WHEN THE COMMON DENOMINATOR IS – YOU!

The formulas (I think) to get to the common denominator of – ACCOUNTABILITY FOR BEING A FOOL

(somehow the equations didn’t transfer properly from Word- oh wells)…..

(1 doe doe bird)/(2 many mistakes)+ (1 loser)/(5 million red flags) =(fool+loser)/(bad relationship)

(a fool-a loser)(a fool ignoring red flags+a loser throwing out red flag penalties all over the place)=a^relationship-a^success

〖(a) fool〗^(2 power)+〖(b) loser〗^(2 power)=〖(c)BAD RELATIONSHIP 〗^(1039843747843 power)

Can anyone in our audience do the calculations and tell Miss Neecy what or who the common denominator is in this equation??? You probably can’t b/c I totally suck in math and probably didn’t even do the equations right *Le sigh* but who cares about that at the NEST where spelling and grammatical errors are KING QUEEN? Jeez people cut a sister some slack on the math equations!

N.E. WAYZ

The formula I am trying to get at, point out, is there is always a common denominator in a relationship where one person feels played the fool – THEMSELVES. And if one finds themselves CONSTANTLY on the side of being used and played or burned, then its time to take a look in that rose colored mirror at yourself.

I have been meaning to write this post for the longest.

INTERWEBZ BLOG FORUMS– The BLIND, the BITTER & the BATSHIT  leading the BLIND, the BITTER and the BATSHIT!

In the past I had frequented many women sites most of which catered to women on how to have successful relationships and find Mr. Right someway somehow. I chose these sites based on the level of intelligence many of the participants had (or so I thought).

A couple of the blogstresses would have a weekly write in from anonymous women who were seeking advice for their ISSUES SITUATIONS in a relationship. 90% of these letters were from IDIOTS WOMEN who ended up being played or used or 20/20 VISION SIDED BLINDSIDED by some loser. Here is just a sample of the average letter I have read encapsulating many of the typical *issues* these women had with men and the results.

DEAR RELATIONSHIP COACH,

 I am a very attractive and very INTELLIGENT woman. I have 80 Ph.D.’s, graduated top of my class cum sum lade from my Ivy league school, a highly paid and sought after professional that makes 10 figures a year.  

 I recently met this handsome man who I was dating for a 3 month period and really liked. He seemed really sweet, kind and attentive when we first started sleeping around dating.  I had sex with him b/c he told me he loved me after our first date. It was the most romantic thing a man has ever said and I believed him. Another example of what a decent guy I thought he was, the first week I knew him, he asked me to loan him 20K to help him get a car b/c his credit was too bad to get one in his own name. He was trying to be responsible and have consistent transportation to look for a job. I was a little leery at first, b/c I didn’t know him that well,  so Instead of giving him the money, I wanted to be SMART about it and instead went down to the car dealership and got a new car in MY NAME (no need to be stupid and gotta protect myself).  He promised he would start making the car note payments once he got a job.

 After being together for a month, he said that he finally found a job, although he was always asking me for money??? Additionally, he  was trying to find a new place to stay but was having problems getting an apartment b/c his credit was bad and he needed to put down a 1 million dollar deposit – which he said he didn’t and wouldn’t have b/c he didn’t make that much money on his job.

 Well, he came to me in such a kind manner and asked if I could help him get an apartment under my name so that he could finally get away from his crazy ex who was stalking him and looking for babymomma money child support money for their kid. Of course, I obliged b/c I mean hey, I have known and dated this guy for a whole MONTH at this point and feel that he has proven himself worthy of my stupidity  time, money, body and resources. I felt he was trying to be responsible.

 Well just last week I found out I was pregnant! At the same time I also discovered he was cheating on me with some girl and was still seeing his ex on the side! He kept avoiding my calls, and I saw 80 different text messages on his phone from several chicks.  He would often come by and see me whenever he needed money or sex, but when I asked him to attend my Nobel Peace prize acceptance speech dinner, he never showed up!

 Although he was still sleeping over at his ex-baby momma’s house, he said he needed to be there as a father figure for his kid and that his baby needed to see a male figure in the home. Ok I can understand that b/c he said he hated her guts and doesn’t love her.

But the final straw was I followed him one night (b/c I felt he was lying to me about a lot of stuff) as he said he was going to work (in the car I bought him) and saw him going into this apartment complex that wasn’t where he lived. I stayed overnight in my car just to prove to myself he was cheating on me, and sure enough in the morning he and some chick walk out kissing and saying goodbye to each other. When I confronted him, he said they were just watching  TV and movies b/c his cable got disconnected and he didn’t want to bother me cause he knew I was busy.

 What did I do wrong? Someone please tell me why this man completely did me wrong! This is the 10th  relationship I have been in where this has happened! I need advice on how to move past this situation or whether I should give him another chance.

Please help, I’m so distraught and confused about what to do?

And usually these were the comments that followed from the  SISTERHOOD “SISTERHOOD of STUPIDITY”

“oooh girl I just hate losers who seek to use women for their own gain.”

 “Girl just dump his abusive ass. He saw a nice and intelligent woman and couldn’t handle and was jealous of your success,  so he used you and pretended to love you. What a snake!”

 “Consider yourself lucky! I too got abused and used by some loser and now I am on the road to recovery b/c I refuse to buy any more men I don’t know beyond a 3 month period any cars or loan them any high sums of money! And I damn sure won’t allow myself to get pregnant by one again until we have *AT LEAST* crossed the 6 month mark”

 “What a jerk! I mean you were just trying to be a good person and he took advantage of that! His loss”

 “OMG what is wrong with these men today???”

 “Yep to poster above, my question is, where are all the good men at?”

 “I cannot believe that jerk did that to you!”

“Men are dogs and you have to beware of them”

“You poor thing!”

“OMG what a loser he was!”

“It’s not your fault he was an asshole”

*NEECY INTERJECTION TO AUDIENCE:   PEOPLE, I CANNOT MAKE THIS SHIT UP! And Neecy’s got one hell of an imagination!*

Its REAAAAL! Notice a pattern here? Basically it’s a big assed cesspool  cyberpool of women coddling the “victim” who when you read these letters its quite obvious to anyone with a BRAIN that the woman made OBVIOUS bad choices that a two year old could have avoided.

I’m not saying that the guys in these situations are not losers of maximum porportions. But hey, a person can only do what you allow them to in situations like this.

PEOPLE,  stupid is as stupid does!  I’m all for being nice, kind and giving. But these kinds of situations have nothing whatsoever to do with the person being “nice”. The person who does these kinds of things, are only doing these stupid things b/c they are getting something out of it even if its bad nerves. But they are getting *SOMETHING* or else they wouldn’t bother right? Some feel this is the way they can bargain someone to like or love them more – using materialistic things to get by and gain favor in a relationship.

Granted, there are just some really and genuinely good people who get walked over b/c they are instinctively to a fault – tooo forgiving, nice and accommodating. I don’t really see them the same as I see an IDIOT who does obvious dumb things and knows better. Usually people who are instinctivley too nice just need a long lesson on how to distinguish those they should go above and beyond for vs. ones who are just seeking to constantly take from them without giving back.

If you know me, I am alllll about reciprocation in any kind of relationship and if its one sided with one person constantly giving, then its not a relationship.

I’m all about sisterhood and whatnot, but I don’t support stupidity of ANY KIND I don’t care who or what gender it is. Women need to recognize that its mostly their own desperation that leads them to continually make bad mate choices.

“WELL AT LEAST I GOTTA MAN!”

Gotta love that one, especially when its coming from some woman you know is in a shitty relationship. LOL

A lot of women will often put up with a lot of shit from men just to say or prove she is “worthy” b/c she has a b/f or husband.  How many times when women are battling, the first thing woman A will say to Woman B is “well at least I gotta man!”.  As if that makes her more superior or valuable than the other woman who is single. M’KAY…

Yet when you dig deeper into those “well at least I gotta man” biddies, something really crazy is happening in those relationships. Things you’d  sell your right arm to not have to go through. Some women are simply so male identified that they only see themselves as valuable if they have a man in their life. Never mind the fact these women may have serious issues that they need to work on and fix before they can be in a successful relationship where they do not carry tons of baggage from one loser to another and so forth. OR they end up with men who have serious issues and end up chopping away at her common sense and self-esteem (but he was good in bed so it didn’t matter).

QUESTION: “WHAT DID I DO WRONG?”

EXTRAPOLATION: “TELL ME HOW I DID NOTHING WRONG AND IT WASN’T MY FAULT”

I have discovered a lot of times when people ask for your honest advice/opinion in these kinds of situations, they don’t really want it. THAT IS, unless you are completely willing to tell them what they wanna hear, coddle their stupid choices and tell them it’s not their fault. However, if you are willing to blame the person that used them  – BRING IT ON!

As a result, I have learned to keep my mouth shut for opening that can of TRUTH WORMS, especially on blogs filled with idiotic women in denial or with buddies and friends who have proven to be gluttons for punishment in the love dept. Usually you are slapped with the “insensitive”, “uncaring” label for telling the truth of where that person went wrong.

NOTE: If you are going to put your bizzness out for those to judge, then expect to be judged! Also, understand not everyone lacks COMMON DAMN SENSE and would be more than happy to tell you the real truth of what went wrong and how you can avoid making such horrible decisions later.

But often times you cannot tell these women anything b/c they think b/c they are educated and professionals that they are ABOVE making stupid choices somehow and that its all the man’s fault for taking advantage of them.

Don’t get me wrong. I don’t stick up for losers. I hate them as much as the next woman. But there comes a time when one needs to recognize losers always pick their prey and they know exactly who will fall for the okey doke. They can smell a fool  or desperate or shallow woman a mile away.

Losers will try to hit on almost any woman. The difference is between the women who shoo them off like flies on poop, and the woman who are flattered by any kinds of male attention. The minute you show a sign of desperation, he’s gotcha!

MEN PLAY THE FOOL TOO – EXCEPT THEY ARE LEAST LIKELY TO WRITE IN LETTERS OR GO ON NATIONAL TV

Oh yes fellas, you play the fools too! Usually the reason men play the fool in love is they are with some woman who is totally out of his league looks wise or a woman who in his eyes is exceptionally attractive that he cannot resist all of her other character flaws. OR she is a beast in the bedroom and gives good, aheam,  HEAD…..MASSAGES *what is wrong with you pervs always thinking dirty!* We all know men love a good massage on the temples and sides of their heads. JEEZ!

Where was i?

Oh, Men are more likely to put up with bullshit from a woman the hotter she looks.

The problem is, men who end up getting burned and used time after time against women like this, end up blaming ALL WOMEN for their dumb and idiotic shallow choices.

Suddenly all women have “issues” and are not worthy of a “good man”.

Men who use their penises as a compass to find happiness are constantly setting themselves up for failure and heartache like women who use their gina tingles as the sole compass for love.

NEECY NEST FACT: THERE ARE NO VICTIMS IN LOVE AFTER AGE 25

And I am being generous with starting at age 25. But I am aware that young people make dumb choices b/c they are trying to learn about themselves, learn about love etc. So they are bound to make some bad mistakes, judgment calls in mates etc. But after a certain point, your arse gets no hall pass for being a complete fool.

There are no victims in love – when you are grown – maybe. Really,  the true victims in love are those people who were truly and completely blindsided by their SO’s infidelities or other transgressions. There were no red flags whatsoever b/c their SO was such a sociopath that they were able to hide all of the crappy things that eventually came to surface and  knocked their unknowing loved one for a loop.  I do feel for those people b/c these kinds of things happen.  But I don’t think these kinds of “unknowing” incidents happen as frequently as the ones in which a person was aware of what they were getting themselves into.

Many times men or women are quite aware of the choice they made and the end result bound to happen, but play STUPID b/c they are getting something they enjoy out of the interaction and relationship despite all the bad things going on. It could be sex, excitement, status, a hot SO etc. But usually things are more volatile than stable.

Ladies you  are not a “VICTIM” of an asshole if:

–          You have sex with him before he makes a commitment

–          You loan him money  and you have only known him for less than a month and you are not dating

–          You put a car in your name for him and you are not *even* married

–          You get knocked up by him and are not married to him

–          He did obvious things to show he was a player

–          He only wants to be bothered with you when he wants sex, money, a ride, a chicken dinner

–          He doesn’t have a job when you meet him

Fellas you are not a “VICTIM”  of a lunatic if:

–          You solely based her potential as a good mate on her looks and her looks alone

–          You ignored signs she was a crazy with major issues b/c she gave good head in the elevator & back seat of the car

–          You buy her things you wouldn’t even buy your mother simply b/c she informed you that was what all “her previous” exes did

–          She is always seeking attention by any means necessary

–          She has mommy and daddy issues

–          She has wants and needs to be around you 24/7

I can go on. People its not rocket science. Losers are usually very transparent, UNLESS as I mentioned they are super smart sociopaths. The average man or woman is not a sociopath  – so much for that excuse!

Many times in a relationship that has gone bad and one person is reeling and foaming at the mouth about how they were used, usually this person saw  signs, red flags and all other road blocks and chose to ignore them for whatever reasons (reasons that usually and always benefit their needs of some sort).

So when I read or see these women and the SISTERHOOD  SISTERHOOD OF STUPIDITY rubbing their heads wondering what went wrong, I really get irritated.

IF YOU WANT A QUALITY PARTNER – AVOID PEOPLE WITH ISSUES LIKE THE PLAGUE!

Is it just me or does it seem that more men and women today come with a lot of issues and baggage than in the past? Or was it just brushed under the rug in the past?

I have to admit I have known tons and tons of women and men who continually make bad mate choices and never seem to come to the conclusion that they are ALWAYS the common denominator in each of these different situations.

With bad choices over time comes bitterness and distrust of the opposite sex. The more you find yourself in bad relationships with low caliber people, the more you unconsciously distance yourself from quality people.

Just like low caliber men/women and losers can smell their prey a mile away, a quality man or woman can also smell a person with issues a mile away and will avoid them like the plague.

My question to those who always end up in shitty relationships with shitty people is – how do you know a good man or woman when they come along if, you are always in volatile relationships with crazies? And if you happen to score a good quality man or woman after being through a string of crappy relationships with crappy people, how do you know how to handle a good relationship?

I don’t believe all is hopeless for people who make bad choices. But let’s be real, people who CONSISTENTLY make bad choices and dumb mate decisions are bad investments in the relationship arena. They are very bitter and hostile towards the opposite sex. That reeks of someone who has made several bad choices for silly and superficial reasons and they are angry b/c they believed they would come out of that situation unscathed. When the chips fell as they knew, its suddenly “I was BLINDSIDED by this person”.

Not buying it.

None of us is perfect and yes the opposite sex can and will often get on your damn nerves. I too have done some stupid things and made bad choices – mostly when I was younger. But I can say honestly, that I’m a person that likes to keep my scales balanced as much as possible. Therefore, I would rather be alone and single than in an empty relationship or with someone who is constantly robbing me of my joy or sanity b/c I am always putting up with their issues.

Ladies and gents. Its okay to be single for a while, while trying to figure out and discover what it is you want and need in a person or relationship.  Too many people today place their worth and value alone on whether they are in a relationship or not (especially and more so women). While we all wana be in love with that person that shivers our timbers, its certainly not worth trying to find it by any means necessary in some jerk off or lunatic that can only provide us with TEMPORARY satisfaction, bad nerves, and migranes.

So the next time someone yells “WELL AT *LEAST* I GOTTA MAN” or “WELL AT *LEAST* I’M GETTING LAID BY HOTTIES EVERY SECOND” recognize that 9 times out of 10 they are in turmoil and need to reinforce that it’s not so bad by shouting from the mountain tops how great their relationships are.

I would like to end with these quotes:

When we are unable to find tranquility within ourselves, it is useless to seek it elsewhere”~Francois de la Rochefoucauld

You do not need to be loved, not at the cost of yourself. The single relationship that is truly central & most crucial in a life is the relationship to the self. Of all the people you will know in a lifetime, you are the only one you will ever lose. ~ John Courdert

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124 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Marellus
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 03:47:21

    You go girl !!!

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  2. Zorro
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 05:03:00

    Dear Neecy:

    I am a 51-year old, 900-pound swamp-dwelling herbivore with antlers and a problem. I cannot seem to get a girlfriend. I am a very nice moose with good social manners, a high regard for moral behavior, and more than a little obsessive-compulsive disorder (the obsessive part, not the compulsive). I spend at least one hour every day reading a book, and on my days off about six hours. I have a good sense of humor, IMHO, no criminal record and am disease and drug-free.

    I have of late decided to lift weights to get more ripped (I don’t get the exercise I used to when my swamp had plenty of juniper bushed to trounce through, but Parks & Recreation made a “nature trail” around here and so now I stockpile dumbbells. Also, I am reading books by pickup artists. I have The Mystery Method, Magic Bullets, The Game, Secrets of the A-Game, How to Succeed with Cow Moosies, How to be the Bad Moose Cow Moosies Love, Rules of the Game, and Slap Your Antlers on Her Ass and Let Her Know Who’s the Bull Moose Around Here. All of this has been very enlightening, and I feel more confident around females.

    My question is this: Is it really true that nice bull moose finish last? I think I am too much of a pushover when I socialize with cow moosies. I am always polite and don’t want to change, but whenever I look into her deep black eyes and smell that delicious mouldy old wool hat smell that cow moosies have, it makes my head spin and I lose what little self control I have. It brings out in me my Inner George Costanza. I get needy, clingy, desperate and approval-seeking.

    It’s disgusting, and the females always back off. I think it might be a nose thing. I really love the way a cow moosie can take a $7 bottle of cheap shampoo and, when they use it, they smell like an old wool hat. My heart thumps!

    What do you recommend? Should I become a jerk bull moose? I know you don’t approve of negs, but I am getting good at them, and sometimes the cow mossies will thwap me with their hooves! I really love the physical attention. (It’s been a long time since…well…you know!).

    I eagerly await your counsel.

    Regards,

    Lonely in a New England swamp and covered with milkweed

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 07:38:26

      Awww ZORRO! You’re breakin my heart!
      Don’t question yourself so much. You have A LOT going for yourself!

      Also, recognize that much of what I will say is coming from more of an old school traditional girl and therefore most of it may not apply to the average woman these days since I don’t really understand or agree with how most women think and act these days.

      But I’ll try my best and offer some advice.

      (1) I love your Moose lingo and find it hilarious! But it seems you constantly talk about yourself or refer to yourself as a moose more than a man. In fact all of the time I see you refer to yourself it’s always in Moose terms. For instance this post. It seems you find most comfort talking about yourself or things in moose terms. I know enough of you to know you are a silly and funny guy who likes to joke around so I don’t hold it against you.

      But most other women will. But then too, maybe you do take it too much to heart (the whole I’m a moose thing?). I don’t think it’s an issue online where everyone has their quirky little things. But if you happen to do this face to face with a woman unconsciously, it may possibly turn her off after a while. I’m not sure if you are doing this and you don’t have to say one way or another if you do. BUT if you are, this may be an issue in keeping a woman interested. So I would say avoid doing too much of the Moose talk or referring to yourself as a Moose with a woman in a face to face interaction.
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      (2) May I ask what things you are obsessive about? Are they things that would *INITIALLY* turn a woman off and think “he’s a crazy” or things that a woman would have to be with you for some time before realizing? And what kinds of things are you obsessive about? Obsessive/compulsiveness can be quite an overbearing thing for a partner to deal with if it’s too out of hand. Especially if you have a laid back or easy going partner. Some obsessive things are good – like cleanliness etc. I would just take whatever it is you are obsessive/compulsive about and try to take it from extreme to moderate.

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      (3) Hmmm regarding the lifting weights and being ripped. I personally feel that’s not necessary – especially for a guy your age. I think you said you were in shape and work out and I think that is good enough. But if you think you’d feel better about yourself being ripped then okay but that is just a lot of pressure and upkeep if you are solely doing it to attract women. It seems to me you have been happy with your physical self all this time up until recently. I never head you mentioning getting ripped. A man can be ripped up and have the body of an Adonis, but he wouldn’t be able to keep a woman around with that. Do you feel that if you had a better body you would be more successful with attracting women? I think your time or any man’s time is FIRST better spent working on developing “monkey in the middle” traits than just trying ot have a hot body that will only help get women initially. But if you haven’t worked on your game characteristics they’ll not stick around.

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      (4) I don’t think it’s just nice guys who finish last. Honestly, most people are struggling in the relationship arena today. Yes even beautiful and hot people. But the biggest guys who do lose overall are the ones with no balance. This goes back to my Monkey in the Middle post. I know I often bitch and moan about how women are held to standards on their looks, but I realize men have their work cut out for them when it comes to keeping women attracted to them. So as a man you have to consciously be aware of balancing.

      Overly nice guys are a turn off to most women and so is a guy who is too aloof. This is where a man has to learn balance. Some guys try too hard to over-game women and be aloof to them to prove they are not catering to them, and they easily can take a woman that likes or has interest in them to losing that interest fairly quickly. Then of course the nice guy comes off as having no backbone so he turns a woman off. I think a man can be charming and express an interest in a woman or her beauty and still not be too supplicating yet not aloof. It’s a fine balance and if you get a good woman and ruin it by being too aloof or over-gaming or trying too hard to not supplicate you’ll lose out just as the same if you are too nice and always catering to her every whim.

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      (5) I certainly would not recommend being a jerk AT ALL. I don’t care what the PUA’s say. But if you feel the PUA’s are right you can try it but you won’t obtain a quality woman acting that way. Women like men who are in the middle. They DO NOT like jerks unless these women have major issues. I know you said you don’t like lose or slutty women and you prefer women who respect themselves. You won’t find the latter acting like a jerk – the former – yes if that is what you are looking for (easy lays). And since most women have major issues today, this *MAY* work. But I guarantee you, you will not get a woman of any real quality with that kind of behavior.

      So in essence, don’t be hard on yourself. Everyone has issues and no one is perfect. I f we were we’d all be in the perfect relationships with our ideal mate. The fact is it’s very very hard these days to find a good quality person to be with. It takes a lot more time than it did back in our mothers and fathers time. I know people of all calibers who are having difficulty finding “the one”. And honestly most of the people I see who are doing the best in the relationship arena are older couples or very traditional ethnicities like Indians, Middle Easterners b/c they place higher value on family, marriage and don’t seem to have these idiotic issues that many Westerners have when it comes to finding mates.

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      • Marellus
        Dec 13, 2011 @ 00:56:50

        Zorro, you got off lightly. Can you imagine what’s gonna happen if Neecy does the same to me ?!

        … now Neecy … take off those high-heel shoes … yes, I’m scared you might step on my toes … now put on your slippers … yes, it’s these pink ones with the bunnies and fairies I’m holding … Oh ?! … well in that case, let’s just read its manufacturing label :

        … MADE INNNNN ….. !!!! … I knew you’d come to see it my way … yes, you’re a darling … really … now Neecy, it’s very cold outside … you might get the flu with the almost-nothing clothing you’re wearing … I know … but the best cure for the flu is : Da-Wow-Wow-Kaboom-Roaring-Hog-Masala-Fire-Vawter made by Dr Olusange Hastings Kamuzu Bakakka, of the Angoni Tribe … oh ?! … but Robert Mugabe swears by this man !!! …

        … and you want to drink this stuff denying me access to foolproof flu remedy ?! … sorry my darling … you’re gonna put some clothes on … now now Neecy … I know if you take it off, I’m gonna see a pair that’s much bigger than mine … it’s gonna give me a poor self-image … oh really ?! … well let’s just hear what my therapist has to say about that … you’re paying for that therapist by the way …

        … now I just wanna say thankyou Neecy … you’ve done very well … Would you like to go out for some coffee ? … Neecy !!! … Neecy !!! … now look what you’ve done … my health is in tatters !!! … I’ve got swellings … and where THEEEE HELLLL did you put your slippers ?! … we’re gonna do this again !!! … and remember … I’m gonna start commenting on Roissy you hear meeeeeee !!!!!

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  3. Liza207
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 07:47:38

    Neecy, well done. You totally covered exactly why so many are having trouble these days making good choices in a mate. This is what a good therapist would tell a person who has been having issues in their love lives. The issues they are having are usually, if not, always lays with them, period. Since, most people hate doing introspection and taking responsibility for their shortcomings it is just easier to blame the other person that they chose to bring into their lives or the opposite sex. Moreover, by putting the blame on someone else it absolves him or her of the part he or she might have played in his or her relationship drama.

    You will never be in a healthy relationship until you resolve your own issues–then you will be able to find an awesome person. That is because you are now an awesome person yourself—water only seeks its own level.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:05:22

      Exactly Liza. And that is why i avoid certain women sites b/c I can’t deal with the “victimhood” issues. Most people do not have what it takes to look within and ask themselves how they contribute to the negative things that happen to them in life and even in relationships. It’s much easier to say a loser is the cause of all the problems in your relationship and a lot harder to look at what you did to allow that loser to get over on you.

      This is why I have certain friends I will not even bother offering advice to anymore. They seek advice hoping that b/c you are their friend you will tell them they did nothing wrong or crazy and when you do they don’t wanna hear what you have to say.

      I don’t cater to stupidity AT ALL. And if I ever had kids they would either love me or hate me for it b/c i don’t coddle people simply b/c I love them or are friends with them.

      If more people took more stock in themselves and worked on themselves and recognized their mistakes or failures, they’d avoid losers and low caliber people.

      Like I said losers and low caliber people are transparent and not good at all in hiding their intentions. A lot of times though, people want what they want and are willing to take risks. When the risks don’t work out in their favor its everyone else’s fault.

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  4. Liza207
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 07:57:38

    “With bad choices over time comes bitterness and distrust of the opposite sex. The more you find yourself in bad relationships with low caliber people, the more you unconsciously distance yourself from quality people.”
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    Yes, absolutely true. This is where a lot of bitterness and distrust about the opposite sex derives from. I see this with both men and women. They have allowed themselves to be used and abused continually due to making bad choice after bad choice but it is the opposite’s fault for being male or female. After a while, their obvious bitterness will become so transparent to the others that they will repel any decent prospects.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:12:30

      YEP. I can immediately tell if I am on a date within the first 20 mins. if I am dealing with a bitter Looney. They start in on talking bad about their exes and I’m like “ohhh not one of these! What will he say about me if I make him mad” LOL It’s like in a job interview you *NEVER* I don’t care how much you hated your old boss or company but you NEVER talk bad about your previous job or manager. The first thing the new potential employer is thinking (1) negative person (2) issues abound if i hire them and they don’t agree with their manager or company policies (3) problem employee that is disgruntled.

      Same thing applies to people in relationships. A man that is constantly bitching about women this and that or their exes is a clear sign of avoidance.

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      • Liza207
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:23:33

        Yes, exactly. One bitching about past relationships and the opposite sex is red flag time and I am out of there. Next!

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  5. MK
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:01:08

    Two points:

    1. Francois de la Rochefoucauld – Do you pronounce this RoachFUCKOLD?

    2. Between your previous hot monkey love terms, my question above and the giving good head line above don’t be shocked if your site gets more legendary weird search terms.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:16:16

      1. Francois de la Rochefoucauld – Do you pronounce this RoachFUCKOLD?

      Bwahahahaaaaa!!! LMAO. Uhm yeah it kinda looks that way huh? LOL

      2. Between your previous hot monkey love terms, my question above and the giving good head line above don’t be shocked if your site gets more legendary weird search terms.

      LOL I’m afraid. VERY AFRAID of what leads people to my site. LOL I’m sooo not looking forward to it! 😥

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  6. Liza207
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:03:01

    “Just like low caliber men/women and losers can smell their prey a mile away, a quality man or woman can also smell a person with issues a mile away and will avoid them like the plague.”

    —-
    Neecy, excellent! Emotionally healthy people will avoid issue laden others as if they have a highly contagious disease. They can see these hot messes coming at them miles away.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:17:41

      YEP. I can always kind of sense a person with MAJOR issues (face it we all have issues) but MAJOR issues is not workable. LOL

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  7. Liza207
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:07:52

    My question to those who always end up in shitty relationships with shitty people is – how do you know a good man or woman when they come along if; you are always in volatile relationships with crazies? And if you happen to score a good quality man or woman after being through a string of crappy relationships

    ——

    Another excellent point, those who wallow around in shit for very long periods will only be able to smell shit–their noses will not be able to smell anything that is sweet smelling even if it is right under their noses.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:21:33

      I’ve actually seen some shitty scorned people ruin a good person with their issues, bittenress and distrust of the opposite sex. Its not a fun thing to watch. That is why quality people will run quickly from a person who has had too many relaitonship woes with crazies b/c it says somehting about them – that they either love drama, lack critical thinking skills when it come to mates, or simply like volatile relationships.

      Something a person with balanced scaless doesn’t want to have to risk dealing with. i find often times bitter and scorend people will often blame even the good partners for things b/c of their lack of distrust. they end up ruining a good relaitonship b/c they constantly compare each new lover to thier previous one who hurt them.

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      • Liza207
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:32:03

        Yep! The poor unsuspecting person that walks into this line of fire is very unfortunate.

        I remember a guy I dated briefly in my early twenties–he had just broken up with his ex-girlfriend who cheated on him. Poor innocent me was the rebound girl and this guy wanted to make me pay for the last girl’s transgressions bigtime. But I cut him loose after a very short while before he could do any real damage.

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        • Neecy
          Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:36:46

          Yep some people are good at slipping through the cracks, but once a little light starts coming through you see what a crazy situation you go tyourself into. Happens all the time these days.

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  8. Liza207
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:11:59

    “But let’s be real, people who CONSISTENTLY make bad choices and dumb mate decisions are bad investments in the relationship arena. They are very bitter and hostile towards the opposite sex. That reeks of someone who has made several bad choices for silly and superficial reasons and they are angry b/c they believed they would come out of that situation unscathed”

    That why so many go to the manosphere, feminosphere and other so-called empowerment spots in cyberspace. They are looking for an audience to validate their poor choices and place blame on others.

    How the fuck is that going help them do better for themselves?

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  9. omerta327
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 08:49:21

    So to sum it all up:

    A) Have some self respect

    B) Don’t be such a fucking moron

    C) Damaged people attract other damaged people

    Got it. What’s for lunch?

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  10. Liza207
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:11:30

    And how about those still lamenting about someone who rejected a million years ago. I blossomed late and when I was in middle school, a sister could not get a play, especially from the hot guys. Those guys of course wanted girls that were on their level of attractiveness–not pimply, bucktooth, and awkward, me. Nevertheless, of course it was not until I finally blossomed that I got this. Why should I have felt entitled to the hottest guys when I myself wasn’t anything to look at the time? When I encounter the guys who rejected back in middle school and they are falling all over themselves to date me. I do not really feel any real animosity towards them. Moreover, they were cruel as hell about how they felt about my looks back then, too. The past is the past—let that shit go. Those people have moved on with lives and you are still reliving some childhood bullshit you cannot change. No one is entitled to anyone just because you desire him or her—you are not.

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    • omerta327
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:22:34

      I was the same way Liz. I was the geeky, socially awkward kid w/ braces and zits when I was younger. And I took a lot of shit for it. But I eventually grew out of it.

      Funny thing is, those kids who dicked me around back then were the people who basically peaked in high school, and they’ve been on a downward slide ever since.

      Me, I feel like I’m still trending upward.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:31:59

      OMG Liza I get so IRRITATED with men and people who harp on how they were rejected in 1st grade by girls/guys and they mak it their life’s mission as adults to get back at them. HUH? So immature and reeks of major issues.

      GROW the eff up already! A lot of people who were previously rejected and suddenly gain some attractiveness, feel the need to act like bitter fools and do whatever they can to hurt people b/c they were treated poorly in grade school. Just goes to show you they are still very unhappy people no matter how much attractiveness they have gained.

      Healthy people don’t take rejection as failure. They see it for what it is – the fact is no person will always be attractive to everyone. Some people are typically more universally attractive to others but they are a small percentage of people overall. GET OVER IT is what I always say to them.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:37:21

      I also wanted to address your entitlement point. How many people who have a laundry list of qualities they want in a mate (usually shallow) don’t even measure up to those requirements themselves?

      Like I had a friend who when were both overweight got offended if fit and ripped guys turned her down or were not attracted to big women. i never got mad b/c I feel you shouldn’t be asking for what you aren’t. She would also say how she could not date overweight guys and “preferred” her men sexy and fit. i’m tinking to myself “but you aint even sexy or fit yourself”.

      Girl one day I said that and she called me a hater said I had low self esteem etc. LOL Unbelivable

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      • Liza207
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:45:15

        People like your friend are mystery to me because I cannot figure out what the hell is going on in their heads. It could just be entitlement or something much deeper than that. Moreover, they waste so much time pursuing those who will only reject them over and over and then they become very bitter. This has become a real big issue in the current SMP.

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        • Neecy
          Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:52:32

          YEP! A lot of women and men are like this. nevermind what they AREN’T bringing to the table, they want their potential lovers to be top notch and they aint even a notch yet. LOL

          And they get mad when you tell them this! Its truly mind boggling.

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  11. Liza207
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:37:59

    Omerta,

    Yes, those damn braces and I also wore glasses–I was a mess. I remember the girls that peaked early–I run into them now and then and they just look like shit. I guess all of that male attention at an early age can wear a girl out ( the early sex and the babies).

    I also peaked in high school and it was probably the best thing for me that was attending an all-girls high school because believe me I would have gotten into some real shit with the boys.

    I am glad I blossomed late it gave me an opportunity to develop in other ways instead of just relying on my looks.

    And yes, the later one peaks the better somehow you look better with time like a fine wine.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:42:43

      HEY HEY HEY but uhm exsqueeze me! I was not an awkward or late bloomer in my ealry years, and was *that* popular girl that got all the hotties LOL. and while I’m no drop dead beauty, i still am attractive and have held up pretty darn well! LOL

      Although this wasn’t the case for a while after I got out of college and ran into some life obstacles that made me feel sorry for myself and stop caring about my appearance.

      But I’m back on board 😉 So not all early bloomers turn to shit later….

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      • Liza207
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:52:18

        Alright, girl! I hear you. And probably wasn’t slutting it up, though. A lot of those chicks were so slutty due to the constant attention from boys. Too much sex at an early age can really do a woman’s looks in after a while.

        You should see my younger sister she looks way older than me now but try telling her that and she will try to go for your jugular.

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        • Neecy
          Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:05:32

          You’re right I did get a lot of attention and had all the popular guys vying for me and b/c of that I didn’t have to do any slutting up. I was a virgin until 19. I found It was the unnattractive chicks who were the bigger sluts b/c they could only get the guys attention that way. When my b/F’s cheated on me it was always with some ugmo skank b/c they were willing to do the things I wasn’t or didn’t have to do for their attention. So I guess it can work both ways.

          I do also believe being out of the dramafied dating market b/c of my appearance later was probably a blessing b/c (1) I avoided crappy men and relationships so I have no bitterness issues against men (2) I didn’t sleep around and went quite sometime without sex. So…

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          • Liza207
            Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:16:50

            I think you are right that the sluttest girls were the least attractive. I could be stereotyping those girls back then. But pre-teen and teenage girls tend to be very insecure no matter what they look like. So, I would think that male attention is very important them at that stage to all girls.

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            • Neecy
              Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:21:15

              You’re right male attention is very crucial to all girls at that age. I remember I was so vain and always made sure I never had a hair out of place. LOL But i can say I was always a good person and liked by most excpet the girls from the projects. But it had more to do with being lighter than anything. I found in school you were either loved b/c you were lighter or hated for it. So STUPID what kids do and believe in thier early years.

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              • Liza207
                Dec 12, 2011 @ 11:16:26

                Neecy, as you know I am light too but even that did not help to make me popular. It was really that bad that even being lighter skinned did not help my looks at the time.

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                • Neecy
                  Dec 12, 2011 @ 11:26:34

                  LOL Well I guess if you are going to have a awkward period then childhood is definitley the best time to have it. Though kids are very cruel at this time and age.

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      • omerta327
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:05:51

        You were one of those chicks whose hair took up the entire yearbook photo, weren’t ya Neece? 😉

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    • omerta327
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:04:31

      Yup. Karma’s a bitch, ain’t it?

      To say I was a mess would be a gross understatement. But in hindsight it was a good thing cuz it forced me to develop and work on myself. It forced me to be disciplined and really concentrate on improving.

      I also peaked in high school and it was probably the best thing for me that was attending an all-girls high school because believe me I would have gotten into some real shit with the boys

      Hmm. What do you mean by that?

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      • Liza207
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:08:17

        Omerta, you know exaclty what I mean. 😉

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      • Neecy
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:11:22

        I don’t wanna speak for Liza but i would like to make a comment on your question based on my obs. I know a lot of women who are late bloomers try to make up for the lack of attention they didn’t get in grade school by going buck wild later in high school or college. That is why i kinda get irritated with this idea that b/c a girl was pretty and popular all of her life, she was a slut or will be a dog later in life. not true. That seems kinda bitter and revengeful to say when people who werent hot in their early years say that those who were age badly or look like shit later. NOT TRUE and i can say that about a lot of girls I knew in grade school who were pretty and still are.

        in fact the uglier and most unnattractive a girl is the more likely she is to be a slut b/c she uses sex to get male attention b/c she can’t get it any other way.

        For me by the time I reached high school and college I was like “BLAH” with male attention b/c i had it for all of grade school. But i saw the girls who blossomed late going buck wild by the time they reached high school so…

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        • omerta327
          Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:22:36

          Duly noted. But I don’t think anyone’s making those kinds of broad generalizations here. Obviously everyone develops – or doesn’t develop – differently.

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          • Neecy
            Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:27:16

            Uh actually the both of you claimed that those who were hot and attractive early years turned out to be dogs or looked like shit later while people who blossom later age better and look better. That reeks of bitterness to me. *shrugs*

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            • omerta327
              Dec 12, 2011 @ 11:13:13

              No bitterness here. Life’s too short to hold grudges.

              And I never said these people were “hot” or “attractive” either – I only said they dicked me around. Hell, some of them had NO business getting on anyone’s case.

              But what are you gonna do? It’s high school – shit like that happens.

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            • Liza207
              Dec 12, 2011 @ 11:31:52

              I was definitely bitter in middle school due to being picked on about my looks. But by high school I let it go. I was now the girl the other girls were bitter against–180. But that has never gone to my head because I always had other things going for me. I was an A-student and I possessed some wit.

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            • Neecy
              Dec 12, 2011 @ 11:43:44

              Liza/Omerta,

              Actually i was basing the bitterness comment on what the both of you were insinuating about late bloomers vs. non late bloomers.

              I can understand as a kid feeling that way. But I just don’t understand why there is this assumption that b/c a girl was attractive in grade school she was a slut or that she aged poorly or wouldn’t look as equally as good or better than a late bloomer later in life (i.e they are all on a “downward spiral” is what i believe I read and saw agreement with).

              Being a late bloomer doesn’t gurantee you are going to look better or age better than someone else who wasn’t. it just menas that you grew into your looks.

              It just came off as very divisive, revengeful and bitter what you two were saying. Then again i could have been reading it wrong. Either way it shouldn’t matter. If peopel are happy with themselves they don’t need to put others down and shouldn’t….

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  12. MK
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:43:06

    I have always wondered why would a woman ever give a man she was dating/interested in money especially if he asked? Should be the ultimate turn off since it shows he doesn’t have his stuff together and can’t even support himself.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:49:32

      MK,

      Honestly this is mainly a Black woman issue. So many Black women are sad and desperate and so indoctrinated to act like men. They pay for men, give them money etc.

      When i was a waitress, almost 90% of the Black couples I waited on, the woman was paying. LOL

      I aint one of those Black wimmens. LOL Now if I am in a relationship, I will ever so often treat my man to dinner or buy him something when I get an urge. But to just give money and resources to a man is completely STUPID and any woman that does that is BEGGING to get used IMO.

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      • bob
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 11:16:42

        The Black SMP is radically tilted in favor of black men. Therefore they get away with all kinds of crap. See “Is Marriage for White People” by Rich Banks.

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        • Neecy
          Dec 12, 2011 @ 11:38:10

          Yep. But if other Black women want to continue to be indoctrinated to believe the okey doke, then so be it. I’m done trying to convince them otherwise. All i can do as a BW is thank GOD I have been freed of that mentality – and so are a many growing number of other Black women.

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    • omerta327
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:52:23

      Bingo. I have a good friend who’s a good looking Latina who was in a relationship w/ this guy for a year or so. He ended up cheating on her and that was the end of that.

      But after the dust settled, she told me how she had loaned him about $1500 over the course of the relationship, and she was lamenting how she wasn’t gonna be getting that back. I’m like “What the hell are you doing giving that shithead $1500 in the first place?” She gave me some kind of roundabout answer – I can’t even remember.

      I can’t think of anything more emasculating than asking a g/f for money. WTF?

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  13. Matt
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:47:08

    Neecy,

    Just one point I’d add:
    “- He doesn’t have a job when you meet him”
    I’d tag “AND HE’S NOT LOOKING FOR ONE!” to the end of that.

    If you meet a guy when he just got laid off, that doesn’t mean he’s a loser. If you meet a guy who got laid off and then spent the following six months lazing around, well he’s probably a loser.

    Everything else, AWESOME. People that keep going for damaged goods have nobody to blame but themselves when things don’t work out.

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    • Matt
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:48:24

      Uhh … Neecy,

      I can’t help but notice that I’m a pissed off piece of bubble gum again.

      Care to explain?

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      • Neecy
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 09:56:32

        LMAO! Uh you didn’t read my last response to you in the SEX in CITY THREAD? Go take a peak my dear 😉

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        • MK
          Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:46:28

          Wait you set the icons I thought they were random. What the hell is mine it looks like some kind of angry STD I must be on your shit list.

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          • Neecy
            Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:52:23

            LMFAO!!!! hhahahahahaaa! OMG MK you are on a roll today! I love it!

            Actually, I dont assign them they are random based on email. These icons are called water icons.

            I thought you’d like yours. he looks like a tough guy!

            Matt if you hate yours, you have to change your anon status. It seems you are putting your email and username on the wrong lines which gets you an anon avatar – and also why your comment skeep going to my moderatoin file.

            And no. you’re not on my shit list 😀

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            • bob
              Dec 12, 2011 @ 11:12:52

              You can choose your own icon via a wordpress account (which auomatically gives you a wordpress blog and will hyperlink your id to it) or through gravatar.com.

              I started with gravatar, though I’ve been on so many wordpress blogs lately I ended up getting an account there, too.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:00:35

      You’re right Matt. In this economy it may not be out of ordinary to come in contact with a person who is out of work. But I guess I should have been more descriptive there. There are OBVIOUS losers who have ZERO work history or experience b/c they are not worth a damn and always looking to get by.

      Alot of women deal with guys like this knowing they are not marketable in the job sector and end up being these guys meal tickets.

      However, a woman knows based on a man’s past work history that he is marketable and just is out of work b/c of the economy and he may have lost his job. Also, that he will most likely get one in near future if he’s looking…

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      • Liza207
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:06:36

        Yes, Neecy so true. Tyrone who swears that he is going to be the next 50 Cent. Ha! Why any woman would be this desperate and senseless is totally beyond my understanding?

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        • Neecy
          Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:13:07

          I got ONE WORD – UGH! I don’t know how any woman with brain matter puts up with that. truly sick.

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          • MK
            Dec 12, 2011 @ 13:03:56

            She’s right Tyrone’s aspirations are pathetic.

            Which one of you ladies wants to buy the next Eminem a steak dinner and Louis XIII?

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            • Neecy
              Dec 12, 2011 @ 13:19:28

              HA! sorry my love but it’s struggle just trying to get myself that Louis viuiton bag I’m working on. Steak dinner? Psssh you’d gave to earn that mister! Possibly an out of body orgasm MAY get you a steak dinner 😉 lol j/k

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      • Matt
        Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:07:32

        Completely agree.

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        • Neecy
          Dec 12, 2011 @ 10:33:10

          Did you read my last reponse to you in the SIC thread? Couple of messages there for you…..

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          • Matt
            Dec 13, 2011 @ 07:31:41

            OK, I read the posts left for me in the last thread.

            1. It’s not past the holidays yet! You’re jumping the gun with pissed off bubble gum!
            2. I’m not married right now. Anything I write about marriage could be instantly countered with “But you’re not married!”
            3. Lastly, in order to speak about marriage, I have to speak about the differences between male and female. I also need to bring up some other stuff that will annoy some people. I don’t have much of a problem doing it but …. well, let’s just say that anybody that holds the viewpoint that male and female are exactly the same won’t like me much.

            Also, wow, that’s a lot of pink. I thought maybe I was looking at a breast cancer support page. Or maybe a site featuring decorating tips for Barbie’s Dream House.

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            • Neecy
              Dec 13, 2011 @ 07:59:20

              1. It’s not past the holidays yet! You’re jumping the gun with pissed off bubble gum!

              I just wanted to give you a taste of Angry Pink BG Man in case you had any bright ideas of not entertaining my request 😉 Also try flipping your username and email addy b/c I htink that is why your comments always go to moderation. IOW’s wherever your are putting your email addy put your username and vice versa.

              2. I’m not married right now. Anything I write about marriage could be instantly countered with “But you’re not married!”

              AND? So what! I’m not in a relationship (or having sex – not like anyone can tell though) either and I write about men, women, relationships AND sex!

              3. Lastly, in order to speak about marriage, I have to speak about the differences between male and female. I also need to bring up some other stuff that will annoy some people. I don’t have much of a problem doing it but …. well, let’s just say that anybody that holds the viewpoint that male and female are exactly the same won’t like me much.

              We’re all adults here. i may yell, kick and scream and try to scratch your eyeballs out if I don’t agree, but I’ll get over it and so would everyone else. Its not about changing anyone’s views but if someone doesn’t agree they can say what they want in opposition.

              Also, wow, that’s a lot of pink. I thought maybe I was looking at a breast cancer support page. Or maybe a site featuring decorating tips for Barbie’s Dream House..

              LOL! Actually you missed it. I had a barbie as my avatar (she went with the color scheme!)and then Zorro busted my chops about it so hard I changed it. LOL Ok that is 2 of you that have expressed a concern about the Pink. But it matches with Pink Bubbe gum man?

              Alright! Is the Pink interferring with your guyses manhood? if it is I’ll change it since there are more of you male species on here than female species. lol

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  14. omerta327
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 11:23:18

    You know, this whole discussion reminds me of this vid.

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  15. n/a
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 14:16:44

    Neecy,

    I knew you were sharp when you came down hard on the “fat acceptance” idiocy; and now you’re making fools of the fools and the “victims.”

    Good post.–

    I continue to shake my head at your ability to hold my attention through your remarkably extended prose symphonies.

    I think it’s because your tone is so *affable* without any apparent need for the approval of your readers.

    And I detect no bitterness.

    You could make some dough writing a book, but you’d require a *brilliant* editor: too many of them would cut too much and rip your tone to shreds. In writing, tone is almost everything.

    You’ve got that sweet tone…

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 14:31:14

      N/A you really know how to melt a girls heart! I know you can be a lil devil so when you something nice I know u mean it. Thanks for your encouraging kind words 🙂 muah!

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  16. bob
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 14:43:49

    Neecy said:

    Is it just me or does it seem that more men and women today come with a lot of issues and baggage than in the past?

    With more women riding (and more men being or trying to be) the cock-carousel for more years, everybody involved just naturally gets more baggage.

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  17. bob
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 14:52:04

    Neecy said:

    graduated top of my class cum sum lade

    [Emphasis added.]

    I’m sorry, but I can’t help but notice how this sounds like it came from the script of a bad porno movie.

    Perhaps you meant summa cum laude?

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  18. Neecy
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 15:47:02

    Actually Liza I think you should give omertà consideration since u both have a lot in common 😉

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  19. MK
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 17:22:32

    Neecy and the crew here plus some white boys named the Eagles helped inspire me to right this blog post. Maybe I got a career as an Internet preacher coming haha.

    http://manfortheages.com/we-live-our-lives-in-chains-and-never-even-know-we-have-the-key/

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    • Neecy
      Dec 12, 2011 @ 17:36:35

      Mark that was very inspiring! I love y’all and I feel blessed to have such amazing people on my blog 🙂 I would love for you to do an inspiring like guest post on here before New year. Think about it?

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  20. Zorro
    Dec 12, 2011 @ 22:56:51

    Great. Now I feel like an inflamed homo.

    This place is so PINK I am afraid I’m gonna get arrested for invading Barbie’s dollhouse. And even Neecy has deleted her awesome photo of mocha epicness and replaced it with…wait for it…BARBIE!

    Yikes. That’s all I have to say.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 13, 2011 @ 04:47:26

      LMFAO!!! Zoooorrrooo!!! Pink is my favorite color! I have been waiting for WordPress to come up with a Pink design and this new one just came out. You no likey?

      I picked Barbie b/c she fits in with the color scheme. You no likey?

      Plus I was getting bored with the other one.

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  21. Zorro
    Dec 13, 2011 @ 08:44:17

    You are Epicness girl! Barbie, (black barbie or otherwise) is so not cool.

    I need to see the Neecy, not some pasticized excuse for femaleness.

    It’s going to take me some time to deal with the pinkness, but I can’t live without you/i>.

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  22. Zorro
    Dec 13, 2011 @ 08:45:09

    Damn, but I hate computer technology.

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  24. JoeClyde
    Dec 23, 2011 @ 06:30:03

    Nice Blog post. Especially the “No Victims after 25”.

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    • Neecy
      Dec 23, 2011 @ 06:45:29

      Thanks Joe! It’s true once u become an adult it’s no more blaming people as to why you allOwed yourself to stay in a bad relationship when u saw red flags.

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