PURELY REFINED – STOOPIDITY!

That’s what it is!

 

YOU TUBE VID: Latina with great body is gyrating, moving and shaking her well toned body and booty to the rhythm of annoying ass reggaton music in her bedroom in front of a big oversized Hello Kitty teddy bear. She’s shaking, bouncing, moving, you name it. Think rap vid.

 

MOST MEN: “ WOW I like that” “Hey that made my day!” “why don’t more women dance like this”

 

2-3 MEN: “Yuck”, “gross”

 

NEECY: “OMG free workout vid!!!!!”

 

RACIST HATING NAZI WHITE CHICK: “it’s an ugly African mating dance that makes you look like a baboon in heat. European females don’t naturally move that way, as evidenced by our traditional historical dance forms.”

 

NEECY: “Well you can’t move that way when you don’t have the goods nor the rhythm to do so SKANK!” (come on she’s an admitted white female racist guys!!)

 

RACIST HATING NAZI WHITE CHICK: “The dancing in this video is the same type of primitive ooga-booga you can see African tribespeople doing to this day. No proud European woman would lower herself to this, unless she’s doing those gyrations on top of her man.”

 

NEECY: (points out the hypocrisy by stating how White women may not shake and bounce and gyrate but how instead they are most likely to be drinking like fish in bars, and clubs, getting piss drunk, vomiting, and acting all Girls Gone wild pretty much. IOW’s WHITE WOMEN aint anymore refined than Black/Latina women just b/c they don’t “dance” a certain way (which has more to do with the fact they don’t typically have the rhythm or booty to do those kinds of dances – but I digress).

 

I basically tell her to go screw herself, crawl back to her racist rhythmless nation hole that she slithered from whilst calling her expletives (yeah yeah bad Neecy, bad bad Neecy). hey I am not always this perfect upstanding model of “refined womanhood” you guys!! Plus I was just having one of those days where everything and everybody just pissed me off!

 

OKAY now onto my rant –

There is NOTHING that gets under my skin more, than this idea that Black women are “un-refined”  and animalistic naturally while White women are naturally “refined and pure”.

 

Now this White woman could NOT stand the fact that this attractive Latina with an amazing feminine body (all her bod was banging) was getting male attention from WHite men asking for more. So she slithered her green eyed monster ass into the post “reminding them” of how “pure and feminine and refined” White women are b/c they do not dance like those “primitive animal beasts” in the you tube vid.

 

Yeah that whole passive-aggressive throwing shade thing on the sly.

 

AND, when presented  (by me of course cause I’m never one to miss and opportunity to stick up for the sistas) her with the FACT and REALITY that everyone with eyes can see when they are out at clubs, bars and social venues where White women are getting TIPSY PISS DRUNK AS HAIL and acting a girls gone wild fools , she says —

 

ARE YOU READY?’

 

DO YOU HAVE YOUR PEARL NECKLACE ON – CAUSE THIS IS THE PART YOU MAY WANNA START CLUTCHING THEM…

 

WAIT FOR IT…….

 

“The white females whom you describe in your comment are white women who are unfortunate enough to have grown up surrounded by a crude, Negrified culture. Drinking themselves stupid is the only way they can numb their conscience enough to do all the things they think are expected of them in such a degraded culture, precisely because whoring doesn’t come naturally to them and violates their deepest nature. It’s pathetic and sad.”

Yes yall she went all TYPICAL BLACK MAN & Typical White Woman delusional on us and blamed another source, entity, persons BUT THEMSELVES for their uncivilized behaviors and actions. She Blamed BLACK PEOPLE (yes “Negrified culture”  = Black people),  for why WHite women drink like fish, tongue kiss strangers in groups of 3 or more at clubs, drop their panties and act like complete utter fools with no home training, and simply just act like low class skanks who can’t hold their liquor well.

 

Yet that somehow doesn’t equal to worse behavior than a Latina or Black woman shaking thier booties to the rhythm?

 

I have to say. YES Black women drink. but i have never seen Black women in clubs, bars and social settings in large numbers drinking like fish, falling out, vomiting etc. Cause we typically just.don’t do.that. Does that mean we are “more refined” and “civilized” than those WW acting bloody non home training fools? NO! It just means different risqué situation same story.

 

Back to her unfortunate blonde moment – IT IS “BLACK PEOPLE’S FAULT”  and culture that cause them to do this b/c its soooooooo against their nature as White women to act anything but CIVILIZED, that they *HAVE TO* toast it up get drunk to the 398749837493274 th degree to where they are inebriated beyond words to ——  okay I’m sorry but I’m going to repost this yet again to your own dismay:

 

“numb their conscience enough to do all the things they think are expected of them in such a degraded culture, precisely because whoring doesn’t come naturally to them and violates their deepest nature.”

 

Whew that one was a doozy. i mean she didn’t even try to downplay her *UNFORTUNATE* blonde moment.

 

I’ll wait why you revel in shock at her purely refined white womanhood.. STOOPIDITY. I’ll give you a few seconds to release the pearls you are clutching now.

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Okay times up! Release the pearls slowly, regain your composure, close your mouths and straighten out your shirt.

 

Are We good?

 

K.

 

What is my point?

 

This idea that when a Black woman or other woman of color is doing something in particular that White women don’t generally do, is something “bad” “nasty” “vulgar” and White women just come out of the womb being these refined perfect pure creatures whose “bad” actions are a result of being brainwashed by some other “BAD” persons or entity – really really bugs me.

 

SO what is this rant really about?

 

Deep down its *REALLY* about the idea that when a Black woman does something that is risqué or maybe even a little nasty, that its b/c she is an unrefined Black animal by nature. When a White woman does something even MORE risqué or worse, she is simply “rebelling” “exploring her sexuality” or doing it b/c she was under the influence of some negative entity  (like “Negrified culture” i.e BLACK PEOPLE) that has control over her.

 

IOW’s its not just b/c she is a low class person or just a skank at heart or a person who engages in certain things considered risqué by her own will and her own NATURE, but rather it’s always this perpetuated idea that White women even when doing questionable things, should never be looked at negatively nor JUDGED by their Whiteness or as a woman for such behaviors.

 

OTOH, when a Black woman is the same, she’s suddenly this animal that cannot tame her sexual impulses.

 

Historically and even present day, Black women are often BLAMED for any kind of bad misfortunes that arise from her “promiscuity” or other things that fall in line with labeling Black women as overly sexualized lust filled “animals” b/c of being un-refined by nature.

 

Where a Black woman who may be the type of woman who is a bit more sexually provocative, be it in dress, actions, movement is considered a low class tramp, hood rat, while non Black women who do the same are considered “sexy” INNOCENT young girl next doors getting in touch with their womanhood and sexuality.

 

Often times Black women’s sexuality is “celebrated” in a perverted way as if we are some wild untamed animals that cannot control our bodies and actions in a more refined way simply b/c we are Black women. Cause yall have to remember: according to dumb racist nazi White chick (who had the UNFORTUNATE blonde moment), WHite women are the definition BY NATURE of refinement.

 

Non black woman;s sexuality is often celebrated as some sort of “innocence” that has been tainted by outside factors OR its just “experimenting” and she will eventually grow out of it.

 

 

I  am not one to booty shake in public, but I personally thought it was a good vid for me to use as a workout since the way she was shaking and such was movements that would certainly help tone parts of the body. Of course the booty shaking and reggaton dancing can be a very sexualized form of dancing.

 

 

NOW. Yes gyrating and clapping your booty and booty shaking can be a bit turn offish and un feminine. BUT the core of Blacks and Latins is that we are a race/culture that comes from doing rhythmic moves and dances. We like to move our bodies and shake and dance for the most part b/c that is what we have alway done culturally.

 

Somehow this translates in some NIT WITS minds that we are “animals” who are primitive and inferior on the human chain b/c we like to shake our booties.

 

You are lucky. It’s 2 am and I’ve got nothing more. my eyes are shutting as I type this. Better pray in the morning I don’t add to this. So all I’m going to say now is:

 

LETS DISCUSS! Let’s discuss this perception of Black womanhood being “dirty, vile, animalistic” while White womanhood is “innocence, pure, refinement” and how it doesn’t help with that whole FEMINIST SISTERHOOD thing so many WHite women claim to be apart of when they are looking down on other races of women for doing things (they can’t do – so its primitive) yet ignoring their own faults and uncivilized behaviors as women.

White women like ALL OTHER RACES OF WOMEN, have got to do better.

 

No race has the monopoly on refinement, class and grass and no race of women have the monopoly on skankiness, risqué not-s0-ladylike behavior.

 

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77 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. MrsGlam
    May 03, 2013 @ 06:41:44

    You entertained that racist WW far longer than I would have. After she tried to throw shade on non-WW, I would have just asked her, “Did your people come up with refined dance forms before or after they spent centuries scrawling on the walls of caves, raping and murdering people en masse, or trying to figure out that they shouldn’t s*** where they eat?”

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    • Neecy
      May 03, 2013 @ 10:12:38

      Normally I do not entertain the racist crazies on that particular blog. I really don’t. But this time I did b/c i needed to put her on blast to show EXACTLY what I knew she was doing. But MAINLY to point out to the audience that White women ARE just as catty and jealous of other races of women as often Black women are said to be of them. not only that, they are also full of it!

      It was important for me to outline what makes them not so refined by pointing out what everyone already sees.

      She believes just b/c a BW dances a certain way she is unrefined (which is some cases are true), but never do they see their own certain behaviors that BW generally do not do as unrefined.

      I sit and watch some of the way White women act in clubs and bars and it boggles my mind how they act and drink like that. But never would i say they are any less refined than any other race of women, b/c let’s face it all women can act a fool and act unrefined in the wrong settings.

      Sometimes when you let White women slide with thier passive-aggressive behavior when they are trying to make a point, you have to put them on blast b/c most people won’t – especially White men. White men are trained to either be quiet when they know a full of shit WW is doing her typical passive-aggressive thing, or they just come playing the White Knight to her even though they know she is full of it.

      I was just not in the mood that day and I was not going to let her slide.
      By the time I was done with her she was “wishing me a happy life” and she slithered away.

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      • MrsGlam
        May 03, 2013 @ 11:42:03

        Oh, I completely get why you did it: she needed to be called out, for sure. I just know I’m not patient enough to have more than a max of two exchanges with an idiot like her LOL! She thought she could say whatever, and the “White Woman Protection Plan” (gosh, I really have to remember who first used this priceless term) would kick in. NOPE. Many WM have known for AGES that the White innocence is BS- which is why they didn’t come rushing to her defense. Racist WW are hoping that they can throw shade at other women and it goes by unnoticed, but those days of being on top of the pecking order are coming to a close, and they are frantically trying to maintain that “status.”

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  2. kvoorhees4
    May 03, 2013 @ 07:56:06

    Reminds me of Elaine dancing http://gifsoup.com/view/54544/elaine-dance.html#prettyPhoto
    You’re a little hard on white women! Some are jerks but 99% are struggling the same struggle. Saw your comments on the weird but amusing Chateau Heartiste site; loved your phrase, ” a nice bit fat dose of karma is awaiting your arse.” I will use that one.

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    • ttmatthe
      May 03, 2013 @ 08:32:59

      99% is gracious. It’s more like 50%. Yes, many WW benefit from skin/race/class privilege and don’t care for the “status quo” to change. But thankfully not all WW have their heads up their behinds.

      The ones that do are the one that are currently making the biggest fuss. But that’s because they are needy insecure harpies that rely on other people being jealous of their so-called superior status.

      It’s like any racist: Without the one thing that makes them feel special, they are empty shells with nothing to contribute.

      Once these women figure out that their exposed jealous is unbecoming, they’ll get around to shutting up.

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      • Neecy
        May 03, 2013 @ 10:35:09

        99% is gracious. It’s more like 50%.

        LOoOOOOOOOOOLLLLLLL!! OMG This made me laugh really loud and hard.

        Yes, many WW benefit from skin/race/class privilege and don’t care for the “status quo” to change.

        And that *IS* where the problem stems. Many are ok and fine as long as you are not threatening their territory. I dropped a White female friend like a bad habit who I really liked after we went out one day to a sports bar and she acted a complete FOOL b/c a few White men were talking to me and not paying her any attention.

        One really cute one, She actually rolled her eyes at & ignored when he tried to make friendly conversation with her while he was talking to me and asking for my number. He just looked at me with this amused smirk and said “what’s up with her”. I said “eh don’t really sure but I’m sorry cause that was rude of her”. He just shrug his shoulders and kept talking with me.

        The kicker was though. In the beginning when we went a lot of the Black men were giving her tons of attention and then as the night went on that is when the White guys started talking to me. Yet the attention of Black men alone wasn’t enough! HOW DARE her “Black ole friend” get more attention from attractive White men than her.

        When WW attractive or not are not the center of every man’s attention, they get REALLY PISSED off. They feel they should always be the *ONLY* ones being admired and getting attention and when they aren’t they get really nasty.

        I’m tired of people letting WW like this slide while Black women are constantly getting reamed for being “haters” and “jealous” of WW.

        But thankfully not all WW have their heads up their behinds.

        TRUE. i know of some very nice WW who are just easy going and happy and secure with themselves so they don’t get mad when men of any race are giving credit where its due. Some of these WW even admit to admiring certain traits they do not have as women.

        The ones that do are the one that are currently making the biggest fuss. But that’s because they are needy insecure harpies that rely on other people being jealous of their so-called superior status.

        It’s like any racist: Without the one thing that makes them feel special, they are empty shells with nothing to contribute.

        Once these women figure out that their exposed jealous is unbecoming, they’ll get around to shutting up.

        BINGO! Like I said, she decided she was fighting a losing battle with me and tried to get all “sweet and nice” and decided her time was up.

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    • Neecy
      May 03, 2013 @ 10:22:10

      Hi KV! I’m not hard on WW, but the truth just has to be told sometimes.

      Anyone who knows me, knows I am an equal opportunist when it comes to “going hard” on groups of people. IOW’s I get on everyone’s case. Including BW when they are not acting right. LOL

      White women play a very good game of passive-aggressiveness so that they can slide away with their “innocence” in tact. These things that WW do have caused a lot of issues for other races of women – especially in the workplace.

      I find WW often get passes for never being said to be jealous or catty against other races of women b/c in some deluded people’s mind, White women have “NO REASON” to hate on other women b/c they are supposedly the “epitome” of womanhood and what all women seek to be.

      That is NOT the case and it needs to stop.

      What this woman did was typical of how WW try to slyly throw hard core disses at Black women and women of color – especially when White males are admiring or taking notice to something they like about such women.

      her frail ego just couldn’t stand the idea that some White males were admiring traits that typically are not found on White women (including dance moves WW generally cannot do). So she had to try to make them feel “guilty” for there simple male desire by claiming that what they were admiring was not “normal” compared to what WHITE WOMEN do.

      I feel its time to stop coddling some White women’s passive-aggressive nonsense and to start calling it out for what it is.

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      • MrsGlam
        May 03, 2013 @ 11:45:30

        You’re absolutely right-shame and guilt are manipulation tactics that have been used to keep sheeple in line for thousands of years. She thought she could use it on those admiring the booty-shaker, but it didn’t work. Welp LOL!

        Her revisionist interpretation of why WW are skanks didn’t fly with you, hence the “wish you well and move along” tactic that came when she knew that you weren’t buying her bull. WW are so amusing.

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        • Neecy
          May 03, 2013 @ 11:58:08

          That is EGGGSACTLY what she was attempting. To “shame” those White men for daring to like something that WHITE WOMEN don’t do.

          White women now how to push WM’s “guilt” buttons. LOL.

          Now if that were a video of a White woman flinging her hair around and the men were admiring that, and some Black woman came on board throwing racial shade at her all hell would have broke loose!

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      • kvoorhees4
        May 03, 2013 @ 17:17:01

        Hmmm. I kinda think you just ran into a girl who is a jerk. I used to save a Far Side cartoon of God sprinkling the earth with a canister labeled “jerks” and saying, “Now to make things interesting.”

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  3. ttmatthe
    May 03, 2013 @ 08:26:30

    The United States is the LAST place left for these type of racist WW to claim that mess, because they are still sheltered by an inherently racist society. American WW have earned the global reputation as being sluts. But NOBODY talks about this stateside. All to protect the fragile egos and sense of entitlement of these women.

    This nazi can say whatever she wants, like Mulder said, “The truth is out there”. You know I hate BET, but at least we are limited to ONE channel and a couple of reality shows with black women gyrating and “acting a fool”. White people have channel after channel, show after show showing WW behaving in questionable, downright whorish ways. From “Sex in the City” to the free porn all over the internet, to the videos you mentioned.

    There is an ongoing “scandal” involving a former teen mom and reality star purposely filming a porn video to pass off as a stolen sex tape, only the man she filmed it with is a famous porn star. This woman actually brought her FATHER and CHILD along with her to negotiate the sale of this tape.

    This is the type of stuff that American WM can no longer sweep under the rug in the age of the Internet. So WW are determined to ruin their reputations while claiming it to be a “liberating experience”.

    Like you said, BW are not so fortunate as to be “liberated”. But you know what? BW are at the same time working on their reputation in ways that are making us quite respected the world over. I say we continue to do us and sip tea as these simpletons continue to sell that “pure as the driven snow” garbage to the last tiny bit of the population that really believes it.

    Times are changing, and these hos (yes, the ones most pressed about non-ww getting shine are usually the most hypocritical) can’t deal with it. So they act out. All that does is expose how NOT pure and NOT decent they are. So I figure, let them keep exposing themselves. It’s what they’re best at…. 🙂

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    • Neecy
      May 03, 2013 @ 11:11:37

      WHEW Toni you said a mouthful!!!

      I cannot co-sign enough on what you just wrote.

      I’m like is this chick SERIOUS???? But as you said, people know. They see. And White men know it to. Not one came in to defend her, b/c deep down WHITE MEN and the world KNOW that WW are not as you say “pure as the driven snow” as this pathetic nazi skank would have you believe.

      The problem as you mentioned is this “sheltered” coddling that goes on with American White women who are so completely deluded about how they really are and seen across the globe. And its even WESTERN WW who are known in other parts of the world as being lose, wild and slutty acting drink bingers.

      I remember reading something a couple years ago that said, the Greeks cannot say enough of how disgusted they are by the behaviors of White female tourists from places like London and the USA. They said when these women come to Greece they pretty much act like wild hussies in heat – getting overly drunk, having all kinds of questionable sex with strangers. Look at how they act on spring break.

      Sorry but I am not going to let some delusional racist WW think she can come in and put her foot on the necks of Black women for doing a little booty shaking and claim we are the scum of womanhood because of it while they are these refined gracious classy women who are “ABOVE” such vileness.

      As I told her – “BITCH. PLEEEEASE!!” Yep I sure did say that. LOL I know I shouldn’t let anyone get me that riled up but I just couldn’t resist.

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      • neurochick
        May 09, 2013 @ 05:25:50

        This is very true. Globally, American white women have a reputation for being easy. I saw a documentary about the Sex Pistols where they said that American women gave head better than British women. I’m sure they were talking about white women. It’s only in the USA that white women think their “female areas” are made of diamonds.

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        • Neecy
          May 13, 2013 @ 21:00:36

          Yeah that whole “our shit doesn’t stink” attitude they get away with here in America doesn’t fly in other parts of the world who call them out for their behavior.

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  4. Elegance
    May 03, 2013 @ 09:03:02

    Well this demonstrates that when Black women do the same things as White women (i.e., act sexually suggestive) we get harsher criticism and they get excused. So if you are a Black woman and you don’t care about this, keep doing what you are doing. But if you do care and don’t want to be perceived negatively, then you can’t engage in sexually suggestive behaviour like other Black women or White women. You have to be reserved in comparison to both.

    It’s unfair, but that’s the way things are. White women get away with more than Black women can so if you want to win in life, you have to be better than them. Or at least, if you are in a group of women, make sure you are not THE MOST scandalous, the most drunk, or the most out of control. We all have to be aware of the double standard and act accordingly. I don’t recommend anyone show booty shaking videos on YT or act Girls Gone Wild and get fall out drunk.

    P.S. That WW was crazy.

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    • Neecy
      May 03, 2013 @ 11:28:48

      Elegance I completely agree. Black women need to understand that you have to be verry careful about the choices you make, b/c if you are trying to follow behind WW and expect the same sheltered type response, you can FOE-GET-IT! Not gonna happen.

      but the main point is, Its still not okay to allow WW believe they are so pure and refined and lacking any kind of uncivilized behaviors when the reality say otherwise.

      Frankly most western women today of any race, needs to take a look in the mirror and should be disgusted by their actions – ALL RACES. B/C this is what a liberal feminism has told women its ok to do – act unfeminine and lose your complete mystery and essence as a woman.

      But i refuse to let a racist WW throw shade at Black women for doing something when she refuses to look at her own groups VILE disgusting actions.

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  5. Man Reader
    May 03, 2013 @ 09:09:07

    damn ur posts are looong

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    • Neecy
      May 03, 2013 @ 11:29:35

      LOL Thanks for sharing. You are only like the 3478562387543752348506 person to say this, but I always appreciate it coming from someone new to the blog. 😀

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  6. kvoorhees4
    May 03, 2013 @ 09:10:10

    ttmathe,
    Gee, I don’t know the white women/girls you’ve run into but the ones I know (mainly through my daughter who is in her 20s) are not like that at all. They want to feel attractive and desirable — thats just normal for all young women (and men, actually). They are fearful (and resentful) of all the put-downs coming their way.

    Societally, I think we see educated black women as “elegant.” I think educated black women get that “elegant” credit more easily than white women; I don’t know why. I’m not going to use Michelle Obama as an example because she is seen as political and that will always be controversial. Think Frederica Whitfield or Harris Faulkner (news anchors) maybe.

    The key is “educated,” of course. Uneducated white women get lumped in with Honey Boo Boo’s mother and sisters as a “type.” Thats not so pleasant either. Which is worse, slutty or fat and dumb as a doorknob. Ugh.

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    • Neecy
      May 03, 2013 @ 11:39:15

      KV I understand that on some level all women are facing the same struggles. And of course it hits close to home for you b/c you have a young White daughter and you see her struggles and such. And no, not all WW are like the ones I described or that sorry racist nazi chick. But some things are just as clear as the blue sky.

      We have to agree to disagree on Black women (at least in America) really getting credit for anything.

      You mention Michelle Obama (who gets NO RESPECT compared to how other first ladies have been treated) as a political figure who is controversial. How is *she* controversial? Since when did first ladies ever have to be in the hot seat b/c they simply happen to be married to the President?

      but She *IS* a great example of how no matte how successful, classy, graceful a Black woman is, she will still be torn to shreds by greater American society and called everything from ugly to angry to worse simply b/c people just feel that Black women harbor no good or redeeming qualities compared to White women.

      I will guanrantee you if Obama’s wife was White she would NEVER receive the same kinds of put downs that Michelle does. B/C Western WW are sheltered! Black women are not.

      I don’t expect you to completely or fully understand it b/c let’s face it you are the loving father of a young WW who you see go through some personal struggles and you may not see it from the viewpoint of Black women who not only have the basic female struggles but on top of that are also fighting racial perceptions (usually not in our favor) and such.

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      • kvoorhees4
        May 03, 2013 @ 16:56:53

        Neecy,
        All politicians’ wives are controversial and First Ladies have always been criticized in a nasty (IMO) way. Like I say, I’m old. I remember the criticism of Rosalind Carter (for being interested in policy) and Nancy Reagan (for getting rich people to chip in for new White House China). Its before my time but Eleanor Roosevelt drew lots of criticism. I remember poor Pat Nixon – who was very quiet, much more so than modern first ladies – being criticized and the press reporting that she had told a doctor that she and her husband no longer had sexual relations! (I have made clear to my husband that he is not to run for President.)

        We can thank the Bushes and Clintons for it getting a lot worse, of course, because they’ve used the name recognition and political power of the presidency to have family members running for president. Supposedly Laura Bush wasn’t political but that was just her shtik for how to use the First Lady role to help her husband’s presidency. She “softened” his image. There she was at the end of his presidency going on TV to say we should stay in Afghanistan for the sake if the Afghan women. Thats political — its cost us billions to be in Afghanistan that we could use right here for our own people.

        Michelle Obama is political because she’s an asset to her husband. He comes off as rather reserved, cold even while she is more of an “electric” presence.

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  7. kvoorhees4
    May 03, 2013 @ 09:19:44

    Elegance,
    Thats good advice for everyone and as an old person I will add something else: Leave your past behind you. You do not have to tell anyone anything about your past. You are not under oath. If you feel embarassed about something you’ve done, forgive yourself, move on, forget it. To be absolutely blunt: Any man who asks you how many guys you have had sex with deserves to be lied to! If the true answer is 50, you say “One guy and he got hit by a bus and died.”

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  8. Marellus
    May 03, 2013 @ 10:49:41

    Neecy,

    I see you’re still writing War & Peace novels. This chapter was particularly well done. I’ve linked this blog post to HUS.

    So you might get some traffic, and some more comments … and yes, my reasons for doing it are indeed nefarious …

    I wanna see you in a bikini.

    Sincerely.

    Marellus.

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  9. omerta327
    May 03, 2013 @ 11:29:59

    So where’s the vid of this tight booty shaking Latina?!?

    We want a link dammit! 😉

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  10. kvoorhees4
    May 03, 2013 @ 17:35:43

    Neecy,
    BTW on that Chateau Heartiste blog, I have now confirmed that he moderates out comments. Two of mine haven’t posted while new articles have come up. So, if you’re influenced by some of the jerky comments there, just to let you know, some nicer, sensible comments are just moderated out. (Now that I think of it, I do remember him saying something extremely unpleasant – and idiotic – about black women. But this is a 40 year old man living in his mom’s basement who hasn’t had many dates. He doesn’t like women because he is afraid of them.)

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    • Neecy
      May 03, 2013 @ 18:05:45

      He said something about Black women? When?

      I’ve been on the site for 2 years off and on and don’t remember anything he’s said directly about Black women (trust me I would have something to say about that).

      Not sure what his story is though. Hmmmm.

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  11. Alee
    May 04, 2013 @ 05:27:29

    First: What are you doing on YouTube? Everyone by now knows that if you expect to find intelligent, reasonable, unbiased people on thr internet you should stay as far away from YouTube as possible. YouTube makes Twitter look like a convention on Quantum Theory.

    Second: This woman is not delusional, she just wants to gaslight you and others into believing her reasoning has any credibility. Which it most certainly does not.

    Yes, many white women do drink themselves half-dead and no it has nothing to do with black people they know or have known. Lol, this woman must think we’re stupid. The white women who drink like this are the ones who’ve never interacted with black people at a personal level and are very sheltered.

    White people drink A LOT. I grew up in New England and went to the whitest, richest colleges in America and every day white girls were drinking themselves silly. In college everyone drinks but trust me, white people of a certain type (the type who don’t spend any amount of time with black people) drink more. It’s a pastime. Heck, they’re proud of it. These same people are still drinking until they pass out naked in the cold New England snow.

    It’s only recently that I’ve heard of black people drinking like fish, but I still haven’t seen it on the level of the average (white) girls night out.

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    • Alee
      May 04, 2013 @ 05:29:18

      Sorry about any typos: stupid autocorrect on my phone.

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    • Neecy
      May 05, 2013 @ 10:17:07

      Yes, many white women do drink themselves half-dead and no it has nothing to do with black people they know or have known. Lol, this woman must think we’re stupid. The white women who drink like this are the ones who’ve never interacted with black people at a personal level and are very sheltered.

      Hey Alee!!

      Actually I wasn’t on You tube, I was on a PUA site.

      But I completely agree. When WW are drinking and acting fools, they are usually in all White settings and venues.

      Black culture has absolutley NADA to do with how WW act in social/party settings. Rarely do you even see any Black people around unless there is one or two.

      The point is, this chick like all delusional racists, fail to see their own downfalls as a group. They believe they can continue to spew all their racist rhetoric about others “inferiority” and think the rest of the world and people do not have eyes to see what a bunch of hypocritical LYING asses they really are.

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  12. onthewaydown
    May 04, 2013 @ 07:14:37

    Lol she blamed white women getting drunk on “black” culture? That’s a new one. I lmao’d at her response.

    I don’t think she actually believes the nonsense she’s saying. If she does, then poor girl. She needs prayer and therapy.

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  13. Peanut
    May 04, 2013 @ 12:18:51

    good post. I think that particular, individual woman who made those comments on heartiste was just a racist and jealous too. I did a blog post about booty dancing and how it’s stigmatized. I think Black women’s bodies and sexuality have always been stigmatized and people have always wanted to control and dominate our bodies and sexuality. Now that they can’t really any more, they lash out.

    my booty dancing post: http://blacknotwhitedippedinchocolate.wordpress.com/2011/10/18/black-women-booty-dancing-why-did-it-get-a-bad-name/

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    • Neecy
      May 05, 2013 @ 10:23:49

      Exactly. I read your post and agree.

      Like you I see nothing wrong with traditional ways African peoples dance (which usually includes lots of twisting, shaking) b/c its in our blood to move our bodies freely with the rhythm. Frankly, i think people who give it a bad name are haters who can’t do it.

      Now I am not saying that some booty shaking in current pop culture has not gone overboard and can be really vulgar in some instances, but in its traditional non vulgar form its just another way African people express ourselves through movement and rhythm.

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  14. Kiwiwriter
    May 04, 2013 @ 16:44:22

    Yeah, I know about the “black tax,” and how black and Latina folks are held to a higher standard by the white community. I also know that no matter what a black or Latino person does, a white racist will NOT have anything good to say about it.

    The sheer arrogance of that Nazi woman to prattle about “historic European” dancing is hilarious…neo-Nazis spout that crap all the time. It’s nonsense. As Andy Rooney said, if the pilgrim fathers were to see modern dancing, they’d probably watch for a few minutes, and then try to get with it. Every pilgrim father had a pilgrim mother, and they made more little pilgrim kids. The only reason they didn’t dance like that was because they didn’t have synthesizers.

    People who hate will hate. I expect that a lot of the fury about sex lives is based on the furious having lousy or perverted sex lives in the first place. A number of the loudest homophobes have turned out to be closet gays, for example, which explains both their expertise in the subject and their obsession with proving they are not gay…to keep attention away from them. A number of top neo-Nazis have been nailed for pedophilia, which is pretty big in the neo-Nazi movement. A number of these clowns have been nailed for possessing it.

    And William Pierce, the head of the now collapsed National Alliance and author of the “Turner Diaries,” ran through mail-order brides, who he treated as slaves. He fulminated against “Jewish-run pornography,” while videotaping his sexual encounters.

    Women are increasing in appearance in neo-Nazi movements, even though the leadership is all male and misogynistic, regarding women as toys and servants. The loudest one is April Gaede, who turned her twin daughters Lynx and Lamb into “Prussian Blue,” a pair of tweener singers, whose lack of talent was equalled by their lousy songs. At age 18, they got away from their “Mommie Dearest,” and are no longer performing, oppose her rhetoric, and have to take medical marijuana to deal with their medical conditions.

    You have to catch these potential haters early, and get them away from the cynics, cranks, paranoids, and psychotics who lead the racist movement, before they get sucked into it, and have their lives ruined. It really is a cult, I’m told by people who got out of it, which dominates the sucker’s life and ruins it.

    I don’t feel hatred for neo-Nazis. I feel pity at how they are ruining their lives in such a useless cause.

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    • Neecy
      May 05, 2013 @ 10:27:47

      Kiwi,

      I am *not* surprised to hear of the pedophilia in these groups. A lot of these people are sick & backwards and refuse to see their own sicknesses. that is why they target and focus on others b/c they can’t face their own dysfunctions, fear and insecurities.

      The root of racism is FEAR, not pride as these so called backwards asses would suggest. They are fear riddled losers who are trying to hold onto race as a way to feel worthy for their existence.

      How sad for them. But they will never win. It wasn’t set up that way no matter how hard they try. 😉

      This world was created to inhabit different races, cultures, and people. If they cannot accept that, then I say they can kill themselves off and bond together in the depths of hell where they belong!

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  15. La Belle Negresse
    May 05, 2013 @ 10:42:54

    Had this exact conversation with my daughters. White women are protected and given a pass for any and everything nasty and vile. They are protected by their race and many stupid black folks will come to their rescue as well. Question is, who’s protecting and making excuses for us?

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    • Neecy
      May 05, 2013 @ 10:57:27

      NO ONE!! And you are exactly right. WW even know of their own questionable behviors are so confident that people will overlook them that this IDIOT WW believed she could claim WW were pure as snow, despite knowing deep down its bullshit.

      BTW HIIIII LA BELLE welcome to the blog!!!

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  16. La Belle Negresse
    May 05, 2013 @ 11:27:01

    Thank you 🙂
    I had a conversation with a young black woman who is a diehard Kim Kardashian fan, she had no issues defending KK’s pregnancy by a man, who is NOT her husband, while still married, but had the nerve to speak ill of Halle Berry’s situation. I’m don’t support oow pregnancies, but to say that Kim is misunderstood and just looking for love, while calling Halle a crazy hoe, is sign of self hate and white women worship…. we are so hard on our own, but see nothing wrong with supporting women who could care less about us.

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    • Neecy
      May 05, 2013 @ 12:12:38

      This is so true and what I don’t understand about Black women. Its like we are our own worse enemies. But then again, a lot of Black women are living in the same society as everyone else and eventually start believing that everything done by a woman of color is bad bad bad, and the same behaviors done by a White woman we have to come up with all sorts of reasons to forgive and in some cases *FORGET* about her transgressions.

      The *LEAST* they can do is keep it balanced. That’s what I do. if one behavior is bad for one group, in my eyes its bad for ALL.

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  17. kia
    May 05, 2013 @ 13:40:57

    This is off topic – But Christelyn is AGAIN encouraging black women to pretend their other races online to get men. I’m thinking what are they going to do when they meet in person, and he sees that she doesn’t resemble any of the fake races or distant ancestry that she mentioned online? I’m also thinking we just had this conversation last year on her site! Black women need to just accept the fact that online dating might not bring the men to them online the way it does for other races of women. And they need to just go out into the world, to different social events to meet men. Instead of pretending that their other races online, waiting for other men who ONLY respond to them AFTER they checked that they were other races besides black. That is self hate. And there are plenty of men in the world who like black women just the way they are, without them first having to state distant ancestry who they look nothing like.

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    • kia
      May 05, 2013 @ 13:53:58

      Black women also have plenty of natural attributes – curvy bodies, different hairstyles, full lips, etc that gives them the advantage over every other race of women on the planet! Other races go under the knife to look like black women! Even though they won’t admit it! But many black women still don’ t use their natural beauty to their advantage, and let other women steal their ‘Crown’! And let black men and other men tell them that they’re unworthy. And this is why so many black women are still single or in relationships with men, and still miserable.

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    • Neecy
      May 05, 2013 @ 20:49:30

      Not *THAT* topic again. *SMH*

      At this point, let those BW do what they feel is gonna work for them. If they are that darn desperate to get noticed online by those kinds of men, then that’s their issue not mine.

      Later on when they have to keep up that facade for that guys family and friends, and they start feeling as if they are “not good enough” without literally running down a list of races, they’ll learn. because better believe if the guy saw all those races and wouldn’t click on her profile if it just said “Black” and they start dating, he’s gonna tell all his friends and family “well she looks Black but she’s not really, she’s mixed with _________….”

      And then what’s gonna happen when he and his family adn friends see the rest of her family aint “East Asian, Irish, Puerto Rican, Indian” as she claimed.

      Pretty dang sad we’ve come to this. LOL

      Well i just came back from a Cinco De Mayo celebration with 6 women. All of which were attractive WHite and one who was Asian. It’s official. Online dating is not all of that. After hearing about the weirdos and crazies these chicks meet online, I don’t think Black women are really missing out. 3 of them were in their 20’s and the other 3 were in 30’s. They all pretty much stopped doing it. And these were chicks who were getting tons of emails and stuff from men.

      IOW’s the grass is not greener. I do agree that Black women definitley need to get out more and meet men in social events where they would share commonalities. Online dating should only be seen as a small back up plan. Make a profile, put up some pics and if someone contacts you and sparks your interest then take it from there.

      But you are right in that BW need to stop relying on online dating to meet men – especially when they are not really missing out when you talk with a number of Non Black women about their experiences. This group I was with tonight was not the first time I had discussions with Non Black women about online dating and thier faces curl up like – UGH!

      They are getting a lot of hits, but its not the quality types of men a woman is usually looking for.

      If some BW want to go through all of that just to get some mediocore dudes online, then let them. Teh rest of the BW with higher standards in themselves will take the quality men who they meet face to face and where they do not have to LIE or “stretch the truth” to get noticed by them.

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  18. Kia
    May 05, 2013 @ 21:54:38

    Cinco De Mayo!!!! 🙂 🙂 🙂 – Yes online dating attracts awkward weirdos who sometimes game women online. So if some black women want to jump through hoops to attract those type of guys, when they can get much faster results by going out in the world and meeting all types of men – that’s their loss!

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    • Neecy
      May 06, 2013 @ 14:01:08

      YEP! Now there are some quality mena nd people online, but they are *NOT* the majority. From what I have gathered, a lot of the men are just looking for hookups, sex and just basic short-term flings. And then add in the crazies and , while like I said I don’t think BW should completely rule out online dating, but it should CERTAINLY not be the front runner in finding a mate.

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  19. roslynholcomb
    May 06, 2013 @ 10:42:05

    This reminds of a conversation I had with a black dude on an interracial site a long time ago. He was lamenting why black women couldn’t be virgins like Britney Spears. (Yeah, I know). This was when she was still perpetrating while living with Justin Timberlake. I still giggle about that one from time to time. As for online dating, I met my husband online, but that was 16 years ago. Hardly anyone was doing it then and there were a lot more men than there were women. Even then though there were plenty of crazies and those looking for “discrete” relationships. I never really thought about the race issue all that much because my race was at the beginning of my ad. Presumably if they were responding to it, they were interested in me. I didn’t care if they’d never dated a black woman before, I never cared for dudes who were “into” black women. I wanted a man who was into ME. Back then hardly anyone had a photo in their profile, and it never occurred to me to check a guy’s profile to see what races of women he checked or didn’t check. This was on Yahoo! I’m not even sure there was place to check race back then, I don’t think there was. My husband thought I was cute and funny and that was good enough for me.

    Online dating requires a thick skin and a healthy self-esteem. I wasn’t interested in dudes who didn’t want a black woman, frankly I didn’t even know if they did or didn’t because they never came up on my radar screen. I cast my net for the guys who were into me because I’m pretty fucking fabulous, and the rest is history.

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    • Neecy
      May 06, 2013 @ 14:04:50

      Hey Roz!! Yes I remember back in the days when you were doing online dating it was a bit different and not as many losers on there. There were still some crazies but today it has gone wild.

      I do believe there are good and quality people online who seek out like minded partners for value relationships. I just do not believe they are int he majority nowadays with a lot of online dating sites. I know of 3 people who have met and found long term relationships and marriage from someone they met online. But they were not simply using online dating as thier sole tool in finding someone, and they also had to sift through a lot of losers and users and crazies to meet that person.

      I still think online dating should be in the arsenal of looking for a mate, but I believe way too many BW rely solely on that and that is just not smart.

      But this whole thing now of adjusting your “racial profile” to get hits just doesn’t sit well with me.

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    • Robynne
      May 06, 2013 @ 16:30:57

      I met my husband online too – fairly recently at that (like 3 years ago, haha :p ). There were the obvious losers, the timewasters and the guys who actually wanted a real relationship. This is where your vetting skills and your common sense come into play. And yes, having a healthy dose of self esteem and a thick skin goes a long way. I half-joking posted my profile on that website, and I from that I actually got married to one of the guys I met there, lol. I didn’t take it super seriously – as in I did not hyperventilate if 500+ guys were not checking me out daily. Plus, I still socialized and hung out at events where I could meet guys in person. The advice about not putting all your eggs in one basket is good.
      And yeah, the website that I used did not have race blatantly hanging out there. But then, you could tell from my pics what my race was, lol.

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  20. roslynholcomb
    May 06, 2013 @ 14:28:20

    I don’t know what to make of the changing your racial profile thing. I’m not in the current dating climate, and wasn’t specifically looking for a man of one race or another. I don’t think it’s something I’d feel comfortable with, either. I mean if dude is into you because he thinks you’re not “just black” what happens later on when he discovers otherwise? How is that any different from lying about your age, your weight or your marital status? To me, it’s not, but I guess it’s what you’re comfortable with.

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    • Neecy
      May 06, 2013 @ 16:36:29

      I agree. that is why i say if those BW want to do that, then they are the ones who will have to deal with the consequences (if any) for doing it. I don’t have the energy to fight with them on that anymore. LOL

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  21. Days of Broken Arrows
    May 06, 2013 @ 21:56:32

    Where a Black woman who may be the type of woman who is a bit more sexually provocative, be it in dress, actions, movement is considered a low class tramp, hood rat, while non Black women who do the same are considered “sexy” INNOCENT young girl next doors getting in touch with their womanhood and sexuality.

    People get their impressions from media, not reality, and draw conclusions based on cartoon-like exaggerations of people, not real humans. As an Italian-American with an ethnic name, I get this all the time: people expect “The Sopranos” or “Jersey Shore.” Yet somehow, with all the Italians I know, none are like the people on those shows. Least of all me.

    Similarly, I live in a very mixed racial area and with all the Af-Am women I know, none have ever fit the above description. But they do on BET. And in the movies. And this is where people get their ideas from. Someone needs to write a serious article on how media like BET and MTV has set people of various races and ethnicities back decades. I swear we were a more enlightened country BEFORE everyone had cable.

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    • Neecy
      May 13, 2013 @ 20:56:53

      I agree DOBA!!

      I remember in the 80’s when Black American women were often proud of being classy and fun loving. After rap went mainstream the Black woman’s image went down the tubes b/c the lower classes took over in terms of Black image.

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  22. thebigpappy
    May 07, 2013 @ 08:01:27

    I think that african and latinas being animalistic is a good thing. They can be in their bodies and let go to enjoy the moment and do so better than white girls. I think they have more sexual energy and as a man I really love it. They don’t think sex is bad and they accept men as they are. That doesn’t stop them from acting and behaving like ladies in the kitchen and they are not easier.

    As for white women claiming to be more refined, this is a complete joke. I know what you’re talking about. I’ve attended a rich white college and the girls would party so hard and get drunk to the point of having to be carried out of the clubs and thrown on the streets, laying down in a coma state with their tits coming out of their dresses. It makes me sad and I feel pity for a civilization that was once proud.

    I don’t hate white women though, because this is about culture and not about race. I’ve known blacks and latinas who were born and raised here, and some who immigrated and stayed here for a while. Sadly a lot of them become heavily influenced by our Sex and the city culture and they become corrupted like white women.

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    • Neecy
      May 13, 2013 @ 20:58:56

      I agree Big pappy. A lot of things today are related to culture. But different cultures may induldge in different not so classy behaviors. but for that lunatic to even suggest that White women were somehow naturally born pure and refned was hilarious b/c many people know and see how American WW do act when they are in social settings.

      NO race of woman can claim to be more refined or classy than another. I’m really tired of American White women thinking their shit doesn’t stink. LOL

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  23. thebigpappy
    May 07, 2013 @ 08:09:28

    Once you go black, you don’t go back

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  24. Sophia
    May 30, 2013 @ 16:59:52

    Hey Neecy,

    You keep looking better and better!!!
    Great article. Truly, that woman was just out of her mind.
    How is your love life going by the way? Have any of your blog admirers sent you photos of themselves?. Very nosy of me but I can’t help myself.

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