NEW & IMPROVED? But for who?…

Its human nature to want to be impressive to others and to hopefully make yourself a better person physically, emotionally and mentally  in some way.  But I find many people take it to the extremes in the wrong way only to end up back where they originally started b/c they lost focus of what the real mission was for self-improvement.

 

This especially happens in the SMP where men and women are constantly seeking to improve their prospects for mating. Of course many times what improving ones prospects means for both men and women can vary, but it all boils down to the same mission – to be a better more appealing person in some way.

 

Unfortunately, . It seems the biggest motivation many people have in bettering themselves is for the external approval of others FIRST and everything else (including for themselves) being second.  Once they accomplish whatever it is they feel they lack to be a better looking or a better person in the eyes of others, they become defined by that – until the inevitable happens and they lose whatever it is they gained to make them favorable in the eyes of other shallow people.

 

In the flirtation post, Sophia brought up how one of her friends (who is an *AVERAGE LOOKING* woman)  only makes herself sexually and romantically available to men who are no less looking than an Abercrombie and Fitch model (Waaaay *ABOVE AVERGAE LOOKING*). Sophia told us of an average guy who works with her friend that likes her.  Her friend has already friend zoned this guy b/c he is not perfect enough looking for her AVERAGE LOOKING self. YET, despite this, he has spent time “improving” himself physically to appeal to and be more attractive to this shallow chick that only sees right through him. He has taken on PX90 to “buff up” and get in shape simply to make himself more attractive to * this chick* thinking this is what he needs to do to make her see him as a potential intimate partner.  

 

Can anyone tell me what’s wrong with this picture?  and what’s gonna happen when or even *IF* she does suddenly give his newly Adonis shaped muscle bound body a chance &  she stresses him out and he eats one cheeseburger too many? YEP, you guessed it, he’ll fall off the wagon, she’ll fall of the wagon and go back to chasing the guys she desires most,  and whatever he defined himself by for the sake of her approval will no longer be around for support and he’ll fall right back to that pathetic schlub he was before he buffed up for Miss delusions of grandeur. Happens all.the.time. His only real motivation to improve himself lies in seeking that reinforcement in one person – who has already proven and shown to be quite shallow. Not healthy at all!

 

But why do people do this? It’s one thing to want to improve your looks or physical self or material possessions for your own purposes of internal satisfaction or mental and emotional health, but it’s another thing to do it for external approval which will usually only be temporary god forbid you fall off the wagon. I was reading Heartiste’s one day and this poster made a great point about this. Of course his response was more in the realm of game and a man improving himself in that arena but it speaks across to almost anyone in any situation. A poster had brought up a point about a friend of his who was struggling  to meet women b/c he feels that he is 1-15 lbs overweight and that if he loses the 10-15 lbs. his prospects would simply be better.  YES his prospects would get better, but what is his real motivation behind losing the 10lbs.? Is it truly to simply be better looking and healthier in general or b/c he simply feels that is the only thing keeping him from attracting women (and not his confidence or character). Here was his response is here. You can read the whole thread tree and response http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2011/12/19/street-smarts-game-and-the-white-underclass/  (it’s made by commenter Ya Really – Dec 20 @ 3:24pm and 4:43 pm) but I wanted to highlight a key point/concept that he made that really seems to be lost on most people who do this:

 …….Only after they throw all that away and learn to base their identity on their core (“what do I value?” “what are my boundaries?” “what behavior do I accept from myself and others?” “what are my goals in life?” “who AM I?”) are they finally free from the shackles of limiting beliefs and ego protection and ready to really step into their potential with game.

…..If the 10lbs friend achieved his goal weight then ate a few cheeseburgers he would no longer feel high value and change his behavior around people because he wouldn’t allow himself to feel high value since his identity is attached to his weight. That’s how fragile his confidence is.

He’s right! A person can make all of the physical & materialistic improvements and changes they want. But if they haven’t got their mind right and are more focused on improving themselves to please others all that will happen is when they have a bad day and eat a cheeseburger and gain that 10 lbs. back, lose that good job that provided them all the material possessions to floss and impress others, lose their looks, or whatever else it was they sought to gain to get external approval from others, they will fall back to that person they were before they made those external changes.  

 

If a person wants to change something about themselves, that change should be rooted in long term success for bettering themselves for their own mental, emotional and physical health. A person that defines themselves solely by what others think is a person setting themselves up for failure. That’s b/c people these days are fickle. They will like you while things are good, but will dump and turn on you the minute you can no longer live up to that person you defined yourself by for shallow reasons.

 

This is a key thing that people should remember.  This applies to the schlub working overtime to impress a chick that sees right through him. In his eyes all he needs are more muscles to be that guy she wants. But when the muscles disappear, then what? People who define themselves by superficial things externally b/c they feel that will make them more appealing to others, are attaching their identities to whatever *flaw* it is they feel they have, and feel that by improving that *flaw* it will change their prospects. It may for the short-term. But not the long term if the person hasn’t really changed who they are for their core internal reasons.

 

In other instances a person who desperately changes themselves for the external approval of others and who ignores their inner core needs and desires first,  often will find themselves in a downward spiral b/c they cannot cope with what it takes to maintain that goal they are seeking.

THE SMP

In the SMP, a man for instance (like the example I used above) will believe that improving his financial status, looks, or game will increase his potential with women. This is true in some instances – but ONLY if his core is solid and comes first. It will almost always only be temporarily if he has the wrong mindset. If that man only works on the surface and not from within he’s gonna fail. He may luck up and temporarily make some gains but will find himself always back at square one even when he has made improvements.

 

It’s like the bitter reformed beta guy who has now made some significant improvements in his external status and life who instead is not working at strengthening his core as a person so that he can have better relationships across the board for the long haul – he has more money, great job, improved his game and looks, but still walks around holding onto grudges against women or people of the past who wronged him, ignored him or saw him as a schlub. So his real mission is not really to improve himself for HIMSELF, but rather to improve himself to be in a position to talk down about all the women of the past who mistreated him, and how his prospects are more increased now b/c of his new and improved changes.  His real missions are to make gains in his life for getting back at others. How do you think this person will fare later on? If he loses his job,  or cannot maintain his new physique or looks? He’ll be back at square one blaming the external factors for why he cannot make gains in life or his relationships with women.

 

Same applies to the women out there who make all these wonderful physical changes to themselves to be more appealing to men only to find their minds are still messed up.

 

About  2 years ago I lived in an apartment complex and I had a neighbor who was a make-up artist in the pornography industry. We both lived in this complex for about 4 years and became fairly close and we would often talk. She was a beautiful girl who was on the voluptuous side. She had natural full breasts and was quite shapely and she even had a flat stomach with slight flab that could have easily been lost if she had worked out.  I would never call her FAT but she could stand to lose about maybe 10-15lbs. to be at her peak shape physically.

 

She had a b/f who she had been seeing for about 6 years who was overweight and quite nerdy looking. But they were really close and he adored her and was always there for her. She often would talk about her weight and how she wanted to lose, but I never felt she had too much of a self-esteem issue b/c she knew how to really doll herself up when going out. But working around very thin women with fake boobs and who were always dolled up made her insecure as time went on.

 

The final straw for her extreme change was when she got into an argument over money owed to her with a porn star  on set that she was doing make up for. This porn start basically called her a fat cow in front of everyone and they all took the side of the thin pretty porn girl even though she was clearly guilty of not paying my friend the money she owed her.

 

So one day she just started doing extreme things to get the weight off. Within about a month and a half she had lost about 40 lbs. I won’t lie, she looked amaaaazing! I was happy for her. She and her b/f had tried all kinds of diets and such and I guess it never really worked. While she had lost a ton of weight fairly quickly and unhealthily and became much hotter than she previously was, her b/f remained in his frumpy state. Of course as one gets hotter, ones options increases with the opposite sex. But she also started hanging around new female and male friends from the porn industry (who suddenly wanted to be around her b/c she was thinner,  and also most likely b/c she had more confidence which was solely attached to being thinner).

 

As a result, some of the women she started hanging with turned her onto very unhealthy things to keep her weight off and remain skinny. She started taking RX pain killers, starving herself, taking diet pills. She also had naturally full perfect breasts and she went and got BREAST IMPLANTS! UGH! For what? She didn’t need them. But as her quest to be more and more perfect grew, she started doing all these crazy things to herself to maintain her new look and to deal with the emotional strain of trying to maintain these things unhealthily. She started depending on pills to keep her from being stressed out and eating. She eventually dumped her b/f of several years and started dating a guy in the porn industry. She dumped all of her good friends.

 

One morning I was going out somewhere and she was outside smoking and she asked me if she could talk with me. I was telling her how jealous I was of her new life and how I was thinking about doing some of the extreme things she did to get my weight off (diet pills). She told me flat out that she was miserable and always filled with anxiety b/c she knows gaining the weight back will cost her the new friends, the new guys,  and life she has. This is how important the external is to her than her own internal emotional well-being and mental health.

 

Eventually it got to a point where I could not even hold a conversation with her over the phone or in person b/c she was so high off of pills and whatever else she was doing that she would have severely slurred speech.

 

The point I am making in this example is, this ex neighbor/friend was defined by her weight loss as the one thing that would make her life perfect and make people like her. She was solely looking to seek approval from those who saw her as the frumpy chick who “would be pretty if she lost weight”.

 

So this friend hastily and desperately decided she needed to lose weight “to show them” how beautiful she could be. And while she did, her core was so fucked up b/c she needed to do drastic things to keep her from facing the demons that were still there inside. I haven’t seen her since and I am not sure if she has gained the weight back, if she is doing porn herself now or what. But this is a true case of someone really defining themselves by the wrong external factors, changing themselves, ad being unable to mentally cope with these changes b/c they were not made for core reasons of simply improving her health and life.

 

I am a person always seeking to improve myself physically, mentally and emotionally. And while I am quite aware that with improved changes in those areas, come improved prospects and reinforcement from others, I am also well aware that I have to do it for me *FIRST* and foremost and ask myself the questions WHY I want to make the changes in my life as the commenter pointed out on Heartiste’s above.

 

What are the core reasons that you as a person wants to make changes is a question we should all ask ourselves. If the first and second things that keep coming up are b/c of external reasons or other people first, then please re-evaluate your mission and goal b/c it will all be in vain later on, sometimes when it’s too late. I do hope my friend hasn’t gotten to the point of return, b/c a lot of people do and it’s quite tragic.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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94 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. MK
    Feb 21, 2012 @ 04:14:49

    You used nearly proper spacing and punctuation. You either got a solid ghostwriter on fiverr or I’m proud of you!

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  2. Marellus
    Feb 21, 2012 @ 05:48:23

    Neecy.

    That poor make-up artist. Her life is headed nowhere and she’s thrilled to death about it.

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    • Neecy
      Feb 21, 2012 @ 08:39:26

      Yes her life was headed nowhere but i can tell you she was not thrilled to death about it. She had just gotten herself to a point of no return and had to rely on drugs and such to keep her mind from dealing witht he stress of trying to maintain such a huge weight loss in such a quick and unhealthy way. She told me that when she would get strressed out she would crave fast food and taking pills, etc., kept her from doing that.

      At first looking out the window into her new life I must say I thought is was so great. She bought a whole new wardrobe and was sudden;y dating hot guys. But once I started talking with her more I realized for myself and by what she said, that she was miserable.

      Most of all i felt sorry for her ex b/f. I can’t imagine what it must have felt like to be completely tossed aside like he was after so many years.

      I tried calling her sometime last year for her bday and her mailbox was full, so.. I have no clue how she is doing now.

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  3. Omerta327
    Feb 21, 2012 @ 08:07:50

    Yep. As I’ve said before, people won’t stick to any kind of self-improvement program if they’re doing it to satisfy external forces instead of internal ones.

    It’s all about a strong/weak mindset. If you start working out thinking “I’m gonna get as healthy and strong as I can be”, then you’re mindset is in a position of power and you’re more likely to keep your resolve for the long haul. If you’re working out thinking “I gotta make this person like me, I gotta make this person like me”, then you’re automatically in a position of weakness, and probably destined for failure in the long run.

    Why do people do this? Let’s face it – with advances in internet technology, the SMP is more dog-eat-dog, cut-throat, ‘survival of the fittest’ than ever. LOTS of competition for people’s attention, and a lot of people are feeling the pinch. But change always has to coke from within. In the manosphere, anyone will tell you “game” isn’t about canned routines and lines, “game” has to be internalized, it has to become who you really are. True inside and out change takes time.

    And what exactly does a porn make-up artist do? “Excuse me, can you touch up my gaping vagina so it doesn’t look as big as an airplane hangar?”

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    • Neecy
      Feb 21, 2012 @ 08:43:49

      So right O. The stress tha comes with trying to change soley for external reasons is why people do such drastic things to stay in thier new and improved state. But when a person does it from within, its no stress (only the stress of discipline). But once they reach the goal b/c they did it from within no matter what happens to them they will always maintain whatever it is they sought for themselves.

      I understand nowadays people are more looks fcused and somewhat shallow than before and you are right compeition is increased out there in the SMP b/c of it. I can see how a person can get caught up in simply focusing on the external to get ahead, but any and everyone I have seen do this, has always ended up back where they started or has gone into a serious downward spiral trying to maintain.

      And what exactly does a porn make-up artist do? “Excuse me, can you touch up my gaping vagina so it doesn’t look as big as an airplane hangar?”

      OMG LOL!! uhhhm, actually she just did their hair and make up.

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    • Zorro
      Feb 21, 2012 @ 19:41:35

      What is called “inner game.”

      I believe it is a Biblical quote: “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

      What a man believes himself to be expresses itself to the world for the world to see. And if he is a jackass or democrat or whatever, that’s what chicks pick up on.

      Well I’ve been haunted in my sleep
      You’ve been starring in my dreams
      Lord I miss you

      muah kittykins

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  4. Zorro
    Feb 21, 2012 @ 08:37:58

    Whom

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  5. Firepower
    Feb 22, 2012 @ 10:39:53

    *yawnnnn*
    ive finally had
    enuff

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  6. Zorro
    Feb 22, 2012 @ 16:42:31

    http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001KEGRA2/ref=oh_o01_s00_i00_details

    Just a heads up. I just ordered it, and I’ll give you a review after I see it.

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  7. Zorro
    Feb 22, 2012 @ 16:42:54

    It’s Aisha Tyler Live at the Fillmore.

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  8. n/a
    Feb 23, 2012 @ 00:09:38

    Pacific treating me well, cruising through its bright blue waters like a tigershark. I love sarongs. Hawaiian girls are a pain in the ass, but you don’t go for the locals.

    One sees the “SMP” at its most hilarious and rollicking while watching the girls who go crazy for every variety of surfer. There are a lot of thugs and low-level criminal types among the hardcore, continent-hopping surfers — they have to be to get their space on the best waves — and women of all ages love these types. It’s very funny to see girls and women sit around and primp waiting for their surfer thugs to come home, smoke weed, and vaguely fuck them if they happen to remember that’s what girls are for. All these French German Aussie Israeli sluts, it’s unreal. But the better class of honeys is easy pickings for a guy who is “mysterious.” And “mysterious” on Maui basically means you were once seen in front of Jamba Juice seriously reading a book in the middle of the day. The word is: lol.

    The more the races get tossed like a salad the finer the pussy is. Whoops, sorry for the vulgarity. Neecyness.

    But it’s true and it’s why I get a chuckle out of the racist types on Roissy who exalt white women. Unmixed white women, unless they are extraordinarily lovely, look *terrible* in the gene salad of Maui. I’m seeing a lot of Japanese/Latina blends that are making my eyes pop. Geez!

    But I think I’d rather sit down and have a mai-tai with you, baby. Some of these beauties are stone-cold empty — which doesn’t, however, mean they’re not exactly what the doctor ordered for a ride in the seaweed — if you know what I mean.

    Rugburned and smiling,

    n/a

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    • Firepower
      Feb 23, 2012 @ 10:10:02

      Yeh, that Brooklyn Decker
      what an also-ran

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    • Neecy
      Feb 23, 2012 @ 22:24:07

      Well I knew always that women digged surfer dudes – gotta admit they are hawt and something is also very relaxed about them as well. I used to work with quite a few in the past and they were some of the coolest most laid back guys ever. They just don’t seem to get worked up about much and have a very cool demeanor that I think a lot of women love. Plus their bodies are hot and full of natural muscle b/c of the sport. But its still ridiculous how so many women offer themselves up for these guys – I too have seen it with my own eyes as well.

      I think the mix of Latin/Asian looking chicks you are seeing my dear are Filipinas. LOL Filipinos are a mix of Spanish and Asian, and yes some can be quite stunning. I guess I never really noriced that there was a big mixture in Hawaii other than the hawaiin locals. I do know Japanese have heavy influence there so possibly they also mix with the natives creating that mixed latin/asian look as well.

      I’d have a mai tai with ya anyday N/A – you’re cool peeps fer sher! 😉

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      • n/a
        Feb 24, 2012 @ 22:25:54

        You think I don’t know a lil’ ol’ Filipina from a hole in the ground, eh? Let me tell you something. The first girl who had the awesome pleasure and responsibility of sucking my cock was the daughter of our maid and she was a tiny, sweet as candy, bubblebutted lil ‘pina cutie-pie. I know those nutbrown almondeyed catholic-school solid blue/plaid skirt wearing sluts very well indeed.

        But I wasn’t talking about those little cum-munchkins, baby. I was talking about *strict* Japanese and Latina blends: from Portuguese Peruvian Venezuelan Brazilian gene stocks. If I know anything in this world I know my slit-eyed ladies.

        Count me unsurprised that smiling Miss Neecy — a very horny girl and I think it’s getting high-time for that steaminess to be set loose on this blog again — is a sucker for the “natural muscles” of the “laid back” surfer boys. Ha. I can well imagine some of your past antics, you devil.

        That’s what I love about you. Good girl? Yes. And — more importantly — No.

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        • Neecy
          Feb 25, 2012 @ 08:24:03

          Ohhh please tell me you did not proposition the maids daughter? LOL That sounds like a movie in the making. HA!

          That’s interesting those mixes you speak of since I know Japanese are very exclusive (unless its with White) when it comes to mixing. I am sure those mixes you speak of are quite beautiful. but are they originating in Hawaii or in Japan or in those latin countries? And are the products of this mix more the Japanese women mixing with other races of men than Japanese men?

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          • n/a
            Feb 26, 2012 @ 06:23:19

            The girls I’m speaking about are from a specific subculture, Neecy — the Japanese AV/idol/pornographic business. The Japanese porn milieu, btw, is nothing like the wretched world of American/Western porn; as with so many other pursuits, the Japanese have raised the art of their pornography to an extraordinary level, and the almost unbelievable beauty of the girls (and *much* older women) (!) involved reflects this. I’m involved in this subculture and know it through and through.

            There’s been an unprecedented amount (for Japan) of mixing in the past generation and these mixed girls, scorned by the pure Japanese, can find themselves in AV very easily. Some of them are so beautiful it’s laughable — I’ve been all over, and I’ve *never* seen females this ridiculously luscious.

            I should send you a DVD that you wouldn’t be able to get otherwise. Seeing is believing. Though I highly doubt you would want to expose yourself to such, well, such — *things.*

            And I’m glad you like sausage. Because the sausage likes you.

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            • Marellus
              Feb 27, 2012 @ 00:38:12

              N/A

              Can explain more about these mixed race Japanese women, and their ostracism from Japanese Society. Are you saying that the Japanese can be very rascist to some extent ? How do you know this ?

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              • n/a
                Feb 27, 2012 @ 04:27:11

                Marellus,

                The Japanese are among the most xenophobic people on earth. I don’t regard this as a problem — it’s simply the way this ancient, proud and isolated culture evolved.

                In fact it angers me when the Japanese government capitulates to some Western demand that they outlaw some aspect of their culture — for example, busybody Western feminist prudes don’t like Japanese hentai that features very young looking characters. These are cartoons. They are often drawn with great delicacy and humor; but these stupid bitches (often from the US) don’t give a damn about the art — they simply wish to impose their disgustingly empty ideology everywhere they possibly can. And they’ve succeeded to an outrageous extent.

                I first traveled to Japan in ’98. It was a like of paradise of absolute difference. The culture today in 2012 remains more decisively foreign than any other I’ve experienced, but, unfortunately, there have been many compromises made to pacify Western sensibilities, esp. with regard to sexual matters. It disgusts and saddens me.–

                Western control-freak feminist monsters want the entire world to conform to their insane ideology, and Japan was always a great rebuke to this tendency. No more.

                These Japanese/Latina mixes are not exactly ostracized; that would be too severe a term. But the Japanese people can be unforgiving in certain circumstances — and these mixed-race types will feel the chill. They are not pure Japanese. Again, my view is unusual — I understand and sympathize with this “racism.” There is nothing more satisfying to me, in our world of increasingly homogenized, feminist culture, than to see this flattening of culture rejected and scorned.

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                • n/a
                  Feb 27, 2012 @ 04:34:55

                  Correction: “It was like a paradise of absolute difference.”

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                • Neecy
                  Feb 27, 2012 @ 06:01:13

                  N/A i find Asians in general to be typically xenophobic EXCEPT when it comes to Whiteness. In fact, I find many Asian cultures worship Whiteness and European features over their own features. Moreso than any other race or culture that I have seen.

                  I personally don’t know if I could intermix with an Asian b/c I can’t deal with their extreme culture differences.

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            • Neecy
              Feb 27, 2012 @ 05:58:38

              What is AV and idol?

              I think its really sad that these mixed raced women are subjected to solely doing pornography as a means b/c of Japan’s extreme xenophobia.

              And so are you saying youa re a porn star? HA HA!!! You did say you are immersed in the pron culture there so can you explain further? LOL

              But my question is who is mixing with these Latin cultures from Japan? Is it the lower income women or the men? I mean for such an increase in mixed raced offspring of Japanese and Latin I am curious as to what gender from japan is doing the race mixing and why, if they come from such and xenophobic culture. My only guess would be military?

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  9. MK
    Feb 24, 2012 @ 08:06:01

    Neecy where did all your women commenters go? Seems like an interesting story we want details.

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    • Neecy
      Feb 24, 2012 @ 08:21:50

      email me if you wanna know the details on one of them. lol

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      • Omerta327
        Feb 24, 2012 @ 08:32:20

        ruh-roh

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      • MK
        Feb 24, 2012 @ 10:39:08

        I think I know what happened. The meet up in NYC went awry when you both started squabbling over who would get first dibs to moist down my member.

        There was an intense game of 1-2-3 shoot still no decision
        Thinking of a # between 1-20 still inconclusive
        Finally you duked it out in jello and you won.

        All things heel with time but you better keep your eye on the prize since it was so hard fought.

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    • Omerta327
      Feb 24, 2012 @ 08:30:16

      Didn’t you hear? Neecy, Liza, Sophia, Chic Noir and Maya all duked it out in the octagon in a battle royal for byotch supremacy on the blog.

      Neecy won cuz she was the last to break a nail. The others all jealously slumped away in defeat.

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      • Neecy
        Feb 24, 2012 @ 08:36:49

        haha! Actually i just think I was out and away for so long Sophia and Chicky just haven’t checked back yet. I’m sure they will be back eventually.

        But you know what happened with the other one LOL

        Either way i don’t care. Its a blog and people come and go. i have left blogs before as well. that’s the interwebz!

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    • Zorro
      Feb 24, 2012 @ 10:58:10

      Yeah, really. I haven’t seen a Liza comment in ages.

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      • n/a
        Feb 24, 2012 @ 22:27:48

        Liza shd make up with the harsh blogmistress and come back to the Nest.

        That’s my opinion.

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        • Neecy
          Feb 25, 2012 @ 08:34:10

          Seriously there was no fight. As I stated before in other posts people have their own strange reasons for doing things. My job is not to chase people around asking “what’s wrong”. Its not that serious. I have a pretty good idea why Liza dissapeared, but i cannot be bothered with trying to care – honestly. Grown people are allowed to come and go as they please. Its not the end of the world. Sure the blog is slower with less convo but that’s life! And I have actually been able to get a lot more done with work b/c of it so its not all a bad thing that its slowed down since it was taking up a lot of my morning time for work.

          So the Way I see it is, everything happens for the best. Now its slower but its not interefrring with my am work as in the past and I am getting more accomplished.

          I’d prefer not to even discuss her anymore on the blog. She’s gone and that’s that. Life will surely go on for everyone 😀

          Plus having a blog full of sausages isn’t so bad! 😉

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    • Sophia
      Mar 01, 2012 @ 19:35:00

      I’m here. Just went awol due to family emergency and before that, Neecy’s travels. Glad to see it’s hopping again.

      Also, thrilled to bits you used my little anecdote in your blog, Neecy girl!!

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  10. n/a
    Feb 24, 2012 @ 22:30:03

    And where is Sophia? she’s a sexy gal, pining after her badboy alphas and always on the verge of admitting her secret out-of-control depravities and lusts!

    Another excellent and intelligent Good/Bad ebony honey! 🙂

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  11. Zorro
    Feb 25, 2012 @ 22:00:00

    Okay, so, it’s 1am here in Vermont and I just finished Aisha Tyler Is Lit: Live at the Fillmore.

    A few observations:

    1. I have a funny feeling that women would get lots more laughs out of her routine than guys would, possibly because I sense much of her routine is based on a woman’s perception of the material covered. She has lots of energy, her ability to modulate her voice is tuning fork perfect (her impersonation of a Valley Girl or White Girl are just hilarious), her timing seemed a bit off at times and I got the impression that she was terrified at the chuckles her jokes were getting rather than ripping BELLY LAUGHS, which are what comics shoot for.

    2. I think her 15-year old nephew was the cameraman. Most of the show was shot very well, but at times there were “concept photography” moments when the cameraman or editor brought us all back to those wonderful days of TV’s Batman with Adam West and Burt Ward, where the camera would turn right and left and pitch from bow to stern during the fight scenes. At least the sound was okay.

    3. I wasn’t overly impressed with her material (I’m still in the middle of a horrific man-crush on the standup comic, Bill Burr, who can machine-gun material like George Carlin), and I think she would benefit from coaching from a more experienced comic. But some of it was really good, and she clearly knows funny from not funny. I just think she needs to work on her delivery and transitions.

    4. There is no doubt in my mind that, had I gone to high school with her, she would have been my best friend in the world! She is not only very attractive, but she exudes “super fun and nice person” from every pore in her body!

    …and she’s married to a white guy. There’s hope for me yet.

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    • Omerta327
      Feb 26, 2012 @ 09:56:43

      Yeah, so how was her version of “Whipping Post”? 😎

      I’ve seen some of AT’s standup before and she’s pretty good. Not great, but decent.

      Even “No Ass At All” isn’t bad. As a rule, I think comedians should never attempt to do music. It always seems contrived and comes out flat.

      The one, solitary exception to that rule (NSFW, of course):

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      • Neecy
        Feb 27, 2012 @ 05:53:30

        I haven’t seen any of her standups at all. But I think she’s funny in a cute way. probably not hilarious funny like other comdiens but sense of humor funny.

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    • Zorro
      Feb 27, 2012 @ 11:47:30

      Just a taste of Bill Burr:

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  12. Omerta327
    Feb 26, 2012 @ 10:20:28

    While we’re on the subject of comedians, Bill Hicks died 18 years ago today.

    (REEEEAAAALY NSFW)

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  13. Omerta327
    Feb 26, 2012 @ 15:20:53

    Normally I wouldn’t post something like this here but I found this absolutely shocking and I feel I have an obligation to share it. Read this, nesters.

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2106711/Wyoming-drawing-doomsday-plan-fall-United-States.html

    There’s a reason why China and India are hoarding gold right now.

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    • Zorro
      Feb 26, 2012 @ 18:50:41

      Kinda makes your asshole snap shut, don’t it?

      I’ll be perfectly honest. I am totally convinced the next 30 years will see the US descend into economic oblivion. Brazil will be looking down on us. There is serious shit going on that nobody wants to talk about.

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      • Neecy
        Feb 27, 2012 @ 05:46:24

        Its reeeeeally scarey what is becomming of the US economically. On boards I used to frequent there was always a push for us to learn a new language and to start having a possible exit route to another country.

        They say brazil is one of the newest up and coming powerhouses of the world economically. But learning Portuguese is one of the most difficult languages is what i hear.

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        • Zorro
          Feb 27, 2012 @ 09:20:59

          If your first language is English, the toughest to learn is Finnish.

          I’m learning Brazilian Portuguese right now. I’ve got the Pimsleur program on CD and books for reading BrazPort.

          In less than 3 years, I’m moving to either Rio, Sao Paulo or Bilo Horizonte.

          This country has become a feminist cesspool and I have no faith that the Republicans will eradicate the stupidity the Democrats have inflicted on our society.

          There. I said it.

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          • Neecy
            Feb 27, 2012 @ 17:55:17

            So you aren’t finding Portuguese hard to learn? I was thinking about taking up a second language as I think these days it is quite valuable. How is the program you are using – pretty good?

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            • Zorro
              Feb 27, 2012 @ 18:16:36

              Because I spent four years teaching English as a Foreign Language in Saudi Arabia, I have a lot of insight into language learning (plus, as you are well aware, I am a tad obsessive about language).

              If you want to learn another language, there are a couple books you might want to look into to help you get your brain wrapped around the project in a healthy way:

              Language Logic by Robyn Matthew
              Speak Like a Native by Michael D. Janich

              There are other books on language acquisition that will help. It is very important, at the outset, to accurately identify what you hope to achieve by learning a new language. Without a clear understanding of what you expect to get out of it, the work involved will be irritating and you will probably give up. Secondly, you have to be careful that your exercises cover both hemispheres of language (written and spoken), as well as the divisions therein (written/reading, and spoken/auditory). At least half (at the minimum) of your time spend learning a foreign language must be in developing your listening skills. Native speakers typically talk quite fast, and if one word is not understood, your comprehension of the rest of what is said will collapse.

              Timothy Ferris has some very good advice on language acquisition:

              http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog/2009/01/20/learning-language/

              I have read this post twice, and I cannot praise it enough. It was something I was told by another TEFL instructor in Saudi. He spoke brilliant Italian. He also loved to cook Italian food. So he moved to Italy and enrolled in a cooking class that was taught in English. He started learning Italian, and four months later he was taking cooking lessons in Italian. He piggy-backed his love of Italian food with language, and the grammar and vocab fell into place, just like Ferris’ Judo book. Imagine how hard it is to learn your desired language by reading car insurance policies?! You’d die of boredom.

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              • Neecy
                Feb 27, 2012 @ 18:25:55

                Z,

                Thanks so much for the great advice and cautions. I recently decided to go back for my MBA since my employer will cover most all of the tuition expenses – why not? As a result i thougt learning a new language that will help my future business endeavors as well as possible plan B exit route endeavors couldn’t hurt. I had thought about starting with Rosetta Stone. Possibly i should learn regular Spanish first and then take a shot at portuguese later.

                But i will think long and hard about what i will attempt and if i have the persistence to tackle such a task of learning a new language.

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                • Zorro
                  Feb 27, 2012 @ 19:33:42

                  I would suspect that Spanish would be the best language you could learn in order to boost your career. Not certain, but even in food service, Spanish is the language to learn. The New England Culinary Institute in Montpelier, VT, (NECI, which was once the best cooking school in North America) makes all their students graduate with fluent Spanish, because kitchens in America speak Spanish as much as English.

                  I very strongly recommend the Pimsleur CD program for private time study in addition to a qualified Spanish instructor.

                  http://www.amazon.com/Spanish-Understand-Pimsleur-Language-Comprehensive/dp/0743523571/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1330399987&sr=8-1

                  A good instructor is key. There are people who speak shitty English, have no respect for punctuation, grammar, or vocab development. You’ve met them. And these people exist in all languages. Be very careful when choosing a tutor!!!

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            • Zorro
              Feb 27, 2012 @ 18:20:51

              One other thing. There is no replacement for a qualified instructor, but if you need a computer program or CD program, Pimsleur is THE BEST!

              Rosetta Stone isn’t garbage, but it sucks donkey balls compared to Pimsleur.

              My physical therapist is from Brazil, so when I get my Thai massages, I practice with her. It flips her out that an American is learning BrazPort. And she is definitely impressed by my efforts.

              I can’t wait to get to Brazil!!!!

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              • Neecy
                Feb 27, 2012 @ 18:23:00

                I am so happy for your future pursuits in Brazil. i think you will live quite a good life there!

                I would love to visit one of these days for sure.

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        • Sophia
          Mar 01, 2012 @ 19:51:08

          Yeah, I know of which blog you speak of, Neecy.
          I think sometimes I’m too complacent about living in Canada. Whatever economic calamity hits the US will also affect us, to an even bigger scale. Canada has managed ok so far, due to its conservative banking practices, strong regulatory environment and a strong resource sector. I think that is lulling a lot of us into a false sense of security though.

          My parents were burned by the markets in ’87 and that distrust of the markets led them to invest in tangible assets in the form of real estate and gold. Their approach also led them to turn their big backyard to a high yield vegetable garden and they’ve been sourcing their meat from local farmers for the last 15 years. To them, this is not a trend or anything like that. It was simply the way they grew up.
          I have begun to emulate a lot of their habits and thinking in the last 5 years with the addition looking at generating extra streams of revenue as not to depend solely on my job.

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    • Neecy
      Feb 27, 2012 @ 05:52:15

      Its really scarey Omerta and I don’t think they are overreacting at all. But what would be suggested for Americans well aware of what is happening to do in the event the gov’t collapses and we have a true economic downfall? i am not sure what to do other than to look at having a back up exit route plan to another country?

      Should I make a post about this. b/c this really concerns me and I would like to hear suggestions.

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      • MK
        Feb 27, 2012 @ 15:39:11

        Well don’t go to a foreign country unless its like Canada honestly. Think about it if the US collapses we take most the world down with us.

        If you were serious about wanting to prepare you’d get the heck out of California its probably the worst place to be besides Detroit and other major cities.

        You’d need to:
        arm up
        food up
        renewable energy up
        or sexup the local warlord

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        • Neecy
          Feb 27, 2012 @ 17:58:26

          I think Canada is quite a viable option since it is much closer in proximity. I have always thought about Canada and i really like Canadian people (at least the ones I have met). I would also like ot visit there as I hear its quite beautiful.

          And why would I need “arms” are you saying I may have to bust a cap in someone’s arse if the gov’t collapses? lol

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          • MK
            Feb 28, 2012 @ 13:19:22

            Simply put yes.
            If society breaks down expect chaos the lead law has already been stated in the other thread.
            You’d need to kill or be killed. Reference the show the Colony here expect note they would be dead after the first bad encounter vs. preparing for another one.

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  14. Zorro
    Feb 26, 2012 @ 17:52:00

    So there.

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  15. Zorro
    Feb 26, 2012 @ 17:53:06

    Official moose.

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