As more keenly aware Black American women wake up to the reality that we have been bamboozled to sell our femininity to the highest bidders and how that has pretty much – not worked out for us (Black women at least ) as a whole – we will see more and more of the beneficiaries of the asexual, non-feminine, image of Black woman coming out in droves to convince us we are “just crazay” and “seeing things”. That we are “overreacting” . Many will even go as far as guilting you for wanting to actually do something to change it.
So be prepared. There are many people who have a stake in the lowly images of Black American women and have had a hold on this stake for CENTURIES. Sometimes – hell who am I fooling – ALL THE TIME it gets very comfy at the top when you know someone else beneath you is taking the lickings that you’d be taking if they weren’t there.
As I have covered many times previously on posts here, how the African American female image has always been distorted to compliment White women and now today NON Black women in general, these images have never changed. And there is a reason for that. We live in a world where SOMEONE has to be on the bottom for others to be upheld to the highest standard. As long as there is someone “beneath” you, you can never fully worry about losing completely.
As long as there is a woman next to you who is fatter, you will look slimmer.
As long as there is a woman next to you who is more asexual, you will appear sexier.
As long as there is a woman next to you more un-feminine, you will be deemed more feminine.
You get the point.
Black American women have played the asexual FAT friend, the mammy, the unflattering caricature, the un-feminine, uncouth sidekick for too long. The minute we realize we are no longer going to volunteer for the role of doormat and “whatever goes” people start getting scared.
People love when you act as they expect. It keeps them feeling safe and comfy. When Black women keep staying in their little “boxes” made solely for us, people can sleep better and safely at night. Once you start trying to wriggle yourself free from that lil ole box they keep pushing you in, that’s when all the gas lighting attempts start to converge like water in a waterfall.
Many people will challenge your determination to withdraw support from things, people, places and entities that are not for *YOUR* best interest as a Black woman because (1) they haven’t and will never walk a mile in your shoes (2) they are so accustomed to seeing you in a certain light, that they cannot even see when it’s in front of them the issues these images cause for *YOU* as a Black woman – WHY? Case they don’t have to deal with the fallout of all the negative anti Black female imagery in any way, shape or form (3) They loose the benefits of having someone beneath them and feel threatened by the come uppance of such group.
People who have no stake in your “fight”, image and the consequences of such, are quick to offer their “opinions” on why you “should” do this and that and why you shouldn’t do this and that. It’s easy when you are sitting on the outside TRYING to look in to tell another person, group to overlook the obvious attempts at SABOTAGE and DESTRUCTION of their humanity as women when you aint got to deal with NARY of the consequences.
What this means for the awakening Black woman is that you will have to be steadfast and unapologetic about your non-support and the putting on blast of the obvious entities, and things that seek to continue to attack and destroy whatever semblance of normal, feminine, characteristics Black women have.
Where there is smoke there is fire. You do not need to fully view a movie, television show, listen to a song, enter into certain venues and such, or “give certain people or things a chance” when they have clearly shown & proven themselves to not have the best interest of Black women. Better believe other savvy groups who upkeep their images, certainly are not going to throw a bone to any entity or person or group that has shown little to no respect for them as people, women or men.
Back women have had enough. We are no longer sitting by idle and allowing our images as women to be attacked without now speaking up and pointing out the reality of this. If you have no dog in this fight, no stake in our fight, then STEP ASIDE and move out of the way.
The isht is really going to hit the fan when more and more Black women start taking control and putting forth positive uplifting images and things of Black women. There will be all kinds of crazy tactics used to keep this from happening. LOL I’m already prepared for the fight ahead because too many people have a STAKE in keeping the Black woman’s image in the mud.