I’m mad. DAMN MAD.
Somebody help a sista out please. I’m a bit
confused confrused here.
Why come (as my cute little cousin Deja would say) these days a man paying a woman a compliment is a sure backfire on the fella? Am I the last woman standing that actually sees a heterosexual man paying a woman a compliment as NAT-U-RALL? Uhm, when did it become a bad thing or negative thing for men to compliment women?
There was a time when men complimenting a woman was such a wonderful thing that it encouraged women to feel and always look their best. It made women feel nice to hear a compliment from a well-intentioned sincere man who was moved by her beauty or style. It actually put a man in a woman’s good graces when he complimented her.
Women at some point before we entered what I call today the
TWLIGHT ZONE FEMNAZI ZONE seemed to understand and APPRECIATE that men are driven by visual attractiveness and often times expressed it when they saw a woman they fancied for whatever reason. These men weren’t doing it to get laid or gain anything and the women weren’t seeking compliments to feel better about themselves or b/c they *needed* male reinforcement or attention. It was just something natural that both parties (the male and female) partook in as a natural male/female exchange. IOW’s it was not a big freakin deal.
THESE DAYS? Psshh!
Some biotch of a woman out there is asking “why should I be happy because some guy is complimenting me! Its soo annoying! ”. To you I say *exsqueeze my French * F&!@&(#*(#) OFF! Your day is coming you entitled biddy when you will pray to the Gods that a man will even look your way!
I am so tired of these entitled WOW (Women of the West) thinking they are all that, that they can afford to act like the world is falling b/c some man is intrigued by her looks or style and said something nice to her about it.
Do you know there are tons of ugly ass women walking around who would give their right arm, left arm, right and left leg one ear, one boob and an eyball to get male attention and to receive a compliment from *ANYONE* of the male species?! ANd yet you got these entitled biddies walking around bitching, moaning and complaining about getting a nice lil compliment from a dood? ARRRRGGGH!
In return for paying a nice simple sincere compliment to a WOW, the poor guy(s) is called everything but a child of God. YET, men who neg, say disrespectful things, and go out of their way to ignore these same IDIOTS are rewarded and showered with affections? What kind of ass backwards crap is going on these days with women? MY GOD!
THEY’RE EFFING IT UP FOR EVERYBODY!
Can you tell I’m just a *BIT* perturbed here? Yeah I am. WHY? BECAUSE I LOVE COMPLIMENTS FROM MEN!! My point is, some women are so entitled and take their looks so seriously (even if they are super hot), that if its not a man *THEY* are attracted to complimenting them, then it’s a problem. I, Neecy, don’t care if they are homeless bums or hawt ass men in business suits! LOL I understand men for what they are – men. It doesn’t matter what walk of life they come from, if they are of the male species and have an organ that protrudes from the front lower regions of the body then they will, no matter, what feel moved to say something to an attractive woman. Now I may ignore and/or LAUGH my ass off when a bum or crackhead tries to holler but I am not going to throw a damn hissy fit!
The point is a woman should *NEVER* take her looks so seriously that she becomes jaded b/c looks fade and rather quickly for some after a certain age. So enjoy being good looking but enjoy it in a lighthearted good way so that youa re not so consumed and entitled based on your looks – something that goes away the second half of your life.
YET, these Bitchy entitled western women today are creating an atmosphere where male compliments are going the way of the dinosaur and negging, disrespectful remarks, and put downs are replacing them b/c *SOME* stupid women like and need games to keep their pea brains busy and “turned on”.
The day a man will not compliment a woman for being attractive is the day I don’t want to be living on Earth. But thanks to the WOW out there today who think they can afford to bitch and complain about men giving them compliments, this is soon to be.
If you are a woman that *NEEDS* game playing, take your arse to the nearest Toys R Us and/or arcade and have at it! Game playing does not belong in the SMP. Yet b/c so many women these days REQUIRE game playing to even get turned on, men are adjusting accordingly and we’re all suffering for it!
If you are one of those bitchy entitled women I am talking about I got a NEWSFLASH for ya! All those guys you are turned on by who are PRETENDING – lemme repeat – *PRE-TEN-DING* to not see your attractiveness, beauty or whatever are PLAYING GAMES with you b/c they know you are IMMATURE and prefer to be treated and talked to like
2 day old fresh dog shit (fresh dog poop is stinkier).
These men are already one step ahead of you b/c they are aware that so many women today require being treated like dog poop for them to move to the next level. So they PRETEND they don’t see what it is that actually caused them to even come to you in the first place (your attractiveness). They even take it a step further by dropping NEGS (making off handed remarks about your looks or style) as a way to take you down a peg while keeping him in a higher position over you b/c he is making you feel more insecure than good about yourself.
YES this is what women are being turned on by and rewarding. I’m convinced there is some mental illness in the female masses these days in which women would find a guy HOT, attractive and worthy because he made her feel insecure and questioning herself, while the guys who are trying to make her feel good by sincerely openly complimenting her on her style and beauty are “pathetic, annoying BETAS”. UGH!
THE FOAMERS VS. THE FAKERS – YOU’VE BEEN HAD GIRLS!
NO MAN is going to show interest or try to move to the next level with a woman UNLESS HE HAS A SEXUAL/INTIMATE INTEREST. What does this mean? That means, he had to find your looks ATTRACTIVE to even want to go to that next level. YESSSSSSS *GASP* Men who are trying to get to the next level with you are INTRIGUED by your looks! In other cases a guy may not be trying to get with you, but just wants to pay a compliment and keep going about his business. At any rate, whether a man is openly expressing this interest or going out of his way to *PRE-TEN-DDDDDD* he isn’t interested means nothing if he is obviously trying to get to the next level with you.
SO. What does this mean for the women out there who are getting their thongs in a twist b/c some doods complimented her? It means there is NO DIFFERENCE between the guys who are openly complimenting you vs. the ones who aren’t (yet still trying to get to the next level with you) b/c he’s pretending to not see what it is that the other guys openly complimenting you saw.
They both are working from the same frame in that they BOTH want or desire to get to the next level with you b/c they LIKE WHAT THEY SEE! The only difference is one guy is actually AWARE of your issues and need for game playing and is FAKING IT while the other who is genuinely FOAMING is unaware that he is complimenting an IDIOT who would prefer to be called a “fugly hoe” vs. “a beautiful swan”.
In the end, these days the FAKER wins over the FOAMER. The faker is going to go out of his way and do everything possible to show you that he has little to no interest in your looks and is supposedly “not moved” by your looks. In essence – he’s full of shit b/c he wouldn’t waste time or energy trying to be with you if he wasn’t intrigued by your looks in the first place.
The foamers don’t pretend, they don’t fake, they just do what comes natural to them as men and that is compliment an attractive woman they may see or have interest in. No game playing involved. Unfortunately, they are treated like utter crap, made fun of, and called all kinds of stupid uncalled for names b/c they didn’t realize they needed to *actually* tell you that you looked like SHIT for you to do a happy dance, drop your drawls, and spread eagle.
GUYS – KEEP IT SIMPLE, SHORT, AND SWEET
Ok. Now that I have basically hammered the wimmens its time to get to you fellas. Uhm. Compliments are wonderful guys if they are sincere, genuine and CLEAN. Unless the woman is a prostie, porn star, or obvious skank, please refrain from making “compliments” about her body parts if you are not in an intimate relationship with her.
THINGS TO NOT SAY OR DO AS “COMPLIMENTS”
– AYE BOO! I like da way your ass be lookin in dem jeans!
– DAAAAYYYYYUUUUUUMMMMM BABY you sho lookin like a biscuit I would like to sop up with my gravy!
– You have an amazing ass
– Your lips look like they would make great…*NEECY: ah never mind I’m not even gonna go there on that one*
– Girl, as long as I have a face, you will always have a place to sit
– You have a nice rack
– I like the way that dress/jeans/shorts shows off your butt – NIIICE
– That shirt makes your rack/titts/breasts look real good and BIG
– When I look at them juicy ass lips, I can’t help but to envy your man
– You have pretty tits (hahah LIZA remember that one!!!)
– I could suck on them toes all day and night! DAYUM!
Aheam. I don’t think there is really much more to say on why those or similar sayings would not be taken as compliments and would cause a woman to retreat to her purse for MACE, a registered gun, or to reach for her cellphone to call 911.
Black women can attest to the annoyances of being hooted and hollered at from car windows, abandoned buildings, crack dens, street corners, from “men” yelling out obscenities to her about her body parts that he or they LIKE. UHM NO. Unless you are looking to get the side eye, cursed out, slapped, kicked or shot refrain from doing that – its so low class and GHETTO/TRAILER PARK.
The idea of a man complimenting a woman is that it should make the woman smile and feel nice.
Now it seems some women (especially WHITE) are annoyed by compliments like this:
– Hi Gorgeous
– Amazing eyes
– *head nod* Niiiice!
– You look Beautiful
– Nicely put together
– I like that dress, the color brings out your eyes
– Definitely liking the hair – very sexy/hot
– You should wear that color more often looks really good on you
– The best thing I’ve seen all morning/day/night
To name a few. IOW’s simple, clean, compliments that no woman should make a big freakin deal about. Just a man expressing his liking for your looks or style.
Fellas if you don’t know the woman, the compliment should be very easy going and simple but enough to make her smile. Heck even a smile of approval works as well. Sometimes a man can compliment a woman without saying one word but his facial expression (NO, NOT AN OBSCENE ONE) such as a smile or smizing (smiling with his eyes) will make it clear that he likes what he sees.
THE FINE LINE OF THE GUY THAT COMPLIMENTS AND BRINGS A SMILE
THE GUY THAT COMPLIMENTS AND BRINGS ON THE SIDE EYE, SQUINCHED FACE AND/OR FROWN
Some men can and do overdo it with the compliments and *THAT* is a turn off b/c then it starts to seem insincere and borderline creepy and/or desperately seeking something by way of over complimenting. NOT GOOD.
I don’t know it’s weird. Some men can compliment a woman all day every day and she will smile and keep desiring his compliments b/c she knows he is a man that simply loves women and loves attractive women and likes to express it. She will never believe this guy can’t get an attractive woman or has never been with or around beautiful or attractive women. She just simply looks forward to his compliments regularly with no negative feelings about it.
Then there are those guys who after a certain point, a woman becomes turned off by him constantly complimenting her. I really don’t know how to directly distinguish where the line crosses, but I guess it different for every woman.
Just know this – a man that OBSESSIVLEY compliments comes off as very unbalanced and/or completely shallow. He looks unbalanced in the sense that, if he is CONSTANTLY over complimenting a particular woman, a woman starts to think he may not have ever been around or with an attractive woman before and thus why he is so OVERLY enamored with her. In high school I once had a b/f who was constantly telling me how pretty I was to him. The first few times were cool. But after that It started to become a turn off b/c I started wondering if he had even been with an attractive woman before.
Also, obsessive complimenting can be scary too b/c guys who have never had or been around an attractive woman become clingy and possessive often b/c they feel they may never get another attractive woman.
Obsessive complimenting can also make a guy look completely shallow and totally driven by looks. Usually guys like this are so looks driven that they are a risk b/c as soon as someone better looking comes along he is hopping on that train. He keeps doing this b/c he can never be satisfied. Definitely not the kind of guy any woman wants to get involved with.
RULE OF THUMB ON COMPLIMENTING – USE AND DO SPARINGLY
The thing about *SMART* women is they know when their guy is happy. He doesn’t need to constantly compliment her for her to know if he is content and satisfied with her. BUT a woman still wants and NEEDS to hear nice things from her guy about the way she looks or her style or whatever it is that makes her feel good. But she doesn’t want or need to hear it every single hour on the hour.
It’s best that if you know the woman & see her on a regular basis or are in an intimate relationship with her to compliment her sparingly. Spread them out over time when you *really* feel moved to say something b/c you can’t resist. Don’t just compliment just to compliment. Do it when you really gotta say it is what a woman wants most – to know when she is standing out.
No woman wants to hear every day or every hour how good she looks from her b/f or husband. B/C she won’t really know when she actually does stand out b/c you compliment her all the time on everything. It’s assumed for the most part that you being with her and constantly showing her affection and sexual interest that you are happy with the way she looks.
In fact, when a man compliments a woman sparingly in a relationship the times he does compliment her, she really knows he really likes whatever it is he complimented her on b/c he does not compliment her all the time for the sake of complimenting her. (how many times did I use the word “compliment” in that paragraph? LOL)
Also, know your woman. If she is more modest or conservative she may feel uncomfortable with you always complimenting her on sexual things or body parts. She may prefer more compliments on her style or non-sexual things. If she is more outgoing she may like the references to her body parts that you like/enjoy.
Also, kissing, touching and heavy Kino signals non-verbal complimenting as well – at least to moi 🙂
Examples of hot non verbal co,pliments that will turn your woman on?
If she smells good:
*dive your nose into her neck and breath in heavy with a MMMMMM sound*
If she is wearing an outfit you like:
*slightly push her outward from you into the middle floor while holding one arm and make a nod of approval with a smize (smile with the eyes) or a sexy smirk and then say somehting like “niiiice”*
If she has a beautifully made up face:
*at a still moment just slightly turn your head to the side and stare at her face with a slight approving smile – do that without saying a WORD for only a few seconds and make sure she sees this*
If her hair looks amazing/hot:
*look at her hair up and down while lightly playing or touching it, then say something like “niiice”
If she is wearing sexy or hot shoes:
Slightly lift up one of her legs (no, not in the air or behind her ears!) and rub it downward to her foot stopping at the shoe and saying “i like these” with a sexy voice and look
THE POSSIBILITIES ARE ENDLESS GUYS!!!! *I should have been a man*
APPRECIATE BEFORE YOU DEPRECIATE
There comes a time in every woman’s life, when male compliments will decrease by more than half and she will be thinking back on the days when she took for granted male attention and compliments. I will happily say this: If you are one of those entitled bitchy women making a big damn deal and putting down guys who compliment you, your day is a coming!
That day will be when you are no longer at your sexual peak of attractiveness and when the compliments from men (even the “losers” you made fun of) will slip by more than half of what you were used to at your peak/prime. THAT IS WHY you don’t act like a bitch towards nice guys or when you receive compliments from men at any time in life – EVEN IF they were from guys you were not attracted to. If the guy is being respectful and not pushy or overbearing, what’s the biggie?
I am not saying you have to stop and acknowledge or have a full on discussion with every man that pays a compliment to you. You don’t have to acknowledge them, but you also don’t have to be rude or a bitch either. Just be polite, say thanks and keep it moving is my philosophy.
Appreciate them (compliments) for what they are and don’t make judgments on a man simply b/c he is openly expressing a nice compliment to you about your looks. Better believe it will not always be that way, so enjoy it for what it is and maybe good karma will follow you into your elder years and you will still have men saying how lovely you look.
But if you had an entitled “I’m all that” attitude when you were at your prime/peak, prepare to be ignored in the years when you are not so hot. And frankly, you deserve it b/c if a woman cannot see it’s in a man’s NATURE to appreciate and want to openly express such appreciation for a woman’s attractiveness without being looked down upon or treated like crap, then YOU DESERVE for the last half of your life to never get a glance or compliment by any man!
Yeah I said it b/c I am very anti bitch in the SMP. You don’t need to be a bitch just b/c you are hot or attractive or young and at your peak. Some women feel it’s their right that if they are at the top of the heap in looks, they have a right to be a bitch to any man b/c they are “constantly bombarded by doods hitting on them”. BZZZT! WRONG – you are never ENTITLED to be a bitch to anyone who is being nice and respectful to you whether they repulse you or not! And if you are – you have a nice big dose of “damn that bitch is tore up” karma awaiting you past your prime.
Remember Neecy told ya so! SO shape up girls of the West and learn to appreciate the men who appreciate your beauty. Because I can guarantee you, those asswipes who are making off handed remarks, negs, and put downs to you about your looks will certainly not be around in the days when you are really in need and desire a nice compliment. That ship will have sailed and you will be regretting the poor guys you shitted on for simply being true, real and MEN by expressing their appreciation for your attractiveness.
(I’m about to be super annoying and type this in all caps)
IT IS NA-TU-RAL FOR A HETEROSEXUAL MALE TO SEE AND WANT TO ACKNOWLEDGE A BEAUTIFUL AND/OR ATTRCATIVE WOMAN! IT DOESN’T MATTER IF HE IS TALL DARK AND HANDSOME OR SHORT FAT AND UGLY. HE IS STILL A MAN AND STILL HAS A PENIS AND IF HE IS HETEROSEXUAL STILL APPRECIATES A WOMAN’S BEAUTY! HE SHOULD NOT BE MADE TO FEEL LIKE SHIT FOR DOING SO IF HE IS BEING KIND, RESPECTFUL AND SINCERE/GENUINE! IF YOU DO MAKE HIM FEEL LIKE SHIT THEN SAY HELLO TO MY LIL FRINN – KARMA!!!