The bricks just keep dropping! This is what happens when you gladly cape and take on the roles of men

THEY DON’T SEE YOU AS WOMEN and DO NOT WANT YOU AROUND!

Courtesies, Concessions, Considerations given to other women are null and void for YOU!

lately I have been reading a lot of reports on how Black women are being denied entry to various clubs, parties and venues across the globe.

Clearly, this is racism and SEXISM rearing its ugly head, but my spidey senses are telling me that its just YET another way BW are paying the price for gladly accepting and taking on the roles of men over the years.  Now in the psyche of many, we are so masculine they do not want us around in social venues and setting where men are looking for women to mingle and party with.

All that marching, fighting DA WHITE MAN for the “helpless endangered species BLACK KANG” and never raising your daughters to learn what it means to be women so that you can receive the same “courtesies, concessions, considerations” as all other women – YEAH we’re paying for that shit HEAVILY NOW.

This is also what happens when Black women refuse to acknowledge they have it a lot worse than the Black men they have been caping for all these decades. Black women are not only experiencing RACISM but we have to deal with the SEXISM that follows that. That good ole DOUBLE WHAMMY.

Instead of making sure we focus on that and stop acting as if BM are the only Black folks who are suffering under racism, we have chosen to remain silent, ignore raising generations of Black girls who relish in their femininity and womanhood, and now, men in clubs and at parties and social venues don’t want us there.

I believe deep in their psyche Black women represent masculinity. And I believe that has come from YEARS UPON YEARS of Black women not focusing on developing our womanhood and proudly and publically taking on the roles of men.

Guess who gets the shit end of the stick again? JOO GOT-TEET!

BLACK WOMEN.

Guess who is a participant in Excluding you from these venues? JOO GOT-TEET!

Black men!

For your reading DISpleasure:

http://www.nydailynews.com/news/world/brit-woman-claim-club-refused-entry-black-article-1.2418680

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/what-went-down-the-night-4-black-women-were-denied-entry-at-a-uk-nightclub_560c0035e4b076812700098f

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/grade-point/wp/2015/11/02/students-accuse-yale-sae-fraternity-brothers-of-having-a-white-girls-only-policy-at-their-party/

But she was surprised by this: “A group of girls came up who were predominantly black and Hispanic,” she said. “He held his hand up to their faces and said, ‘No, we’re only looking for white girls.’ … He pulled a blond girl up from the bottom of the stairs — over some people — pushed her inside and said, ‘We are looking for white girls only, white girls only.’ No brothers corrected him or said anything.”

It was uncomfortable, he said, in part because that brother is African American and others working the door at the time are Portuguese and Costa Rican; he described the chapter as racially diverse. He said some in Yale’s black community have called black SAE members “Uncle Tom” on Monday, making them feel like they are being forced to choose between siding with the fraternity or others of their race.

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  1. Neecy
    Nov 03, 2015 @ 21:48:57

    I understand I’m now in my 40’s. But seriously, how desperate are Black owmen to keep subjecting themselves to this disgusting practices?

    This is what I mean! BW need to spend more time creating and building safe havens for US and withdraw and remove ourselves from the bullshit.

    I partied a lot in college. But things were not as bad 20 something years ago like they are now.

    I feel for college and high school aged sisters these days.

    But maybe its time for BW to start finding some other “Hobbies” of interest when it comes to socializing. Clubs and parties with racist non BM and colorstruck BM are not where BW should be trying to go.

    BW have to get out of this mindset that we have to be apart of everything or the popular crowds.

    Keep trying and keep getting your feelings hurt.

    BW need to understand we have to do and think differently to entertain and generally fulfill our social needs. There are so many other uplifting things BW can do to get their social thrills instead of trying to party with trashy and drunk racist Black and Non Black men.

    Let the white and non Black girls fill up their parties. Half end up drugged and raped or having drunken one night stands with these losers.

    We aint missing out!

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    • Rae
      Nov 04, 2015 @ 06:23:51

      “But maybe its time for BW to start finding some other “Hobbies” of interest when it comes to socializing”

      This is ironic because I was just thinking about this. Focusing on my self physically is what i want to do in the mean time till all of this chaos ‘dies down’ lol Running and bicycle riding are my two new interests!

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    • Pumpkin
      Nov 16, 2015 @ 17:02:31

      wow Neecy, you’re in your 40s???? I thought you were in your late 20s or early 30s…damn even other black women get fooled by the black don’t crack age disparity.

      Any way, you know less than a year ago, I would have said that I disagreed with you about this. But now, I find myself partially agreeing. I would have said in April of last year that Black women benefit from going out and protesting against police brutality and rallying for Black men (and by extension the Black community) because this discrimination affects all of us. However, my mind has recently changed. I now believe that this protocol that some Black women have engaged in does some harm to Black women. For example, I felt very uncomfortable seeing two black women (or one biracial black woman) jumping in front of microphones at Bernie Sanders rally in Seattle and yelling at people on TV etc.

      I also have noticed that Black women usually are the first ones to go out and rally for Black men when a Black man gets gunned down by a police officer. We put ourselves on the front lines and fight, fight, fight…but when a Black woman is being brutalized either within the community or from an outside community person, we seldom receive the same support.

      So, we put ourselves out there with little to no back up and when we get hit back…who is there to back us up? Black men…I don’t think so, not in droves.

      I just feel like there are other ways that we can support the Black community, but still maintain our dignity and not compromise our safety.

      I feel like if we want change, we can band together and donate money to a Black nonprofit, we can volunteer at a Black school, we can get mental health practioners in some of these black schools, get a health food store opened in an under resourced black community, we can do other things to help the Black community that aren’t so dangerous and compromising to our dignity as Black women.

      About Black women not being allowed into certain spaces, like clubs and fraternities. I have mixed feelings about that because part of me feels that, we wouldn’t have been allowed into these places regardless. The other part of me feels like the stereotype of Black women being “manly,” has been exacerbated by the way Black women have been portrayed in the media and the way [some] Black women have allowed our dignity to be compromised by going out on TV and basically getting into shouting matches with white men.

      And I understand where the frustration and anger is coming from 100%, but it does worry me just a bit.

      Also, I feel like (and yes this is sexist), but Black men should be the ones putting themselves on the front lines, not Black women. Black men are disproportionately affected by police brutality (although black women deal with police brutality too), since they’re the most affected, they should be the ones out there on the front lines. The way some Black men are coddled and protected in the Black community by Black women, I think is doing them a disservice in the long run.

      Any way that is what I think.

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  2. Formavitae
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 01:25:29

    AA women have been socialized to believe they need to do all they can to help the AA man because the WM is against him. I remember taking a Women’s Studies course focused on AA women writers and the AA woman professor was talking about how AA women aren’t a threat to the WM b/c of patriarchy, only AA men; however, it almost sounded like she was saying AA women have nothing to REALLY worry about (compared to AA men) b/c we really aren’t on racist WM’s radar for attack. I’ve never been able to understand AA women who can’t seem to see AA women’s suffering, particularly that resulting from the (lack of) actions of AA men–which is THE MAJORITY of AA women’s suffering.

    Anyway, those “darkies” were only accepted to SAE because the WM know they will turn into future “Good Boys” who will bring all their resources and offer their lives to “protect Massa”. The WM knows he can get “top dollar” for “bargain basement goods” he’s already “used” and “picked over”. The “darkie” male’s dream is to be the ONLY “darkie” in a “sea of whiteness”. Whites know this and grant this privilege for EXORBITANT fees.

    ONE positive is that these SELF-HATING FOOLS are breeding themselves out of existence. If foolish AA women would stop procreating them, they’d be gone SOONER rather than LATER. Since they want to isolate themselves SOCIALLY, AA/BW need to isolate them ECONOMICALLY. Let them bear the FULL burden and expense of their “progress”. IT’S NOT OUR BILL TO PAY.

    Furthermore, once we’ve focused on ourselves and they’ve started fading out of existence in OUR lives, maybe we can finally have some PEACE.

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  3. Formavitae
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 02:09:06

    Another train of thought that I have is that AA/BW need to shift their focus–Shift your focus off the racism. Shift your focus off the discrimination. Shift your focus off the prejudice. I’m not saying “forget it”, but just shift the object that consumes your mental energy.

    I know about/understand the prejudices BW face. However, I also see the wonderful things that are happening in the world around. And, if you are successful in those areas and are surrounded by people who are PASSIONATE about those areas–whether it be technology, science, medicine, development, you can establish a network of support based upon MUTUAL RESPECT. I think AA/BW should focus on elevation via these avenues rather than social pathways, because there are too many “fickle” and ephemeral requirements for social “acceptance” that can change with any and/or every “gust of the wind”.

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  4. Brenda55
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 05:08:00

    Black women STOP focusing on black men their problems and pathologies. They are not here for you. Any potential they have will be used for themselves and the non-black women they prefer. If it is a black man that you do not know personally or have not personally vetted leave is baggage right there next to him for him to deal with and do you. Your lives will be much happier and healthier once you do.

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  5. Brenda55
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 05:20:58

    Just saw this. A blast…and not in a good way fro the past. http://tinyurl.com/q5sxky9
    The more things change the more they stay the same. Ladies stay focused on you.

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  6. Silver Roxen
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 07:32:49

    In regards to hobbies, I was just thinking about that this morning. When I go on to transfer to a four year university, I will not join a black club. If anyone has any issues with it I don’t care. I would rather join clubs and organizations for my benefit, that and I’ve never had an interest in activism, so thy were never really on my list.

    You don’t know how much that type of thinking bothers me. Many black women recognize racism, but don’t see the blatant sexism, staring them in the face. They don’t realize that both of these isms combined results in us having to navigate this world differently.

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    • Dorian
      Nov 05, 2015 @ 15:27:36

      When you transfer to a four year university. Please consider joining the running, yoga, and economic clubs. These clubs will open a wealth of information that can/will make your life better. As for Black student union/clubs do not waste your time. Resources are not finite, and you must prepared yourself for the future.

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      • Silver Roxen
        Nov 05, 2015 @ 16:35:00

        I was thinking of joining a video game, an anime club, and some health clubs because the major I’m interested in is psychology. Those are my interests, but I should consider others. Thanks for the suggestions!

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        • Mimi
          Nov 10, 2015 @ 22:12:04

          Avoid all sororities, Black or White! Please take this advice seriously.

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          • Silver Roxen
            Nov 11, 2015 @ 04:24:35

            Thanks for the heads up. Sororities seem very constricting to me and I like to be free lol. I have heard a couple of stories about sororities on a few blogs. These commentors described the white soroties as being threatened by feminine black women and will you will be mysteriously disinvited and this was just the parties. I don’t and haven’t heard much about black sororities.

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  7. neurochick
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 08:13:27

    That Yale article. That’s a racist frat I believe. I think they’ve been in trouble before.

    When I was in college, the black and white students had dances together and dances that were separate. People liked the separate dances better, because at the mixed dances they had to play acid rock music and we black kids thought their music sucked and you couldn’t dance to it. Guess what happened? The white students wanted to come to the black parties because they wanted disco music, not Ted Nugent. (this was in the 1970’s).

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  8. Shaylah
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 10:25:23

    It was another incident where some black people,I know it was half and half, that were kicked off a Spirit plane. The group of black women and the one white female that was with them were kicked off the train. See people are now looking at black women as problems. They see us in groups and everyone start to get nervous.
    Those years of:
    Protesting
    Caping
    Giving all your time and money
    Praying
    Hoping that “the brother come back”
    Back stabbing another black woman for the bm kang attention
    Man sharing
    None of t his has gotten any where but leaving a bad image and innocent black women are paying the price. Those antics that are shown on Housewives and fill in any city and since people don’t normally go out of their comfort zone, they receive education of other people via You Tube and the social media.
    Black women go to class
    Black men go to get azz.
    My cousin is studying abroad in England. I am so happy for her because she is light years from some of her peers. The last I heard she may just live there.
    I want black women to spend their college years exploring what college has to offer.Here is something I noticed. When a black man goes to college, all he is doing is trying to get next to the white woman. When a black woman goes to college, she is usually making a better life for herself. In other words,
    BLACK WOMEN COME OUT COLLEGE TO BECOME PROFESSIONAL
    BLACK MEN COME OUT FOR SOMEONE PUPPETS.
    Notice who is in those board room meeting. Black women.
    Notice who is not so much .Black men.
    I want black women to go where there are CELEBRATED AND NOT TOLERATED.
    Those clubs will either close up or become upscale restaurants where only the elite go, so let us move freely around the globe.

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  9. Lashea Williams
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 10:35:36

    Hi y’all. I’m 27 and raised mostly in Virginia. So many of the girls I grew up around are even so masculine today. I consider myself a feminist but even I have found that men respond best to feminine women. My Grandmother used to get upset when I was younger 9/10 years old looking in the mirror admiring my beauty. She would say get out the mirror primping. What kind of crap is that. Other races of women are encouraged to go primp. I think my Grandmother side of the family are mentally ill. I could go on and n with similar stories. Even when I wS younger I would hear other Black Mothers saying to their young daughters oh you think you’re too cute, and if you set acting like a girly girl thru would say you’re acting fast. I think femininity was beaten out of so many of us. That’s why so many of us are masculine. And imagine how Blacks men’s hyper masculinity has effected Black girls. I remember as a teen the boys always getting girls to fight and girls would want to fight each other to impress the boys. It’s crazy.

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    • itsmeak
      Nov 04, 2015 @ 11:24:01

      I tell you say black people in Western countries are VERY guilty of putting young innocent and impressionable young black girls in a horrible state of limbo as if these poor girls are all tied up in the middle of a long rope in a ‘tug of war’ game. Just dreadful.

      Between the late 16th century through the 19th century the white people forced black women to overwork themselves like the black men or like work animals and long, long after all of that devastation is over black people still want all black women and black girl children to carry themselves like a bunch of hard men out on the street and overwork themselves to death…May as well bring back the whole Jim Crow segregation and everything as well in that case then, what’s the darn difference??

      Black women and black girls in the Western countries grow up and live surrounded by women of other colors who primp themselves up wherever they plan on going and who are encouraged to use and uphold their femininity so how else can black people expect black women and black girls to see themselves?? But even in non-Western cultures, women have their own adornment and beauty rituals and always have throughout history. Even among the Hebrews in the Bible for heaven’s sake I mean ‘Hello?’…

      These black people are going on like just how the white slavemaster and white overseer are going to rape every black woman and black girl back in the day black men and black boys will rape them all today if they don’t ‘ugly’ up themselves and harden up themselves and act more ‘mannish’ than John Wayne and ‘Arnie’ put together. Why?? Because they don’t want to seek justice, peace of mind, security and protection of black girls and black women at the expense of black men and black boys’ possibly curtailed freedoms :/

      Call the goshdarn cops man on these black thieves, murderers, kidnappers, rapists, pimps and pedophiles man so that black women and black girl children can walk about in their own neighborhoods in peace….Every white, Asian and Latina woman ever born can do this but not the black woman and they are all living in the same darn country and in the same day and age?…..

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  10. neurochick
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 11:07:58

    Here is the Spirit Airline article:

    http://www.theroot.com/articles/news/2015/11/spirit_airlines_accused_of_discrimination_after_6_black_passengers_kicked.html

    I don’t know how many were men and how many were women.

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  11. neurochick
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 11:26:18

    I think there are a lot of reasons so many BW are so male identified. One of them is the lack of decent BM. BM who do go to college, have good jobs and such have too many options; they don’t need to settle down, they can have all the women they want. This causes BW to not trust each other, to hate each other, to want to fight each other; hence the behavior on so many Real Housewives shows.

    I don’t think this will change very soon, why? Because we live in a society where men still make more than women, even when they’re doing the same job (remember Jennifer Lawrence and those hacked emails?). That inequality causes many women to feel that they must depend on men for their very survival. Not so very long ago, a “spinster” usually had to live her whole life with her parents and then with another relative, she was considered a “poor relation” because it was hard for a woman to make enough money to take care of herself. The implication was, “we don’t need to pay you anything, you’ll get married and then your husband will take care of you.” See the movie, “The House of Mirth” to see what happened to women who couldn’t get married.

    And to me, this is the reason for all the caping and the marching and the dysfunction and the worshiping that too many BW do for BM. I think it’s so important for BW to get educated, travel, be carefree, be feminine, because when you don’t feel that you NEED a man, you might find a good one. When you don’t need a man, you have appropriate boundaries, you’re not caping and worshiping.

    In nature it’s the man who has to hustle, to make the woman come to him, but if you’re desperate, if you’re caping, he doesn’t feel he needs to hustle, in fact he doesn’t feel he needs to do anything at all. He knows he doesn’t have to do anything, he can just stand there. And that is what too many BM believe, that all they have to do is just stand there and the BW will come right to them.

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  12. forward thinking black female
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 12:57:47

    Neecy it is not only young black women who like to socialize at clubs, but older black women also. I remember a few years ago when a female relative from the UK came to visit me here in Canada. The only thing she wanted to do was go clubbing and partying and everyone that is not positively beneficial to them in any way. With obesity so common with black women you would think that the activities we would like to be involved with are hiking, walking, yoga and other healthy lifestyle activities. No it seems like bs clubs with alcohol and dysfunction is what some black women prefer. You know black women limit your interactions with a lot of folks and a lot of non beneficial activities, because “You all ain’t missing a thing”

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  13. Rae
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 13:54:38

    Neecy I’m shocked that no one else has taken one other thing into consideration! The DECLINE of America! I have noticed this and I wonder why none of you guys are speaking about this. I can confidently say I haven desire to live int his country for the rest of my life. White people are now beginning to struggle immensely!

    http://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/31/us/heroin-war-on-drugs-parents.html

    http://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/05/upshot/stressed-tired-rushed-a-portrait-of-the-modern-family.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur

    http://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/03/health/death-rates-rising-for-middle-aged-white-americans-study-finds.html

    https://www.rt.com/usa/255617-america-worst-mother-report/

    Have any of you guys seen any of this?? I think that too many black people have very rose colored glasses on the lives white people are living… I think another thing we need to take into consideration is the growing CLASS problem America is having. The United States of America lags immensely behind in quality of life, healthcare, paid maternity leave and many more… Just thought i should add this!

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  14. Rae
    Nov 04, 2015 @ 15:34:19

    Neecy I’m shocked that no one else has taken one other thing into consideration! The DECLINE of America! I have noticed this and I wonder why none of you guys are speaking about this. I can confidently say I haven desire to live int his country for the rest of my life. White people are now beginning to struggle immensely!

    http://www.nytimes.com/2015/10/31/us/heroin-war-on-drugs-parents.html

    http://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/05/upshot/stressed-tired-rushed-a-portrait-of-the-modern-family.html?smid=fb-nytimes&smtyp=cur

    http://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/03/health/death-rates-rising-for-middle-aged-white-americans-study-finds.html

    https://www.rt.com/usa/255617-america-worst-mother-report/

    Have any of you guys seen any of this?? I think that too many black people have very rose colored glasses on the lives white people are living… I think another thing we need to take into consideration is the growing CLASS problem America is having. The United States of America lags immensely behind in quality of life, healthcare, paid maternity leave and many more. If life is getting harder for white women, than its 20 times worse for black women… Just thought i should add this!

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    • Brenda55
      Nov 04, 2015 @ 20:05:01

      ^^^This right here.^^^ The consolidation of wealth into fewer and fewer hands means that more of us are going to be left fighting over the crumbs. True this is not a problem exclusive to the USA. Even so thinking Global will help you open more options and opportunities for you.

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    • itsmeak
      Nov 04, 2015 @ 23:46:47

      It’s true. Canada’s middle class as a socioeconomic level still live lives rather intact long after the recession but the middle class in America has crumbled largely.

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    • neurochick
      Nov 05, 2015 @ 10:44:56

      Good articles Rae. The US is in decline because of the “I got mine” philosophy. Winning is everything in America, no matter who you step on to get there; add to that the disgusting American diet and people here in the US are downright mean to each other.

      I wonder about the rest of the world, I have friends who live abroad and they’re worried too. Like they say, when America has a cold the rest of the world gets pneumonia.

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      • Rae
        Nov 05, 2015 @ 11:49:02

        lol That saying no longer holds truth anymore. I actually think that is the biggest problem with Americans. Americans truly believe that we’re exceptional and we’re the best of the best. The superiority complex so many Americans have is embarassing. NOTHING stays the same forever, the world is forever evolving. Studies after studies have shown other countries have surpassed us ESPECIALLY when it comes to children’s well being. So many Americans do not understand that children are literally the future. A disproportionate amount of children live in poverty and there is a heroin epidemic in this country… what will become the future of this country? It doesn’t look too good..

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        • neurochick
          Nov 05, 2015 @ 12:21:05

          Very true, yet no one really lives in a vacuum. I have been in countries where certain things are better, but other things aren’t. I think it depends on what you want. I think if you want to have children, the US isn’t the place for you. But I do know that the model US universities use, hiring adjunct professors instead of tenured professors (with benefits and pensions), is being done in other countries like Germany and England. See, greedy people are all over, in every country, in every race.

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        • neurochick
          Nov 05, 2015 @ 12:22:08

          BTW, the heroin epidemic is considered an epidemic only because it’s white young people on heroin. When it was mostly black people in the 1970’s, it wasn’t called an epidemic.

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        • neurochick
          Nov 05, 2015 @ 12:27:02

          Also, the US middle class was the envy of the world at once time because there was no competition. After WWII, the US was the only industrialized country still standing. Then in the 1980’s the US stopped funding education, while other countries poured money into education. The result is what exists now.

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          • Rae
            Nov 05, 2015 @ 14:13:00

            Agree with everything you said! Online I’m starting to see white people acknowledging the beginning of the breakdown of white families. It was only a matter of time..

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    • Mimi
      Nov 10, 2015 @ 22:21:40

      Trust Rae, it has been noticed, I haven’t been reading about anything else last week. The most interesting thing about these stories is the commentary that has been submitted by readers. It Is shocking and illuminating at the same time.

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  15. Rae
    Nov 05, 2015 @ 06:11:17

    I mean to say “I can confidently say I have NO desire to live in this country for the rest of my life.”

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  16. LorMarie
    Nov 05, 2015 @ 10:02:28

    Agreed but just one note, the Yale story may not be true. Some say that black women were at the party and the story of the accusers “change.” According to the girl that wrote the FB status, it wasn’t a black guy and even she got the information as a third party.

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  17. Pumpkin
    Nov 18, 2015 @ 14:35:58

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