No, don’t be scurred! My ADD is not kicking in right now and I am not making any changes to my blog, blog name, blog address, blog theme, etc. lol
Ok so this post is so totally cliché and typical for New Year’s, but its just tradition. Gotta do a self-improvement post cause, its just gotta be done on the first day of the New Year. I’m certain I won’t be saying or telling any of you anything you haven’t heard a billion times before, but it just feels good sometimes to actually write these things out and express it in one’s own individual way. So just suck it up and take what you can from it m’kay? Thanks!! 😉
This is a wonderful concept that I think we all could benefit from each New Year. I was in church this weekend and the preacher brought this up and I thought it could really apply to love and life and relationships with all of us in the next year.
Its really about stepping up and out of your comfort zone and doing something you didn’t think was possible. Stepping into a new territory…
WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE
This should be a motto of almost anyone who has a fear of rejection or fear of seeing themselves as a complete or whole person. It should be the motto for those who fear pursuing something that they want but fear they cannot get.
I have been guilty at times of this but I am finding each day I am moving further and further away from this mindset. Its baby steps for me (in some areas) and that works just fine b/c sometimes we gotta crawl before we walk.
If you are a man that has feared rejection for the longest, and that fear has caused you to steer away from assertively pursuing things you have been or are interested in, why not take this year as a way to move beyond that fear and just go for it? Look within yourself and ask what is really at stake here – is it something as simple as a “no” from one lone human being in a world of billions or is what at stake losing your life, health, family (the more important things)?
I’m thinking more the former which is NOTHING! In sales many of the best sales representatives who do the best and make the most money understand that closed doors come more often than they open. If you stop at the first few prospects who say “no” then you can never get to that lucrative place in your position or career b/c it requires many closed doors before open ones. With closed doors also comes experience. The more experience, the better and more prepared you are when the opportunity does present itself in your favor.
The saying goes “if it were easy we’d all be doing it”. With closed doors you either build character and improve your approach to get in the door or you hopelessly give up and take it as a personal downfall that cannot be improved b/c its just “you” and “you” cannot ever get anywhere or improve your chances at success.
If you are a woman that has felt insecure or has doubted yourself in any way b/c you felt you didn’t or don’t measure up, why not take this new year and opportunity to try a different approach to how you see yourself and the fear that causes you to feel you are not worthy as a woman or person for superficial reasons?
If you have issues that stem from how others have mistreated you over the years or family/past relationship issues that have caused you heartache and an inability to love or trust someone, why not try for one year to let those things go, forgive, let go of the grudges and see if your life, your self-esteem, and your potential increase as a result.
HOLDING GRUDGES, HOLDS YOU HOSTAGE
I have learned to let go of holding grudges. Sometimes I may find myself going to that place of “eff them b/c they did x,y,z to me” but I am glad that I am the kind of person who eventually learns to let go of that. You don’t have to be a pushover to let go of grudges. I find once I let go of a grudge and understand that persons “deed” that caused me hurt or pain, its really about them more so than me. A lot of times its our pride that causes us to feel that we cannot let go of things or people who have hurt us or seek to demean us.
Usually when you let go and learn to look within and ask yourself what the issue really is that allows you to become so affected by another person’s views, ideas, perceptions of you, its really not about them its about YOU and deep down if you actually buy into what they say or believe about you or whatever it is. Of course a person who seeks to demean or make you feel less than, its also about them as well in the sense that for many people the way to cope with their own deficiencies, they have to drag others down to overlook what it is they themselves are lacking.
Either way, once you find you let go of a grudge, you feel like a hostage that has finally been set free. Its like this heavy burden has been uplifted off of you and placed back on the person doing the demeaning. Let them deal with the burden, not you.
PATIENCE & FAITH:
EVERYTHING WE THINK OR WANT FOR OURSELVES MAY NOT BE IN GOD’S OR THE UNIVERSES PLANS
The last concept that is really important for me to say is, I have to learn that sometimes what we think or want for ourselves may not necessarily be in God’s or the Universe’s plan for us at that time or sometimes AT ALL. We often at times become stuck on our own flesh’s desires or what we think we need and want for ourselves when ultimately its not what is meant to be.
Sometimes you have to let go and understand that while it may seem like you are losing out, more patience and faith will ultimately show you that you will get yours in due time. Maybe not the time YOU wish for it to be or the time YOU believe you are ready for it, but it will come when the stars align and God says its right. And that is the BEST time b/c when the stars and universe and God are working in your favor to fulfill your desires, its ALWAYS going to be the best set up for you and what you want.
Sometimes we just have to sit still and listen to the universes or God’s voice. Often times we are too busy listening to the voices in our own heads telling us things that may or may not be moving us to a better place.
So try this year to be still and quiet your thoughts and let silence allow a clearer picture than what you have normally done in the past. I plan on trying this myself – we’ll see what happens!
I hope this post possibly inspired *somebody* if not just myself. (lol)