Are women becoming more and more like their male counterparts in their desires or has it always been and Western women today are more freely able to be who they really are?
*Hmmm good question Neecy!* (yes I talk to myself in the 3rd person at times!)
I’m seeing more and more today than ever before, women who are increasingly developing the same strategies and tactics men have in obtaining what it is they most desire in the opposite sex – youth, vitality and good sex. People for some reason (especially men) seem to still want to believe that women are not just as shallow as they are when it comes to being visual about the opposite sex.
But there is a new trend happening that clearly shows that YES women (even older ones) are quite visual and quite turned on by young hot men. So much so that hordes of women across the globe with resources and dollars take vacations to exotic places to have
long walks on the beach sex on the beach with the young hard bodied studs from those countries!
Yes, women who are *GASP* PAYING for sex, buying hot young virile male prostitutes in exotic locations where they can get quite a BANG for their BUCK.
This growing phenomenon shows that women of the UK (usually late 20’s and higher) are leading the pack but more and more aging single women of various Western and Asian countries who have the money and resources are seeking out young hot male prosties for sexual pleasure and excitement.
This then leads me to my next question – if women are not big on a males looks, then why would they even give away their hard earned money and bodies to strange men across the globe for sexual pleasure? Men in exotic locations who are young, physically at their peak and who are willing to say and do all the right things with these women for money and gifts. Things these women know are all a bunch of BS but still not enough for her to turn away the prospect of getting pounded by some stranger in another country by providing him with a few bucks, gifts and/or meals.
BEAM ME UP SCOTTIE!
According to Wikipedia, wealthy women have been doing this since the beginning of time. It seems however, that it has not reached the same level of popularity of men, yet still seems to be growing. This was such an unheard of taboo for decades but now more and more articles are popping up discussing the amounts of women from young to old who take “holidays” at these exotic locals where they also partake in the flesh of the locals
walking working the beach. Its become so popular that according to one article companies even have TRAVEL PACKAGES directed to women looking for this kind of “hook up”.
And, Yes this includes women of all generations as well although women in their 30’s, 40’s and up tend to lead the pack (yes call them Cougars). But Grandma, nana or that hottie in her late 20’s can all take a trip to an exotic beach location and get hot beef injections by some Mandingo warrior looking for his next
meal meal ticket.
This takes Sex in the City to a whole other level – GLOBALLY.
IF YOU CAN’T BEAT EM – JOIN EM? WHAT’S GOOD FOR THE GOOSE GOOD FOR THE GANDER?
For centuries it has been males who have utilized their status and resources to travel to countries (mostly Third World) where they can pay for sex with a hot young woman in her prime without any questions asked. A lot of these men choose these destinations either b/c in their own countries it would be a lot harder for them to obtain the same kinds of young attractive women for sex b/c women of the West are well taken care of and typically a lot more independent financially than those of poorer countries – hence a lot pickier. Also lack of education and resources would cause a poorer young female citizen to sleep with or have a relationship with a man deemed undesirable by Western standards due to age or looks.
I believe the same applies to Western women seeking sexual pleasure and fulfillment with young men in these poor countries as well.
Inquiring minds NEECY wants to know – what gives? Why would a woman do such a thing?
MALE BOOTY BARTERING & FEMALE BOOTY BUYING ACROSS THE GLOBE
Typically men go to Asian countries and Eastern Euro countries and women typically go to more exotic places like the Caribbean, Africa, and Dominican Republic. It has been reported that even wealthy Asian women go to many countries seeking young male prostitutes for sexual pleasure. Interestingly, its mostly places where the poor and uneducated dwell and where they will do almost anything or ANYONE to get a few $$$ to feed themselves or their families.
Is sex tourism simply a bad case of people with status and/or money and resources preying on the poor, young and hot or is there something else at play?
I have to admit, part of me feels disgust at men and women who do this. I always thought that there are so many things wrong about people who do this. But when I looked further into my psyche and asked myself why on earth would women be doing this as well, my light bulb went off. I don’t know or believe if its all simply about trying to obtain sex for the *wrong* reasons.
SEXUAL DESIRES FOR A WOMAN DOESN’T END ON HER 30TH B-DAY
Its human nature to desire sexual pleasure. That desire doesn’t stop for a woman at 30, 40, or even 50. But her access to sex becomes much harder in Western societies as she ages. When you look at how certain cultures place such a high emphasis and value on women’s looks and ages as being most valuable in obtaining sex and love it becomes much clearer as to why so many Western and European women are traveling abroad to obtain the hottest, youngest (yet poorest and most uneducated) men to fill their gaps (and I aint talking about the one between their teeth).
Think about it. Usually men seeking more traditional women and/or easier sex with attractive YOUNGER women will go to places where they will have a higher likelihood of getting their needs fulfilled by providing resources and/or money for these women who are typically poor, vulnerable and uneducated – yet beautiful or attractive.
The same can be applied to women seeking the same.
So my question is: Are the women who do this, doing it b/c they simply are tired of trying to find and sift through Western males unrealistic desires and requirements about women and/or their treatment of women past certain ages (usually 30 and higher)?
Are these women just horn dogs looking for some hot fun sex that they couldn’t get at home?
“More than sex, they are seeking a tenderness that the world is refusing them,”
Hmmm. This could be a great explanation as to why women do it. Though subconsciously they may feel they are simply looking for easy sex with some hot stud. Something much bigger may be at play here. A lot of these men tell these women what they want to hear and are very successful in obtaining money and gifts in exchange for sex for doing so.
For two weeks or however long a woman is vacationing at these spots, she will have hordes of young hot men telling her “oh me so horny me love you long time. Me
sucky sucky licky licky ” and how beautiful she is and how much he desires her. Many times these women know its all just a bunch of BS, but if you are coming from an environment where you are frowned upon simply b/c you are not in your prime, I can see how some of these women simply eat it up and go for the gusto.
But I also believe that this trend lends credence to the REALITY that women are just as driven by youth and vitality as men are. Something that needs to no longer be downplayed and accepted by the masses. Women *ARE* visual and trends like this prove so.
I am also wondering how many cases of women who do this are looking to find more traditional men of varying cultures who would be willing to be with a woman despite her age as long as she can provide financially and in return provides her with his youth, vitality and virility and some damn good sex? The same thing and reason many men marry and date these kinds of women of varying cultures.
MY SPIDEY SENSES ARE TELLING ME THAT THINGS ARE COMING FULL CIRCLE
The SMP for women after a certain age in Western and European cultures is quite unreasonably cruel and judgmental.
Youth in all societies/cultures is valuable – especially for women. But in many cultures aging women are not as tossed aside as in other cultures. In most European/White Western cultures the women after a certain age are seen as invaluable depreciating assets in the sexual market place. This isn’t really the problem as the older one becomes the less attractive they will be compared to younger hotter men and women. The problem with that is, these women are seen as “invaluable” by their male peers who are within the same age range and slightly older.
This “invaluable” age range is typically starting at 27 and up. If you are above 35 in American or European cultures and a woman you can hang it up! You are pretty much deemed invisible, worthless, and useless and may as well jump off a bridge and die b/c your time as a female is up according to most men of these cultures. Ok I’m exaggerating but not much.
No matter how physically attractive the woman may be, her age alone is the determining factor of her value. Women looking for men within their age range or slightly/somewhat older than they are, are finding that unless they can get a magic wand and turn back the hands of time to their prime years, its pretty futile.
As a result, women become invaluable in the SMP and therefore finding a committed partner on her level who is not 100 years her senior becomes much harder in these cultures b/c of the obsession and higher value placed on extremely young women in the SMP – even by men who are within and close to their age or somewhat older.
THE GOOD OLE BOYS DAYS
In the past, women were encouraged and rewarded for looking past their gina tingles and sought out mates and men who could be the best providers. Therefore looks didn’t really matter to women during this time b/c if a woman tried to hold out for the hottest man, her ass would be homeless or still living under mommy and daddy’s roof b/c she would be unable to obtain any kind of credit or well-paying job to take care of herself. So women of the past were not as visually inclined and chose men based on other factors despite their pop bellies and balding.
Men as well didn’t place such high emphasis on women needing to be an 8-10 in the looks dept., and rather chose the women who would make the best mothers and wives to create stable families with. If the average man tried to hold out for only the top 1-2% of hottest women he’d grow old and alone without a stable wife and legacy. He’d be working to give all his money away to random hot women every night for their company and time. So during these decades women were much more valued and appreciated beyond her looks as potential Long-term mates and wives and more so measured for who they were (femininity factor) and how they carried themselves. Love and sex worked well for both men and women then. *sigh* But the past is the past, moving on….
ITS SO HARD TO SAY GOODBYE TO YESTERDAY!
These days its quite different. A woman’s main value more than ever these days is solely placed on her looks, age and willingness to have NSA sex fairly quickly – nothing more. Where Western feminism saves women is it has afforded women the right to be honest about what they want and like in a man as well as being able to carve out a decent life for herself economically. It also gives her the choice to either accept her fate and look for other fulfilling ways to get what she wants for sex and/or relationships or to become creative about how she goes after what she wants – something undesirable men have been doing for centuries.
I consider it a balancing of the scales. If women are judged more harshly for their looks and age (something out of their control) in the SMP by men, the tradeoff is women will have greater outlets to carve out a life for herself to be independent if she is unable to meet or obtain a decent male with the growing requirements of a woman being forever young, hot and fertile if she wants success in the SMP.
With financial independence, comes a woman’s ability to be somewhat more “shallow” in her mate “preferences” (notice I said preferences which does not automatically lead to that preference being fulfilled NATURALLY as it would for a younger attractive woman in her prime). IOW’s whether or not a woman *CAN* get the type of man she really wants is beside the point that, that is still the man she wants. Often times it is a lot harder for a woman past a certain age who is somewhat shallow to find a man that fits into her preference. WHY?
As Western and European men become more and more increasingly open about their preferences for women who remain forever young many aging women in Western and European cultures (starting in their early 30’s and upward) are seeking to get their sexual fulfillment and shallow needs met from “buying” younger men. A lot of these women like their male counterparts are recognizing that the dollar and/or status has value when it comes to buying a younger and hotter commodity that they could not otherwise get without money, status or resources.
In addition, with such greater emphasis being placed upon women for their looks and young age, more and more aging Westernized and European women with resources and money by default are developing these same tactics for men – they want the hottest & youngest men – especially if they (the women) are financially well off and/or financially independent and able to barter that in some way in exchange for a sex with a hot young exotic man.
While Western and European men still have success obtaining younger and hotter women with their status , money and resources as they get older, the same is not as true for Western/European aging women at the same level in most Western societies where older women are devalued.
WESTERN WOMEN WILL EVENTUALLY STOP TRYING TO CHANGE THE PREFERENCES OF THEIR WESTERN MALE COUNTERPARTS AND SEEK FULFILLMENT WHERE IT IS
In industrialized Western societies, there are a lot more demands and expectation on what people want in a mate – most of it shallow. Women are held to unrealistic standards regarding their youth that of course they cannot meet after a certain age. A woman cannot turn back the hands of time and stay 21 for ever. However, this seems to be an expectation of many Westernized males. If you are a woman 30 or older, in many Western societies you are considered damaged goods and/or unworthy as a woman. In western cultures Western males feel that women over the age of 25 are “depreciating” assets who are not worthy of love, marriage or sex.
As More and more Western women these days are accepting this reality, they are also suddenly adopting the same strategies, tactics and ideals that men have held onto for decades. This reality is that just as men who are financially independent with resources can and do often choose the youngest women to entertain for sexual pleasure and relationships, many middle aged women whom have managed to still have held onto their attractiveness are openly seeking the same. If they can’t get the milk for free (which rarely happens) they are willing to pay for it.
The difference is, the stigmas of older women and younger men in Western societies are still quite taboo and frowned upon. So as a result, many of these women will travel abroad looking for mates and sexual encounters with men who are willing to be their Mandingo or hot stud for a small nominal fee.
These women are finding that they can get their “shallow” gina tingles fulfilled with some young hot stud simply by paying for it. Something they couldn’t do in their own locals. It’s the same strategy that many Western/European males have been using for centuries when they travel abroad to mostly Asian countries or East European countries where they can pay money and provide resources to poor uneducated YET hot beautiful young women they could not obtain in their own countries.
Middle aged women from 30’s and upward who travel abroad for sex are finding that they do not have to worry about all the baggage rejection, drama or heartache that comes with trying to date and/or find men on their same level and within their same age range in their own countries and locals after they reach a certain age.
Sex is apart of the human desire and if you are a woman in your 30’s – 50’s you still desire it. But if you cannot get it on your own turf for free, many of these women realize the next best thing is being able to buy it.
Women who do this do it b/c they have accepted this fate of the obsession of youth and being seen as a depreciating(ED) asset in their own countries. These women choose not to hem and haw about it, or try to change the preferences of their fellow men in their countries and are saying “to hell with that BS” and are realizing that their financial independence can offer them the same desires as many males who have experienced a lack of success in the dating and sexual marketplace in their more Westernized countries.
Is it a sad state of affairs when it gets to this point for a man or woman? YES. But it is what it is. I call it the “GET IN WHERE YOU CAN FIT IN” new way of thinking. Its human nature for people to try to obtain what it is they need and want the best way possible. For many Western and European women who are seen as depreciating assets to their men after the age of 30, they realize it’s a waste of time and energy trying to change the desires of their fellow men and rather seek pleasure the easiest and best way possible – traveling abroad and finding young hot studs to fill their voids they couldn’t fill in their homelands.
DON’T BELIEVE THE HYPE FELLAS– LOOKS MATTER TO WOMEN!
Humpty Dumpty sat on the wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall!
Humpty’s ass fell of the wall b/c he was in denial! *at least in Neecy’s version*
I’m just going to say this. I feel its my duty as a woman to say it. Whether or not my words or views mean anything, I can safely say I am a woman, I have a vagina, I am constantly around other women and we talk. And women like visually appealing men just as much as men love visually appealing women. Sure a man with a fat wallet and status can get away with pulling a hottie while he looks like Humpty Dumpty, but fellas this is not common practice AT ALL!
As I said earlier, I believe as with all things, its coming full circle for women. I have never understood this obsession with men trying to make women their age over the age of 30 feel completely worthless and useless as a female. Eventually one has to know that this will ultimately breed the same contempt towards males and will eventually cause women to develop and come up with the same tactics men are using by any means necessary.
Look at any dating reality show and the first thing the women of any age ask and want for are “hot men”. The reason why so many women today desire this above all else as opposed to the past when it didn’t really matter how hot a man was, is that women can be their own providers these days. They do not need to rely on men to take care of them or to put a roof over their head or a hot meal on the table.
I feel sometimes a lot of men have a hard time coming to terms with this, and still go with this old outdated idea that they can look like shit on a stick and still pull all the hot women possible with a few good pick-up lines. This is such a lie on a grander scale. Sure confidence can and will go a loooong way if you are an average guy. But if you do not take care of yourself physically, you can forget it!
You do not have to be the hottest man alive, but you should certainly understand that just as you expect women to strive to be as hot as possible, the same applies to men who want to be most successful with women, whether it be in casual hook ups, in their LTR’s and/or marriages where they want their SO’s or wives to still hold some level of attraction towards him. We hear and read it all the time in women’s mags. Wives and G/f’s writing letters asking if its “wrong” to cheat on their spouse or B/F b/c they are no longer attracted to him b/c he fell off the wagon.
Fellas I am here to tell you if no one else will. Please do not believe the LIE that women are not visual. And if you are in a relationship the same still applies. If you are still reasonably young, attraction is still very important in a relationship. Just as women should not fall of the physical wagon, neither should men in marriages and LTR’s.
Please do not allow yourself to fall into that trap of feeling that you do not have to be on top of your physical game to attract most women. I think it’s a crime when these NUMEROUDS articles come out telling men to not worry about how they look b/c all he has to do is have a poker face, say all the right things and have a pocket full of dollars to pull women.
Why do you think so many articles are constantly being pushed to the masses telling men this “looks don’t matter”? Maybe b/c the reality is it’s the opposite and holding onto a comfy lie is a lot more comforting than facing the reality that times have and are changing.
Yes, we have all seen and can attest to the old, fat, short, balding guy who has a 10 on his arm. But honestly we all know she’s not with him b/c she is rawly attracted to him. She is with him for security and money. If a man is fine with accepting this reality, then great. But I feel a lot of men simply buy into the lie that they do not have to do much physically to be attractive to women.
Also in many Western marriages that end up in divorce many times their wives were no longer attracted to them. It seems men once married or in LTR’s get comfy and stop taking care of themselves b/c they ASSUME and have been told for DECADES that a woman does not place great emphasis on the attractiveness or lack thereof of her mate. BULLSHEEIT!
I’m not trying to be mean or a bitch but I feel men need to understand the truth so they can be more successful in their interactions and relationships with women. Believe you me, women today (especially Western women) have no qualms about cheating on their male counterparts and husbands with hotter men or men who physically take care of themselves and turn her on. I don’t agree with it but it is happening in great numbers and it is what it is.
Basically fellas. Times have changed. Get out of that 1950’s state of mind and come into the Y2K. Looks matter more than ever to both men and women. It’s not just one sided. Women are not once who they were. Women are a lot more ruthless now about what they want and like and are willing to do anything to get it. Western women will quickly drop a man like a hot potato if he starts falling of the physical upkeep wagon. And you will also have a much harder time if you are not visually appealing in some way.
My question is, fellas do you honestly feel that you do not need to be attractive in some way to pull a woman? Be honest, if you believe that women are not as visual as men and why you believe this.