HOW LONG DOES THAT TAKE EVERYDAY?
The point is, a lot of women simply don’t make an effort AT ALL. It doesn’t take much to throw on a little something to enhance your looks. You don’t need a full face of make-up, full on fake eye lashes, hair weave, a whole bottle of hairspray, and 10 inch heels each day to look good. A woman can keep it quite simple and still look amazing. But you have to *TRY* ladies!
In fact, most women have very little time these days to sit in front of a mirror for hours putting on her face, hair and eyelashes. And that is why make-up companies have simplified the process with things that a woman can do quickly to enhance her looks in a simple manner – LIP GLOSS, MASCARA, EYE LINER. Take your pick! You don’t need all 3 at once, just one or maybe two can really enhance your looks as a woman in a very simple and subtle way. Of course not all women wear or need make up, but the idea is to at least try to look your best- whatever that means. I don’t think choosing lip gloss or mascara or blush or eye shadow is asking too much or being fake.
So let’s define each category for a much clearer understanding.
HIGH MAINTENANCE = THE SOPHISTICATED GLAMOUR GIRL (think Kim Kardashian)
Doing more than normal to look good. Usually spending quite a bit of time making sure your appearance is perfected to a T. You are one who would never be caught dead looking sloppy or unkept and always seeks to go above and beyond each day to make yourself stand out and look good. You don’t put one toe out of your door unless you have completely done all you can to look good and stand out.
LOW MAINTENANCE = THE GORGEOUS GIRL NEXT DOOR (think Jessica Alba)
You may not spend lots of time each day trying to perfect your look – and a true GND doesn’t really need to do much to stand out and be beautiful – she has a natural ethereal beauty that speaks for itself. However, she still believes in looking and being attractive and will usually add simple things like jewelry, or small amounts of make-up, cute outfits etc., to look appealing. You are more of a laid back natural beauty and you like to keep things simple and easy going – YET attractive. You may not put on a full face of make-up or perfect every strand of hair day to day and will usually reserve going all out for special occasions. Nevertheless, you still make an effort to look nice.
NO MAINTENANCE = THE SCAREY SWAMP CREATURE (I’ll be nice and won’t say names)
(That’s what you look like on a GOOD day) 😮 You basically say “EFF IT” and just roll out of bed and go off to do what it is you do on a day-to-day basis (making people throw up in their mouths a little bit). On a good day you may brush your teeth and bathe. For the most part its kind of random on whether or not you even make an effort. You believe in comfort to a fault. As a result, you often are unkept looking, sloppy looking, and dowdy looking. You’ve basically given up as a woman and don’t really care if others have a positive or negative visual experience when they look your way. Hey it’s your prerogative! But it’s a reflection on how you see yourself and how you feel about yourself as a woman when you don’t make an effort to make yourself look your best.
I get it. We all have down days. We all get sick and have 0 desire to look good. We all have days when we just aren’t feeling it. But if this is commonly your go to attitude in your appearance ladies, then you are throwing away all the wonderful things that come with being a woman and being able to enjoy the benefits of such by living up to being one of the most beautiful creatures walking planet earth! You owe it to yourself to look your best! SO JUST DO IT! 😉
Going back to the original GND. This is what she was able to accomplish and still be beautiful and receive positive reinforcement from men and others. She didn’t do much just enough to make herself feminine and appealing. That’s all it takes ladies!
Its disheartening that more than ever today in America you see so many women who look dowdy or trashy, or sloppy, or unkept or all of the above. Its like we have given up on trying to look our best. The women who do put effort into their appearance like the ladies of the past are often frowned upon, talked about behind their backs and seen as “high maintenance”.
WHEN CURVES WERE *REALLY* CURVES
WHEN SKELETONS STAYED IN THE CLOSET & NOT ON RUNWAYS AND MOVIE SCREENS
Remember the good ole days when women actually looked like women? When curves were really curves and not fat rolls? When there were not simply two extremes – OBESE or SKELETAL? I remember and boy have those days long said goodbye. So what we have now is a fashion industry that promotes a look for women that resembles flat boney bodied boys modeling their clothes. This has also seeped into the entertainment industry where actresses who want to be on the top of the designers lists walk around looking like lollipop heads to sport fashion designs.
As a result, you see so many fashion supermodels and actresses today that look like walking skeletons. In the early years of the American actress and Supermodel in the 60’s, 70’s, 80’s and very early 90’s the Supermodels were very beautiful womanly looking women. Women like Cindy Crawford, Claudia Schaffer, Naomi Campbell, Tyra Banks just to name a few – represented in the 80’s. Even women like Anna Nicole Smith who when she first hit the scene was far from the typical stick figure supermodel, but still managed to snag a promotional modeling gig with the then popular GUESS brand of clothing that always only had atypical tall thin supermodels as their advertisement.
These supermodels were still in wonderful svelte shape without looking like skeletons. Somehow things took a turn for the worse in the last 2 decades and pretty much the supermodels for the most part today look like they should be modeling the neighborhood sidewalk on Halloween as skeletons and zombies in Haute Cotour!
American Actresses also have taken a turn for the worse over the last 2 decades. The Black ones (the few that there are) look like bowling balls and the White ones look like sticks of gum! View the past Black and White beauties of the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s and you see a very different picture. All of the women of this era maintained a feminine curvy physique without being fat or skin and bones.
WHEN THE AMERICAN ACTRESS MET AND FELL INLOVE WITH….THEIR LEADING MAN THE PLASTIC SURGEON & TUPPERWARE
When you compare todays White & Black American woman IN GENERAL to those of the past, there is no parallel in femininity. White & Black American women and actresses of the past were quite gracious, beautiful & naturally alluring (without all of the obvious plastic surgery). I often ask myself when seeing so many of the White female celebs today, what is it that they must do to maintain or try to look beautiful that their white female predecessors didn’t have to do to be such natural feminine looking beauties? Why all of a sudden is there an excessive need for dieting extremes Botox and plastic surgery? Especially when White women of the past who were more beautiful didn’t rely on those things?
Is it something in the water? I mean what is it?
When you look at the most Beautiful White & Black women of the past they look NOTHING like these celeb creatures we are bombarded with today – NOTHING! I have yet to see a Sophia Lauren, Raquel Welch, Marilyn Monroe, Diahann Carroll, Whitney Houston replacement! (pre crack head ghetto “I luu you Bobby” Whitney Houston)
Rarely, if ever did you see a famous beautiful American White woman that looked like Plastic Tupperware with lips bigger than her head or so skinny she looked sickly. White women of the past also had an alluring charm and beauty about them that has yet to be regained by this new generation of American White women.
The same has affected Black American women. American Black women of the 60’ through early 90’s seemed to have a certain feminine charm and quality that has been lost in the last couple of decades. Our singers, actresses and models all had a feminine allure and physique and hardly any were celebrated for obesity or acting manly and unfeminine.
INDOCTRINATION IS A MOFO – PAGING THE CLEAN UP CREW!
White women have been indoctrinated through feminism and Black women have been indoctrinated for racial “loyalty” purposes to lose sight of and dispose of their natural feminine qualities. I don’t know what White women plan on doing to regain what was once lost in terms of their femininity. But if they don’t make some changes quick, they will start losing their men to other races of women who fit a more feminine ideal.
In regards to Black women? I do know that there is a growing number of Black American women who pride themselves on being apart of Black Women Empowerment, which seeks to break the indoctrination placed upon us as women that seek to keep Black women in a masculinized state for the sole purposes of feeding the needs, supporting and carrying the Black community, Black men, and Black people in general.
Many of these BWE Black women are encouraging Black women reclaim and redefine ourselves as TRUE woman and not these caricatures of men in drag we have been indoctrinated to accept as the NORM for Black female behavior and “womanhood”.
I hope to make a huge contribution to this movement b/c its near and dear to my heart. I want the younger generation of American Black women to start redefining themselves for the better. I want young Black American women to realize the world is their oyster if they choose to seek it and do what it takes to be rewarded with the best men and best lives possible. The ONLY way they will accomplish this, is by taking back their femininity and being pr0ud beautiful women once again. In a world where men dominate, a feminine woman is often still able to WIN. 😉
Unfortunately, the link has been disconnected between my generation and the generation before me. We lost something somewhere and its time to get it back. And that is what a growing number of Black American women are doing. My goal before leaving this earth is to do my part to make this happen.
HOMAGE TO MY FAV BEAUTIES OF THE PAST –