LOL 53% WHITE WOMEN Gave Hillary the BIG middle finger and 94% of BW gave her the vote

Hispanic women gave Trump 26% of votes.

*for some reason I cannot upload the link to the CNN exit polls but you can find it on their site*

FOR TRUMP

BW = 4% , BM = 13%, WM = 63% , WW = 54%, Latinas = 26%, Latino men = 33%

MISOGYNY WINS AND WW & NON BW GAVE IT A HELPING HAND!!!

SURPRISE SURPRISE!! *SIGH* So much for the “sisterhood” and standing against outright misogyny eh? LMAO

If you were *EVER* under any impression that WW cared more abut their gender and “womanly rights” or “MISOGYNY” or “black people” and were eager to take down “the evil White male patriarchy” you have just been given INSIDE INFORMATION that, White women will always chose their white skin privilege and support their men who give them that, than gender ANYDAY.

WW are not victims, are not oppressed like they try to claim they are. While they are yelling about how White men make more on the dollar than they do (as women), they stay quiet about how they as WW make more on the dollar than EVERYONE ELSE (except WM). LOL They deep down support this system of oppression, racism and EVEN SEXISM just to keep that White privilege they have and to keep it in power.

So now can we stop with the “sisterhood” act, and move about the cabin accordingly now we have ACTUAL living proof they don’t *really* care as much for dismantling patriarchy as they claim?

If they voted against a BW running for President, I wouldn’t be so shocked. But DAYUM they voted against another *WHITE WOMAN*. LOL

I mean I aint mad at them for showing their true colors. Everyone is gonna do what is in their best interest right? Ok maybe not all people *cough* Black women *cough*.

WE ARE NOT AND NEVER HAVE BEEN “ALL IN THIS TOGETHER”

The thing that irks me about this revelation is more so how certain BW continue to allow NON Black women to come into our spaces and *TRY* to make us believe “we are all in this together as women”. In many instances on social media etc., if BW are talking about issues that affect us as women, NON BW will jump in and try to turn the discussion into a “ALL WOMEN” discussion. The smarter of us already know its BS, but you still have a lot of BW who still play into that BS.

Anyway, moving forward, now BW have the actual receipts to show as to why we are not and never will be in the same boat as WW and why we need to stop allowing them to try and align themselves with us on gender issues. WW have the privilege to choose the ultimate benefit for their survival and this is their WHITENESS. And when that WHITENESS is threatened, they will put all other “concerns” (gender, kumbaya diversity loving, BLACK MAN SEX LOVING *ouch Neecy, that last one was petty and savage of you* ) stuff on the back burner.

EARLY ON I THOUGHT ABOUT VOTING TRUMP

Look at one point I did think about voting Trump. But then as I saw more and more of the types of people he was courting, I finalized that I couldn’t vote for him. I stood with him on immigration issues. That’s it. I started realizing that Trump was a beacon of hope for a very large amount of non Blacks (WHITES MAINLY) who deep down want things to go back to the way they were (i.e. the slogan “MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN) when they could do and say anything they wanted against minorities and women and suffer very little consequences, if any.

I think the course of the last several years has shown that, a great deal of Americans still are as racist as their ancestors. America has a very large swath of Non Blacks and Whites who want to be able to be freely racist without contempt, conscious or consequence. And I settled that a vote for TRUMP who epitomizes this, would be in support of that, which I could not bring myself to do.

I said I wasn’t going to vote for Hillary some months ago. At the end, I really wanted to vote Jill Stein the Independent party because I liked NEITHER Clinton nor Trump, but I still gave Hillary the vote more so to vote against what TRUMP supporters stand for.

I did my part in terms of voting against a bigot and a horrible misogynist.

BW BRING MORE RECEIPTS SHOWING OUR LOYALTY

While I do think BW partly voted less of evils in being the 94% to give her support, it still says a lot about *US* and loyalty.

I’m not saying whether its good or bad but it is what it is. And at the end of the day when all the shit hits the fan in regards to women’s rights and the disaster ahead that women face as a result of this election, BW can show the receipts that we *AT LEAST* tried to support another woman (even though we didn’t like her that much) but we stood in solidarity with a WOMAN over a bigot and sexist.

And when WW and Non Black women who gave a lot of their votes to a sexist, misogynist and bigot start complaining about the loss of women’s rights, they’ll have no one to blame but themselves. They cannot claim “we are all in this together” because BW have receipts that they voted against a sexist and bigot while over half of them helped put him in office already knowing what he stood for.

MOVING FORWARD

Like minded BW should continue mobilizing. Just like most White Americans last night mobilized to keep White privilege in power, BW need to mobilize in the same way.

There is truth to the saying “together we stand, divided we fall”. It was Whites who made that statement and they live by it when they feel Whiteness and the privilege that come with it are being threatened.

BW can stand to take a page out of the book of those who *STAY* looking out for their best interest (yet giving BS lip service to make you think otherwise).

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  1. soulanceblog
    Nov 09, 2016 @ 08:30:52

    You’re correct: WW are not oppressed, but some are fooled thinking they are when they never have been. This is why I don’t really comment or rally behind modern day feminism that much – there are bigger battles to fought. Thanks for sharing this!

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  2. EJI
    Nov 09, 2016 @ 08:59:45

    Lord, I made a comment that amounted to this same thing on FB this morning and some white chick came back to me with this: “Yes but we are all women. If this campaign has taught us anything its that a loss for us – black white orange or green is a loss for all women. Now more than ever we need to stand together – whether its with her or just as the women of America.” I have Unfriended her, life is too short.

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    • Neecy
      Nov 09, 2016 @ 10:13:42

      Girl!! They kill me but they stay trying to gaslight foolish BW who will bite the bait.

      They can’t say ISHT to me now regarding sexism. LOL

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    • Taila Kroeyer
      Nov 10, 2016 @ 17:09:30

      Ha! I did that about two months ago with another “liberal” white woman who was complaining about bikini baristas in Washington state.
      She used the analogy of working as a bikini barista to black people dressing up like slaves to appeal to racists.
      First, she got upset when I pointed out that the analogy of comparing being a barista to dressing up like a slave is a flawed analogy, since people aren’t forcing women to become bikini baristas.
      Then she got defensive when I gently pointed out that as a Black woman, I don’t need to be educated on what sexism looks like since racism and sexism usually go hand in hand.
      Finally, she thought I was calling her a racist just because I was pointing out that she has privileges as a white woman that I don’t have…namely when it comes to issues like black men and kids being killed by the police with no consequences, and she was more worried about how some women in Washington state choose to make a living, when there are black people being killed by the police.

      I’m done with trying to talk to white people about racism. I already have high blood pressure and hypertension, and life IS too short.

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      • Neecy
        Nov 14, 2016 @ 22:10:57

        TALIA

        Me too! It’s exhausting. I’m not talking with them about race or politics anymore. They know what’s up and the right thing to do. They either work as a collective to make things better or they don’t. I’m not holding my breath. All we can do is keep doing our best to align with those who are willing to align with us and be allies.

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  3. Jess
    Nov 09, 2016 @ 12:00:15

    Neecy, ABSOLUTELY!!!! I’ve been reading your blog for almost a year and I had to unlurk for this. I needed a place that was sane so I was so happy to see you had a post up. In the Black blogosphere echo chamber, black people still haven’t made the connection that EVERYONE instinctively looks out for their groups interest. Don’t pay attention to what people SAY but what they DO (especially historically). WW are NOT going to give up whatever benefit and social capital that comes with being white on behalf of fighting sexism or racism lol. I knew the clutching of the pearls at Trump’s comment was bull. I even got to an argument with a few black people who claimed I was putting blames on Hispanics when I pointed out the fact 33% of them voted for this clown who openly detest them (not just Mexicans and illegal immigrants). Also, his number with Asians was surprisingly high as well. Black people obviously never see the writing on the wall until its too late. Everyone else want to be a part of the white narrative and ain’t about that ” fighting white supremacy” life lol.

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    • Neecy
      Nov 09, 2016 @ 21:16:22

      @ JESS

      You nailed it! Everyone is looking out for their groups best interest: Gays, Non Whites, Whites, and everything in between. Black people (BW especially) are still working from lip service from others (who haven’t done anything for us) and from a moral compass of what “should be” vs “what really is”.

      I think or HOPE this election result is a wake up cal for BW in terms of seeing all the lip service various groups give to so called people they “do not support” yet when the numbers come in we see their real colors. Yes that includes BM and other minorities who talked a good game about how Trump was a bigot and sexist and yet they still gave him a sizable vote, that Hillary could have possibly won had they given that vote to her.

      IOW’s its time to “when in Rome” for BW….Self preservation like everyone else.

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  4. Karen
    Nov 09, 2016 @ 15:07:45

    This played out exactly the way I thought it would. WW aren’t about sisterhood, they are about protecting their privilege. I am also thinking of all the times when people (BM) tried to convince me that WW were not as racist as WM.

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    • Neecy
      Nov 09, 2016 @ 21:19:08

      Karen,

      Yep the WW can no longer hide behind the cloak of the “evil WM oppresser”. We have always known how much WW benefited off of White privilege, but now we have the paper receipts to show that they will even vote against another WW to support a bigot and sexist *AS LONG* as in the long run they can still benefit off Whiteness. Throwing the gender issues away doesn’t hurt them when the Whiteness TRUMPS all else.

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  5. SP
    Nov 09, 2016 @ 17:24:47

    I have been lurking on your site for a long time Neecy…thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts with us…its nice not to feel so alone in my thinking. Of course, like many of you I had in the back of my mind that this election would be close, but yes I was taken aback by the size of Trump’s win…..

    I think that this was just an reaffirmation of white supremacy…specifically white female privilege. Some white women wanted to take advantage of affirmative action and ruthlessly pursue a career. Most see affirmative action and the selective schools and many high income jobs that become available to them as a result as avenues to meet potential husbands. Just like in the antebellum south, most white women are more than happy staying at home baking cookies and drinking tea and if he is providing white women would gladly stand by their man like some Tammy Wynette….

    Peep how these people are saying Michelle Obama for president in 2020…..I honestly feel like many non-bw women would gladly put in a black woman as the first female president…..they get a symbolic victory without having to actually put the work (aka muling) in and damage their pedestal and perceptions of femininity..If she doesn’t get elected (which she probably wouldn’t due our current racial climate) Michelle would be just another sheep for the slaughter, another sacrifice used to dent the “glassed ceiling”. I’m asking that you ladies do not spread the nonsensical idea that she should run for president–we should not want to see, whether she gets elected or not, a black women get dragged and denied of her femininity the way she would if she decided to other herself and her entire race of women by running….

    Call me sinister, but part of the reason I voted for Hilary was in that vein of that logic…Wrong or right people get that Return to Sender/Gone Girl/Fatal Attraction vibe from Hillary…if she got elected the crazy masculine manipulative white b**** archetype would have just further developed, alongside a multitude of shenanigans or Jerry Springer like scandals. In some respects it would have been close to a white minstrel show with a white female lead, while preserving/furthering some of the liberal policies made under Obama. Personally, I was down for it… Sure she and some white women would have been smug the next day, but I would have gladly accepted Hilary muling for me for four years while thinking she made a power move….We need to learn how to use other groups to take the brunt of things and make progress for us…Notwithstanding the deportations, Latino and Asian immigrants have had quite the ally in the White House–we cannot say the same thing.

    Personal/financial responsibility is what we can always depend on. We can hold our heads down. We must find ways to make this presidency work for us. To be honest, I think there are ways if we looked very closely….Not leaving the U.S. because this sentiment is spreading across the west….

    As far as the future, I’m not really going to be too invested in the outcome because our success should be independent of who is in office, but I will be supporting Elizabeth Warren or Joe Biden for president in 2020. I think Elizabeth Warren is perfect considering her economic background….in light of the RECESSION WE WILL BE EXPERIENCING by 2020—check WSJ economist and history bc we are definitely due for it…..

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    • Neecy
      Nov 09, 2016 @ 21:26:42

      SP said:

      Peep how these people are saying Michelle Obama for president in 2020…..I honestly feel like many non-bw women would gladly put in a black woman as the first female president…..they get a symbolic victory without having to actually put the work (aka muling) in and damage their pedestal and perceptions of femininity..

      I like the way you think. And what BW would run for President in this country anyway after how they treated the First lady? They’d be a fool. But already you have BW falling for that bait. You are right. They’d put a BW in office before a WW because as you said, once again it would put BW in the muling seat and the seat of having to break down all kinds of barriers. Once that’s done, then everyone else will want to come behind and run because BW did all the heavy lifting first and took all the blows that come with being a first woman president in a very historically/present day racist and sexist nation.

      Its like all other things they set BW up to carry the load first and then jump on in once its a little less heavy lifting and safe for them to piggy back off of.

      It happened withe the natural hair movement, the fat acceptance movement, the take no nonsense movement etc.

      But they couldn’t accomplish this if BW weren’t so arrogant enough to fall for the okey doke.

      And you are on point about how this election showed true White and non black woman privilege at its core.

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      • Ann
        Dec 25, 2016 @ 12:31:46

        I am glad Michelle said she doesn’t want to run for any political office. Why would she? Some were harder on her then her husband.

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    • Sheri
      Nov 14, 2016 @ 09:15:46

      Thank you Neecy for your critique and your blog!❤️

      SP: 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽

      Your comment is forward thinking and spot on!!! They are looking for a sacrificial lamb and after the way they are dragging Oprah, just for saying “take a breath and be hopeful.” I read a comment where a white woman was so enraged at Oprah and was literally blaming her for HRC’s loss in not getting on the campaign trail and sacrificing herself like the President and First Lady in order to get HRC elected all because of Oprah’s comment! WHETTT??

      Even voting at nearly 95%, black women were still being blamed for her loss… not saying what Donna Brazil did was right, but again, last week in a DNC meeting, she was publically dragged for her role in giving HRC debate questions before the debate. Not saying what Loretta Lynch did was right for meeting with Clinton on the tarmac during an active investigation, but black women are getting dragged for this…I hope Mrs. O doesn’t run either…the new senator, Kamala Harris..the whisper campaign has begun…they’re already trying to set her up to run…black women had better run..and not towards the presidency…Anyone notice how quiet Jill Biden was during the campaign? Not a peep! Even Huma, fell on the sword during HRC’s campaign….women of color, particularly black women are being skewered on that sword, justified or not.

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      • Formavitae
        Nov 14, 2016 @ 11:59:44

        People think they “OWN” BW–our BODIES, our MINDS, our THOUGHTS, our ACTIONS, our BELIEFS…our VERY OWN SOULS.

        I don’t understand why any blacks would be “surprised” or “upset” by this. It should have been “OBVIOUS ” WAAAY before now. More importantly, I don’t know why any blacks WOULD “SUBMIT”.

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      • Neecy
        Nov 14, 2016 @ 22:20:11

        SHERI

        I wish BW would stop allowing people to gas them up into being mules for everything. I believe a lot of BW allowing themselves to be talked into stuff like this does have some issues with arrogance and believing that if we do as people ask we can succeed. Instead of BW thinking clearly and strategically for ourselves we allow others to do that for us when it’s NEVER in our best interest – always theirs.

        Arrogance can override sensibility if one is not careful. It reminds me of so many BW who let others gas them into this arrogant thinking that being a single mother is an accomplishment. So you have all these BW bragging about being single mothers who raised x amount of children and “did it own her own”, instead of seeing that the reality is that single motherhood is often tied to poverty for WOMEN.

        BW need to stop with the emotionalism and start looking at the reality of things. If they didn’t respect a BM president or his Black wife who by all accounts were decent quality people, and they voted in a man who made it openly ok for racists to spew their hatred towards others, what makes a BW think she wouldn’t be dragged through the ringer trying to run a country that is still wrangling with deep rooted racism and sexism, and a country that has NEVER respected BW as fully human beings worthy of love and respect?

        A BW would be foolish to take the job especially after TRUMP who has zero experience and who will most likely not do anything to improve this country except for the small minority of elite Whites and Rebuplicans – hence “make America Great Again.

        The first woman president will go through what Obama went through as the first black president. NO WAY any BW in her right mind would want to lead a country in this current state.

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    • Ann
      Dec 25, 2016 @ 12:21:00

      I agree. Other minority groups depend on AAs to be the whipping boy. Be smart and let the other minorities speak up, sometimes. We do not always have to be leading the charge. I thought Hispanics were the majority minority? We need to stop running our mouths about every little thing. Past time to finish that degree and build our own businesses.

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  6. SP
    Nov 09, 2016 @ 17:48:58

    Want to make it clear what I mean when I say “hold our heads down”. I mean be stealth and organize to make political moves quietly through other groups of people. Black women don’t you ever take that literally and walk around with your head held down! You better get your confidence together before you walk out the door!

    If you are disappointed/grieving, go through it–we are women and it is natural. Though, unfortunately, some people, especially non-bw and many white men (we gotta be real folks) and apparently many black men (at least 13% lol), actually might enjoy our dissatisfaction with the result…

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    • Neecy
      Nov 09, 2016 @ 21:28:58

      I didn’t even give credence to the 13% of BM (who voted three times more for Trump than BW) because nothing surprises me with them anymore.

      My question to that is “Who are the real bed wenches for MASSA” now???

      They stay calling BW bed wenches for WM but they are the main ones who keep propping up White superiority at every given chance.

      3 TIMES more for Trump than BW. LOL

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      • Mimi
        Nov 14, 2016 @ 20:53:37

        13% isn’t much, but it could have made a difference in this election. Talk about being unprotected… BM just threw themselves under the bus; Trump won’t be checkin’ for them and HRC and the Dems will not forget. Hopefully, the 95% of BW vote for HRC will create a new voting block that will separate BW from BM.

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        • Neecy
          Nov 14, 2016 @ 22:26:18

          MIMI

          Yes. It’s about the nuances of the numbers in who voted for Trump. Yes the majority of BM and others voted for Hillary, however, as I always say for BW we can learn a lot by reading in between the lines and looking at the gray area. And the gray area says 3 times more BM voted for Trump vs BW and the Latinos had a huge showing for Trump.

          Time for BW to look out for our best interests. A small number of BW for whatever reasons felt Trump was in their best interest and majority of us felt that Hillary was a better option for us than an open sexist bigot.

          Either way, we will always be voting for lesser of evils in elections since no politician will ever be completely honest about what they will do, and may not even do as they say they will do. All we can do when voting is vote where we believe we will feel less pain as individuals and sometimes as a collective.

          At the end of the day no politician has ever really had Blacks in mind in terms of working for us and highly doubt there will be many in the future.

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  7. Dorian
    Nov 09, 2016 @ 18:22:52

    Every other ethnic group in this nation are going to make sure they prosper. They will vote for the person who constituted wealth. Now is the time for Black women to practice the art of living well and seeking wealth. The people of this nation has spoken in who they want as President. Stay neutral and focus on planning for your future. Also avoid negative influence, cut tried with users and abusers. The ride will be bumpy and we can succeed. Stay happy and well ladies.

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  8. cediblog
    Nov 09, 2016 @ 19:09:26

    Neecy and Ladies, as a Canadian BW, Ia m not surprised at the outcome. I would have voted for Hillary Clinton,only because I believe that she is the less of two evils.
    Let us be honest, if being black in this society gave us all the priveleges, would we not fight tooth and nail to preserve that privilege? so why wouldn’t WW alsow
    ant to preserve their privilege that comes with whiteness. From the time I was a young teenager of about 13 I realized that white girls were no different than white boys. The white male is the devil you know, the white female is the devil you don’t know.( they are both the fucken same). I personally believe that it is a small minority of whites who really in their hearts, believe in some sort of equality. Really can equality really be achieved, because we are all humans.

    Hillary Clinton is a WW, she is a racist, just like so many of her kind, but she can afford to give up a little bit of her privilege, because she is wealthy and has status. , but many WW cannot afford to give up any of their privilege, because they may not have the wealth or status , like she has so they will do whatever it takes to preserve that.

    This voting message in my opinion is all about self preservation at whatever cost., be it whites, latinos and Asians.

    BP need to stop caring about non-blacks, unless that specific non-black cares about you. Many non black groups are even more racist than Whites. Many Hispanics do not care about blacks, many Asians do not care about blacks, both these groups can be worse to you more than a white person, Asians and Hispanics not all, but far too many in my opinion are wanna be whites, the wanna be whites are worse than the real whites. (Please do not shed tears for any of these groups, save your tears for yourself and for people who truly do care about you…

    The other thing is I am going to be honest, I believe in self preservation, for myself a BW, which is why I support things that bring the best results for me a BW. Which is why I do not actively support feminism, because all of the accolades of feminism, were not meant for me. I am not going to fight WM regarding gender equality, mysoginy etc. let the WW go against the white man. because I will just get a few crumbs anyways.. and white women will get the whole slice. I truly believe in letting the WW be the WM problem and vice versa.

    Also there used to be an idea about “Having at talk about race”. Please do not waste your time in regards to talking to whites, and non-blacks about race, in my opinion this is futile, Remember their existence is for self preservation. Far too many BP like feel good scenarios, rather than being honest with themselves about who they are dealing with.

    The day we as Blacks change our way of thinking and are into self preservation rather than full intergration, because we cannot fully integrate into white society. Even many non blacks, who have intergrated , will never be fully integrated because they are not white. All these groups use each other and us for their own gain, we BP should do the same.

    Enough about race etc, know the results of the game which is self preservation and play it accordingl,if you must.

    (Neecy I do remember several posts back, you did mention something about Trump being more favorable to you than Hillary. Glad to see you changed your view. though they are both very much alike, Clinton is the less of the 2 evils, very much agreed)

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    • Neecy
      Nov 09, 2016 @ 21:36:06

      CEDI,

      Thanks for chi mining in. You are right, no one wants to give up their privilege (at least no one in their right mind).

      I think though what we are pointing out is not that WW shouldn’t or did anything crazy by looking out for their own best intrests, it amore that they have been getting away with a number of things when deep down we all know they have a huge stake in WHite supremacy remaining at the top of the food chain.

      1) We are pointing out the phony “feminist” talk WW give about White male patriarchy and how when it was time for them to try to dismantle even a tiny bit of it, they voted to keep it because when they weighed in, White privilege trumps gender.

      2) They stay in Black women spaces trying to tell us that we as women are “all in this together” and trying to take away and guilt trip BW from focusing on the unique issues we face through SEXISM and RACISM.

      3) They have for decades stood behind WM and pointed the finger to the “evil WM patriarch” for every social injustice like racism, sexism, and all other stuff. And now we can see they are (at least half) full of it and are just as responsible for upholding racism and sexism.

      So in essence no one is hating on WW for exercising their right to look out for numero uno, but rather the mask has been removed and they can no longer PRETEND to be about sisterhood and dismantling White supremacy and White male patriarchy because they have always known how much they benefit from the very thing they *SAY* is holding them back.

      And to turn their back on a WW for such a crass disgusting person as TRUMP made them look even WORSE.

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      • Ann
        Dec 25, 2016 @ 13:00:32

        Again you are right. The majority of bw did not benefit from feminism. When I was a kid the majority of bm/bw were on the same page as far as equal rights were concerned. Now some of us who have had some success seems to believe they are special, better than the average working AA.

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    • Neecy
      Nov 09, 2016 @ 21:41:20

      CEDI SAID:

      BP need to stop caring about non-blacks, unless that specific non-black cares about you. Many non black groups are even more racist than Whites.

      EGGZACTLY!!

      I don’t know why some Black people still have this pipe dream of “people of color” sticking together to fight White supremacy. Chile, they hate us more than the WM hates us! You can’t go live in any of these other “people of colors” countries and live like you do on the White mans land. Any and every Black *NATIVE* or darker skinned natives of all other races *STAY* at the bottom of the social and economic hierarchy with no chances of ever coming up.

      Many Black people do not want to accept that other people of color despise us more for a number of reasons and worship WHITENESS more than they or Black people care to admit.

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  9. Neecy
    Nov 09, 2016 @ 22:00:10

    What is clear as day to me is how BW were consistent in this election and voted based on what affects us most. Black women voted against SEXISM and RACISM. The two very things *we* uniquely as women have to fight against throughout our lives.

    That is how you get 94% of a vote from a demographic that recognizes what they are up against.

    Hillary is no saint now, but……..

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  10. cediblog
    Nov 10, 2016 @ 02:11:31

    You know when I think back on life regarding white females, their mask was taken off unconciously by myself at age 13., I began to see slowly but surely, white teenage girls for who they are. And If I truly think even harder even though at age 7,never took off their mask unconsciously, they were wearing their mask back then as little white girls.. was really my first recollection of them wearing their mask.(people show you who they are, no matter how young they are, I am beginning to believe in the core personality theory, somewhat to a degree,) . my core personality is justice and fairness but I am wise enough to know how the world works, so I use a lot of common sense in my life, and realize that self-preservation and taking care of myself FULLY AND FIRST,literally trumps (no pun intended) .
    justice and fairness. Which is why thinking in the grey areas is so important for BW survival.
    A few months ago I was at a persons place and saw and saw a Dr. Drew episode
    and I vividly remember lisa Bloom ( a white female attorney and she is Gloria Allreds daughter) to Areva Martin a Black female attorney “Areva you have to lower your expectations of people” (Lisa Bloom was referring to people in general regardless of race, socioeconomic background, gender etc.). I have often wondered why not every, but far too many BW have high expectations of others and we shouldn’t, people need to earn their respect from us , we need stop just giving people high respect because it is the right thing to do. (This does not mean that we should treat people disrespectfully either), it just means in my opinion that we should remain neutral with people. the only people in my opinion that a BW should attempt to have high expectations of is her individual self, ( I hope I am articulating this point in an understanding fashion).

    Back to the election, I recently read that a representative for “Latinas for Trump” not Latinos for Trump, said that she did not believe that Trump want to deport all Mexicans and that far too many of us are taking Trumps message literally to heart, and that Trump does not dislike all Hispanics. Whatever Trumps views about them is. I have often found Hispanics in general to be more hateful of each other than to the white man, that is my xcperience with them. When Trump talked about Mexicans being rapists and murderers, I personally believe that is his way of talking about Hispanics in general ( Trump can’t tell one group of Hispanics/latinos) from each other). They’re all the same to him.

    If the CNN poll is accurate, this shows what team others are on, and it is not the team to eliminate racism and sexism. Stop fooling yourself about others. BW,other people of color were never and never will be your team mates.. I’m quite sure that some BW never thought they were anyways. For those of you who thought they were on your team, that is OK, now you know different and let’s move on.

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    • Taila Kroeyer
      Nov 12, 2016 @ 06:26:07

      Cedi, I was giggling to myself when I read your post about white women/girls and the masks they wear, even at an early age. I couldn’t agree more.
      My adoptive dad is a white guy who married my mom when I was 5. I remember about 20 years ago, I was at my grandparents (my dad’s parents) house watching a football game on T.V. (Ironically it was the Washington Redskins playing somebody. (snark))
      The camera on TV was fixed on a black football player for a few moments. My grandma walked by and she stared for a good long time before she said, “Wow. That’s really one dark, scary African.”
      At first I was really stunned. My gut reaction was to say “WTF???!!!!”, but then I righted myself and said something to the effect that he was probably a nice person when he wasn’t playing football, even though I didn’t know who that player was.
      But that episode really stuck with me for decades. My grandma really is a nice person, but she DID marry a man who was a huge Rush Limbaugh fan and a hardcore conservative. She married a man who came close to disowning my dad when he first met my mom. The only one on my dad’s side of the family who outright didn’t object to my dad marrying a black woman with a kid was my grandma’s older brother (my dad’s uncle), Robert.
      My mom sometimes credits my grandma for being the facilitator for her being accepted into the family. And even though my grandma is a Democrat, and is a very nice person when you meet her even now (she has dementia) I don’t ever forget that she’s still a white woman, and she lived a very privileged life.

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  11. cediblog
    Nov 10, 2016 @ 02:13:01

    By the way to BW on this post,let us not survive but,THRIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIVE!

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  12. Neecy
    Nov 10, 2016 @ 06:27:46

    If the CNN poll is accurate, this shows what team others are on, and it is not the team to eliminate racism and sexism. Stop fooling yourself about others. BW,other people of color were never and never will be your team mates.. I’m quite sure that some BW never thought they were anyways. For those of you who thought they were on your team, that is OK, now you know different and let’s move on.

    Thank you for the topic of my next post. This is very important for BW to understand, realize and to work from. The writing is clearly written on the wall and we were THE *ONLY* group to make a clear stand against *BLATANT* sexism and racism. And being the one group affected by it most and watching other groups still vote heavily for it, if we can’t see clearly now that we are on our own, I don’t know what else its going to take for BW to see this and act accordingly.

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    • neurochick
      Nov 11, 2016 @ 07:46:56

      Here’s the thing Neecy.

      Many younger WW don’t believe anything bad can ever happen to them, especially if they are married and their husband makes a good living. Married WW tend to vote red.

      But, many of these WW change after their husbands trade them for a younger model. I’ve met so many WW who were dumped when they reached 40, 50, 55. A lot of those great WM left them penniless, while they gave everything to their new families. I personally know about 10 WW that this happened to, and I seem to meet more as I get older, WW who were all about voting for Reagan and then BOOM, hubby says “bye, bye” and WM aren’t checking for them anymore because they’re looking for the 20 somethings.

      So yes, WW are more protected, but there’s a huge BUT with that, as long as they never get old, because from what I’ve seen WM, especially successful WM will leave them for a younger woman at the drop of a hat. That’s really where the first wave of feminism came from, from many WW who found themselves at age forty, divorced with no work skills and having to support themselves and children because their husbands hid their $$$ so many of them got zip in alimony.

      That’s why so many WW voted for Trump, they know they’re safe now but the truth is, you only have today.

      http://www.marketwatch.com/story/most-americans-are-one-paycheck-away-from-the-street-2015-01-07

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      • Rae
        Nov 11, 2016 @ 09:06:41

        This analysis is so good!

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      • Neecy
        Nov 14, 2016 @ 22:33:25

        EUROCHIK

        you hit a good point. WW are very and highly disposable to their men as they age. WM are very obsessed with youth in women and because they have the money and power, they will and do often trade up for,younger women as they get older and can”buy” a younger woman.

        Also, I think there was a lot of ageism against Hillary as even WW and White people as a collective do not value older women as maybe other groups of people who see older women as more valuable to our families and lives.

        I believe the other half of WW that voted for Hillary are most likely single and older / middle aged WW while younger, married and educated and still in their prime WW went for Trump.

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  13. FoxyCleopatra
    Nov 10, 2016 @ 08:07:14

    Also VERY telling that trump won among white 18-29 year olds at a percentage of 48% to Clinton 43% although Clinton won among that age group as a whole. That didn’t skip my notice. So much for the ‘progressive millenials’!

    I believe that this was not necessarily white supremacy’s push back against having a biracial guy in the white house for 8 years, but more white supremacy’s push back as to the consequences of the 2012 presidential elections. 2012 was the first time in the history of the US that a candidate won the presidency without winning the white vote. That scared A LOT of white folk including white liberals. The possibility that they would increasingly become politically disposable. I said it then, the response I always got was that ‘millenials are predominantly liberal’. Well I guess now we can exclude white millenials from that.

    Instead of bw wailing and tearing out their hair because of this, I hope the smart ones begin/continue to make strategic decisions about their life.

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    • Neecy
      Nov 14, 2016 @ 22:38:08

      FOXYCLEOPATRA

      Very great insight! Yes I believe either way no one in govt really cares about the Black collective – never had and never will. However, never in the history of even horrible presidents, has any president openly campaigned for such hate against women and minroties.

      I have never seen such hate with any other Republican candidates and that is because none have ever openly run their campaign as such.

      I couldn’t with good conscious vote for a man that has been endorsed by such hateful people such as the KKK.

      Which is sad because as I get older the more conservative I am. I think a lot of BW would be open to voting for a Republican candidate but what we have as of late, I understand why so many BW avoid voting republican.

      We need a true moderate quality Republican to run before any good number of BW vote in that direction.

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  14. neurochick
    Nov 10, 2016 @ 12:05:52

    When a person tries to kill themselves, they are taken to a mental hospital for observation, because it is a given that if someone tries to destroy themselves, they need psychiatric help. BW have to put themselves first, put their wants and needs first. If they feel a certain candidate cares about their interests, then they should vote for them, no matter what party they are in. Sometimes it can be a Democrat, other times, a Republican.

    A WW is not going to say, “gee, I want to give up the privilege I have as a WW,” she’d be insane to do so. I mean to those of us living in the US, would you want to give up your privilege as an American? People talk about how bad this country is, but, it’s a lot better than other places, where women can’t wear what they like, and can be stoned for adultery and jailed for being a rape victim.

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    • Neecy
      Nov 14, 2016 @ 22:41:51

      NEURO

      No one is saying WW should give up their privlidge. All people are doing now is calling them on the carpet for their hypocrisy since they tend to be the biggest voices and push back against patriarchy and feminist ideals.

      All we re doing is saying now we have it in clear black and white that WW are always going to choose white privileged over women’s issues and thus why BW need to stop allowing them to make us believe that we are all in this together as women, when we aren’t.

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  15. cediblog
    Nov 11, 2016 @ 17:30:03

    Trump dumped his first wife Ivana for a younger woman Marla Maples, now he is with Melania. t the thing with his first wife Ivana is that she is a go getter and doing fine. I don’tnkow how Marla Maples is doing,

    Trump has no sexual boundaries, let’s be honest if Ivanka was not his daughter, he would probably have sex with her. He even made sexually innapropriate remarks about his daughter. Now that he is going to be the president of the US, his trouser front zipper will be permanently down (.talk about a kid in a candy store)> I think he will probably greatly out perform President Bill Clinton. I personally have to laugh at the dysfunction in the world, and at some of the people who we call leaders. Most of them should be on the Jerry Springer show.

    I personally do not know Obama but to me he always came across as a sensible person, I may not agree with all his policies, but he always came across as sensible nonetheless. and the same with Jiimmy Carter.

    Another thing we BW may want to do is avoid a lot of the media, as well as people who like a lot of nonsense. (Too much craziness in the world).

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  16. Dorian
    Nov 11, 2016 @ 18:08:53

    Hello Neecy,
    The holiday season shopping is going full steam ahead. I noticed depleted/ empty shelves in the grocery market. Some people on a unconscious level realized money is going to be in short supply. Also if you drive please keep your gas tank full. Keep necessary supplies in your car, and keep small bills, and coins for uses. People are going to be watching how you spend money. Once again ladies stay safe

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  17. cediblog
    Nov 11, 2016 @ 19:05:04

    Thank you for the advice Dorian, even though I live in Canada I too have been thinking about basic tips for survival. Because being unprepared can make one vulnerable. So thank you for that reminder, it is much needed

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  18. cediblog
    Nov 12, 2016 @ 20:12:06

    Taila your grandmother I believe is probably a nice person, but even if she was not married to the Rush Limbaugh supporting conservative, she would have still had those views of the football player. This is just my opinion, but I truly believe people show us who they are. I not only listen to what people say but, also what they don’t say. I watch what people do and what they don’t do.

    Yourself , myself and most of the ladies on this blog, realize that women like your grandma and even those WP much younger are never going to change. Heck most of our BP are highly unlike to change. I personally am wary of a lot of people in general. regardless of race, many people whine about wanting change, but really don’t.

    oh well this is a good time for BW like yourself, myself, Neecy and other ladies on this blog to live well and thrive, because we have nothing to lose,

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  19. Jess
    Nov 13, 2016 @ 08:36:07

    If its ok with you Neecy, I would also like to let your readers know that Khadija has 2 great posts about this topic on her blog Muslim Bushido for those that are interested.

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  20. Jess
    Nov 13, 2016 @ 08:40:29

    Also THANK YOU for the work that you do through your blog.

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  21. neurochick
    Nov 14, 2016 @ 05:19:25

    I was talking to a WW last night who said that in the end, women always side with the jerks. When you’re a married WW, she said, the patriarchy works for you. However what these women don’t get is that it’s temporary. Unless you die before your husband, three things will happen that will force a WW to realize that her privilege only exists as long as her husband exists. Either the WM will leave you for a younger woman, which happens very often; he’ll die before you or will become ill, so you, the wife will have to become his caregiver, something that is happening a lot now. If either of these three things occur, the woman becomes the person who has to do everything. The WW I spoke to was married to a successful man who divorced her when she turned forty, for a younger woman. Suddenly everything was on her shoulders and sexism slapped her right in the face.

    Many women don’t realize when they are victims of sexism. If a man cat calls you on the street, if a man says, “smile,” he’s treating you like you don’t have any person-hood, that you exist for his pleasure.

    Yes, I agree that BW need to find quality men, but also remember that there are no guarantees in life, that even a quality man can turn into a monster; that basically, the only person who can keep you safe, is you.

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    • Neecy
      Nov 14, 2016 @ 22:48:39

      NEUROCHIK

      I am starting to believe some of these DBR “former nice guy” PUAs about how young women in their prime like and go for jerks. It seems they may be onto something and thus why they spend so much time trying to develop “jerkboy” qualities to attract young women in their prime. This election has shown that no matter how CRASS, RACIST, SEXIST, INEXPERIENCED, a man is, a great number of women will still choose him over another woman (albeit imperfect woman) but I mean is Hillary worse than him?

      You’re right. I’m leaning more and more for BW to live for self and if a good man who is DESERVING of her time, life and energy comes along then great. If not, I don’t believe we are missing much out there as there is a lot of smoke and mirrors with relationships these days.

      Like you said, the only guarantee for happiness will come from self. Waiting or thinking a man will be able to give and sustain your happiness is setting yourself up for heartache among other things.

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  22. cediblog
    Nov 15, 2016 @ 07:34:17

    hi there

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  23. cediblog
    Nov 15, 2016 @ 09:09:40

    Hi Neecy and Ladies, I generally would not even write about this but, this has inspired me more than ever to do for myself, and this is why conscious progressive
    BW have to stick together. I know that we always write about taking care of ones self and looking after ourself first but do we do it? And if we do it do we do it enough. I recently read about 2 white females in W. Virgina, saying some along the lines about “It’s nice to see a beautiful intelligent woman in the white house” I am tired of seeing an ape in heels.” (I am just paraphrasing the comment, the former statement was made about Melania Trump, and the latter was made about Michelle Obama”. I know that this was not the first ape comment referring to Michelle Obama or BP in general. We sometimes harpoon the BM disrespecting us and yes far too many do, but let us leave the BM alone for a minute and let us leave the WM alone for a minute, and let us leave the non whites alone for a minute and let us think just for a second about the WW. WW voted 13 times more for Trump than we did. 53% of WW voted for Trump and 4% of BW voted for Trump. BW have had a history of aligning themselves too much with WW and their causes. i.e feminism , fucking lesbianism ( I do not believe in hate crimes against gays, but I am not going to march with them, because I do not recall many of them marching for my rights as a BW, and in my opinion the gay whites can hide I as a BW cannot, so I have to take care of myself).BW have aligned themselves in too many WW activities that do no benefit us. Now I am aware that in a way that we as BW have priveleges in N .America that we would not have any where else, I say it is not enough. We as BW are too vulnerable in society, Michelle Obama who has her Ivy league law degree, is still so badly denigrated ( those low IQ white women, who have the privilege of their white skin,and less education than Micehlle O still have the nerve to denigrate this attractive, accomplished BW). We BP who are conscious and progressive, yes I include BM who are conscious (yikes some of you are saying BM
    ugh! they denigrate BW, yes you are correct far too BM do denigrate BW. , but think of this if 13% of BM voted for Trump and at least 53% of WW voted for Trump, who do you think could be a bigger threat to you as BW?). You can escape Blackistan and the no good BM, but when you escape to White and Non-Black settings who even at a higher percentage voted for Trump, you know what these other groups think about racism and sexism and maintain their privilege. No I do not advocate black nationalism, because those types of people tend to talk a lot, do nothing, march around too much with picket signs for every slight that is said or done to BP and are into whitey bashing which can be a waste of time, many black nationalists not all but far too many talk the talk but do not walk the walk, and in the bigger scheme of things in my opinion many are useless. I would like to see more conscious, progressive BP work together more and get things done, whether it is starting a small business, homeschooling our children, or setting up schools for our children (let’s face it we have allowed the system to uneducated and deeducate our children) and other things so we can have a quality of life, and I do believe this is possible even in N. American societies. For e.g Jews stick together, have small businesses , have their own schools for their own people, will travel from here to Timbuktu to buy from another Jew, Jews even have their own food banks,where only there people go to and they cater only to their own people etc. etc. etc.
    (personally I know for a fact that they do not give a SHIT about any other group except themselves, and that’s fine with me, because most people only care about their own kind anyways).

    I understand I am ranting a little bit, but what I am trying to say is the less we have to do with the mainstream system the better our life will become, no do not throw out the baby with the bathwater, but do not keep the bath water if it is dirty, ( Another thing is I know that the majority of welfare and food stamp recipients are white especially WW, but far too many BW are part of these negative, un empowering programs) the more we are part of this system and wholly dependent of this system, the more we will be treated as second class, what we should be aiming for is less dependency on the system (it should not matter who is in the white house BW should still aim for less dependency and living the best life).

    sidenote: Over the past 15 years it has come to me that a sister to me would be another conscious , progressive BW not unconscious BW and not even conscious progressive WW (because they will still maintain their privilege). My network maybe small but for me I have learned to choose helpful quality, over useless quality.

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    • Neecy
      Nov 15, 2016 @ 09:21:46

      CEDI,

      I see BM as I see all others. IMO they are no more any allies to BW than anyone else.

      I have zero interest in building or aligning with BM. In fact the main reasons BW are such easy targets for everyone including whitebtrash WW like the lady from VA who said those things is because BM have never coddled or protected us physically or our images. They have created almost every negative imagery and exploitation of BW or they have lended a helping hand in helping to uphold racist stereotypes of us.

      So I’m pretty much done with BM and everyone.

      The only people I’m interested in aligning with in terms of building are *LIKE MINDED* BW.

      The o lay way BW will survive as a collective is by working together with like minded BW to build what little infrastructures we can and by supporting one another.

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  24. Dionna
    Nov 15, 2016 @ 10:34:08

    Hi Neecy,

    This is my first time commenting here and I wish to say thank you first of all.

    Now secondly, I want to address this comment:

    “So I’m pretty much done with BM and everyone.

    The only people I’m interested in aligning with in terms of building are *LIKE MINDED* BW.

    The o lay way BW will survive as a collective is by working together with like minded BW to build what little infrastructures we can and by supporting one another.”

    I understand the sentiment completely but as someone who had worked in the corporate environment for many years, I’ve learned to look at more variables with discernment. In corporate, I’ve seen a few black women limiting themselves with poor behaviors due to fear and/or a refusal (or maybe inability) to adapt. And I’ve seen other BW thrive and get promotions. Let’s not forget how some can pull the race card even though they are less than stellar employees. I keep reading about how 53% of white women voted for Trump. However, 47% of white women did NOT vote for Trump. Knowing this, I feel it would be somewhat beneficial to seek out those who did not vote for him and not rant about those who did. My point is – seek out allies wherever you can find them regardless of race and gender. I’ve had many opportunities come my way because of keeping my networks open. I think adaptability is a BW’s best defense and best mechanism for survival.

    All the best to you Neecy and may we all continue to thrive!!

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  25. neurochick
    Nov 15, 2016 @ 12:45:11

    Someone sent me this poem and I found it on Wikipedia:

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_they_came_… and here’s the whole poem:

    First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
    Because I was not a Socialist.

    Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—
    Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

    Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
    Because I was not a Jew.

    Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.

    Now this was talking about Nazi Germany, but this does make me wonder.

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    • neurochick
      Nov 15, 2016 @ 12:46:39

      Excuse me, let me just post the poem again, I remember hearing it when I was a child, which was then about 20+ years after World War II.

      “First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
      Because I was not a Socialist.

      Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—
      Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

      Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
      Because I was not a Jew.

      Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.”

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  26. cediblog
    Nov 15, 2016 @ 17:55:43

    Neecy my goal in my previous reply was not to seek out BM as allies, but to say that next to us, they also were least likely to vote for Trump. WM and WW were the overwhelmingly supporters of Trump and WM especially, and if the polls are correct we cannot deny that, and let us be honest no matter how we feel, they are a racist group and they showed that in their voting practices, (White privilege all the way,) Can I blame whitey? NO ! I would do the same thing if the roles were reversed.

    Yes Neecys you are right about far too many BM not protecting BW, I personally can attest to that. On a recent article one of your bloggers wrote something to the extent of it is WW protecting other WW, and I agree with that assumption to an extent, the also get protection from WM. Most BW do not protect each other, and we even get less protection from the BM. many BM were raised by BW, have black mothers taught their male children anything about protecting , their sisters, never mind BW in general, an absolute NO. What I have seen amongst too many BW whether they are AA or Caribbean is that they like to pit their children against each other, and tend to favour male children over females, and by the same token dislike grown BM.

    in addition, regarding protection from BM. I am beginning to believe it is at a later age that not all but far too many BW accept protection and compliments. Many Black females I think are uneasy with being treated like a lady. I remember as a kid even the way black boys and girls treated each other at times, and black girls were not innocent I remember black girls denigrating certain black girls and boys to get into the good graces of white kids. Even in a supervisor job I had, I was denigrated and belittled by a black female and some white males. How can BW expect BM or anyone to protect them, when many BW truly do not love themselves and cannot protect themselves and each other.

    You know Neecy,this is just my opinion but many of our problems may not really stem from BM per se, but from the families we grew up in, some of us grew up in single family homes, others grew up in 2 parent households, but I do believe from the bottom of my heart that most of us were brought up to hate ourselves and each other. I hate to say this but many black parents were not good parents and I do believe that many BM and BW dislike of each other stems from that.

    So once again Neecy like you Iam not looking for the majority of BM to become my ally, but if a BM is truly good to me I am not going to put my dislike of feral BM on the BM who isn’t. and like you I want to align myself with conscious progressive BW. But Dorian made a good point, I would also seek out the 47% of WW who did not vote for Trump, not to build or align myself with them,, but to see if I can learn something from them and to see if they can benefit me in in my journey to progress, as they say in the show “The Apprentice ( It’s nothing personal, it’s business).

    Life is Fully about the grey areas.

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  27. cediblog
    Nov 15, 2016 @ 17:58:59

    Sorry Neecy it was not Dorian, it was Dionna

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    Nov 16, 2016 @ 06:38:13

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  29. neurochick
    Nov 16, 2016 @ 08:27:05

    A question was posed to me, what does it mean when people say “black women are unprotected, unprotected from what?”

    Good question, here’s the answer. A few months ago I was watching 20/20 and there was a “where are they now?” segment. One of the people featured was a Jewish man who’d gone on the show ragging on Jewish women, he said how much he detested Jewish women, etc. So what happened? Both Jewish women AND men blasted this guy so much that he had to leave town. LOL.

    That’s what protected means. It wasn’t just Jewish women backing up other Jewish women, it was the men as well. Had this been a BM who said he couldn’t stand BW, there would be silence from BM and unfortunately, some BW as well.

    I’m not saying that BW are perfect, nobody is perfect. But a man isn’t supposed to go on national TV and blast his own tribe of women. You save that for spaces where only your tribe will be there.

    Remember Imus’ comment about “nappy headed ho’s?” well I saw the comedian D.L. Hughley commenting on it on maybe the Tonight Show. He said something like, “well some of them were nappy headed.” IMO he should not have said that, he could have said, “have you seen Imus’ hair?” But no, he went for a cheap laugh, he made black women the butt of the joke.

    And that’s what I mean by unprotected.

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  30. SP
    Nov 16, 2016 @ 17:59:41

    Women make sure you get your finances in order over the next couple of months…..and to a certain extent the next couple off weeks…If you don’t have a 401K/IRA w/your job or another means invest I reccomend you get the ROBINHOOD app on your phone if you do not already have it. You can trade, buy + sell for no fees/commissions,completely free unlike scottrade/etrade (@ 4.95 a trade)….NO BS LADIES. They have recently added something called Robinhood Gold now that you pay $6 a month for (w/Gold you can trade outside of standard market hours + they lend you extra buying power w/ no interest to allow you to profit i.e. leveraging), but I’m not even messing with that right now bc im super cheap and funny about any type of loan, even w/ no int. Free is always good 🙂

    I have a 401K (w/employer match) and a Robinhood acct….I like having the easy control over my funds that Robinhood brings…Even though there might be more risk involved, I don’t necessarily trust a wealth management firm to handle my money (and hundreds of millions of other peoples’ money) and give me the kinds of returns that good and careful research could on my own.

    Its very easy to link your bank acct. and there are immediate transfers….The interface is awesome….and is pretty good for a newbie…..Prison stocks, national security + bank stocks of course went up after the election, but have since come down a little bit..and of course a lot of the tech stocks are down right now (election/immigration related?). Though I would still sit for a moment before I buy and really evaluate current political events….a lot of analysts feel like there is going to be a dip when people realize how politically unstable we are right now..I believe that we might have entered over the past two days, as the instability of Trump’s transition is being aired out…..look into it and invest carefully ladies!

    Research different companies, take a look at the history of the particular stock and look at some price targets. If you are feeling lazy/risk-averse find a good index and throw some money in it…AT THE RIGHT TIME LOL (so so soooo key)..more likely than not it will at the very least earn you much more than leaving it in a traditional bank account and likely more than a credit union (@ 5% – 10% average returns annually). If you are scared to invest like I was, start with a stock game/simulator app or just put in a little money at a time so that you can properly adjust and learn. I reccommend you link a checking account to transfer funds from. If you link a savings acct., make sure that you have less than six transactions/transfers a month on that account–as most banks start charging fees when you go over six.

    When you are not paying for every single trade or paying a broker…the stock market does feel and in fact is more accessible…Personally the cheapest stock that I have in my moderate risk portfolio, I bought at $6 per share. There are many that are lower priced, that might be a reasonable buy, if very very well researched, sooo you do not need a lot of money to invest at all. Prison stock (CXW) is at about $20 per share right now….the day before the election it was at about $14 per share. So if you had just 10 shares of that on Nov 8, you would have made $60 in your sleep or a 40% profit.

    Get comfortable reading charts….Robinhood allows you to see charts and the key metrics (daily/yearly high and low, p/e ratio…etc)…I like supplementing with finviz and google’s stock charts..type in the ticker and you can see company news and historical performance on google….go to nasdaq and bloomberg and you will see some more technical information that you should get familar with as well….but at the very least I always pay attention to HISTORICAL HIGHS/LOWS, P/E RATIOS and consensus PRICE TARGETS….familiarize yourself with the app and diffferent investing terminology….stop loss…limit sell…limit buy….and USE THEM in the app….Sorry for the caps but….UNTIL YOU ARE A BALLER (WITH AT LEAST 25K IN YOUR ACCT) PLZ MAKE SURE THAT YOU HAVE DAY TRADES LIMITED BY ROBINHOOD IN YOUR SETTINGS BC FINRA WILL GETCHU! If you have more than three day trades (buying or selling the same stock in the same day) within a five day period, you will be marked as a pattern day trader and get a 90 day restriction from FINRA if you have less than 25K. So when you are prompted in the setup w/Robhinhood please say yes to Pattern Day Trade Protection.

    Some people who are scared of picking stocks like Betterment and Acorn App…they use robots to manage your portfolio for a very very small fee……I personally like Robinhood.

    Sorry to plug a product Neecy and I hope you will leave this up, but I hear so many people say be stealthy and plan wisely bw, especially in response to the election. I hope most of you have already heard of this and have been able to take advantage of some of the changes in the market, but for those that haven’t and maybe come from a less financially literate/stock comfortable home (like me) I hope you start investing soon…There needs to be more specific info for the young bw who we know are listening, but not commenting. I would be happy to give any of you more info if you need it. I would love to talk stocks and investing with you ladies. And if you know the game better than me, please gimme some tips…lol!

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  31. cediblog
    Nov 16, 2016 @ 19:19:15

    Neruorchick you are correct, but hey is it not expected by a culture that has too much self hatred , both BM and BW have so much self hatred, that being unprotected is par for the course for us. I understand that the majority of BM will never protect us and for me personally, I would not waste any time seeking protection from non-bm., because they have their own females to protect, so I guess I will have to protect myself. Maybe the younger generation of BW will love themselves and protect themselves and protect each other.

    Yeah and N. America does offer BW privileges , we would not have anywhere else.So I will always practice to look at the glass half full.

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  32. cediblog
    Nov 16, 2016 @ 19:27:07

    thank you for the tip SP, everything is connected in this world.

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  33. Mike Street Station
    Nov 17, 2016 @ 10:55:40

    Just pointing out that white women have been voting Republican in Presidential races for years. I think the last time Democrats won white women was in 1992.

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  34. cediblog
    Nov 17, 2016 @ 21:41:59

    i just checked something and it said that more white women voted for mitt Romney and john Mccain and these are college educated white women. Even though I am a Canadian BW I am not surprised , because as I think of it even when I was at university many of the white females had views that were more to the right and many of them were said to be conservatives, which is the same as American Republicans, even white hos and strippers had alot of right wing views. I believe even though many working class whites voted for Trump, they are being scapegoated by the middle class whites, who also do not give a fuck about blacks.

    No wonder I stay the fuck away from many white females as much as I can,,unless it is truly of benefit to me.

    You know lovely black ladies, I think Donald Trump is a blessing in disguise, you saw the true nature of other groups. And now BW you can solely take care of your self and your children, and not feel guilty aboutNOT getting involved in white causes. and also leave Asian, Hispanic and grown Black male causes alone.

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  35. TheOriginalBlackWoman
    Nov 19, 2016 @ 15:10:17

    I’ve had some black women tell me that some black women are mad because many white women voted for Trump. Many of us have yet to learn ***sigh***

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  36. cediblog
    Nov 19, 2016 @ 22:47:24

    Yeah people always show us who they really are, it’s us who refuse to accept people as they really are.

    Trumps win is no surprise to me,

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  37. cediblog
    Nov 27, 2016 @ 20:46:08

    Neecy this is indirectly related to the article but you wrote a post a little while ago, about storing money in other places besides a bank. I came across some alternate places to store money, is there a way I can send you that information privately?

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  38. Karen31
    Dec 01, 2016 @ 10:30:22

    Yes to all of this. Its time for black women to look out for self.

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  39. cediblog
    Jan 21, 2017 @ 19:10:18

    HELLO LADIES, I HAVE NOT VISITED THIS BLOG FOR WHILE, I AM SURPRISED THAT THIS ARTICLE IST STLLL PRESENT. I HOPE ALL OF YOU ARE WELL AND READY TO THRIVE. I VISITED AN ACQUAINTANCE TODAY, AND I WAS UNAWARE OF THESE WOMENS MARCH ACROSS THE WORL BECAUSE I DO NOT HAVE A TV AND I HAVE NOT BEEN TO MY COMP[UTER VERY MUCH. WHEW! ISAW ALLL THESE WOMEN PROTESTING AGAINST TRUMP, MANY WERE WHITE WOMEN, IT APPEARS THAT SOME OF HIS POLICIES ARE THEATENING TO WHITE FEMALES AND WHITES WHO ARE NOT WEALTHY. I KNOW THAT THERE WERE BLACK WOMEN AT THESE MARCHES, BUT I SAW MAJORITY WHITE ESPECIALY THE WHITE WOMAN.

    LIKE I SAID IT DOESN’T MATTER WHO GOT INTO THE WHITE HOUSE, WE BW SHOULD TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES REGARDLESS. TRUMP THOUGH I AM A CANADIAN BW, HAS IMPACTED ME TO TAKE CARE OF MYSELF IN EVERY WAY, AND TO RELY NOT ON GOVERNMENT AND SOCIAL PROGRAMS. I HAVE A SISTER WHO LIVES IN THE US AND ME AND HER HAVE MADE A PACT TO SUPPORT EACH OTHER, AND STOP BOTHERING WITH GOVERNEMENTS AND SOCIAL PROGRAMS. THOUGH NO ONE CAN REALLY SUCCEED ON THEIR OWN, IN MY OPINION, POLITICIANS AND GOVERNMENTAL PROGRAMS, SHOULD NOT DICTATE HOW ONE DECIDES TO LIVE THEIR LIFE.

    THIS IS THE TIME WE BW CAN STOP JUST SURVIVING, BUT BEGIN TO THRIVE AND SHINE, AND NOT FOR VALIDATION FROM OTHERS,BUT FOR VALIDATION FROM OURSELVES .
    SO LADIES,
    IF YOU WANT TOSTART A BUSINESS, START IT
    IF YOU WANT TO LOSE 40 LBS START IT
    IF YOU WANT TO INCREASE WEALTH, BEGIN TO DO IT
    IF YOU WANT TO HAVE LONG THICK HAIR, TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF AND INCORPORATE HOLISTIC HAIR CARE REGIME IN YOUR LIFE
    IF YOU WANT TO BE A BETTER PARENT, BEGIN TO BE
    IF YOU WANT TO GO BACK TO SCHOOL, START SIGNING UP FOR COURSES
    IF YOU WANT TO LEARN HOW TO SEW YOUR OWN CLOTHES, GOOGLE SEWING TUTORIALS ON THE INTERNET, OR GET A LIBRARY BOOK AND BEGIN TO PRACTICE.
    IF YOU WANT TO LIVE ON A CLEANER STREET, GET OFF YOUR BUTT’ GET A GARBAGE BAG GET A TRASH PICKER UPPER AND BEGIN PICKING UP TRASH ON YOUR STREET(BY THE WAY DON’T BE SHY TO DO IT ON YOUR OWN, YOU MAY SOON HAVE OTHER NEIGHBOURS JOINING YOU)
    IF YOUR JOB IS UNFULLFILLING LEAVE IT (YOU SAY WHAT,) DID YOU EVER NOTICE THAT WE DO WHAT WE REALLY WANT TO DO, WHEN WE LEAVE OUR COMFORT ZONE,
    IF YOU WANT TO TRAVEL? DO IT
    IF YOU WANT TOEAT HEALTHIER? DO IT
    IF YOU WANT TO STOP- WATCHING TV SHOWS, OR YOU DON’T WANT YOUR CHILDREN TO HAVE ALOT OF EXPOSURE TO MAINSTREAM MEDIA. GET RID OF YOUR TV, LIMIT INTERNET USAGE AND SPEND MORE TIME DOING SELF-EMPOWERING ACTIVITIES, BY YOURSELF OR WITH YOUR KIDS.
    IF YOU WANT TO HOMESCHOOL YOUR CHILD(REN) DO IT AND STOP WASTING THEIR TIME AND YOUR TIME WITH PUBLIC SCHOOLS.
    IF YOU WANT TO STOP GOING TO CHURH BECAUSE YOU THINK IT IS A WASTE OF TIME. THEN STOP GOING TO CHURCH
    IF YOU WANT TO GO TO CHURCH,BECAUSE IT IS SELF-FULLFILLING FOR YOURSELF, THEN GO TO CHURCH.
    IF YOU WANT TO STOP TAKINGYOURSELF OR YOUR CHILD(REN) TO MCDONALDS AND OTHER FAST FOOD PLACES. WELL THEN STOP GOINGTHERE AND PREPARE NUTRITIOS FOOD AT HOME.

    THE LIST IS ENDLESS, BUT LET US A BW START TO DO WHAT WE TRULY WANT TO DO AND NO MORE EXCUSES,

    LUV
    CEDI

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