Neecy Terms you’ll need to understand for this post:
1) Pedestalizer – a fool who places others before him/herslef as more valuable than thier own individual or collective best interests
2) Pedestalized / Pedestalites / Pedestalizee- The beneficiaries of the above fool who seek to take them and htire stupidity for granted
3) Pedestalization – the act of pedestalizing
4) Pedestalizing – the act of placing one on a pedestal
Pedestalization of people is a problem. SERIOUS PROBLEM. You can pedestalize a thing, which can be harmless in other ways, but no one expects things to actually reciprocate the way we expect people to. Things usually perform something that benefits a person that values it.
Notice that people who are pedestalized usually never return the favor to those who place them on a pedestal? In fact, it’s like they go out of their ways to make sure they walk, run and jump all over the person/people who pedestalize them – just for shits and giggles!
Additionally, those who are pedestalized tend to be obnoxious in a variety of ways. That obnoxiousness typically & usually bothers those who don’t see them as anything really special or worthy of high value than any other person. And deep down the obnoxiousness also bothers the person/people MAKING THEM THIS WAY (i.e. the pedestalizers) but they will continue to overlook these behaviors for some sort of *false* gain. Many obnoxious traits those pedestalized carry?:
n Lack of responsibility
n Constantly seeking validation
n Constantly seeking reinforcement
They need that validation and reinforcement in order to even stay on the pedestal. And the idiotic pedestalizers are all too ready and willing to keep bestowing and extolling the virtues of their beloved pedestalites.
It’s like some unspoken rule that once you place someone on a pedestal they turn into annoying destructive monsters who has had a person/people place so much value into them, that they could never do any wrong. Typically pedestalized people carelessly go through life doing as they wish, other people’s feelings/needs be damned. They become overly entitles and caught up in their own false sense of *superiority* and their egos become so inflated, that it’s a very hard fall for them when other people or things refuse to feed that ego.
In *some* ways, one has to admire a pedestalized person. They really aren’t faking anything. Everything they do is real – and all for self. And they tend to show a great deal of respect for those who don’t place them on a pedestal. In fact, they could actually help those who pedestalize them in that aspect by showing how to look out for yourself FIRST and FOREMOST. Unfortunately, that pedestal suddenly disappears if the pedestalizers practices the “SELF FIRST” behaviors of those they worship.
What we usually see are the people who (for whatever reasons) place a person, or similar group of people on a pedestal usually doesn’t receive that reciprocation and rarely lack the insight or desire to demand it – instead they bitch, moan, cry and complain and most often times try to run GUILT TRIPS on the people they pedestalize to get what they seek in return for their worship. NEVER WORKS. They only look more desperate and stupid.
Whether or not the pedestalizer is looking to be pedestalized remains unknown. But from my own experiences and observations – they do! They expect those whom they worship and pedestalize to return the favor. And when this doesn’t happen, the crying game begins.
I personally have issues with pedestalizers. They often place persons and/or groups of people above them and are usually narrowly focused people who have usually been brainwashed in some ways. But even when the veil has been lifted from their eyes, they often refuse to let go or should I say RISE from kneeling down at the altar of those they deem more valuable than even they are.
I also tend to have an issue with people or persons who don’t look out for their best interests first. Humans who don’t do this typically are the losers in life in various ways. Because they can’t see the forest for the trees. They depend on OTHERS to complete them. And those others they look to for personal or collective completion are the people they place on a pedestal.
There are a variety of reasons a person or group of people get placed on a pedestal:
n The pedestalizer feels they need the pedestalized person/people for an overall gain they deem to be valuable
n The pedestalizer has been BRAINWASHED to believe the pedestalized person is of higher value b/c of *WHAT* they are even if they really have not proven such
Pedestalizers also create *MONSTERS*. The problem is often time the monsters they create are the same monsters terrorizing THEM and getting on everyone else’s nerves. Yes the very people who worship that Monster are usually the unfortunate beneficiaries of horrible treatment, neglect or just simply being taken advantage of. Those who refuse to bow down at the altar of those sitting on a pedestal, are usually the ones who gain from the pedestalites. LOL
Isn’t it ironic how that works?
PEDESTALIZATION IN CULTURAL GROUPS
This is one place you often find pedestalization at the expense of almost everyone who isn’t on the pedestal – especially the pedestalizers.
Because I am most familiar with these two racial groups/cultures I will speak specifically of BLACK WOMEN and their pedestalization of BLACK MALES. And WHITE MALES and their pedesalization of WHITE FEMALES.
This has been going on since… God knows! Each group and gender has for the most part played into their roles as either the pedestalized or the pedestalizers.
Black women and White men for decades seem to have this desire to believe their better halves (Black men and White women) are some special gifts from God who complete them as a collective group and people. As a result, we have overly ENTITLED, selfish, irresponsible, destructive and SELFISH, and most of all? ANNOYING Black males and White females.
Black women who have decided to place Black men on a pedestal expect the same in return. Despite the fact that has never happened and in fact, Black women have received disastrous results from their pedestalization of Black men, Black women continue to place great effort and focus on “winning” the Black male over by all means necessary. This includes:
n Putting up with abandonment and their lack of desire to help raise and provide for the children Black men create with Black women
n CONSTANTLY Making excuses for their deplorable behaviors
n Continuing to deal with damaged Black men who only have their own best interests at heart
n Public and private open humiliation of Black women verbally and physically
n Open praise of other races of women and open public discussing and disrespect of Black women and their “downfalls” *COMPARED* to other races of women
n Not returning that same “love” and desire to make things work as a collective in their communities
I can go on. As a result, you have a culture/race full of scorned, damaged, hurt and CONFUSED women who are at a loss on what to do next now that the shit has hit the fan. They see that the investments they have made in Black men have returned 0 profits for Black women overall. In fact the only thing the investments Black women have made in Black men have done is increased Black men’s STOCK and DECREASED Black women’s.
Black women (whether willing to admit to it or pretend the worse is not happening before their eyes) realize no amount of pedestalization of Black males is going to win them over and cause them to return and reciprocate what Black women expect based on the high value they have placed in Black men over themselves as Black women.
As a result Black women have adjusted and/or reacted in a number of ways:
THE ATYPICAL BLACK WOMAN WHO CONTINUES TO BELIEVE IT WILL “TURN AROUND IN THEIR FAVOR”
This is probably the majority of how Black women think. Despite the obvious shitstorm they are in with Black men, they continue to believe that “sun is gonna come in the morning”. LOL. Okay, I’m all about thinking positive and looking for positive change, but I don’t place that into other people. I place that into myself.
These Black women are so dependent on Black men to complete them at this point, they have reached (in their eyes) the point of no return. Turning back and actually gaining their self-respect and putting their energies into each other as women shows failure. That failure they see is that the value, time, energy, and investments they have put into Black males has retuned ZERO, NADA, ZILCH, GOOSE EGG on their behalf’s. So, their STUPIDITY *PRIDE* disables them from admitting they FAILED MISERABLY and should re-group and ACTUALLY, MAYBE, POSSIBLY start focusing on themselves and lifting up the collective of Black women who are in DIRE need of focus. Instead they keep pumping energy and investments into something that has died a long time ago.
Black women can actually learn a few things from the Black men they worship so. What is that? How to live your life on your own ACCORD. How to not feel like your purpose in life is to be completed by others. How to not feel guilty for doing what is BEST for yourself or for going after what YOU want, other people’s feelings be damned.
THE PROGRESSIVE NEW AGE BLACK WOMAN “TO HELL WITH EM!”
Yes “TO HELL WITH EM! ITS ALL ABOUT MOI! “ is the motto of the new age Progressive EMPOWERED Black female. This Black woman (whom I have the great pleasure of saying I AM) are the Black women who see the FOREST and not just the tree. We see the bigger picture. The writing on the wall. And as a result, we have made the decision that no other human being is more important in our lives than we are. Not out of vanity and narcissism, but out of a necessity to have the best quality lives for ourselves as possible.
And guess what? We also seek to enlighten and teach other Black women in the MATRIX the same. We don’t want to keep living well to ourselves. We actually care about ourselves and each other as Black women b/c we know that no one else is going to place Black women on a pedestal BUT US.
If you are going to place someone or a group on a pedestal, why not YOURSELF(ves)? Doesn’t that make the most sense? Because when it becomes about yourself, you will work hard to do the right things, you can’t take advantage and walk all over yourself, you won’t betray yourself. You will always seek to reciprocate to yourself and others who are in the same position, who share the same collective goals and needs.
IOW’s – WE GET IT. We newly empowered Black women are doing what we can to say “WE” are most important FIRST before any other group. And all those who are not our allies, can keep it moving. We only give love, time, investment and energy to those willing to RETURN THAT SAME FAVOR. Those who aren’t – ADIOS!
WHITE MEN and the pedestalization of WHITE WOMEN
“Thank God For Asian women!!!” ~ Beta White men of the world
While White men and Black women share that same stupid philosophy of pedestalizing their racial halves, White men are dealing with somewhat different issues as a result of pedestalizing White women. Not MUCH different but somewhat different.
The form of neglect and abandonment they mainly receive is in the dating and mating arena. The majority of young White men who are of a more “BETA” nature (read: the actual men who treat women with respect and dignity), tend to be overlooked by the very women they pedestalize.
They often go through their younger years lacking sexual fulfillment and/or relationship fulfillment with the women they want (White women). They are often socially awkward b/c of repressed masculinity out of fear of “turning off” the very women who tell them one thing (they want sensitive men who respect their space) vs. who they really give the time of day (the men who don’t always respect them or who don’t put up with their nonsense and who don’t pedestalize them).
Many White men find themselves “FRIEND ZONED” in their younger years by the women they pedestalize. Because of the women being placed on a pedestal, that gives them many more oprions to choose from in men.
Often times these White male pedestalizers see women of other races “inferior” to White women and therefore stick with White women. Only recently (out of necessity) have White men started expanding their dating options to Asian women in great numbers who have taken up the slack for the White women who would otherwise ignore and have no interest in the more Beta White guys.
If not for Asian women, there would be a large host of White men who would be dateless and sexless b/c they don’t carry the traits that White women *REALLY* want, yet have told them (through feminist measures) for decades to have, to their own detriment.
THE FEMINIST MOVEMENT
White women created the feminist movement. And yes, I have to respect them in some ways for it b/c many races of Western women have benefited greatly from the feminist movement. Now while I do benefit from a lot of the old school feminist ideologies and also believe that we do need forms of feminism to ensure women’s rights are always upheld, today’s and the last couple decades of feminism has reached all-time ridiculousness. It has crossed the line and created confusion amongst women and men on how to be WOMEN and MEN – the way GOD created us – to work TOGETHER and not against each other.
Feminism today has told women that we should want to compete with men for any and everything. Where women *should* want to do what men do, live and act like men.
The point I am making? Even while being pedestalized by their own race of men, White women are always focused on how to compete with their men as to be seen as “equal” to them.
This has created a great deal of tension between White women and White men over the last couple of decades. HUH? Tension? Why would there be any tension when the women are placed on such pedestals? AH! So what are you saying Neecy? That placing people on pedestals doesn’t mean they are always going to react with love, respect, and a willingness to work together?
White women have fought, kicked and screamed to have White men become these sensitive, caring men who understand women’s needs and seek to always try to treat a woman like she *should* or wants to be treated – with care, compassion. To be dependable and protective over women and children. To worship and appreciate and OVERRATE even the most plain and average of White women as beautiful.
For the most part, White men have done this. What have White men received in return? NADA! Oh wait they have received something. White women who take their loyalty for granted (the same way Black men do to Black women). White women who will date, sleep with, marry any race of males they choose without a second thought. White women who gallivant with other races of men whom they feel are more “MASCULINE” and unwilling to put up with their nonsense.
What are the results? A bunch of sexless, beta White men who have been raised to treat White women with respect being shitted on in the dating market. And when these sexless dateless White men have all the resources they can handle, they are then often sought after by the very White women who ignored or mistreated them when they were in their prime and their most desired. Because White men generally are more family oriented (based on the men willing to marry and create decent communities for their women and children), will have a great deal of resources, White women realize that these types of White men are usually the ones they only want and need when she is much older and out of her prime years and ready to settle down.
we can gather that b/c White men have placed high value on WHITE WOMEN / WHITE WOMANHOOD and seeks to take care of it – they are willing to even give these White women a second chance and take up with them after they have “rode the penis caresoul for their youth” and will make them honest women and pretend they were never those “girls gone wild” floozies of the past. Ok that’s wonderful. But what have White men received in return for their willingness to do such things? A SHITLOAD of divorces!
To make a long story short, you now have masses of scorned and even damaged and hurt White males who are now seeing that their efforts, energy, INVESTMENTS in White women as a whole have garnered ZERO, NADA, ZILCH, GOOSE EGG in return for their needs, wants and desires.
As a result, you now have the more “AWARE” White men who are at the point of being bitter and angry joining PUA sites and game blogs on how to literally manipulate and lie their ways into the vaginal orifices of the very women they once treated so kindly to only get slapped in the face.
They realize that all the decades spent trying to appease White women have garnered nothing in return and now understand that the value of “WOMAHOOD” they placed in White women was and is all a big JOKE. They are discovering when all is said and done, White women are nothing special. They are women like all others who unfortunately have taken the great treatment and the pedestal they are on – for granted, and release their issues and negative energy out on the very men who placed them there.
Are White women or Black men to fault for this? NOT.AT.ALL!!!!
Black women and White men are to blame for all of this.
THE BOTTOM LINE
STOP! Just stop with the nonsense. No human being(s) should be placed on any kinds of pedestals. Because to be human is to error. That means any and all human beings have the ability to disappoint in some way. If you have a need to be completed, look to yourself for that completion. Stop placing value into groups of people or individual people in general. It means nothing in the grand scheme of things and only signifies issues within the very people who do the pedestalizing of others.
Often times people who pedestalize others, have created in their own pea brains, that certain things that a person possess (their race in this instance) makes them worthy of pedestalization. How STUPID IS THAT? Well I guess we can see based on how pedestalizers get treated by those they pedestalize – NOT nicely.
I think it’s very clear. People do not respect those whom worship them. Respecting and “putting up with someone b/c you need them, their resources, time and energy” are two different things altogether. Who wants to simply be kept around solely a resource?
Pedestalizers get taken for granted – AS THEY SHOULD.
Get your mind right, rise up from the alter and recognize that there is so much more to life than being someone’s sole resource and doormat.