Even when its in our own best interest many times to walk away from harmful things and situations???
I don’t get it.
When I look at Asian women, they decided they were going to live life for SELF and not simply their communities. SO they started dating WHOEVERTHEHELTHATTHEYWANTED and making their own ways based on their own NEEDS and desires and not those of their men and communities. People constantly talk crap about Asian women dating out of their race/culture and communities in high numbers. But many Asian women will tell you that a lot of them leave because they are tired of the traditional roles that are expected of women int heir culture. Roles that put them LAST.
And do we se other Asian women standing no the sidelines belittling their Asian sisters choices? NOOO. They mind their damn business and either stay in their communities and with Asian men or they simply do not say anything at all!
Maybe because like all other women on this planet, they are not expected to be the sole backbone and workhorse for their communities and therefore when they date out, marry out and generally seek the best lives for themselves, their communities don’t give them SHIT for doing so.
YET, here we have Black women who are constantly given the guilt trips when they are finally saying “to hell with a community that does not value me or the women and girls”. Suddenly everyone wants to keep serving “helpful reminders” that its our job to fix what is horribly wrong in our communities?? Or the the “helpful reminders” of one or two good things coming out of the Blakc community as a way to encourage BW to not give up.
LOL I really feel for Black women sometimes. No one (not even our own) wants to see us be free and happy. We always gotta be out FIXIN shit that is long beyond our control to fix and even when it burdens us even more.
To any Black woman out there who is TIRED of having to burden herself with FIXING everything wrong wight eBlack community, please do not allow others to guilt trip you into feeling that because you have decided to leave and look out for numero uno, that you are being irrational and not “REALISTIC”.
You have every right like every other woman on this earth to seek your own BLISS without feeling you gotta FIX and carry the burdens of your “community and race”.
Black women have been doing that nonsense for CENTURIES with NO POSITIVE RESULTS whatsoever!
The definition of insanity is doing the same things and expecting different results.
TO HELL WITH THAT!