Move along nothing to see here but more BM hating BW dysfunction: My thoughts on Surviving Compton The Michel’le story

ADDENDUM: Added link to youtube if you want to watch it.

So I watched the Surviving Compton Biopic from Michel’le who was previously involved professionally and intimately with Dr. Dre and who had a child with him in the process. She was also (falsely) married to Suge Knight and also had a child with him.

So I am not shocked by a lot of things in depicted in this story. Here are a list of things I found PAR for the Course with Black men and how they treat un ambiguous Black women and how Black women stick around withstanding abuse because they feel its their lot in life. So here are a list of things I wasn’t shocked, surprised about and I will go into detail on my thoughts on some of these things.

  1. Her atypical MAMMY Black mother/grandmother raising her to believe that abuse is something she should accept and overlook from a man. Something she should overlook for the “benefit” of the relationship and other “things” she may be getting from that “relationship”. By the time her mammy ass grandmother realized the shit wasn’t right, Michel’le was much older, had already been in two abusive relationships, rehab and had nothing to show for. SMH

(2) The fact that her mother/grandmother did nothing to guide her in the right direction (at such a young age) and away from DBR toxic BM like Dr. Dre who had already had SEVERAL children by other women while Michel’le was dating and working with him. Instead the grandmother made an off handed comment about him never coming in to meet her and the comment “any man who sleeps in a car has got a baby somewhere”. THE FK?

(3) The fact that she didn’t get paid for her work in the beginning and just accepted that.

(4) The White manager Jerry Heller was always nicest to her and treated her better than Dre or any other BM in her surroundings.

(5) The fact she endured all his abuse and toxicness and still never got a ring or married, while he made an “honest woman” out of a non Black woman.

(6) The fact she still had an OOW baby with him.

(7) The fact that when he did decide to marry and act right he wifed up a non Black woman who ultimately has and will benefit from his come up, and that the only thing the un ambiguous BW (Michel’le )was left with was being the ABUSED struggle Black chick left with an OOW baby, abuse, stress and drama and the new non BW *WIFE* has only but the celebrations under her name and experience with him.

(8) She was tricked by her new thuggish imprisoned man Suge Knight to take care of his business, put her life on hold and visit him every damn week in prison for 5 years only to find out he fucked her over by putting all kinds of financial burdens of his in her name, lying to her making her believe *SHE* was married to him when in fact he was still married to his first wife, endured abuse (he broke her jaw) and still had a baby with him.

Once again ladies, we see how the un ambiguous Black girl will always be left with nothing but struggle, pain, and OOW baby and bad memories from her relationship with the average BM. And after that BM has put her through all the abuse, stress, pain and babies, he will go off and marry a Non Black woman who will most likely never experience those things from him, who gets the ring and wife status and FINANCIAL BENEFITS once he has made it and gets to enjoy all the celebratory things that come with being with a successful man who built his empire off the backs of BW who he used and abused to get to where he is.

If you look at his Behind The Music (which I will link from Youtube) start at 39:00 you get to see his wife acting like she married some SAINT without a past of abusing women, leaving litter of kids behind and when you look at what he put Michele’le though and how he horribly beat a BW journalist (Dee Barnes) this Non Black woman got all the benefits of his “new maturity” and success, its very clear that BM HATE BW to their core and once they can “escape” to other women they become more content and less violent and more willing to act like upstanding HUSBANDS and FATHERS.

Y’all please go to the link and watch how she talks about him “my husband is so strong” “When he’s at home he is just “POP”. Its sickening. Bitch please! You married an abusive bm who got rich off exploiting his women and community. Just because his self hating ass didn’t abuse you, doesn’t mean you married *well* in the sense of a man with good character. You married a piece of shit misogynist loser with MONEY!

Especially seeing how we all know how he beat and abused BW throughout his career (Dee Barnes and Michel’le are the ones we KNOW of). And this long faced heffa sitting up here acting like she is married to some upstanding aristocrat known for his saintly past. UGH!

There must have been a portion of this version they left out because I remember some years ago when I saw this original Behind the Music, there was a part where she said she told him to go back to doing what he did best when he confronted her about his new “cleaner” music not being as well received as his older music where he talked about violence and called women out.

I remember  on the part where Dr. Dre discusses his departure from Death Row Records and having to basically start all over from scratch financially and professionally creating his own label Aftermath records, he said he tried to make his music cleaner and steer away from the gangster talk and misogynist that he had become famous for and made so much money from.

To his surprise this was not selling. People were not buying into this new image and music without the cursing, gangster rap and calling women out their names.

So he said he went to his wife and discussed this with her. He tells her that he doesn’t know what to do since people are not buying into his “cleaner” music and was contemplating if he should go back to his old music to make money again. But he was concerned about how she would feel about that being a woman and all.

You know what this NonBlack woman said (directly into the camera)? She told him to do what he had to do to make money again and get back out there. And if people wanted to hear that kind of music then give people what they want.

And he said he was shocked at her response, but appreciated her support. And that is what he did, he went back to making toxic music and started making money again.

LMAO. This non Black woman basically gave this BM the ok to continue to keep disrespecting women, exploiting his community etc., just so he could make money again and so she could keep living and eating well.

I.CANNOT.MAKE.THIS.SHIT.UP!!

But for some reason this was not on the Youtube version and seemed to have been taken out of the documentary because it was closer to the 36:00 to 45:00 mark and I just reviewed it and that part isn’t in there. But I swear on MY LIFE she said this because I remember her pink outfit and hair. maybe it was another documentary but I remember vividly her saying this. I wouldn’t just make that up. I have a good memory.

BECKY ET.AL INC. STAYS THE MOST WELL TAKEN WOMEN WORLDWIDE

And BW are helping!!!!

These days BW are getting a different wake up call and it aint pretty. All of these successful BM who run off and marry Becky and company, are taking dollars and economics that were supported by BW to these women where they give them the good stress free, abuse free life once they made it.

The women who they are in close proximity to when they are just starting out and trying to make it are BLACK WOMEN. Usually un ambiguous BW. And the reality is, they date, sleep with and make babies with these women because they are LOW HANGING FRUIT to the average BM. And BM abuse these BW because they hate what BW represent to them _ STRUGGLE. And these Bm who are struggling are angry. And they take their anger out on the women in closest proximity to them at that time in their lives – BLACK WOMEN. The only women who want their broke asses.

And when they no longer have to struggle they get the women who represent FREEDOM, PROSPERITY – non BW. That is why so many BM marry out when they get famous or become successful.

YET these Negroes want BW to keep accepting struggle love so they can have pieces of ass while they are trying to make it. They need BW to keep buying into struggle love because they need BW when they are down and out to keep them afloat until they can claw their way to success and get the women who represent FREEDOM, LIGHTHEARTEDNESS, PROSPERITY that comes with Non BW whose men put in the work to treat their women good and make them the image of success.

BW seem to be A OK with being used as a struggle bed filler until their Black Kings make it and no longer need them and decide to “shape up” and clean up their misogynist and abusive ways once they marry the women they deem are not meant to experience THAT LIFE. And those women are NOT BLACK. But these BM have no problems taking the BW’s money to keep his Non Black queens living and eating well. And STOOPID BW are all too willing to keep giving it to them.

Michel’e today is worth a little over 100k. ONE.HUNDRED,THOUSAND.  for all her troubles, abuse, and being used to help push these Negroes forward. 100K!? How much is Dr.  Dre worth? 700 Million. How much is Dre’s Non Black wife Nicole worth? THE SAME. LOL When Dre dies she’ll be worth close to a BILLION.

BW stay SLEEP in ZOMBIE MODE.

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62 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. MELO
    Oct 17, 2016 @ 03:49:56

    Low hanging fruit…..so sad, but so true. This is good hard truth Neecy.

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  2. berrygirlfinn
    Oct 17, 2016 @ 06:26:42

    Thank you for the clear, insightful, Black woman centered synopsis! Probably won’t be able to see the movie for a while (I live in Finland). But with the failure of Parker’s BOAN movie; I really think Black women are hitting the Tipping point finally! Could it be that Black women are waking up and not accepting the Okey doke from Black men who refuse to do right by them! I sure hope so…while living my own carefree life (of course!) But, This Lifetime movie should just be another nail in the coffin!

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    • Neecy
      Oct 17, 2016 @ 22:37:11

      BERRYGIRL!!

      Lucky you living in Finland where 6’2 is the average height! LOL How are the men there? I hear in those Nordic countries the women for the most part have it made?

      Anyway, I hope the tide is turning, but it will be a slow turn since there are still plenty of BW who support BM blindly.

      Also I forgot to add the link in the article (going back to do so) where you can watch the whole documentary on Youtube.

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  3. cediblog
    Oct 17, 2016 @ 18:37:16

    I recently came upon someone elses blog and just yesterday I think that she wrote some thing about NOT PAYING BECKYS LIGHT BILL. similar Idea to what you wrote. This is a scenario going on for years and years and years with BW. Maybe we should take our money and not support any more rappers and celebrities and athletes (I sure don’t)> there are many BW starting small businesses from clothing to real estate and other things. I think that they would appreciate our support and finances. Just a thought!

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  4. Beauty.in.Grace
    Oct 17, 2016 @ 19:53:42

    You are correct about her telling him to go back to making his gangsta music. I remember seeing that as well. And I was surprised.

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  5. Neecy
    Oct 17, 2016 @ 22:42:26

    Hi all,

    I added the you tube link into the post to the Michel’e biopic if you want to watch it.

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  6. cedi
    Oct 18, 2016 @ 13:25:25

    Neecy many BM who are with non black women do target Bw for support and dollars. Of course they can marry who they want, but they do target us for support especially when the shit hits the fan. Who supported Oj the most when he was on trial for murder, definitely not Beckys, sisters and brothers. OJ’s first wife marguerite, , Brenda Ritchie, Sidney Poitiers first wife, kevin harts first wife, to name few, are not economically endowed as their ex husbands non black wives.

    We need to support those who support us and it is vey few

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  7. Dorian
    Oct 19, 2016 @ 19:45:42

    Hello Neecy,
    That scum ( Dr Dre) donated money to Pasadena City College for a Black student program. The staff wanted me to join this program, and I was curious. Walk into the office and saw that woman beater picture on the wall surrounded by Black women. The staff notice my glazed and proudly stated he is wonderful. So I told her this program support a Black women beater, and she lowered her head toward the desk. I promptly left the office. Black males can date, and marry whom ever they want to. I will not support their sweet heart, and children financially. Hopefully this Lifetime movie about Micelle will be a teachable moment for Black women who support that foul creature, and his struggle music.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 20, 2016 @ 20:12:06

      UGH! BM get rewarded for being misogynists. As long as they are being misogynist to BW they will get a pass and even get rich. And BW will fight to maintain misogyny
      from a BM as long as he gets paid, fame and recognition.

      Good for you for having some self respect and having a mind of your own and walking out on that group.

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  8. Formavitae
    Oct 19, 2016 @ 23:38:34

    I watched the film and am pretty sure I won’t be watching it twice.

    I remember loving Michel’le, thinking she was SO PRETTY, and wondering when she was going to come out with another cd. I NEVER IMAGINED she was enduring such abuse. I also never realized that was her REAL speaking voice. I totally recognized the outfits in the film. I thought it was HER OWN personal style. Not Dre’s image for her.

    Dr. Dre was and is a TRUE NIG. I don’t believe everything has been all “roses and gold” for his wife, either. Remember, they showed him trying to continue a relationship with Michel’le after marrying her. It just FRUSTRATES me that he has been able to achieve such high levels of economic success with the garbage character and behavior he possesses. I hate that BM can be “TRASH” and STILL get acceptance from organizations like Apple.

    I JUST COULDN’T BELIEVE the “advice” she received from her grandmother. That was so UNREAL to me. I just felt SO SAD for her. She was such a pretty, vulnerable, and naive young girl who had no help avoiding being taken advantage of. I’m just glad she was able to overcome her challenges and pull things together for herself and her children. Whitney was FAR more successful but NOT NEARLY as fortunate in fate. I wish Michel’le had worked more closely with the white guy Joe (?). I believe he would have helped her harness her potential and achieve greater heights. But, Dre’s jealousy and antics were OUT OF CONTROL.

    DISGUSTING PIG!

    I was surprised to see Eazy E showing Michel’le more respect than DRE did. Not what I expected (considering the content of his music).

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    • Neecy
      Oct 20, 2016 @ 20:15:24

      Formative,

      I too grew up in this era and remember Michel’le all too well. I even have her album downloaded.

      She would have gone very far had she not been attached to Dr. Dre and allowed Jerry Heller to help her career.

      I didn’t know either that he was beating her and mistreating her. Hell I didn’t even know they had a child together.

      It is disgusting how BM like him get rewarded with so much for doing the most damage to women and his community. But when he lays his head down at night, he has to live with the fact that he is only rich of exploiting Back people, women and creating the foundation for the criminal lifestyles Black people support in their communities.

      All was well until he brought gangster rap. he will forever have to live with the fact he exploited people, community and Black women to get ahead.

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  9. neurochick
    Oct 20, 2016 @ 06:44:40

    I had seen Michel’le on R&B Divas LA, and I just felt so sorry for her. Any woman who would lay up with Dre AND Marion “Suge” Knight had to have some serious self esteem issues.

    Who cares if they marry women who aren’t black? They can want you to support them, doesn’t mean you have to and if they don’t like it, then ask their wife’s people to support them, see how far that gets them.

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  10. cedi
    Oct 20, 2016 @ 21:10:37

    Neecy and ladies this is indirectly related to Mi’chelle. Why is Michelle Obama disliked so much, why is it that BW who have not done anything to harm anyone hated so much,, we are hated by BM, WM and WW and others?

    Michelle Obama was recently denigrated by a white female type school teacher mrs Obama has 2 degrees from an Ivy league school, and was a practicing attorney, and that is not good enough for many non-blacks, who have more opportunity and have not accomplished much in my opinion.

    BW do not owe anyone anything except themselves, no matter how attractive and accomplished a BW is she will be denigrated by many BM and non-blacks.
    in my opinion many non-blacks do not treat BW any better than BM, which is why in my opinion BW should never go for quantity , we should go only for quality.

    By the way, Mi’chelle no doubt loved Dre as a person, His white wife no doubt love Dre as a dollar bill, Maybe we BW need to learn to love both.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 20, 2016 @ 21:24:53

      I believe its very easy for others to hate and openly hate on BW when they see how badly our own men openly denigrate us.

      People will always pick on those who are un protected.

      If BM and the Black community put much effort into protecting BW, we would hardly see people attacking us.

      Gays are a great example. While they still may experience attacks – people are aware there will be hell to pay for verbally and publicly attacking gays.

      Sorry but it IMO always goes back to the BM and black community. Both those entities show the world how to treat BW – and its not good.

      And it doesn’t help that BW sit back and allow BM to horribly denigrate us and we still stand up and fight for them.

      Honestly, I think a certain type of BW is hated by society. I believe people ( Non Blacks) HATE race women BW. Michelle Obama to them is a “RACE” BW. I believe people despise BW so much because we ignore injustices against us by our own and always seek to fight White hegemony while BM are more willing to assimilate put their blackness aside.

      BW are always the ones on the front lines.

      I notice certain types of BW get left alone.

      Look at Bill DeBlasio’s wife. She is a dark skinned very Black looking woman who I never see openly attacked for anything. I know Michelle is the First lady and she is more visible. I even remember when that Black brain surgeon (forgot his name) was running with the Republican party, his wife IMO doesn’t even come near as attractive as Michelle Obama, and I never really saw anyone hating on her – I looked for it to, but they left her alone.

      Also, sometimes Michelle has an angry looking face in some pics you see of her, and people translate her to being an atypical angry BW. And society hates BW because they see us as angry, mean, confrontational, and constantly blaming White people for all the ills and injustices of Blacks.

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      • neurochick
        Oct 21, 2016 @ 08:16:54

        Neecy,

        Not true about Charlene McCray, (DeBlasio’s wife), she has been attacked many, many times here. Every time she says something, someone always jumps down her throat. A lot of people in NYC feel she is the one pulling the strings.

        I think people have issues with Michelle Obama because, they look at her and think someone who looks like her shouldn’t be the First Lady. They’d have zero problems if Obama were married to someone who looks like Ayesha Curry. In 2008, Michelle Obama was on The View and Whoopi Goldberg said how happy she was to see a woman her complexion, so intelligent, poised and articulate; that on TV, especially on the news they go out of their way to show brown skinned women looking angry and ignorant.

        As for being protected, we live in a WM patriarchy and because of that WW are protected because they have white babies. The problem with BM is that deep down inside, they really don’t want to have babies who look like them, so that’s why they disrespect BW, especially BW who look like them, and that’s why they gravitate towards non BW.

        Back to DeBlasio, a lot of older generation WM have issues with him, see many WM of an older generation do marry BW, but usually after they’ve married a WW and had their white children. Older WM look at DeBlasio and wonder why he chose to have children who for all intensive purposes are black, it’s that patriarchy thing again.

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        • Neecy
          Oct 22, 2016 @ 11:33:22

          NEURO

          I’m sure Charlene De Blasio has had some push back but I haven’t seen the nasty negative stereotyping and targeting towards her looks etc., as I have with Michelle.

          I do believe people just don’t like the fact the first lady is a un ambiguous looking BW, but I have also read a lot of people say that Michele always looks mean and like she has an attitude. I think this is how many Americans view BW and what makes us so unlikable.

          I don’t agree that Michele always looks like she has an attitude although I have seen pics of Michelle that do kinda make me say she should watch more of her facial expressions because at times she looks like she is mad, but I believe that is what people perceive of BW in general and Michelle takes all the burden of that because she is so visual.

          I don’t agree all BW get treated the same no matter how they look. I think pleasant looking and acting BW tend to get much better treatment than BW who fit the stereotypes of angry BW or race warrior BW.

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    • Formavitae
      Oct 21, 2016 @ 11:31:09

      cediblog,

      I think Michelle is attacked because she doesn’t have “the look” many people think is appropriate for the First Lady of the U.S. I also think there are people who resent that Barack (a WW’s child who is also SUCCESSFUL) would choose to marry and love a BW, PARTICULARLY, one who looks like her. I’ve noticed how over the years WW and the media have tried to entice and insinuate that Barack has an attraction to some nonBW (Charlize Theron is one who tried), but they haven’t been successful in undermining his love and devotion to her. Michelle is a HIGHLY articulate woman and VERY intelligent.

      However, I will be honest and admit that I’ve been giving her “the side eye”, after Barack’s promotion of the trans agenda to allow men/boys to have access to spaces that have historically been reserved for women/girls to help secure their protection. And, not just “allow” it, but MANDATE it. I don’t know WHAT Michelle has or hasn’t said to Barack about that. But, I would PERSONALLY have some SERIOUS WORDS for my husband, if he tried to promote something like that.

      I’m pretty sure Michelle is supporting Hillary to continue/protect her husband’s “legacy”. But, these two pairs (Obamas and Clintons) have “had words” about each other, in the past. I, personally, am not a “party puppet” (not to suggest that SHE is–I’m just pointing out the “two-facedness” that’s par for the course).

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      • Neecy
        Oct 22, 2016 @ 11:35:53

        FORMATIVE SAID:
        I think Michelle is attacked because she doesn’t have “the look” many people think is appropriate for the First Lady of the U.S. I also think there are people who resent that Barack (a WW’s child who is also SUCCESSFUL) would choose to marry and love a BW, PARTICULARLY, one who looks like her.

        ME:
        AGRRED. I think people are so used to seeing successful BM with ambiguous or non Black women that when they see a real looking BW getting this type of love and adoration from her husband it bugs them, as they believe BW are on the bottom and underserving of anything or anyone with something.

        But there are still many people who love and respect Michelle of many races. I think most of the low class trashy non Blacks are the ones who hate the most on Michelle.

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  11. cedi
    Oct 20, 2016 @ 23:47:46

    Neecy yes,do I ever know that being unprotected can make you the target of unfairness. Notice how other groups have this stick together kind of cultural behaviour, even non blacks who date interracially or marry interracially with others, still have this connetion with members of their own group. Black people generally do not, we like to be individualistic in every aspect if you know what I mean.

    Does Michelle Obama talk about race a lot,? is she out there a lot in the public eye? in my opinion Laura Bush did not seem to be out there a lot. I have noticed that Michelle Obama gave a speech in regards to “DONALD DICK” and sexual assault, I personally have not seen well known white feminists give a speech regarding the groping incidents.
    (do you think that Michelle was caping by attacking Trump, because all of those accusers are white women and I still have not saw white feminists come out and attack him yet, but Michelle has). Was Michelle actually caping or did she have her own agenda, Hillary like Barack are both democrats, and Baracks policies have a better chance of staying if Clinton is in the white house than Trump.

    in regards to Michelle Obama taking pictures that show her looking angry I have only seen one. But I do not live in the US.

    Black women have corroborating and contradictory stereotypes,
    mean angry, but also selfessl loving mammy (especially to little billy goats, but not to pickanninnys)
    masculine,unfeminine, but also, but also sexually tantalizing,
    asexual but also hypersexual

    (Recently a white female tried to involve me with something I did not do) as BW we always have to be on guard and aware of our surroundings, I let my guard down,which I should never have. Well I have learned a lesson

    We as BW cannot wait for BM or others to protect us, we need to protect ourselves, and what I mean by that is try to stay out of harms way as much as possible, and treat each other with respect. Sorry but in my opinion we only have each other, White women have not come to Michelle Obamas defense and they definitely won’t come to the rest of ours.

    Hey Neecy will you ever write an article on self care and pampering because I think that is a start in protecting ourselves

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    • Neecy
      Oct 22, 2016 @ 11:37:52

      Hey Neecy will you ever write an article on self care and pampering because I think that is a start in protecting ourselves

      ABSOLUTEY! I am going to try to do more posts like this since I am VERY big on pampering myself and often.

      Also keep blog topic ideas coming, it helps a lot and helps me to write more of what you guys are looking for.

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  12. cedi
    Oct 21, 2016 @ 11:58:01

    To Neecy and Neurochick, I think you both are right, to an extent, yes we are unprotected and unprotected people are scapegoated . I think here in Canada and the Native people and how Native women are also unprotected bytheir men, because they have similar pathologies to African Americans and the Natives are treated so badly, and Native women are so badly brutalized by Native men and also white men, who they take up with. In a couple of our provinces they want a commission out on Missing and murdered Aboriginal Women. Black people on the average are treated way better than Native people in Canada. But that is changing also because so many of us have become lazy, our families are becoming dysfunctional, many black people from Canada are from a Caribbean heritage, recent or one or two generations ago, and many Caribbeans tended to be hardworking and wanted the best for their children. But that is changing the black kids who grow up here are no way like their parents, we’re becoming dysfunctional. (The joke is that Blacks in Canada like to follow Black Americans, and their dysfunctional ways). This is one of the biggest copouts, because there are Black Americans who have done well and are not dysfunctional, but we do not emulate them, I think that black people all over should start to be honest with themselves and see what they are doing wrong, myself included.

    Personally I do not see anything wrong with Michelle Obamas look, she is not beautiful in my opinion, but she is attractive and well groomed. How many women are beautiful or pretty or even attractive. The average woman of any race is just average, most white women are not even attractive and they know it. I remember going to see a a counsellor once when I was 21, I had self esteem issues,though she did not do anything for me, because she was not the right type of counsellor for me, I remember her saying to me in a genuine fashion, “My dear I don’t know why you don’t feel good about yourself your pretty, tall slim, ” I said to her I want to llok more like the girls I see. She looked at me and said have you ever lookd at most people in this city, Do you even think that they are even attractive. go to a hockey game and you will see the average Canadian and you may see the rare pretty face in the bunch, at most lpeople are average looking if that” came out of the lips of an attractive white female, go figure. . (the average Canadian 30 years ago and today are still white).

    The white male had put the white female on such a high pedestal that the white female believed his lies, the white female is so protected by her man, so other men and women will protect her, we were never protected by the BM, so no one protects us not even ourselves in many cases.

    Whoopi Goldberg, should not say that she is happy to see a brown skinned woman in a positive light, because Whoopi never put herself in a positive light, look at how she carried herself for many years. She has been in the spotlight longer than Michelle Obama and Whoopi never cared enough about her own appearance.
    Why do BW tend to look at other BW to carry the torch for the rst of us, can we not just carry the torch for ourselves and for our children> Like in one of your articles Neecy, we should stop begging and do things for ourselves, so true what you said.
    in that article.

    Neurochick I dosee what you are saying about Ayesha Curry, but also light skinned BW are denigrated in this society, Vanessa Williams white house affair many years ago, in which some whites thought she was the help and asked her to dishout some food at a buffet table, here you have alight skinned BW with bue eyes and we see how she was treated, and Halle has been called a Nigger straight to her face. I have been around light skinned BW who have been called nigger. Also when Vanessa Williams won Ms. universe she had to have extra security due to death threats, and some people threatening to throw acid in her face. Just not too long ago biracial girl mother told me that her daughter is having problems on job, because the daughter is up for a promotion and the white female co worker had said to the biracial girl “Why would they want to give a promotion to someone like you” and we all know what that means. Yes I do agree that light skinned Bw may have a bit of a privilege, but it is a bread crumb privilege if that even. Black and light skinned BW are not liked very much.

    Neurochickk you are right about the WM and the patriarchial society, especially older WM who will marry BW as a second or third wife, but they do not have children with them, most of their children were with a previous white wife. Back in the older white mans younger day, even if they had wanted to marry a BW as a first wife, due to societies perception, they would marry a WW, which would also help to promote their phenotype. (Theres a joke about one black dick can turn a white village brown in a generation or two) there are some native Indian tribes in the US, who look more black than Indian, due to Indians and Blacks mixings. Just think if we can do to Indians who have light brown skin and dark hair and eyes, just think what we can do to whites who have such recessive genetics, We could potentially breed them out of existence. I am a dark skinned BW, a shade or two lighter than Lupita and I have European and Native American ancestry and you you would not guess it if you saw me. An italian male acquaintance once said to me, Black people have the ruling gene. Even with many BP who can pass for white, there is something African about their look, they tend to be better looking in a non Caucasian way, I can’t put my finger on it, but it’s there.
    Enough about Colorism, there is nothing we can do about it but not to practice it. Also I love Dark skinned BW and I love light skinned BW , because we are both each other.

    I read last night about a shooting in the Bronx of 66 year old BW named Deborah Danner who was mentally ill. I think the chickens have come to roost for us . We BW better look after ourselves and each other. Like Sandy Bland, we are left alone to fend for ourselves. We better stop caping for others because, we cannot even take care of ourselves and protect ourselves.

    By the way Neecy could you please write an article on how we black women can find ways to protect ourselves and self care and pampering , I’m at a point in my life where I don’t give a shit about anybody except BW, and underage black children of both sexes. (Yep that is where I am at in life at this time) and it is unlikely that my view on this topic is going to change. I really don’t give a shit about others.

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    • neurochick
      Oct 21, 2016 @ 13:37:18

      Regarding the shooting of the 66 year old woman, this is nothing new at all. This happened about 25 years ago to a woman named Eleanor Bumpers; the same thing happened, she was mentally ill and a police officer killed her. So don’t think this is anything new. What’s new is the Internet, so more people are hearing about these cases, but they’ve always happened.

      I have lived and worked with WW for many years and the bottom line is WM don’t protect WW to the extent that they used to; in reality it is WW who protect other WW and BW have to do the same for other BW.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 22, 2016 @ 11:42:22

      Cedi said:

      Neurochickk you are right about the WM and the patriarchial society, especially older WM who will marry BW as a second or third wife, but they do not have children with them, most of their children were with a previous white wife. Back in the older white mans younger day, even if they had wanted to marry a BW as a first wife, due to societies perception, they would marry a WW, which would also help to promote their phenotype. (Theres a joke about one black dick can turn a white village brown in a generation or two)

      I’m going to be honest. I can see why a WM would want to have White children. We live in a world where Black and brown skin equates to a lot of strife and stress. But also and MORESO IMO, in America Black people do not have their shit together for the most part. So I could see the fear in having a mixed half black kid who may latch onto Black dysfunctional behaviors.

      But at the end of the day, CLASS is starting to trump race and this is where BW can benefit and marry up even if we bring brown kids to the table with our Non Black S/O.

      This is why its important for BW to move up in Class scale because that is the way the world and this country is moving. Eventually it will be more about your CLASS than race.

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    • Rae
      Oct 22, 2016 @ 13:55:09

      You said

      “Personally I do not see anything wrong with Michelle Obamas look, she is not beautiful in my opinion, but she is attractive and well groomed.”

      Honestly, I felt compelled to reply to this as a BW. Why did you feel the need to say something like this? Are you not a black woman? We as BW can not afford to throw each other out like that. Even if you felt this way, keep this to yourself. This is where it goes back to in my opinion that as much as I, as a BW know how much people devalue our beauty, I know no one devalues it more than other Black people such as yourself. One of the reasons why White Women stay women is because they will put the most average WW to represent them and call her beautiful and represent them. Again, Whites play chess while blacks such as yourself play checkers.

      Neecy, if you understand what I wrote, please remove her comment. BW underestimate how comments such as her curtails us from being able to WIN! at life!

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  13. cedi
    Oct 21, 2016 @ 12:24:01

    Formivatae< isee what you are saying, abut the look of past first ladies were homely white women, except for maybe Laura Bush. Funny but not surprising that homeley white women, which many white women end up being because of poor skin (not their fault, it's just that they do not have good genetics) I gather many whites realize that not only are these women their grandmothers, mothers sisters, aunts, neighbours, but also themselves. White skin ages on average very very poorly.
    Neecy, Neorochick and Formivatae, you all have just confirmed what I have always knowm. Michelle Obama is not white, so nothing her or Barack do will never be okay in certain peoples eyes. Let BM, WW, WN be each others problem

    which is why I will stress this for the one millionth time all us BW better take care of ourselves in every way.

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    • Formavitae
      Oct 21, 2016 @ 14:31:10

      cedi (my iPad auto hanged your name to cediblog),

      When I said Michelle didn’t have “the look”, I meant, “Michelle IS BLACK”. Michelle is healthy and fit. And, so many people have talked about her arms. I personally do not find her beautiful either, but I also don’t consider Barack to be that handsome (even though others do). I think they ARE BOTH 7 out of 10. NOT BAD. AVERAGE.

      Yes. We know Barack and Michelle will ALWAYS be rejected to a degree for their blackness. That’s just how it is. I’m over it. I’ve accepted that *I* will always be rejected to a degree for MY blackness. I’ve moved on from stressing over those things. I occupy my time and life with those I value who also value me.

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      • Neecy
        Oct 22, 2016 @ 11:45:56

        Formative said:

        I’ve moved on from stressing over those things. I occupy my time and life with those I value who also value me.

        ITA! And even with all the doom and gloom facing many BW, I still believe many BW don’t experience all of this in their lives and make do with the subtle forms of racism that we experience.

        Its time BW stop looking at race as a factor and start realizing that class will eventually be the determining factor in this country. Not saying that because you are a BW with money etc., that you will not experience racism because as long as the powers that be are not Black and trying to stay in power, there will be racism. But BW wight he right mindset can make the best and most of their lives by increasing their class status as it will definitely help.

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  14. cedi
    Oct 21, 2016 @ 14:36:05

    Neurochick I know that this is not new, I heard about Eleanor Bumpers back in the mid to early 80”s, I think it had to do with an eviction notice or rental payment. Alsi in California in the late 90’s there was a homeless black woman who was shot by police , can’t remember her name or details. also a few years ago a native American woman who had mental illness was shot by police, I thin a couple of years ago a 17year old bi polar white girl was shot by police station somewnere in I think Texas, so I am so aware of all these police shootings,throughout the years, and let us not forget theMOVE bombing in May 1985 in Philadelphia, most of the followers were Black women and a few Black men and except for one black child Michael Ward, (Birdie Africa) who died not too long ago, and Ramona Africa who ws the only adult survivor in that 1985 police bombing.. I could write a book on militaristic police officers, But as human being and a BW it bothers me more when BW and black children are shot, are shot, because I identify with BW.

    You maybe right about WW being supported more by other WW, more than they are by WM, but WM still protect WW more than BM who do not protect BW. With at least 2 groups of people supporting WW, they are still far ahead of us whdo not get any protection, and I did state in my last post about BW should protect and support other BW and underage black children of both sexes.

    I’ve often wondered how Black people in the US thrive, especially Bw because of all of the negativity thrown against them. Y’all are some special type of people who have a resilience that no other group has, Y’all just need to put all that good resilience toward towards yourselves, you owe no other groups anything, not even Bw from the Caribbean or Africa,do you owe anything to (by the ay I am aBritish born BW from Caribbean born parents, living in Canada).

    I’ve never complimented Bw, becausecompliments were only for WW deserved and undeserved, (generally they were truly undeserved, when I myself used to lie to them) but I have to say this I care for Black women and especially African American BW. and I truly believe that nothing is too good for us. and I am going to make it part of mylife now to give genuine deserving compliments to BW , from my heart. If there is a BW I don’t care for I will just ignore her rather than tear her down. .

    By the way Neecy you sure look pretty and you have a nice smile.

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  15. cedi
    Oct 21, 2016 @ 14:45:03

    Formivatae I agree 7out of 10 are good averages, previous white presidents and their wives may be a 4 to 5 out of 10. (the very very most). I agree that we both know that there will be some people who will reject both Michelle and Barack due to their blackness, and that is Okay, those types of people, would not help you or I either.
    From one BW to another, take care of yourself and you deserve the best.

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  16. cedi
    Oct 21, 2016 @ 19:21:00

    Hey before I go to bed tonite I just want to say to Neecy and you ladies. my views are not about hating other groups of people, my views are about loving ourselves as BW. About 20minutes ago I remember something that someone told me when I was 28, and I’d like to share it with you, because now that I think about it, they are good guidelines to incorporate in life. This man who told me this was white, he said
    write down these 3 statements:

    Racism will never end
    I will always get recognition but not acceptance
    I will never be 22 again.

    Now that I think about it, it’d not a bad piece of advice, I might say.

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  17. Juicyfruit
    Oct 21, 2016 @ 19:56:12

    BW are in a sad situation. I’m not sure that many if any will snap out of it in enough time before the ship sinks. BW have bought into all of the negative things thrown their way and don’t believe they are worthy of anything good. Sad.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 22, 2016 @ 11:50:13

      @ JUICYFRUIT

      ITA! Not only that, BW keep giving their money and resources to people who do not have their best interest and who are taking those same monies and resources to other races of women who are already set up to win because they are Non BW whose men run everything.

      Its sad to see so many BW not understand how economics works and how you can make it work for or against you as a collective if you are not smart.

      BW will even argue anyone trying to tell them to be smarter and stop supporting these BM who are only giving lip service yet taking all these stupid and desperate BW’s money to other races of women who live and eat well and whose children live and eat well off the backs of BW who as a collective are the worse off economically.

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  18. Formavitae
    Oct 21, 2016 @ 20:54:21

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  19. cedi
    Oct 22, 2016 @ 18:47:29

    Rae I believe that you were directing your comments to me, and what you said I see your point, yes you are right about average white women being promoted as beautiful and maybe I should have kept my opinion to myself and yes you are right about whites playing the game of chess, because in the game of chess you don’t tell your opponent what you think.

    But Rae if I cannot have a personal honest opinion on a BW blog, well then where can I? What is wrong if I find someone attractive and well groomed, most women of any race in my opinion are average looking , most women of any race are not even attractive in my opinion. If you looked at my other posts you would see how I view most of the other first ladies, as homely white women, except for Laura Bush(Jackie kennedy who was well groomed was not even attractive, she was very average looking). Michelle is in my eyes attractive and well groomed, she is the best looking first lady in my opinion.
    I do not devalue BW’s beauty, because anyone who is honest of any race knows deep down even if they won’t admit it, that if you see a beautiful BW, you can’t keep your eyes off of her because a beautiful BW is so incredibly beautiful, the same can be said about a beautiful East indian Woman. A so called beautiful WW is rarely incredibly beautiful, white folks will tell WW that they are beautiful to maintain their status of course,because to maintain white superiority,but white folks are not stupid, they know that who they elevate is not really beautiful in even their own eyes. (We both know that white folks throw around cheap non genuine compliments to each other, to maintain the status quo. ( There is a saying about White folks are more beautiful in our eyes than they are to each other) and I have met white folks who have unconsciously and unknowingly confirmed that statement.

    What is beauty anyways,is it not truly in the eye of the beholder? For e.g. I find ladies like Kenya Moore, and there was an African runway model (sorry her name evades me at this time, and also Leila Lopes as beautiful. Women like Michelle Obama, Mariah Carey and Katie Roist,I view as attractive. For e.g Sophia Loren in my opinion in very well groomed and attractive, she carries herself in such an elegant manner some people would view her as beautiful. Someone like princess Di, I would never view her as beautiful , the very most attractive, though she did have a nice figure (in reality if Diana was working as a cashier in a local grocery store, who would even give her a second look, I sure hell wouldn’t).

    so once again in my opinion, beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and any woman who is considered attractive is doing great, because most women in all races are just average looking.

    Enough about extrernal beauty, let us BW take care of ourselves and develop internal beauty and the external we have will become incredible.

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    • Rae
      Oct 22, 2016 @ 19:34:53

      I agree and understand what you’re saying now. I too, believe kenya moore is very beautiful. Thank you for understanding my perspective as well. 🙂

      And yes! We have to take care of ourselves!

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  20. cedi
    Oct 22, 2016 @ 19:08:34

    By the way Neecy, you are in my opinion right about class trumping race, because let’s be honest if OJ was joe blow minimum wage negro. I do not think he would have gotten that type of outcome at his trial. Even with police shootings who generally gets shot, it’s not generally guys like Will smiths son, or sons of NBA stars
    (generally no). There is the saying that money talks, Bullshit walks. That is not to say that having wealth will guarantee us BP a good life, but lots of economical wealth sure will help us in a place like the US. The world is capitalistic, but the US is based on capitalism to the extreme.

    Neecy ,yourself neurochick and formivate gave me answers to my original question, most things in life are about grey areas.

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  21. cedi
    Oct 22, 2016 @ 19:16:04

    Neecy and Ladies one

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  22. cedi
    Oct 22, 2016 @ 19:30:40

    Neecy another thing I forgot to mention was earlier today I thought about the Chinese and about 40years ago there women were not thought about much in western media. I remember viewing them as hard working little peasants. I think that was the idea of many westerners in regard to them, 40 years later they are now looked upon by certain western men as wife material. So while BW wer protesting with picket signs to make our lives better. Other groups of people came to the US and are benefitting from BW struggles, more than BW have. Another reason why we have to choose our battles wisely. Because once again our caping has benefitted everyone else except us.

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    • neurochick
      Oct 24, 2016 @ 13:28:01

      cedi:

      You make a good point about Asian women, but remember this, we live in a society where white features are seen as currency, the closer you are to whiteness, the more desirable you are as a woman; that is more of a general statement, not everybody feels that way. What is the feature people like most about Asian women? Their long bone straight hair, that’s what, straight hair is a commodity among white people, among black people too.

      Asian people are not a monolith, there are divisions between Koreans, Chinese, Japanese and I won’t even talk about Vietnamese people. Yikes, I have gotten an earful; and China has so many different dialects, some Chinese judge each other by the dialect they speak.

      I remember a Chinese co-worker once told me that Japanese and Korean women were more into make up and fashion than Chinese women; now that may have been true in the 80’s but it’s not necessarily true now, or it depends on where in China they come from.

      I have read of how WW have a “system in place” for them. What does that mean? IMO it’s about money and support. If a WW gets into trouble, she most likely has a relative somewhere who can take care of her, because for the most part, you don’t hear about many WW who have OOW kids with Harry, Mark and John, meaning they have money to support relatives who may need a hand. How many BW can turn to a relative for money and support? Think about it.

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  23. EJI
    Oct 24, 2016 @ 12:08:47

    Once again, I am super late to this party. I agree with you completely on your review of the movie. I didn’t see it because I just knew it would be story of some abused BW who preserved and hung on to her ‘faith’ and her ‘love’ through many beatings, OOW child birth and a halted career, while she helped her man (men in this case) build their careers and make their millions. Good (and sad) to know that I was not wrong.
    Your mention of Dre’s BBB wife encouraging him to go back to promotion violence and thuggery in the black community and towards black women does not actually surprise me. WM tend to be all about themselves and their own first. She knew that shit would not ever come back to touch her or her kids, PLUS if Dre was losing money so was she, so of course she was trying to get him to make that money no matter what he had to do. It also reminded me of the day that I ‘woke’ up to the fact that BM were more than willing to hang us BW out to dry especially once they secured themselves a WW. I was walking down the street, way back when that song “move bitch, get out the way” came out. When I heard what was clearly a WW scream “move bitch, get out the way”. I turn to look and I see two WW and two BM in a nice car (a WW was driving of course), I kinda gave the driver a dirty look, she turned away quickly, probably scared of the ABW and I continued my walk, when I heard what was clearly one of the BM scream, “Nigger move your black ass!” and then all four of them started laughing and chanting “move bitch get out the way, etc”. The BM actually gave the WW encouragement and backup to harass and belittle the BW just minding her own business.
    I tell that story to say this. BW need to divest SHARPLY from this idea that we (BW and BM) are in this fight “together”. We aren’t and we haven’t been in ages. BW stay in this dysfunction thinking that one day they are going to benefit somehow and maybe they will, but it will never be as much as the “came out of nowhere WW” who the BM will immediately respect and seek to protect more than the BW who has been struggling with him. (Dre and K. Hart being two of very many examples)
    Also, BW continue to be willing, more than happy even to “struggle” thinking again that there will be benefits and BM are more than willing to take that struggle help, but once they make it, they want to move on to a woman who they see as “too delicate to struggle” and that is rarely the BW.
    Lastly, that whole “stand by your man” MAY work, but MOSTLY for WW, because THEY have a system in place that will hold them up and support them, while they support him. BW are largely on our own and as such, we cannot afford to stand by a man that is abusive, struggling, broke, in prison, or anything but established and loving to us and ours. This is a lesson that we need to start learning a few years ago and start living by right now.
    Excellent post as usual Neecy.

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  24. EJI
    Oct 24, 2016 @ 12:10:37

    Once again, I am super late to this party. I agree with you completely on your review of the movie. I didn’t see it because I just knew it would be story of some abused BW who preserved and hung on to her ‘faith’ and her ‘love’ through many beatings, OOW child birth and a halted career, while she helped her man (men in this case) build their careers and make their millions. Good (and sad) to know that I was not wrong.
    Your mention of Dre’s BBB wife encouraging him to go back to promotion violence and thuggery in the black community and towards black women does not actually surprise me. WM tend to be all about themselves and their own first. She knew that shit would not ever come back to touch her or her kids, PLUS if Dre was losing money so was she, so of course she was trying to get him to make that money no matter what he had to do. It also reminded me of the day that I ‘woke’ up to the fact that BM were more than willing to hang us BW out to dry especially once they secured themselves a WW. I was walking down the street, way back when that song “move bitch, get out the way” came out. When I heard what was clearly a WW scream “move bitch, get out the way”. I turn to look and I see two WW and two BM in a nice car (a WW was driving of course), I kinda gave the driver a dirty look, she turned away quickly, probably scared of the ABW and I continued my walk, when I heard what was clearly one of the BM scream, “Nigger move your black ass!” and then all four of them started laughing and chanting “move bitch get out the way, etc”. The BM actually gave the WW encouragement and backup to harass and belittle the BW just minding her own business.
    I tell that story to say this. BW need to divest SHARPLY from this idea that we (BW and BM) are in this fight “together”. We aren’t and we haven’t been in ages. BW stay in this dysfunction thinking that one day they are going to benefit somehow and maybe they will, but it will never be as much as the “came out of nowhere WW” who the BM will immediately respect and seek to protect more than the BW who has been struggling with him. (Dre and K. Hart being two of very many examples)
    Also, BW continue to be willing, more than happy even to “struggle” thinking again that there will be benefits and BM are more than willing to take that struggle help, but once they make it, they want to move on to a woman who they see as “too delicate to struggle” and that is rarely the BW.
    Lastly, that whole “stand by your man” MAY work, but MOSTLY for WW, because THEY have a system in place that will hold them up and support them, while they support him. BW are largely on our own and as such, we cannot afford to stand by a man that is abusive, struggling, broke, in prison, or anything but established and loving to us and ours. This is a lesson that we need to start learning a few years ago and start living by right now.
    Excellent post as usual Neecy.

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    • Neecy
      Oct 25, 2016 @ 20:34:17

      EJI,

      I am really sad that happened to you but not shocked AT ALL. But just know BW will have the last laugh when all is said and done. The universe will eventually pay us for our debts better believe it. And we will see who will be auguring when these loser BM are left with the lowest of women of all races while BW with anything going for themselves will have moved onto bigger and better.

      That is why all of a sudden now we are seeing more and more BM (out of fear) make these declarations on social media that non BW are taking our place, etc. More BW are waking up and no longer begging – instead are responding with “they cannot take you fast enough”. LOL

      Everyone fears hen BW get our shit together. They can no longer play these mind games or control our purse strings.

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  25. cedi
    Oct 24, 2016 @ 15:29:56

    Neurochick in regards to white women having a system in place if they have OOW kids,I wrote about that in one of my replies, when Neecy wrote about the “BW are dropping like flies article” which I think was 2 or 3 articles back. -Which is why BW have to become the most serious people on this earth. I volunteered for a womens group years ago and back then like today, the majority of pregnancies were caused by not using birth control, sure there were the rare woman who got pregnant and she did use birth control, because no birth control in 100% foolproof. but the majority who got pregnant did not use birth control and the male did not use a condom. This is a moot subject because I still believe that we are in control of our lives. Life is not fair for BW and it never will be in our lifetime, but that is Okay, when you know the score you act accordingly.

    Yes Neurochick , about the Asians being closer to whiteness, and there a people out there who like long straight hair I do fully agree. And also Asian women are not as picky with looks of men as BW are, in my experience and remember beauty is in the eyeof the beholder, but I do not see really good looking WM with Asian women. I say very average WM with Asian women, but the Asian women are marrying some white billionaires, but that’s Ok, because someone who looks like Rupert Murdoch and other white men who are with Asian women, sorry to say even though I like money these WM I could not be attracted to, SO TO EACH THEIR OWN. I personally like long hair, but curly or kinky long hair. Big humungous afros turned me on in the day, and also I didn’t mind white chicks, like Melissa Manchesters hair in the early 70’s . Neurochick you may not have been born at that time, but there was an black actress by the name of Tina Andrews, she had natural full long, kinky curly hair.

    You know Neurochick, Neecy and the rest of you LOVELY LADIES, I’d like us to talk more about self-care, pampering, beautifying ourselves as BW, execising, finances for BW, how BW can improve their income level,
    travelling, beautifying our surroundings, eating healthy,, interacting with BW on the internet who are making positive things happen, I am getting tired of the Blackistan BW, if they want to change they will,if they don’t they won’t.

    (By the way even though am not into celebrities I saw a picture of Tina Turner, and I never noticed this but she has very nice skin, strong white healthy teeth, lush lips, nicely shaped dark almond eyes, high cheekbones, a short torso and very long legs, and I saw a picture of Lupita Nyongop recently and the same thing, I looked at myself and the same thing.

    BW have some very naturally beautiful physical traits, and if we are in shape and take care of ourselves in every way those traits will become apparent to us.

    Something I have learned in life when you improve yourself for yourself, and not for a man or anyone else. Greatness will follow.

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    • neurochick
      Oct 25, 2016 @ 12:26:09

      cedi:

      I’m probably older than you LOL, yes, I do remember Tina Andrews (she was in an interracial storyline in Days of our Lives in the late 70’s), Tamara Dobson, Teresa Graves, Pam Grier, Tamu and of course Diahann Carroll as “Julia.”

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  26. cedi
    Oct 24, 2016 @ 15:42:52

    Eji, it is unfortunate that you had to go through something like that I know the type of BM you are talking about, and believe me there are WM who react that way to BW also,(don’t fool yourself) because I have experienced something similar a little over 20 years ago, with WM I didn’t know . The best revenge in life is happiness, self- love, self-care and success.

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    • EJI
      Oct 25, 2016 @ 11:07:13

      @Cedi: you said “there are WM who react that way to BW also,(don’t fool yourself)”. I am re-reading my post and I have to say, I am not sure WHY you brought up WM or me “fooling” myself about them. I have never been of the opinion, stated or otherwise, that all WM were good or better. The reason I mentioned that incident was to emphasize that BM have long ago stopped giving BW the loyalty that they feel entitled to from BW. Full and final stop. Nothing at all mentioned about WM.
      I do agree though, the best revenge in life is a full and rewarding life.

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  27. cedi
    Oct 25, 2016 @ 16:14:48

    Eji the statement about WM was not even for you personally, I may not have articulated it the way I truly wanted to I just wanted to state that we get it from all around, and I know that you know that. Your negative experience was with BM and WW, and my negative experience was with WM. Also with so many other BW reading this blog, and everyones reply, I just wanted other BW to remember that these types of bad behaviour toward us can come from WM also, in addition I also have to remind myself about that not only BM were negative toward me, but also more WM were. So it was not a statement for you personally Eji.

    Eji take care yourself fully, remember you deserve the best in life

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  28. cedi
    Oct 25, 2016 @ 16:47:33

    Neurochick, I remember all those actresses you mentioned. I am a woman in her mid 50’s but still can pass for late 30’s. The funny thing I was thinking of Tamara Dobson also, when I thought about Tina Andrews, but I thought that you were a really young woman about 30, so I would never have thought that you would know about those actresses. Tamara Dobson died about 2-4 years ago I think. She was one stunningly beautiful woman, 6 ft 2 of long legged, exotic pure beauty, she always portrayed herself with class, and refinement. and was well spoken in interviews. Back then I remember seeing so many stunningly beautiful BW in the media, in fashion magazines, the Darden sisters, Peggy Dillard, B.Smith (who is said to have alzheimers now) Phyllis Hyman, Beverly Johnson, Marcia McBroom, Karen Alexander, Khadija Adam, and let’s not forget even before that there was Naomi Sims, and Helen Williams, Ettie Dawkins and the list goes on.

    By the way did you know that Tamara Dobson and Woody Allen had dated for a time back in the early 70’s. Men can have varied taste in Women, Tamara Dobson and Soon Yi Previn are complete opposites., long slim legs and nice round butt, to short legs and no butts. (Sorry I had to add that last tidbit).

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  29. Dorian
    Oct 25, 2016 @ 20:28:55

    Self care.

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  30. cedi
    Oct 25, 2016 @ 22:41:06

    Dorian I do remember vonetta McGee, and Diane Sands was in ” Raisin in the sun” I remember when Claudia Mcneil, smacked her in that movie. I think Denise Nicholas played Vonetta McGee sister in Blacula, .Also there was the actress Brenda Sykes.she was also on the cover of TV guide, captioned”99 lbs of surprises” and there also was an actress called Judy Pace that dominated for a short timein the early 70’s.There was a gorgeous black actress in Roots2, called Bever Leigh Banfiedl.

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  31. The Black Goddess
    Oct 27, 2016 @ 10:29:58

    We as black women need to stop being race women and stop putting our emphasis on race because it’s going to come to a point where class will trump race. If black women don’t start getting on gear, we are going to be left behind. Boo hooing about how we are not accepted because of our phenotype is not going to change the situation. When a black woman is GLOBAL minded instead of being RACE minded, we will see things as they are and play our cards accordingly. There are some black women in here who said that there were treated like crap by non-blacks. Well, it starts with black males and Blackistan. If black males and Blackistan don’t protect black women and girls and they don’t value them and they treat them like crap, of course non-blacks are going to treat us as such. Everything that black folks do, non-blacks will follow. They see that black males have no power, infrastructure, economics, and clot, and they hate black women, and they don’t protect their women, so black women are going to be the most target. It’s black male’s fault for not protecting us, and it’s BLACK WOMEN’S fault for birthing these bastards. Maybe if we stop birthing black males, the problem will stop. The biggest mistake that black women make was birthing black males. Why do black women keep birthing the males that hate them? There will be no Dr. Duels, Kevin Harts, Chris Rocks, Lil Wayne, Trick Daddys, etc. if black women stop giving birth to these degenerates. If you are pregnant by a black male, and you find out that it’s a boy before giving birth, ABORT IT! Yeah, I said it, and I will not apologize for what I said. Say no to black males! They are no good.

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  32. The Black Goddess
    Oct 27, 2016 @ 10:59:57

    We as black women need to stop being race women and be more global minded because when we are global minded, we will be more well rounded and view the world as it is. Whining about not being accepted because of our phenotype is bringing me down and it’s not going to change the situation. Let’s be honest here, as long as whites are running things, white beauty standards will always be the norm, and all we can do is to get in to fit in. If you can’t beat them, join them. Life isn’t fair but it is what it is. We need to move beyond being race women and realize that in the future, class will trump race, and it’s happening now, and if we don’t stop being race women, bitching about race, whining about not being the ideal and just accept things the way they are, then we will lose out and we will be left behind. And there are some black women in here that said that they are being treated unfairly by non-blacks. Well, you need to blame black males for that. They disrespect us, bash us, degrade us, denigrates us, never protect us. Black males have no power, no infrastructure, no social independent economics, and because of all this, of course non-blacks are going to treat black women like crap. It starts with black males and Blackistan. Remember, everything that black people do, non-black people will follow. Since black males don’t see value in black women, then non-blacks will freely treat them poorly. It’s black males’ fault for not protecting us and it’s BLACK WOMEN’s fault for keep birthing black males. The best solution to the problem is for black women to stop giving black males immortality. Stop giving birth to black males. Why continuously give birth to the males that hate me? If you are pregnant by a black male and you find out that it’s a boy before giving birth, ABORT IT!

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  33. cedi
    Nov 01, 2016 @ 20:20:19

    I personally do not believe in blaming BM for anything or anybody else for anything, I believe in taking care and responsibility for myself. Which is what I do .

    Take care of yourself also.

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